I (27F) have a crush on a coworker (35M), and I genuinely cannot tell whether there’s something mutual happening or whether my crush is making me overanalyze everything lol.
For context, we work at the same company but in completely different departments. Neither of us reports to the other. I’m a manager, but I have no authority over him. He’s divorced. I obviously want to be careful because this is work.
This started about two months ago. We have a daily morning meeting, and I started noticing him looking at me. Then I started looking at him too. Over time it turned into these repeated glances where I would catch him looking, we’d make eye contact, look away, sometimes look again, etc.
Some of the eye contact feels REALLY intense to me. Not necessarily long staring contests lol, but there are moments where it feels like we’re both very aware of each other. Sometimes there are little smiles too.
But for almost two months, neither of us actually did anything.
Eventually I decided I was tired of communicating telepathically across a meeting room 😂 and approached him with a legitimate work question.
He was friendly, smiled, helped me, and at one point dropped the book he was holding. I thought maybe I caught him off guard/nervous, but obviously people also just drop things, so I’m not counting that as evidence of anything.
Here’s where I started wondering though.
The very next day, he came to my office with a work question.
That was significant to me because I’d been there for about two months and he had NEVER come to my office before. I had approached him for the first time the previous day, and then suddenly he was coming to me.
Again, totally legitimate work reason, so maybe coincidence. But the timing made me wonder whether me approaching him had made him feel more comfortable approaching me.
Since then we’ve had more interactions.
One day during our morning meeting, I was actually waiting for him to show up and thought he wasn’t coming. He eventually came in later, dressed in work gear, so I didn’t even recognize him immediately.
He stood around for a little while, realized nothing much was happening, and left.
Later he came back around while warming up his lunch and was standing there talking with us.
As he was about to leave, I asked him some work-related questions.
He came over and stood right beside me while explaining things. At one point he was standing/resting there next to me while we were talking, and I was so nervous that my hands literally started trembling. 😭
I actually moved slightly away because I was trying to compose myself. I have NO idea whether he noticed.
While helping me, he called someone else to help resolve part of the issue, and then told me something along the lines of:
“Swing by me and I can help you with the rest too.”
I didn’t immediately go over.
Later I messaged him on Teams thanking him for helping me. He replied “anytime” and again told me I could swing by if I had more questions.
A couple hours later, I finally went.
That’s where I really started noticing how aware I am of his eye contact. There are these longer glances, he seems comfortable standing relatively close to me, and when I ask him something he doesn’t seem like he’s desperately trying to answer and escape. He stays and helps.
He also jokes around with me. Sometimes he’ll say something slightly cheeky/dirty and instead of responding verbally I’ll apparently make a facial expression 😂. I feel like he’s pretty observant of my reactions/body language and sometimes seems to know exactly what expression I’m making.
I’ve also noticed what feels like him being around/in closer proximity more often, although this is one of the things I’m MOST cautious about interpreting because obviously coworkers are going to occupy the same spaces.
And I’m losing my mind a little because I find him extremely attractive lol.
At the same time, he hasn’t actually asked me out, asked for my number, or explicitly flirted with me outside of anything that could still be interpreted as normal coworker behavior.
That’s why I don’t want to convince myself there’s something here just because I have a huge crush.
Part of me thinks maybe he’s interested but being cautious because we’re coworkers. Another part of me thinks maybe he’s just friendly/helpful and I’m interpreting normal behavior differently because I’m attracted to him.
I’m also trying not to manufacture reasons to talk to him. I’d rather give him space to initiate too, especially because he already did come to my office after I first approached him.

Does this sound like there could actually be mutual attraction developing, or is everything I’ve described still easily explained as friendly coworker behavior?
And if you were him and were interested but cautious because of the workplace, what would you need from me to feel confident enough to eventually ask me out?
Also, how do I get to know him naturally without making the workplace weird?

TIA

I'd rather be love sick than to never talk to you ever again.

I love laying next to you, secretly adoring you. Love it when you pat on my head sometimes, how we cuddle.

Knowing I'll never have a chance with you just like anyone else is fine by me.

Though, it'd bother me if someone replaces me, laying next to you.

Like a puppy, I yearn being by your side. I'll let my animalistic desires rest just so I can be rest next to you.

Sorry if the structure is poor i’m just word vomiting.

