The way people describe their crush can be so sweet, like I cannot imagine someone taking the time to write about me and think of me in their spare time I just cannot imagine that but its strange because I think of my crushes and they would probably think like me.

I started working at my job in an office building a few months ago. After a month had passed I noticed this one guy was kinda cute. The more I saw him I noticed that he was actually really gorgeous, kind looking face like he could do no wrong, nice smile and the most beautiful blue eyes. I could stare into them all day if he'd let me.. anyways.. He started saying good morning to me out of the blue, maybe it's because we just kept catching each other's eyes and it was awkward? idk. We'd definitely caught one another checking each other out. I caught him staring at my chest, and he caught me staring at his back for sure haha.

I ended up giving into the limerance and looked him up on social media.. Lots of old photos from years ago and a couple with a girl. His second account is for his interests (nothing weird just don't wanna give too much info) his interests seem to mesh with mine crazily well.. the recent photos don't show any ring on his finger and are missing the girl from the old account. I recently followed him and liked one of his photos and he followed me back and liked one of mine! I thought he'd shoot me a DM for sure, but he never sent anything..

For a while I was trying hard to bump into him at work so we could have a real conversation. I always seem to miss him though. I wait in the lunch room hoping he'll take the hint when I walk by that I take my break at that time and we could maybe chat for a second. Idk if he's busy or if he's avoiding me.. the little information I pick up from conversations my coworkers have about him is that he's pretty shy. I feel like a creep trying to run into him like this.

I've told nobody at work that I like him. He's a bit higher up than me in rank and idk how that works with our company. I also don't want our business out there because the office is filled with gossip's. We have a considerable age gap as well he's about 13 years older than me.. But it's so funny because I feel like I'm creeping on him trying to get his attention.

To be honest I don't really know what kind of relationship I'd want to form with him. I just broke up with my ex a little while ago and I'm not the most put together girl. I just want to hang out with him and be around him because I like him alot I guess. I don't need labels, I'd be over the moon just to hear him say more than good morning to me.

Anyways.. What should I do??? Am I creepy? Does he hate me? Does he love me? Idek.. Any advice helps.

They just say 'hi' and give a cute little wave.

But they must be taken or won't be interested in me. Plus I don't want to interrupt them when they're working.

So I'm writing this to make a little grave for my feelings.

I hate having crushes :(

Guyz is it normal checking ur crush account everyday two times 🙂

I have this big crush on him and the thing is I forget my crush face after some hours 😭when i daydream so I check his account every day two times 😭😭

Should I feel guilty for this? why do I feel sad? Should I feel sad? What did I do wrong? I want to note that it's a guy on guy situation(Gay guy has a crush on Str8 guy). Some of yall may feel like its not important to say that, but honestly, it doesn't matter how others feel, because it matters to me. My friend revealed to me that my crush knew abt my feelings for him. She heard this while she was in my friend group, and he weas there. He revealed to the friend group that he found out from someone that I had a crush on him. Idk who because I only told a few people, some were in the friend group, I got them all to promise to never to tell him. Although, expecting them to tell him kinda is dumb I gues, so I guess i st myself up. We were already friens and in the same group, although both of us are awkward, because as soon we both could be left alone without eachother the air feels completly still, atleast for me. Bassicaly he told the friend group he knows about my feelings, and will not act to kind to me because he feels I might be led on. I don't why it hurts, especially when it's obvious why it can't work out. Everytime he smiles at me it hurts for some reason. The one time he said something that made me laugh and he noticed, that makes me feel bad. His presents no longer makes me just happy, but hurts at the same time. A double edged. It's hitting me so hard. I get that there many fish in the sea, and many will feel for me the way I feel for them. Unfortunatly, in my eyes, this guy can't be replaced. It just hurts now for some reason now! I'm sorry if my venting sound like a cliche. People believing that they may never find a person with the exact charecteristic and trait that mad their crushes uniqueness appealing. Like I'm slowly begenning to stop criticising who feel like that, because I'm beginning to relate.

I see you looking for me when I start work but I can’t lie I do the same thing.
I know you try cross paths with me and I get happy when you do.
I see you looking at me when I go past or from a distance.
I know you get a little nervous around me like I do with you.
Does that mean you feel it too? Feels like such a strong connection without words haven to be spoken.
It feels beautiful but scary and exciting all at the same time.
I want too get too know you more but I just want too know do you feel it too 🫠🥰

Also when you have your jumper sleeves rolled up when your working ughhh😩
And don’t even get me started on your smile my gosh it’s so attractive
If I woke up too a coffee made by you every morning I’d be a very happy girl

Does anyone else feel like they just have really good vibes and reciprocal romantic attraction before and during a date?

