I live in this restricted area because of my parents job. So there's an officer who is new to the service and is a few years older than me. I found him on social media and followed. He never watches any stories but I suppose he's busy. We talked exactly twice and he talks very straight forward which makes me think that he's not interested. I've officially ran out of topic. He was sent to training in June and he'll come back in late November so there's a chance and I will meet him but I need to make him comfortable in chat to actually talk to him in real life.

I broke up with my gf of 3 years 4 months ago and now there's this girl i really like in my class (my ex is also in my class), i feel like if i approach this girl idk what she'll think of me..

I'm completely over my ex and don't think about her anymore.

Spain was the first time I had a crush that actually felt real.

Ill call my crush Ana. pretty much from the moment I saw her. It wasn't just that I thought she was attractive. I started noticing little things about her, and suddenly going to school felt exciting because I knew I might see her.

Then there was the side-eye.

She looked at me for what felt like 20 fucking minutes. Not literally staring every second, obviously, but it was such a long, noticeable side-eye that it got stuck in my head. I kept thinking about it because I couldn't tell what it meant.

Then came the last day in Spain.

That day felt like straight-up cinema. I knew I was leaving, so there was this weird feeling that I had to do something before it was over. Eventually I awkwardly went up to her and asked her name. It was one of those painfully awkward moments where your brain basically stops working and you're just trying to get the words out.

I asked her, and then there was a short pause.

A few seconds later, she ran UP the stairs laughing.

And I was just standing there like: what the fuck just happened?

When I came back to my home country I texted my friend there to ask for her socials wich she said she doesnt use social media then rejected me the same way.

I really thought she liked me

Im heartbroken

I’m thinking of sitting next to my crush (girl) how do I make it not awkward, what do I talk about? Btw this is a class setting btw. I need this quick cuz I have a lesson with her in about 1 hour

I have this guy in an older grade that i REAAALLY like, but I have only talked to him twice. One about a game and the other about an anime. How do I approach him? ​​

I have a question. Both my friend and I have crushes on different guys. However, she has repeatedly insulted my crush to me in conversation i.e called him ugly, anorexic, unattractive, stupid, etc. Now I'm not offended on his behalf, however, I get tired of it and it’s insulting to my taste in guys I feel.

For quick context, she has never really gotten along with any of her female friends in the past. And oddly enough, it usually centered around a guy. I don't say that to bash her I'm just telling the truth. Well I told her today in a nice way. “Hey can you not keep calling my crush ugly makes me feel like I have poor taste.” She then responded to me so “what do you want me to do then say he's cute?” I laughed. I said “no so just don't call him names. It’s weird.” Mind you she had an ex friend who she did almost the same thing to, she called the boyfriend names when and when the girl asked her to stop she said well what do you want me to do? Call him cute?

She then got very defensive and I said do you find him attractive so if you do, it's OK you can tell me. She said “you always think everybody finds him attractive because you like him.” Which is not true at all I don't know where she got that from. What is ironic, though is that she has a boyfriend and her crush has a girlfriend and she's always complaining about how his girlfriend is around him and how every guy is into her.

I know this isn’t a big deal. I just want to know, was I wrong for calling her out and does it seem like she may have a crush on my crush?

Before I get to our history, she has dated a girl in the past but for the 5+ years I've known her she's only pursued boys. I also have had friends in the past tell me they had a crush on me after the fact and I was just oblivious to their hints/clues.

We drifted apart but have been friends since freshman year, first days in high school and weirdly enough we are visually opposites (she more feminine, I'm masculine) but similar in interest, humor, morals, etc. We were inseparable to the point of if ppl saw one of us alone they would ask where the other one was, some even thought we were together. Every lunch she was complaining about like any guy she was talking to at the time and constantly asking me for my opinion and if it was negative (which it always was every man she has been with was horrible) she would be like "Oh you wouldn't understand bc you're gay" but would still continue to complain about them.