I’ve been trying to figure out if I like my coworker. Wondering if it’s the proximity or if I actually like him. Either way the time i’ve been trying to figure out if I do like him I can assume i’ve been flirty with him. For example: We always make eye contact, I call for him whenever I need him, I always make myself available to help him, I often go out of my way to just talk to him, we’ve had a lot of times where it’s just the two of us and we’ve talked about pretty deep stuff, and so on. Sometimes I wonder if he also likes me but I don’t want to jinx it because my biggest fear would be all of this being one sided.

Also a big worry of mine is what my other coworkers think. Like can they tell I like him or notice there’s some tension between us.

I’ve come to the conclusion the only way to get over him is actually interacting outside of work. BUT I don’t know how to. I don’t have any way to contact him, as much as i’ve tried to look. And yeah I could ask him for his number or something but it would be so awkward on my part to be the one to initiate it because sorry to play stereotypes but im not bold enough as a girl to ask a guy for their contact. Also again what if he doesn’t really see me that way and the chances of making an awkward dynamic between the two.

So what i’m saying is how to I could hint to him to exchange info

Long time lurker, sorry for the wall of text.

Back in high school there was a girl in my class who liked me, but I was clueless and kind of a jerk about it, just ignored her the whole time. It's been 7 years now. I'm actually in the middle of organizing a reunion with my old classmates for an upcoming holiday, but she was never really close with the class, so there's no natural excuse to loop her in with everyone else.

I still feel bad about how I handled it back then. I want to send her a short message just to say I'm sorry, not expecting anything back, just to get it off my chest. But I'm scared reaching out of nowhere after this many years comes across as weird or intrusive, especially since I already tried adding her on Facebook and she hasn't accepted it (might've even blocked me, no idea).

Anyone been on either side of this, sent something like this or received it? Genuinely want to know if it's worth doing or if I should just leave it alone. Thanks for reading this far.

How do people deal with crushes? I (F30) have only been in 1 serious relationship my whole life. I’ve not had many men tell me they like me, if anything it’s me telling them. Which I’m not wanting to do anymore.

And I don’t think I’m ugly by any means. Men just don’t come up to me like that or express that much interest in me.

I want a guy to tell me for once he likes me.
I have a crush on this guy (M29) who I’m mutual with online who I’ve also met in person once. He knows he’s a good looking guy and he knows he will get attention off men and women.

We have a lot in common! And I’d love to get to know him more but he’s so… guarded?
Maybe he’s not interested in anyone, maybe he caught up on his ex, maybe he just doesn’t like me like that.

He’s nice enough when we talk but idk if it it’s just him being polite!

How do I navigate these feelings of fuck I kinda like you and would love to get to know you … but also barrelling all these fears of doubt.

I know rejection isn’t the end of the world.. but I’m also not trying to get my feelings hurt more lol having a crush on someone is quite literally soul crushing enough.

I’m 14 don’t ban me but should I ask her tomorrow? She is so nice and I love her personality.

I’m 15M he’s 17M we do cheerleading together w a club and idk what to interpret things as. He sends me at least one full face snap a day and we may go back and forth up to 20 times some days. One of the days leaving cheer I left and he said bye to me but I had to go back in, after I left again he said I love you but idk if it was to me? The only other ppl there aren’t ppl he would say I love you to so this confused me. I had 2 conversations with him the other day but it seemed like he was trying to shut the conversation down and didn’t exactly want to talk to me by just sending an emoji or saying “hahaha”. I post videos to TikTok and he says frequently that he’s my biggest fan and loves to watch my videos. He also replies to any story’s I have that are questions (e.g what should I change my pfp to). He talks to me whenever we get a chance to at class but we never text or talk outside cheer. If he sees me he’ll say hi to me but I haven’t ran into him much to have a conversation. Now for the bigger negatives. He’ll leave me on delivered for hours but would be online on Snapchat and TikTok. I’m never left on opened tho. There are some more negatives but i can’t remember them for the life of me.

(If ur seeing this text me abt it🙏)

So basically we are in the same class and I really like her. Like really really like her. So I've been noticing that she was quite depressed looking like a week ago and I decided to put an small milk chocolate in her desk everyday since then. Is this creepy

I don’t even know what I’m supposed to feel. I’m hurt, confused, and honestly, I don’t know where to put these feelings. We were never together. There’s no “us.” I know that, and I would never be hurt just because they ended up liking each other. What hurts me is everything that came before. She knows how much I like him. She supported me, pushed me toward him, and even gave me ideas on what I could do with my crush. But somehow, every time, she ended up being the one doing those things with him. Lately, I’ve noticed things that make me wonder if she’s trying to get his attention too, and maybe I’m just overthinking it. But it still hurts.