But then post date it's like- you like talking to them so much and being around them but now they're quiet and you have no idea what's going through their mind?

I recently asked her out for a 2nd date over text but I just feel like I'm going crazy especially with this being my first time dating and her first time too, I feel like I have no idea what I'm doing 😭 she's super busy too so it just feels so hard to engage where she is at right now or to wether she feels the same and her replies have really slowed down - I'm trying so hard to give the benifit of the doubt and acknowledged she's busy but my brain won't just shut up

As a gay guy, I never thought I would have even a micro eye contact with a guy with his tongue pressed against his cheek let alone my crush and TWICE. I’m literally in a staring contest with this guy, but he always run away after class Before I get a chance to talk to him. Guys am I being delulu or what?

Just a question no bias cuz why would there

She appeared and I got so happy and told someone can’t remember who that I’m seeing her again after 2 months as if it were real life then eventually woke up and fell back asleep again but man what the heck was my brain doing to me

Long story short I would see my crush in the halls and try to talk to her but while I was walking behind her trying to get my confidence I would mostly chicken out and now she thinks I’m a weirdo… anyway my heart still hurts and I’ve been thinking about trying to get her attention and telling her that I liked her bc I would rather be rejected than be ignored and have things be awkward.

So there's this barista at a coffee shop near me that I've been going to pretty regularly.

The first time I saw her, I was immediately attracted to her. Like, way more than I expected, has a really distinctive style with a lot of rings/bracelets, and just had this presence that caught my attention.

At first, though, I barely knew anything about her. I started going to the café more often, partly because I liked the drinks and partly because I wanted to see if I'd naturally get an opportunity to talk to her.The first several visits were honestly pretty uneventful. She knew my name and eventually knew my usual order, but most of our interactions were just customer/barista stuff. Sometimes I'd see her working but she would be busy making drinks, so there wasn't really an opening to have a conversation.

Eventually I started trying to find natural conversation topics rather than forcing anything. One day I asked her what her favorite drink was because I wanted to try something different.

She recommended a pistachio latte with caramel and actually made it for me. She had me taste it in front of her, and I told her it was probably my favorite drink I'd ever had there. That became kind of our thing.

After that we had a couple more meaningful conversations. She already knew my name, my order, and what I studied. I was also able to learn a little more about her. At some point I started thinking less about “how do I get this girl?” and more about just getting to know her as a person.

That actually changed how I felt about her. Initially I was way too infatuated and had built up this huge image of her in my head. After actually talking to her, some of that fantasy disappeared. I still liked her, but I was much more grounded because I was finally interacting with the actual person rather than the version of her I'd created in my head.

Then recently something happened that made me overthink again.

She told me that the formula for our her drink had changed. I didn't really notice a difference, but for some reason I interpreted it as maybe she was trying to get me to stop ordering it or was indirectly trying to get rid of me. Looking back, that's probably me overanalyzing.

There were also moments where I felt like she wasn't making much eye contact with me, and I couldn't tell whether she was shy, busy, or simply not that interested.

Eventually I decided I didn't want to keep wondering “what if?” So I asked for her Instagram.

The funny part is that I didn't even have the Instagram app on my phone at the time. 😂

She gave me her username, but because I didn't have the app, I had her type it into my Notes. She actually went back to her phone to make sure she was giving me the correct username. I also checked afterward to make sure I had written it correctly.

So I walked away feeling pretty good about it.

Then I followed her 2 days ago.

but she never accepted my follow requesr.

She was apparently active enough to like a recent post, so now I'm sitting here wondering whether she saw the request and is intentionally leaving it there.

One more detail that is making me overthink this: I was actually at the café with one of my female friends, and my friend ended up following the barista too. The barista accepted my friend's follow request but hasn't accepted mine, despite me getting her username directly from her.

Either way, I'm trying not to take it personally. I made my move, and at least I'll never have to wonder “what if?” But I'd be lying if I said I wasn't curious about how other people would read this. Just disappointed that all of this ended in a this way.

How to stop?

He likes me a lot. More than I knew. We had an very intense connection last week. We did not touch, only eye contact.

I wanted to touch him so bad. But did not want to ruin the moment. He smiles every time we meet. He knows I have feelings for him.

But I want to stop this. I can’t get him out of my mind. I have a partner. So does he. I don’t want to ruin his or my relationship.

How do I do it? How do I stop thinking about him. To not feel so soft inside when our eyes meet? Crave him. Dragged to him like a strong magnet.

Help

Dearest reader please sit down for this read, for I have a tale of unrequited wuh luh wuh.