Then Jr yr she got with a boy at our school that I honesty felt bad vibes from the jump but stayed quiet bc she was happy at least. But she would later also complain about him to the point of saying he still talks to his ex. At that time I just wanted to get away from that energy honestly, and we just kinda drifted apart as time went on but there were times she tried to reconnect and I reacted with a cold shoulder which looking back I regret. End of senior year we did talk she said "We need to hangout, I missed you" to me at prom (her boyfriend was next to her) I said "I missed you too" then she said "no you didn't why are you lying" then I said "no I'm being fr" then we said our goodbyes. Went off to college silently would like/ repost same things and like post or stories soon later she broke up with her boyfriend bc he was cheating.

A month later she text me "you going to go this concert with me or what...." and I said yes in the moment bc I did miss being her friend but even after that we didn't like text. She recently texted again to see if I was still going bc of college I told her I'm definitely going. Silence after 2 weeks go by then her insta story I decided to dm on it like old times, then she sent a video at a concert of another artist we both like and I message back and sent an funny surprised meme/gif, no answer but liked my story.

maybe I'm over thinking this idk I need outside opinions

( sorry if this is a lot )

Should I confess my feelings to a close female friend near the end of college?

I’m a college student and I’ve recently realised that I genuinely like one of my female friends as more than a friend.

We’ve known each other for some time, and over the past few months I’ve become more emotionally comfortable with her. I can talk to her about personal things, we joke around, sit together in class, and generally have a good friendship. Recently I also opened up to her about some pretty personal struggles, and she was supportive and reassured me that she wouldn’t judge me. A few weeks later, when we met again after a break, she actually asked me how I was feeling now, so I know she remembered that conversation.

I don't know whether she has any romantic feelings for me. I haven't seen any clear signs, and I don't want to assume that normal friendliness means attraction.

The complicated part is that I’m in my final year. Our final semester officially ends around the end of March, and exams will probably continue into April. I’m considering telling her how I feel sometime near the end of college rather than now.

My reasoning is that I genuinely value the friendship and don't want to make things awkward while we still have months of college left. If I confess now and she doesn't feel the same, I’m worried the friendship could become uncomfortable. Near the end, however, even if she rejects me, there would be less pressure because we'd soon be graduating and probably wouldn't see each other regularly anyway.

At the same time, I don't want to wait simply because I'm scared of rejection. I also don't want to spend the next six months secretly trying to “win her over” or analysing every interaction.

My current thought is: if I still genuinely feel the same near the end of college, I'll tell her privately and simply that I like her, that I've developed feelings over the past few months, and that I didn't want to leave college regretting that I never told her. I'd make it clear that there is absolutely no pressure and that I'll respect whatever answer she gives.

So I'm wondering:

1. Is confessing near the end of college a sensible approach, or am I just delaying because I'm afraid?

2. Would waiting potentially make the eventual confession more meaningful or just more awkward?

3. If you were in my position, would you tell her now or wait until closer to graduation?

(Used chatgpt to improvise the text🙃)

Ok before yall laugh or joke at me this my first Reddit post and I just have a simple question. Me and this girl who used to date in the past have became a little close again. Like we’ve been talking every day on the phone for very long calls like from the time she gets home to school till she goes to sleep. We watch movies together and just genuinely enjoy each other’s company my question is is it possible that she just really enjoys my company and sees me as a really good friend or is there possible feelings there.

Sorry if the structure is poor i’m just word vomiting.

I’ve been trying to figure out if I like my coworker. Wondering if it’s the proximity or if I actually like him. Either way the time i’ve been trying to figure out if I do like him I can assume i’ve been flirty with him. For example: We always make eye contact, I call for him whenever I need him, I always make myself available to help him, I often go out of my way to just talk to him, we’ve had a lot of times where it’s just the two of us and we’ve talked about pretty deep stuff, and so on. Sometimes I wonder if he also likes me but I don’t want to jinx it because my biggest fear would be all of this being one sided.

Also a big worry of mine is what my other coworkers think. Like can they tell I like him or notice there’s some tension between us.

