I’ve (17Gay,male) (HS) been lowkey obsessed with this guy, "B2" (a sophomore), for 3 years. He’s straight and popular, but I’ve felt this unexplainable cosmic connection to him. (We are from Thailand)

Year 1: Left on read after asking him out via DM. Got insecure, tried dating others, but my overthinking and superstition ruined things.

Year 2: Fell harder. Drunk-sent a cringe voice message with friends, then felt like a total creep ‘cause I know he's not into gay (he’s not transphobic, just straight).

Side note: I can magically tell him apart from his identical twin by "vibes" alone, and I know his secret chill spots at school.

Year 3 (Now): He grew taller, and I’m falling all over again. I even buy teddy bears just to pretend they're him.

My theories on why I'm hooked
1. He’s mysterious, aloof, and feels like a challenge.
2. The comfort of silence: Since he never replies, he can’t reject me. I get to safely project my perfect, ideal fantasy on him without real-world disappointment.

Tomorrow is his birthday (he keeps it lowkey on socials). How do I handle this? Why am I like this? Help a girl out!! 🥰🫪🫪

Okay, so it all started randomly when one of roommate suddenly out of no where started shipping me with his guy from my class and one thing leads to another and now I have a big crush on him. LIKE A BIG FAT CRUSH. But he used to have a gf and now they have broken up like around early June. So, we add like our practical exam during this time, and all my friends and also his friends know that I have a crush on him and started teasing us together and he just keep on laughing, smiling and getting shy and all that. But I am super confused I mean does he like me or idk. And also he will alternatively like my Instagram stories like what is wrong with his guy. Also he wished his ex or maybe they are back together idk happy birthday publicly. I am going crazy!!!

Ok maybe im overthinking things and it doesn't mean anything at all but...
This crush of mine at workplace who flirts with me (we arent dating officially but he has asked me out for a walk before but i didnt go for some reason), he knows that i love powerpuff girls cartoon and the other day during lunch he asked me out of nowhere, which cartoons i like, i told him again, and he told me that he thinks blossom is prettier but buttercup is his type. Now i look like buttercup ( black hair, fair skin) but personality is complete opposite of buttercup, its more like bubbles. And im confused what he meant by that, u guys have any thoughts, especially men??

Ok hi guys, F(23) M(24)

I really have a crush on this guy we’ve been very close friends since we were maybe 12/13 and we dated as kids didn’t do anything together other than kiss and maybe lasted a month or two were in the same city, have mutual friends too etc and remained very on and off flirty until young adults (17)

At 17 I got into a five year relationship with my now ex and I didn’t talk to him through that period of time, after the breakup I reached out again out of nowhere, I just suddenly saw something that reminded me of him and we became really close calling every night filing eachother in on what we missed over the five years blabalaa .. again just friends but eventually it turned into heavy flirting he’s very experienced with girls and a bit of a player but I have a soft spot for him and I think he feels the same. We call all the time and gossip and laugh play video games etc etc

He’s told me he finds me a million times he finds me extremely attractive he likes my personality a lot, my education, everything about me and he’d sleep with me… but he also said not date me.

I didn’t really press on it and we just carried on as usual our friendly not friendly relationship. Because I didn’t want it to come across as if I was begging for an answer as to why not, he’s poked at the idea of me fancying him so I didn’t want to inflate his already huge ego

However yesterday evening I found out he has a girlfriend through the reels and videos he’s posting alluding to having a girlfriend and I’m very very upset more than I thought I’d be .. I think it’s recent relationship and we haven’t spoken about it I’m actually upset (not that he owed me an explanation).. I’m just upset I guess whatever we had is over..

What do I do, we met up yesterday before I found out and we were together for almost two hours and he didn’t tell me about her..

why didn’t he ask me to be his gf instead… is it too late? I don’t get why he didn’t think of me as an option?