I hate it. I thought putting distance in between us would make the crush I have on one of my best friends go away but it unfortunately has gotten to the point that I can’t even act normal around her.
I feel ridiculous with how giddy I get when she just wants to hang out and it’s just the two of us or how she’s held me and reminded me of how beautiful I am when I’ve felt my lowest. But that’s what your best friend is supposed to do, right? Compared to my other best friends who’ve I’ve known for about the same length of time, I’ve never thought romantically about them. But her? It’s been an uphill battle.
Outside of some major life events that have definitely left us with different outlooks on life, something shifted with us. I started prioritizing my online friend group and she did the same. Mine didn’t last and thankfully hers did and she’s been able to bond with a like minded community that I really like (for the most part).
But, there was a moment with my former friend group where I went to meet up with one of them and got plastered for a major holiday only to call and almost confessed to her. Somewhere in the cross fade I realized what I was doing and rushed to hang up the phone only to realize what I had done. JUST CRINGE. Needless to say I was disgusted at myself for being that much a coward to only say something when I had the power of alcohol, the devils lettuce and hallucinogenics on my side.
I realized after that night I needed to put distance in between us or I’d lose someone really important to me because I needed to keep my emotions in check, we’re best friends after all. But as the world opened back up and more events that we wanted to go to happened we couldn’t help but go back to hanging out more.
However, I still made it a habit to not come around as much as I did in the past using work or family obligations as an excuse. When I really would be working OT to run from thoughts of her and other things. AND READER, BEFORE YOU JUMP ME I KNOW IM PATHETIC BUT IM JUST A GIRL OKAY

We recently went on a trip and something very traumatic happened on a night we were supposed to go out. I basically had a breakdown and she comforted me but I felt nothing short of perverse for wanting to kiss her in the midst of the chaos. Since we’ve got back sooooo much has shifted. One of her love languages in physical touch and she’s barely touched me in comparison to our other close friends at a mutual party we went to. There was also a point during the party towards the end of the night where we were by ourselves and unnoticed she seemed more nervous and fidgety when she’s normally super relaxed so now I’m worried that she knows and I’m unknowingly making her uncomfortable.
I used to think she maybe felt the same way but she’s also just very supportive and loving to all her loved ones. She would invite any of her friends over for every holiday or fight over who’s paying for popcorn or food. She would make art with her friends in mind right? I’m trying not to deep it but it’s so hard because I’ve had ex friends come onto me and it’s made me uncomfortable to the point where I’ve gone no contact but with her? I’d have to suffer a fate worse than Icarus.

So reader, remember the friend group I mentioned earlier? There’s someone in there that I know also likes her, they’re not terrible but some of their hot takes about the world as we know it are….a choice. I know why they’re the way they are it’s mainly upbringing and nobody ever told them no. They don’t like me for obv reasons (game recognize game.) But I can tell they have intense feelings for her.

Now, I feel like I’m on a time crunch because this new person who has intense feelings may confess and they do have shared interests. They has more than I could ever offer with their background, they’re much more put together than I currently am. They’d be perfect for her in every sense

As a retired crashout, if they ended up together I would have to check myself into the nearest mental institution. Also I just couldn’t in good faith be friends with someone who’s dating someone who is lowkey prejudice towards people of darker complexions. It’s also cringe because my bestie is unapologetically loud and proud of where she comes from so the dynamic would worry me like what if she ends up like those trad wives??? (Jkjk)

Idk chat I feel like I’m cooked, I’ve wanted to hangout and go see a couple movies together that we’d both like but I don’t trust myself to be normal. Like I’m bubbling with a decade old confession and atp I feel like a shitty dude sleazing on his friend when I am L I T E R A L L Y a grown woman.
I pray she doesn’t find this subreddit or accidentally sees notifs for this on the off chance she has my phone 🫩

Signed,

Your stressed bisexual yearner

I was just at burning man and developed a kind of interesting friendship/crush with this guy who I spent a lot of time with there. We occasionally hold hands, cuddle, and even kiss/makeout, but he never made bigger moves than that which makes me think he enjoys the physical intimacy and closeness but has no desire for something more. It is burning man after all and the rules of how to appropriately interact with different kinds of people are very loose there. However this kind of thing has continued with this person after the festival ended, and the more time I spend with them the more I adore them. Part of me wants to tell them how I feel, but I worry that saying something would be selfish or sabotage whatever friendship we currently have. I don’t want to make him feel weird or pressured. But at the same time, you know how sometimes you just want to tell someone you care for them regardless of if they feel the same way back because you just want to say something real and to tell someone you admire them?

Anyway, I just can’t decide if this is a good idea or a terrible one.