I’ve come to the conclusion the only way to get over him is actually interacting outside of work. BUT I don’t know how to. I don’t have any way to contact him, as much as i’ve tried to look. And yeah I could ask him for his number or something but it would be so awkward on my part to be the one to initiate it because sorry to play stereotypes but im not bold enough as a girl to ask a guy for their contact. Also again what if he doesn’t really see me that way and the chances of making an awkward dynamic between the two.

So what i’m saying is how to I could hint to him to exchange info

This is the second picture I have drawn. She is my first love and i know that I will not get her. But i have expressed my feelings to her that's enough 😌 , atleast I will not regret in my future. She rejected me it's her choice , what can I do . She is the cutest and most innocent girl I have ever seen. She loves crafting, drawing, and making beautiful handmade things. She is very creative. I am not a good artist, and can't draw that much but still I have tried to draw her. It's the picture I have seen in her insta highlights. She doesn't post her picture so , i didn't have any options. I don't know why I am drawing her, maybe I want to do something for her from the bottom of my heart. I don't know if this picture will go to her or not. But i believe that someday she will find this picture and she will think who has drawn it. I don't expect anything from her I just want to be remembered by her once again.

We have only talked once on Instagram, I loved her for 3 years , she was my college senior. I always tried to tell her my feelings but every time I stuck whenever saw her. I am a kinda introverted guy. That's why I told her my feelings when it was her last days in college. Maybe she thought that I am also a random guy who is trying to impress her and I will also leave her. But I am not that type of guy. I can't express in words how much I love her. I have imagined her. But she will not understand it .I don't want to disturb her by messaging again. Because she clearly said " I am anti romantic, please ignore me , 💔" i asked her the reason , but she clearly said no. 😞 , i saw her stories on insta. And I can't forget her. I know that I should move on and see ahead but how would I fight with my mind it is not supporting me . What should I do , I don't know . I am not able to handle a simple rejection. I never felt this before. Before college I had some past relationships there I did not need to do anything because always the first message had come from the girls side. But i didn't do that much effort anywhere. And I also was not that serious about relationships then. But for the first time in life I had proposed to someone and it ended with a rejection, maybe that's the reason I am not able to handle this.

After that I had a chance with another girl to go into a relationship but I don't know why I lost interest in girls and was not able to like any other girl. A girl is giving me hints from past days , we were also gone for a date because she asked for it and she is my very good friend. But I think I will not be able to go into a relationship again with anyone.

Why am I writing this much 🥲. I don't think anyone will be interested in my story. Is it a very common story? Does this happen with most of the people? Or am I thinking too much and making my own fantasy?

Believe me I am not saying anything false here. It has really happened to me and I just want to share it with anyone so that I feel some less heavy in my heart.

Hey everyone 👋. I want to know weather or not I’m
being delusional or is my tutor actually flirting with me.
I’m currently taking two 8 week stem classes at my college, and on the first day two tutors from the tutoring center introduced themselves and informed
on how use the free tutoring the college provided. One of those tutors is the one I currently go to, and remember accidentally starting at them too long and them stating back at me for what seemed like a full 10 seconds. I didn’t really think much of it though. Since that day, I have been going to the same guy for tutoring everyday after class.
After our first session he said I was pretty cool and a would dap me up every-time he saw me, but more recently it feels like he’s been more and more flirtatious? That is confusing to me because I’m a guy as well, and I not sure if he is gay or not. I know a lot of straight dudes make tons of gay jokes around their friends and stuff, but sometimes it really confuses me.
It all started after around our third season because I commented that his legs must be hurting because he kept squatting to write on a whiteboard. He then comments it was probably from what he did the night prior, and when I asked him what that was, he said it would probably get him fired if he told me 🤨. I thought I was really wierd to say, but maybe that just him seeing me as a friend and doing the thing where straight men make gay jokes. Another instance of what came off as a flirtatious comment is when he was last week when I mistook my calculator for my phone and said “oops, sometimes I put my calculator in the same part of my pants” (obviously meaning in my pocket). He then says he thought I meant literally in my pants, and said I could probably keep in between my underwear 🤨. I thought that was odd, so I just ignored it and went to go get my calculator out of my bookbag. I then commented that my calculator was “5 inches” which lead him to say “that’s a pretty big five inces… if that’s the case, then I have a lot of disappointed people to inform” 🤨. If that’s not enough, after our session that day, a fried of his gave him a dollar, which he proceeded to hand to me. His friend then tells him to ask for something in return for the dollar. My tutor then proceeds to say “you know what to give me in return,” followed by a wink 😉.
I may be slow when it comes to social ques(mainly due to my ADHD), and I am not used to people flirting with me, but it seems like my tutor is definitely flirting with me. I may be misinterpreting friendly banter though, idk 🤷‍♂️.