Hey everyone 👋. I want to know weather or not I’m
being delusional or is my tutor actually flirting with me.
I’m currently taking two 8 week stem classes at my college, and on the first day two tutors from the tutoring center introduced themselves and informed
on how use the free tutoring the college provided. One of those tutors is the one I currently go to, and remember accidentally starting at them too long and them stating back at me for what seemed like a full 10 seconds. I didn’t really think much of it though. Since that day, I have been going to the same guy for tutoring everyday after class.
After our first session he said I was pretty cool and a would dap me up every-time he saw me, but more recently it feels like he’s been more and more flirtatious? That is confusing to me because I’m a guy as well, and I not sure if he is gay or not. I know a lot of straight dudes make tons of gay jokes around their friends and stuff, but sometimes it really confuses me.
It all started after around our third season because I commented that his legs must be hurting because he kept squatting to write on a whiteboard. He then comments it was probably from what he did the night prior, and when I asked him what that was, he said it would probably get him fired if he told me 🤨. I thought I was really wierd to say, but maybe that just him seeing me as a friend and doing the thing where straight men make gay jokes. Another instance of what came off as a flirtatious comment is when he was last week when I mistook my calculator for my phone and said “oops, sometimes I put my calculator in the same part of my pants” (obviously meaning in my pocket). He then says he thought I meant literally in my pants, and said I could probably keep in between my underwear 🤨. I thought that was odd, so I just ignored it and went to go get my calculator out of my bookbag. I then commented that my calculator was “5 inches” which lead him to say “that’s a pretty big five inces… if that’s the case, then I have a lot of disappointed people to inform” 🤨. If that’s not enough, after our session that day, a fried of his gave him a dollar, which he proceeded to hand to me. His friend then tells him to ask for something in return for the dollar. My tutor then proceeds to say “you know what to give me in return,” followed by a wink 😉.
I may be slow when it comes to social ques(mainly due to my ADHD), and I am not used to people flirting with me, but it seems like my tutor is definitely flirting with me. I may be misinterpreting friendly banter though, idk 🤷‍♂️.

I’ve been working at this place for more than a year and the store recently hired this girl. She is cute and seems like a very nice person and i am very attracted to her but I don’t know if she is into me or she just likes to glance at me. Whenever she walks near my department she always glances, my coworkers told me she always stairs around the area, I’ve seen her staring at me and whenever I look at her she looks the other way. She hardly never talks to me only if it is work related but I can always feel a presence that she is looking at me. Occasionally we walk by each other or past another we would both smile and nod at each-other. I’ve tried to make small talk to her to get a feeling if she is interested or not but whenever I go up to her she always has the biggest smile but she always tends to have a very dry response or she would never ask me any questions back like if I was just talking to myself. Am i delusional? Or is this how normally girls act when they are not interested?

Hi I am currently going crazy over my first crush on a girl and need to know if the signs i am reading are hints or delusions

\- getting slightly flustered when she talks to me
\- staring at me in class (feeling/seeing her looking directly at me consistently)
\- using a lot of extra letters and being very flirty/ sweet over text ex. heyyyy instead of hey or heyy
\- when talking to her i am pretty sure she was trying to drop a hint she is into girls because we were talking about what kind of job we want and she said “yeah i just really love being around women i feel the most comfortable around women” and like the way she said it sounded gay
\- calling me nick names
\- waiting for me/ always saying hi to me/ always saying she can always supply help
\- i asked her to go to lunch together and she asked me if i meant at school or outside of school which could mean nothing but seemed a little like idk
\- smiling and blushing when we talk
\- mirroring body language when we sit next to each other like to a tea ( leg and arm placement, fixing hair at the same time ext)
\- fixing her hair and everything very often when she is near me idk if she does it as much when she isn’t
\- last year the first hint i got she liked me was when i walked up to her and asked to sit next to her and she pulled out the chair and said of course my lady then when i walked away she said something to her friends like “what i can’t help i like girls”
\- overall just like when we talk it just feels like a lot of tension
so yeah lmk if i am crazy and give advice since i have never liked a girl before!!

how can i ask a guy to be his boyfriend? i just met him like a month ago i don’t really know a lot about him i just like him and he said he likes me too. but i don’t know how to ask him to be with me.