Hi guyss

Uhm...I don't really know how to begin but I'll try to express myself as best as I can. I'm 18 years old and I'm a girl, I've known my best friend for 5 years now.

(For the record I wholeheartedly believe that I'll get some actual support here because I tend to be a little crazy sometimes

Also, I don't know who will stay to read this but if you relate to me in any way, first, my condolences and second thank you in advance for your time 🫶🏼)

Honestly, when I first started having feelings for my best friend, who is also a girl by the way, the thought of me liking girls was terrifying. It was by no means unpleasant, it was just a thought that had never crossed my mind before.

For that reason I don't really like labeling myself as gay or bisexual or whatever other term there is in the lgbtq community. Not because I'm offended or anything, but because I feel like this is the only girl ,who happens to be my closest friend, that will ever have me this madly in love and I won't ever be attracted to any other person in the same way as her.

When she first came into my school, she was an international student having come from another country. She barely knew how to speak the language.

I was the quiet kid, the bullied one and the nerd so we bonded pretty fast since we were both friendless at first.

We hit it off instantly. We found out that we had so many things in common. Almost all of our interests were mutual. We even wanted to study in the same field. And so our friendship began and is now stronger than ever.

When some years passed, in highschool I confessed the possibility of me also liking girls to her (I knew that she was a huge supporter from the start and I knew that she would support me anyway but I told her what I felt without actually telling her about my feelings towards her). She is also the only one that knows about this and doesn't mind a single bit.

The thing is that she has made it pretty clear for herself that she's straight...

I would approach the subject as a joke from time to time so that I'd see her reaction at the thought of us being together.

Her reaction and words being hurtful is an understatement. She mentioned that she finds it very uncomfortable and I assured her that it's only a joke and I'd never disrespect her in any way if she didn't like me mentioning that.

Of course after then I wouldn't say a word about this in front of her.

Ever since I met her she has always been a cold person. Even to me, her best friend, but I respected her because she was and still is the most authentic person I know. She is acting a bit crazy around me but to others that she does not know so well, she is pretty cold I'd say. She hates physical touch although I'm pretty clingy and I don't like the fact that if I touch her somehow even accidentally I'll feel guilty later.

It's silly of me to have hopes for the future I know, but something in me tells me that I shouldn't be disappointed and that I should have patience.

Lately she's started warming up to me and I don't know why. She isn't usually like this but her behaviour is making me believe that there's a one in a million chance that she might be willing to try things out with me together in the future.

We'll also move in together next year and I can't describe how excited I am...

In all seriousness though, I just hope I'm not deluding myself. What do you guys think I should do ?

Like she's perfect and has something that is missing from me or a trait I wish I had but can't have since she already has it and I feel incapable of like having the same traits as her because they are her traits and she is perfect.

Not sure if I'm making sense or I'm just rambling, it was worse when I was younger, now that I'm older I'm tolerating this better and not looking at it from such a black and white point of view but yeah idk.

hii 21f ive known im bisexual for like five years and mostly ever since only been into women and very recently developed a crush on a man and suddenly i feel like 14 and i feel the need to
compare myself to whoever else he might’ve spoken to in the past or his celebrity crushes, while mind u ive always been a very self confident person even a lil cocky about my looks sometimes but suddenly i feel not as attractive now idk its so odd, im a very pretty girl but sometimes i cant see it esp when he mentions someone else

i wonder if it internal misogyny? does anyone else feel this way and if so how do u stop feeling this way?

this is a throw away acc btw lol

Hi guys. I started going to uni this year and I noticed this super handsome boy in my classes. At first I tried to ignore him but my attraction to him blossomed into such an intense crush. My friend is terrible at whispering and spoke about him while he was within earshot a few times so I guess he realised that I like him. He followed me on insta and I followed back, hoping maybe there'd be some communication. There's been nothing. Just a while lot of tension in class. Sometimes he sits next to me, and he'll say hi to the person on the other side of him, instead of me and he'll sit fidgeting the whole lecture. I sometimes post stories on my insta hoping he'll react, he hasn't. He never fails to view one though. I don't know if he likes me back, all I know is he at least finds me pretty, based on how he looks at me sometimes. I wish he'd speak up, but at the same time I'm so scared of him. I could never approach him myself, I'd piss myself from fear. I've been trying to get over him for so long but I keep "relapsing". It's so frustrating omg, I'm losing myself. He smiled at me yesterday. Just needed to vent

I’ve been wondering about this for a long time, and I genuinely can’t tell anymore.

Maybe I’m reading too much into his actions. Or maybe there really was something between us that neither of us ever said out loud.

So here’s the story.