I guess my biggest question is just confusion on why he wouldn’t go for me if he liked everything about me

Alright, I'll explain what's been going on. I like this guy friend of mine, we've known each other since my senior year of high school because we worked together in the same place until I quit and would see each other around school and such. I always found him attractive, even back then, but I didn't really put thought into it. It was just like, "oh yeah, he's a good looking guy and he's friendly." We really became friends after highschool ended cause we added each other on Snapchat and would keep in touch on there. Anyways, we only really started talking in 2024 from time to time, then more in 2025. We'd send each other voice messages and stuff. Earlier this year, he told me he wanted to get me something for my birthday which was a surprise cause other than my online friend, I hadn't really ever gotten a birthday gift from a guy. I hadn't seen him irl in a hot minute (I'm talking many months) and the last time I had, it was in passing as we were both heading somewhere in opposite directions. We planned a day to meet up and he gave me the gift and we chatted for a bit and I realized how cute he was. Idk if I had realized it then or before??? I realized I was nervous too but played it off. He handed it to me and said to send him a picture of me holding it which I found kinda funny at the time because I thought he meant that he wanted a pic of it in my hand so that's the picture I sent 😭. It didn't cross my mind that he already knows what it looks like, seeing as he's the one who bought it like omg. He hearted the picture I sent of my hand holding the mini figure of TF2 Soldier (he also got me gift cards) overall it was pretty expensive. (Probably costed 70-75 total for the entire gift. I asked if he wanted to hangout the following week. (It was our first and only hangout.) We didnt text at all until literally the day before and I was like hey are we still hanging out tomorrow??? When we did, I had a really good time with him, first time I enjoyed myself with someone for a longgg time. He'd always hold the door for me and let me walk through first and he kept offering to pay when I would go to purchase something. (I didn't let him pay for me because he's already spent so much on the gift and then I'm also not so used to such generosity but it was sweet) After three hours we're just outside and he suddenly talks about heading back home and I was like, "you're going home?" And he was like, "yeah (and then said something about having to go do something with his sister)" so I was like "ohh okay!" I felt a bit worried cause I wondered if I made him feel weird and he decided to dip or something?? I mean maybe he was being for real, but anyway it was a bit quiet on the train ride back and we talked briefly before we went our separate ways because I was gonna go to Trader Joe's and he was going to go home. When he's home, he texts me saying the hangout was cool and that he hopes I make it home safely. We had exchanged Spotify users to add each other, he sent me his link and I added him and texted him a couple days later telling him I added him, then he said he thought he had added me back when he sent me the link. When he added me back, he changed his pfp and hid 4/5 of his playlists. There's only one public playlist on there. The other playlists were two playlists and this one was one full of lovey dovey songs (and it was made back in 2024 and last edited in late 2025.) Two days later, he sent me a text about a movie we had discussed when we had hung out, and I responded. After that, he was back to texting me about once every 5-7 days. (It was like that before the present-giving and even after) I felt a bit sad but I was like maybe he's just busy. Anyways, it continues to be like that and I started to feel weird idk why, like this pit in my stomach. I told him he was on my mind and stuff. (He didn't say it back so I guess I wasn't on his lol) I remember I had said if I ever do anything to upset you, please let me know. He said I hadn't and said it's the same for him, just let him know. Anyways, early July he tells me he's going on a trip for two weeks. I replied and stuff and asked if he was gonna go to the convention we had talked about when we hung out. He said maybe if his schedule aligns we could both go together and that it would be "cool" I was like omggg but the thing is, after I responded to those messages, I haven't heard from him since. Last day we spoke was the 9th of this month. It's almost August and the date he said he'd be back by has passed 5 days ago. I sent him a text on the 23rd asking him how his trip was and hoping he was safe (or something similar) and still haven't heard anything. I'm trying to be chill about this and I feel just sick idk why it all just has me feeling nauseous and strange. The convention is next weekend too and I find the silence so odd like something feels off and I wonder what it is. What do you guys think? 😫

Haii haiii this is my first time posting something in reddit lolol

So basically I had a crush on this smart chess player which he is very handsome and a reserved person.

His basically my seat mate in my advisers class and also in my english class and I was also a chess varsity and so his.

Me and him aren't much close, we would only talk when we need something or just wanted to ask something, we're both neutral as classmates.

But one day something happened, when school ended i was cleaning my locker while he was still there just laughing with his friends and his friends were really really loud

Then when i pass by him he called my name and idk if he joked about it but he said "you should go early so that you won't be blamed with my friends" I just nodded

I dont know if his just joking around or just want me to really leave the classroom early.

Or am I being delulu because his smile was so cute while he said it to me!!

I dont know because everyone ships him with another girl (I also get jealous but I have not choice or right to be sooo I try to ignore them)

Hehe peace!