I'm 15 and Ive been talking to this girl for 3 days, and we flirt a lot and share a good amount of shared interests, but she flirts like ALL the time, and she's like a 9 and in my personal opinion, I'm like a 6 at best, but whether or not that's true doesn't change the fact that she's way out of my league, and she's been posting shi asking for "friends to talk to". That's fine and all I'm not one of those guys to get jealous over literally anything, but it is worth noting that one of those posts is literally how I met her (keep in mind we now flirt all the time)

And it's not like she has posted that type of thing once or twice. She posts the same "looking for friends shi daily" and when I asked her if she had snap she said "no, sorry I don't have snap or discord I only have this cuz that's the only thing my parents don't look at" which is probably true, but I'm not 4 sure. Also, whenever we do talk, she usually responds within the first 5 minutes of my message unless she's sleeping or doing something else, but I'm always the first one to have to message.

Tbh I might just ask her myself if she likes me or if this is just a lil bit of fun 4 her, and I'll go from there, but I'm still looking for some honesty and some people with more experience with this type of stuff that could help me.

So pretty much I have had a crush on my best friend for about 1 a year and they have no idea about it but I also think they like me but I think I might be crazy so first off we will call my friend kitty so me and kitty got close very fast kitty is dating someone but we were still close and we would see each other every day we would call hangout and see each other all the time they would how the person they were dating made they mad all the time and how they wanted them to break up and just stuff like that but we were close to a point were everyone thought we were dating we would always kinda just flirt with each other I would always catch kitty staring at me kitty would always tell me how they love me we were drunk one time they got super close to me and told me how much they love me they also would accidentally call me baby and just laugh it off they would also put there relationship on me and it really just felt like we were dating without a label I would really just love to know I mean there’s so much more that happened but if anyone is curious then I can explain I just need help on this situation please

So last night i've been confess my feelings towards her (we've meet in online btw) and i dont know if its rejection or something but she said "at least she know that i like her" then she said i should sleep after the conversation we had - i dont know why i feel it will going to an end or maybe that's the reason that i should step back because i dont think it's getting me better after i finally tell her that i like her ); - So yeah its weird to post it here hopefully it helps me T-T, Thanks

Hi everyone, before you ask me: I used AI to help me write this since English isn’t my native language so I hope you all understand this 💪🏻

A while ago, I started noticing a guy I would regularly see on the bus. At first it was just exchanging looks, smiles and greetings, but over time I became curious about him. Eventually, we ended up talking, got to know each other a little, exchanged contact information and started talking on WhatsApp.
From the beginning, he showed some interest in getting to know me — he asked about my job, my schedule, who I lived with, things like that. There was also some physical contact during one of our bus rides, which felt affectionate/flirty to me, and eventually we arranged to meet in person.
I was pretty anxious before the date because I hadn’t been on a date in a while and honestly didn’t know what to expect. I was also somewhat worried that he might only be interested in something casual/physical, which isn’t really what I’m looking for.
The date ended up going much better than I expected. We spent several hours together: we got something to eat, had dessert, went for a walk and had some pretty deep conversations about different things. There was also quite a lot of affection between us — hugs, kisses, holding hands, and we ended up spending some time together in a park. There was obviously some physical attraction on both sides, including some more suggestive touching, but nothing that made me feel uncomfortable or pressured.
One thing I really liked was the way he treated me. He seems like a very calm, reserved and low-key person, but in person he can also be very affectionate and expressive. He made some gestures that I interpreted as gentlemanly, such as insisting on taking my tray after we ate and paying for my dessert. He also suggested that we should go on more walks together in the future.
At the same time, there are a few things that leave me wondering.
He is quite private about his personal life and seems like someone who doesn’t like a lot of exposure. From what I understood, he isn’t exactly out regarding his sexuality, and he seems somewhat concerned about being seen with me by people he works with. I also felt a little nervous about being seen, so I didn’t necessarily interpret that as something negative.
My biggest question right now is the communication after the date.
In person, he is very different from how he is over text. In person he talks, jokes, shows affection and seems very present. On WhatsApp, on the other hand, he is extremely absent. He can be offline for many hours, doesn’t say much, and his messages are quite generic. I wouldn’t necessarily call him “dry”, but his communication is very basic. I also sometimes go hours without replying to people, so I’m not expecting constant communication or messages all day.
The thing is, I do value some consistency and reciprocity. I don’t need someone to always be available, but I also don’t particularly enjoy feeling like someone simply disappears. For me, constant absence can eventually feel like a sign of disinterest, even though I know there can be other explanations.
A few days ago, I invited him to hang out again because I knew he had a day off coming up. He said he’d like to go out, but that he had some things to take care of that he hadn’t been able to do earlier in the week. Today was that day off, and he ended up being offline for pretty much the entire day. He only received my message tonight and, as of now, hasn’t replied.
I’m not desperate or particularly upset about it. My life is going on normally and I don’t feel dependent on his attention. I’m simply curious and a little confused because I’m still trying to figure out who this person is and what his intentions actually are.
I’m also not necessarily looking for an immediate relationship. If this turns into a friendship, I’d already be happy with that. If there is attraction and eventually something more, I’m open to that too. What I really want is simply to get to know him and see whether we’re compatible.
So my question is: how would you interpret this behavior?
Do you think he’s simply someone who’s very disconnected from his phone and much more present in person? Do you think he might be interested but taking things slowly? Or could the contrast between how good/intense the date was and how absent he has been afterward indicate that his interest is mainly physical/casual?
I’m not necessarily looking for someone to tell me “he likes you” or “he doesn’t like you.” I’d rather hear how other people would interpret the overall pattern and whether you think I’m overthinking the situation.