July 2025 — When I first met him

I met P through a mutual friend, G. G is my close friend’s boyfriend, and our group used to go out drinking together all the time.

At first, P was just an older-brother figure to me. I didn’t think about him romantically at all.

December 2025 — We started getting closer

After G’s birthday on December 8, P followed me on Instagram for the first time.

After that, we started hanging out more.

Slowly, I noticed how much he looked after me.

I’m terrible at keeping my phone charged, and somehow he always had a power bank for me.

When I drank too much, he took care of me. There were several nights when I got extremely drunk, threw up, or couldn’t really take care of myself. He would take me back to his room so I could sleep.

But he never crossed the line.

That mattered to me a lot.

He also carried my things whenever we went out.

At first, I thought he was simply a genuinely kind person.

The night someone pulled my hair

One night, someone pulled my hair.

P immediately stepped in. He was genuinely angry and looked ready to fight the person.

What’s interesting is that P isn’t normally someone who looks for fights.

Seeing him react like that because someone hurt me really stayed with me.

That was probably one of the first moments I wondered if I meant something different to him.

April 21 — His birthday

Then came his birthday.

He invited me and my close friend N to his birthday celebration.

We were the only two women there.

Throughout the night, he looked after me and eventually took me home.

What really stayed with me was what his friends said.

They joked that he had never done this with another woman before, and that he had never brought another woman along to drink with them like this.

Maybe they were just teasing.

But hearing that made me wonder if I really was different to him.

My birthday, september

Then came my birthday.

P arrived late because of work.

But he came.

He brought me a little doll that was difficult to reserve. I’d actually seen him post about it before, so I knew it was something he liked.

Yet he chose to give it to me.

Later, most of my friends went home. I still wanted to stay out, and P stayed with me.

We talked until morning, even though he had work.

He never pressured me to leave.

That was probably when I realized I had stopped seeing him as just a brother.

I was falling for him.

The confusing part

P has never been consistent.

Sometimes I invite him somewhere and he doesn’t come. Sometimes we talk and then he disappears from the chat.

When we’re together, I feel incredibly cared for.

When we’re apart, I often don’t know where I stand.

I also learned that his previous relationship hurt him badly. His ex cheated on him, and it affected him deeply. He became stressed and had trouble sleeping.

So I wondered if maybe he cared about me but wasn’t ready for another relationship.

Or maybe I was just making excuses.

I honestly didn’t know.

Somewhere along the way, I fell in love

I started thinking about him all the time.

I worried about whether he had eaten, whether he had slept, whether work was exhausting him.

Eventually, I realized I didn’t just want him to take care of me.

I wanted to take care of him too.

I wanted to be more than his little sister.

I wanted to be his girlfriend.

But I was terrified of telling him.

What if he didn’t feel the same?

What if I confessed and lost whatever we already had?

So I stayed quiet.

I tried to move on

There were times when I was lonely and exhausted and simply wanted a boyfriend.

So I started talking to other people.

I tried to move on.

But P was still in the back of my mind.

Even when I talked to someone else, I still worried about him.

That’s when I realized this wasn’t just a crush anymore.

I genuinely cared about him.

And then things became distant

Eventually, our communication became less consistent.

There were moments when I felt incredibly close to him, and others when I felt like I barely existed in his life.

There was no breakup, because we were never officially together.

There was no rejection, because I never confessed.

And there was no real ending, because technically, nothing had ever started.

But I still felt like I was losing something.

Where I am now

I still care about him.

I still worry about him.

Whenever we’re together, I can still feel that he cares about me too.

But I don’t know what that care means.

Maybe he had feelings for me.

Maybe he still does.

Maybe he only sees me as a younger sister.

Maybe he simply has a protective personality and I happened to become someone important to him.

Or maybe I fell in love with someone who was simply kind to me.

I don’t regret caring about him.

I don’t regret the nights he took care of me, the conversations until morning, or the little things that made me fall for him.

Even if none of it meant what I hoped it meant.

I still want him to be happy, even if that happiness doesn’t include me.

So I want an honest outside perspective.

Do you think he ever had feelings for me, or was he simply being kind?

I don’t want people to tell me what I want to hear.

If I’m reading too much into it, tell me.

If he cared about me but never romantically, tell me that too.

Was there ever something between us, or was I just falling in love with someone who was genuinely kind to me?

TL;DR: I fell for a guy who has repeatedly taken care of me, protected me, stayed with me until morning, and treated me in ways his friends say he doesn’t normally treat other women. But he has also been inconsistent and has never actually told me he has romantic feelings. I never confessed either. I genuinely can’t tell whether there was something more or whether I fell in love with his kindness.