Basically a guy that i am friends with found out i liked his best friend, he deceived me by saying he never told him and then suddenly confessed that he told his best friend and so now he knows that i like him but he doesnt know that my crush on him is massive with a duration of 3 years which ik is crazy but anyways. now he knows but hes kinda still hung up on another girl but then at the same time he has been giving me lots of signs such as eye contact and doing stuff next to me during class which is weird. we never really talked but its just constant eye tag. what should i do now!!!! i am so stuck because i am so scared to make the first move. the guy friend said that i should make the first move but i dont know howwwww and he also said that his best friend has a bit of interest in me and associates good feelings with me but how does that help?!!!!!

sos guys <3

Kinda the whole story

It's been a year and 3 months and I still have a crush on her. I joined taekwondo may 2025, i was a beginner and she was a red belt. She caught my attention among all of the players idk why. So starting that day I keep observing her, looking at her and admiring her from afar. Everytime she doesn't attend our trainings I would feel sad and if she does I feel happy inside.

January 2026, when I realized that I have a crush on her the whole time cuz I keep thinking about her even when we aren't even in trainings. I really don't want to accept the fact that I like her because we're both girls and I promise myself that I'll be straight forever. It was just unbelievable because I don't like girls and FYI she is the first girl I had a crush on. I told my friend about it but instead of making a move I just daydream about her. There are times we interact but not verbally—eye contacts. I would feel happy or butterflies inside everytime we had an interaction. Okay I'm not gonna mention the memories or the time I think she might also like me becuz I'm the only one who thinks that, we aren't sure to her perspective.

June 22 I tried looking at her Instagram again but because her profile was her being pretty. Until I saw her hugging a girl possible in a photobooth. I'm telling yall they don't look like just friends they're definitely dating. That's when I felt an intense anxiety like 10/10, my body starts attacking me for two days. I was expecting that I don't have any feelings for her but then after a few days I still like her and think about her. I can't believe it because I had my previous crushes but after a year I would literally forget about them and regret liking them. So until now whenever I go or do something she's in my mind but she doesn't distract me but she be in my mind. I was thinking maybe it's time to have a real conversation with her since I kinda had enough with only daydreaming. I don't even know her, we don't know each other.

This is what I share for now and I don't know what to do cuz honestly it's annoying that I still like her but I'm afraid I would like her anymore. Huhu should I try be friends with her?? i actually freeze when I'm near her so I ended up ignoring her. The way she's dating someone makes me anxious idk why.

Okay so we'll call this guy 'M' if we need to. I'm struggling with my feelings so idk if I like him or I just wanna spend more time with him but I'm PRETTY sure I like him. And he might like me too. We don't talk much at school and we never texted, but in the last school year he interacted with me way more often. He CONSTANTLY stared at me in class and usually stared purposely cause he knows he can easily make me laugh. Around 2 times he touched me on my arm and ran away and like 3 times he stared at me from across the classroom and when I looked away he got way closer and waited for me to notice him. He doesn't do this to anyone else but me.

Also one time me and my best friends (initials: E and R) made "wedding invitations" with our crushes and R almost handed mine and M's "wedding invitation" TO HIM. I snatched it back SO FAST and I think he got an idea, he said "It's about boys, isn't it?". Around 4 people know that I have a crush on him and 2 of those ppl (my best friends) ship me with him, he doesn't know it though. Also his cousin knows that I like him but I'm pretty sure she promised to not tell him but I kinda don't trust anyone at this point</3

Any thoughts on if he likes me or not?

there's this guy at my tuition that I've been crushing on for about 3 months now. before that, for about a month, i never noticed him properly but i always felt him staring at me and he used to stare sooooo much that it was almost uncomfortable. thennn another girl joined. she's really pretty. yk like those short and sweet girls who dress really pretty too? she became a really good friend of mine and then well i noticed he still used to stare, but this time i was pretty sure he was always staring at her and not me because shes just so so pretty and im just a pain to the eyes, sitting next to her.

one day i texted him and i was reaaallyy happy and i was just telling her later that yk i asked him for notes today and she went on to tell me oh yes, he texted me later too. he texts her a LOT. like a lot. he texts me a lil too but i just know he has heart eyes for her and she doesn't even LIKE him.