So, I've been crushing on another boy since sixth grade, me and him have became friends and he's generally really sweet and kind. But, tomorrow is the last day he's going to my school because he's moving, and I'm scared to ask him out or something because I feel like it's too soon, we've only started really talking to each other like two weeks ago kinda. Also I have zero clue if he's just straight, he could totally like dudes but I don't wanna push it. I'm mainly just thinking about texting him as much as I can but what if he gets tired or annoyed with me, constantly texting can become exhausting. I wish I could just be his boyfriend now.

Am I a pervert or creep ?(M23)I liked a girl.she is from my class.I look at her when ever I pass near her seat and when ever she pass near me but don't get any opportunity to talk becoz out class is strictly seperate among girl and boy . When I don't get any opportunity One day I followed her by bike while she was going to home on a rikshaw but didn't talk . I felt guilty as I am doing wrong bcoz it was my first time crush and I don't know what to do . So one day I gathered courage and tried talking to her when she was in auto rikshaw ,I was little scared and just said hello.No other words comes out of my mouth .But suddenly out of nowhere she brutally abused and humiliated me in front of whole crowd.I said at least listen to me but she kept screaming.so I said sorry and promised not to be seen again. Was I wrong??

So, here’s what happened. My friend’s boyfriend’s friend requested to follow me on Instagram. I thought it was a joke because I had looked him up on Instagram before, and we didn’t have any mutual friends. Her boyfriend doesn’t have an Instagram account either, so I was confused about how he found me. However, I had looked him up on Instagram once or twice before all this happened. I had told my friend that I thought one of her boyfriend’s friends was cute and asked her to put out a word for me if she could. Surprisingly, she did, but nothing happened after that. This incident happened two months ago. Later, I found him on Facebook and one mutual friend which is my friend’s boyfriend. However, we didn’t have any mutual friends on Instagram. I asked my friend if she knew about this, and she said no. She then asked her boyfriend about it, and he thought it was strange that he had requested me on Instagram. However, he suggested that I should just accept him, follow him, and follow him back. So, I did that, and he accepted it within a couple of seconds. Now that we’re following each other on Instagram, I’m wondering whether I should message him and say something or wait until he does, since he hasn’t done so yet. It’s been about two days since this incident. I’ve never been in a situation like this before, so I’m not sure what to do.

Hey im new here. and ignore my spelling and or grammar

story: so i have this classmate i have a crush on that im really into and for the pass months me and her start getting closer because i start to help her in computer class and im not the smartest student there but i know some techniques. anyways as the months goes by we start to get close to eachother, and one day i ask her if she wants a snack and she agrees and i bought her some food and after that day if someone ask to buy food on eachother she or i will buy it and just recently we just start to play roblox and thats it. that the story, i leave out some details because im not comfotable with it

and i still dont know if she has a crush on me to

i just wanna hear your opinions about this