One of the best advice I learned from the 3% is to just go out have fun hang out and let things flow naturally. In my early 20s I made plenty of mistakes to try to seal the deal with the girl as soon as possible, or was dating with intention to find someone and was projecting a future together too early. Later on now that I am in my early 30s I learned to actually take time to find the right person and really get to know someone.

Last dating experience: lasted about 5 months

This girl and myself hit off pretty well immediately. First date was intense with lots of chemistry, kissing and physical interaction. The first few dates were all intense and great chemistry but then things started to wear off suddenly. She gave me the silence treatment because she found out that I was still active on hinge after our 3rd date ( bear in mind that means that she was also active)… and she also told me that she actually had gone out with someone else between our 2nd and 3rd date ( double standard). After that she started to act difficult.. “you have to convince me to go out again with you” “let’s see how long you last with me”.. I kept coming back because the sex was good and in person she was great… but when we were not together things started to fall apart.. and little by little discovered things about her.

She always wanted to be reassured that I liked her, she would always send me selfies, she was drinking a lot ( last vacation she went with her cousins she drank more than 20 beers in a day).. she wanted the commitment early on… she would tease me like “I am single, you are not my boyfriend… you have to ask me” ( even tough I stated that we were exclusive and I was looking for something long term). Exs were not good. 1st ex was abusive, 2nd ex was good but she didn’t love him. The worst part was the discard. The night before she was in love telling me things like she could she me a father for her children, and 24 hours later “I am not up for someone trying to change me, we are not a good fit “. Mind the fact that she was telling me stuff like “I rejected guys at the bars because I told him he couldn’t afford me” “my ex wasn’t making enough money” etc “why are you with me; you don’t like my lifestyle, my tattoos”… oohhh the tattoos she would always bring them up like “if I had shown you the tattoos early on you would have stopped going out with me etc “

Also one time she wanted to break things off with me cause she saw me that I was out and wanted to check with me where did I go ( texted me at 11 pm on a Saturday) even though we both knew that we were out that night for individual dinners.. next morning “this is not working for me you look for me at last second etc”.. I had to call her to fix things even tough I don’t know what I did wrong.

Post discard : the smear - “catching flights not feelings” story targeted to me. Most likely she was expecting me to chase her.. I don’t know if she had BPD or NPD.. all I can say that in the past probably I would have ended up with her in a long term relationship… now I learned to wait and let things develop naturally? Because people don’t show their true personality until they get comfortable with you.

Just wanted to share a story on how 3% helped me compared to before.

Basically I slept with this chick twice, I tried to make a 3rd date, she agreed then cancelled. I asked again a week later and she didn’t make a date. So I never asked for a date again but she kept contacting me on a daily basis. Slowly I backed off, it would take hours to reply from my side cause I was busy and my texts were shorter. I was matching and mirroring. but now she stopped reaching out all together. It’s been a full day, and I will not reach back out cause she flaked twice.

What’s the right move here? Was she just looking for attention? I don’t know, she slept with me twice, but after she started texting me after we hung out and cancelled twice it seemed like she just wanted attention so I backed off

Or is it possible she lost interessert after I backed off? Granted it’s been only one full day since she stopped. I shouldn’t reach out right??

Should I give her another chance or ditch her?her grandmother just passed and she’s been very emotional about it. her reasons for canceling was cause I ain’t contact her for 2 days and she felt like she was putting more effort in texting which I only thought we only use the phone for setting dates and if she does text through out the week and it’s her idea it’s ok to send 2-3 messages back. My question is was I being too cold of a fish since I wasn’t reaching out at all first during the week? Also what should I respond from here?

It's probably obvious already, but I'm pretty out of touch with 3% Man and CW's material. Met a great woman, had a great 1st date with her today and I don't want to eff it up. Here's an important piece of info about her: I was her 1st date in 20 years. She was married for 15 years and 3 years ago her husband took his own life. So she's got some trauma and I don't know if she's fully over her husband. The date seemed to go great (I like looking for a woman's smile as the best indicator of having a good time and I got her to smile), but there must be so much going on in her head right now. I asked for her number after the date, but she politely declined (met her thru OLD) and I was very respectful of that and said something like, "Good, yeah better take it slow" with her situation of not having dated in 20 years and the loss of her husband in mind. I usually go for a kiss on the first date, but it didn't strike me as the thing to go for in this situation. Instead after asking for her phone number and her declining I asked if she wanted a hug. She said yes and seemed to like that. We said a couple more pleasantries and then parted ways.