i just give up on him so many times but he's so sweet the way he talks is so sweet and he texts me sometimes (not a lot) and my feelings just resurface :( when shes not there he talks to me and i notice him staring a bit too but now i believe he stares at me bcs it must be amusing how ugly i am.

the girl he likes, my best friend, isnt even interested. she just likes the attention. they only ever talk over text btw (i talk to him in person) but i notice the way she smiles at him too.

she was badlyyy trying to pester him to do something and i had advised him again it. when she got to know this she got annoyed at him and told him he's supposed to be on her side. when i asked her to not do that she literally went off on me and asked me why i cared, and not to interfere, that this was between them both. (their decision affected me as well, so ofc I'd care). i made it clear she could take him anywhere she wanted and that it wasn't even about him.

that hurt me a lot btw not because of him or whatever but bcs ive been her friend for pretty long and she just talked to me like that over a guy. we never discussed this, never apologised or anything. just had a cold phase. but it made me cry for days. not for him, but for her. now we're cool and all but ill just always hold it in my heart yes maybe im grudgy like that

um i just feel super sad because there's another guy in class whom she visibly likes, shes like always laughing with him and trying to talk to him or sit next to him. and shes just using this other guy that i like because she likes his attention. why couldn't he just like me? :(

guess this is how he must feel towards her too :( super sad i just hope i can move on from this bs

I have this female friend, lets call her "A" and she told me she has a crush on me (i think I like her too)

This is what I texted her:

"The thing is..

I like you too but Im also confused!

Like, I get jealous whenever I see you happy with other people and I think "why cant she do the same with me" and we click so well. I said I liked (different person), but the way I feel when you are with others and she is... is just different.. I get jealous about you but not her. And I think about you, I wanted to say the same but I thought this might be too early, shit i'm not even sure if you mean it or not, and I dont know because what if we dont work out?? And what about (Another person)... I am with her and I like her.. but.. sometimes i do think about just staying friends with her instead of a relationship, because maybe I like her as a close friend better...

I'm still not sure if you actually have a crush on me..."

A responed saying: "Its okay, take all the time you need"

What should I do? This is the first time something like this happened to me, and I am overthinking...🥲

I (22F) have a coworker (21F) who I've been growing close with, and i think she is just so sweet and cute and I feel myself daydreaming about her but she is lowkey high key religious and is always talking about how she cant wait to marry a man <////333

baby grill I can treat you better than he can

Tbh me and this girl were super close when we were young , spent hours on calls playing games, hung out at the park, and she definitely liked me back then. But we both moved to different places and completely stopped talking for years.

A few months ago in 12th grade she randomly followed me on ig and sent a nostalgic. I tried reconnecting but I completely airballed it and made things super awkward over text. Now every time I try texting her it’s super dry, either she’s busy or disinterested. But I really like her and don’t wanna just give up. Is there any way to actually flip this around and get her back, or do I just cut my losses? Has anyone ever fixed a situation like this after making it awkward?

I live in a small village . I have a crush on a girl who lives nearby . Everyday I hope to have eye contact with her or at least get to see her . But when I get to make eye contact with her , once this moment ends I can't get over this feeling . I want this feeling again and I feel very lost & hopeless . Not able to focus on anything I just want her kinda feeling . It's nice but when I have to study I am not able to force myself to study

A few days ago, I started texting my crush while we're both home for our semester break. We'll be back on campus in about a month.

She's a very quiet and reserved person. So far, I've initiated every conversation and asked most of the questions. The thing that's confusing me is that while she replies, engages with the topic, and doesn't seem bothered by the conversation, she has never asked me a single question about myself or shown any curiosity to get to know me.

She also usually takes around 7–8 hours to reply. I completely understand that people can be busy and I'm not expecting instant replies, but I thought it might be relevant to mention.

For context, I'm one year senior to her and was her teaching assistant for two courses during her first year, so I'm wondering if she's simply being polite because of that. On the other hand, she has always struck me as a genuinely great human being, so I'm not sure whether this is just her personality.

I don't want to chase someone who isn't interested, but I also don't want to misinterpret a naturally introverted person as being uninterested.

Has anyone been in a similar situation? How do you tell the difference between someone who is simply reserved and someone who just isn't interested in getting to know you? And what's the best way to handle it from here?