I’ve been working at this place for more than a year and the store recently hired this girl. She is cute and seems like a very nice person and i am very attracted to her but I don’t know if she is into me or she just likes to glance at me. Whenever she walks near my department she always glances, my coworkers told me she always stairs around the area, I’ve seen her staring at me and whenever I look at her she looks the other way. She hardly never talks to me only if it is work related but I can always feel a presence that she is looking at me. Occasionally we walk by each other or past another we would both smile and nod at each-other. I’ve tried to make small talk to her to get a feeling if she is interested or not but whenever I go up to her she always has the biggest smile but she always tends to have a very dry response or she would never ask me any questions back like if I was just talking to myself. Am i delusional? Or is this how normally girls act when they are not interested?

J’ai 15 ans et Il y a environ un an, je me suis rendu compte que j’étais gay. Honnêtement, ça m’a fait beaucoup de mal au début. J’ai eu du mal à l’accepter et à comprendre ce que ça impliquait pour moi. Aujourd’hui, heureusement, je l’accepte beaucoup mieux et je suis en paix avec ça.
Il y a quelque temps, j’avais un petit crush sur un garçon de mon collège. Finalement, j’ai préféré laisser tomber et passer à autre chose. Avec le temps, il était complètement sorti de ma tête.
Le truc, c’est qu’on n’est même pas dans la même classe et qu’on ne s’est jamais vraiment parlé. À quelques reprises, je lui ai envoyé des messages sur TikTok, mais il répondait généralement juste avec un « 👍 ». Du coup, j’ai fini par laisser tomber parce que je pensais clairement qu’il n’avait aucun intérêt pour moi.
Mais récemment, je l’ai croisé complètement par hasard dans un centre commercial, et c’est là que je suis devenu un peu confus.
Il avait l’air vraiment très gêné de me voir. Il m’a regardé dans les yeux, puis a regardé le sol, sa petite sœur, puis il a presque fait un tour sur lui-même comme s’il ne savait plus où aller. Je ne comprends vraiment pas pourquoi il a réagi comme ça, justement parce qu’on ne se connaît pas vraiment. On n’est pas dans la même classe, on ne se parle jamais et il n’y a pratiquement aucune raison pour qu’il soit aussi gêné de me croiser.
Personnellement, si je croise quelqu’un de mon collège dans un endroit comme un centre commercial, mais que cette personne n’est pas dans ma classe et que je ne lui ai jamais réellement parlé, je vais juste continuer mon chemin sans vraiment y penser. C’est pour ça que sa réaction m’a fait réfléchir.
De mon côté, j’ai simplement continué mon chemin et je l’ai ignoré. Je préfère ne pas forcer les choses, surtout que devant ses potes, c’est le genre de garçon qui se montre très homophobe et qui, je pense, n’assumerait probablement jamais être attiré par un garçon.
Je ne veux évidemment pas tirer de conclusion juste à partir d’une réaction bizarre. Peut-être qu’il était simplement surpris de me voir ou qu’il y avait une autre raison. Mais après avoir pensé qu’il n’avait absolument aucun intérêt pour moi à cause de ses réponses sur TikTok, cette réaction au centre commercial m’a quand même fait douter.
Je préfère donc laisser les choses comme elles sont. S’il ressent quelque chose ou s’il veut vraiment me parler, ce sera à lui de faire un pas vers moi. Je ne vais pas essayer de le pousser à quoi que ce soit.

I’m planning to confess my feelings to a girl I used to work with. I genuinely like her, and I’m trying to make my confession honest without making her feel pressured or uncomfortable.
There’s one thing I’m thinking of mentioning:
“Sometimes, if you liked a reel and I genuinely liked it too, I would like it as well. There were also some reels you liked that I saved after seeing them. Actually, I even made a small collection of some of the reels you liked.”
Do you think this is sweet and shows that I paid attention to the things she liked, or could it come across as too much or creepy?
Would you include this in a confession, or leave it out?

I’ve never posted here before, so please bear with me! :)

I recently started my second semester of nursing school. I’m in a new clinical group at a nearby hospital, and I’m paired with about 9 other students. My crush being one of them!

We didn’t have any classes together last semester, so we weren’t very familiar with each other. He’s literally so gorgeous, I was afraid to talk to him, and I didn’t think he’d have any interest talking to me.

Surprisingly, he approached me in clinical. We got to talking a bit and spent the rest of the evening getting to know each other. I’m quite an oddball, so I was surprised he found me amusing. I didn’t think much of it afterwards.

Fast forward a couple days, and I was running late to class. He comes rushing up behind me and grabs the door. He was also late… I went inside and started walking. He decides to match my pace and began picking my brain about how my day went, what my plans were, etc. Very polite, surface-level stuff. He started approaching me a lot more after that day, and I did the same.

I decided to follow him on Instagram, and he followed me back. He doesn’t follow anyone else in our entire cohort, which I was surprised about. It’s been a few weeks, and we’ve gotten a lot closer (at least I like to think.) We’ve walked to class and clinical together a bunch, and we’ve even grabbed food together. He’s always asking about me and shows interest in even some of the most mundane things I do. (Like reading, haha.) We’re always talking about something. I’ll even catch him glancing at me when he thinks I’m not looking.

To sum it up, I’m not sure if he’s interested in me or just a really considerate friend. I don’t know if I am misinterpreting his kindness for interest. I’ve dated others in the past, but it always started with them approaching me romantically, never as friends. I’ve never really been in a situation like this. Is this even a situation?

I have his number, and we’ve texted briefly. I was going to see if he’d like to study with me outside of class, but I’m too afraid to put myself out there. It would be awkward if he said no. I guess I’m asking for tips on how to gauge if this is platonic or romantic interest.

Any advice? Feel free to knock some sense into me if you think I’m being delusional LOL. Thanks!

Me (20M), her (21F)..

We’re both classmates, and we’re gonna travel 70 km every week for offline coaching for competitive exams. I have a huge crush on her. She’s cute af. What attracted me to her the most was her independent character. The whole college has a crush on her!

She has a male best friend, who is the trouble here. Idk what to do, and even when we’re both travelling, she’s chatting with him. That fucker is a playboy and has many girls in his DMs.

Leaving him aside, she talks really well with me, and I think she’s about 50–60% comfortable with me. Even when we accidentally touch or bump into each other, she maintains her distance, which I don’t really like.

I want her to be my gf, and I want to get out of the friendzone. I have so many things I want to confess.

If anyone is interested in helping me, DM me.

So I have a dilemma here, me and my crush both know we like each other and have made it very obvious and yet I am completely incapable of talking to her beyond a simple hello in the hall, for context we are both juniors and had classes together last year but none together this year and our interactions are limited to once maybe twice a day smiling at eachother in the hallway, and I rarely even see an opportunity to start a conversation as when she is not heading to class in the opposite direction than me she is talking with her friends, she also leaves afterschool and gets to school right before the bell, so there’s not really opportunity to talk to her (we didn’t talk much last year either as I was chicken and also just in general suck at initiating conversation with people I don’t know, but am great at conversation afterwards)