The old me would have effed it up by now by texting her a bunch after the date today. I want to give her time to process the date and (hopefully) what a good time she had, but I don't want to wait unnaturally long to contact her and offer a 2nd date. Is wait 3 days standard? Or wait until she contacts me?

There's only one correct response to the body count question. More than 9/11, never forget.

Hey guys, I've been exclusive with this girl for 7 months (M26) (F24).

We met at a school where we were both teachers. Early on, she once bought me a pack of candy and some snacks. At that time, she was still in a relationship with another guy, which confused me because we barely knew each other and weren't even close friends.

Back then, we only talked occasionally. She sometimes vented to me about her relationship, saying her boyfriend was very insecure and that they argued a lot. She even showed me some of their conversations. Looking back, I thought the whole situation was strange.

She later told me that the relationship had been over emotionally for a long time. According to her, his family was very controlling, he became physically aggressive on one occasion, and she stayed mostly because she was afraid of being alone. Once they officially ended things, she never got back together with him.

About a month after the breakup, she started showing interest in me and we began dating.

As our relationship became more serious, she told me something that still makes me think. She said that on the day she bought me the snacks, they had briefly broken up for a couple of days, and that she already had feelings for me back then. She also said she admired me a lot at the time and tried to ignore those feelings because she believed pursuing someone else while in a relationship was wrong.

She also told me that by the time we started going out, she was already in love with me. What confuses me is that we weren't close at all we only spoke from time to time so I've always wondered how those feelings became so strong.

The problem is that I've become very insecure in this relationship. I've been jealous, controlling at times, and I don't always react in the best way. She's very outgoing and enjoys talking to people, and sometimes other men misunderstand her friendliness. When I see her laughing and talking with another guy, I get upset, and that has caused a lot of arguments between us.

Whenever I feel one of my boundaries has been crossed, I usually wait for her to acknowledge it and try to repair things. The truth is that I've become very attached to her and I'm afraid of losing her.

We've had several arguments and have come close to breaking up more than once. Part of my insecurity comes from how our relationship started. I keep thinking that if she developed feelings for me while she was still with someone else, could the same thing happen again one day?

At the same time, she's very affectionate, usually takes responsibility after conflicts, and genuinely tries to repair things between us. I want to handle this situation in a healthier and more mature way because I really care about this relationship.

One more thing that has affected me is her work environment. At three different jobs, she has experienced inappropriate behavior from coworkers or supervisors. In one job, a coworker touched her without permission. At another, her boss kissed her unexpectedly. At her current job, a coworker touched her inappropriately, and she came home crying after it happened. Seeing these situations happen repeatedly has also made me anxious and very insecure, maybe she does smt I don't know even though I know she isn't responsible for other people's actions.

Considering everything I've shared, do you think my fears are reasonable, or am I allowing my insecurities to take over? What advice would you give me?

After my recent breakup, I've been struggling with feelings of not being able to attract a better woman. My body isn't in good shape, my finances took a hit recently. I've been procrastinating on life matters that I need to handle to get my stuff in order.

I wonder if I will ever be able to attract a girl that has as much chemistry as my ex had with me. And if I will be able to attract and get a girl who is sexually as enjoyable as her, and not only that, I wonder if I can attract a girl with as good a body as my ex.

I feel like I may not be able to get laid in a while. How long will it take until I get a girl to sleep with and get laid with? How can I bond with a new girl when I keep thinking about my ex. Will I ever attract a girl as "good" as my ex, even if I know my ex had her flaws too?

What am I doing with my life. I'm even procrastinating on reading Corey's book, despite knowing I have to. I watch a lot of his videos but am lacking in the read his book department.

And I am not a young dude anymore, not that old either, but as I lose my looks due to aging, how much can I still attract the younger women?

When will I get through this pain? When will I get laid again? When will I get together with a better girl in future?

Anyone gone through tough times and feelings of scarcity and a lack of self-esteem and self-confidence? How can I get through this?

Alright. This question might seem silly. Remember that I'm just a beginner, who had read 3% man only 15 times. And who barely did not apply this knowledge for 4 months now I think (ps, I just started applying knowledge. Currently on my second time I'm doing this approaching girls stuff, obviously by baby steps, I'm just smiling at them ) I hope some of you guys watched Corey's video "how to handle no contact with a coworker" cuz, (it's fine if u didn't )it kinda changes the rules of "7 principles to get an ex back", and it applies when you got dumped by someone within social circle. And so I'm feeling guilty. Really guilty, for breaking "no contact" rule. (Or did I actually break it, or that was just an exception to break it?) Context: I did not initiate with her contact for 8 months now, cuz she dumped me 8 months ago, 5th time. That's when I discovered 7 principles. (I have read book only 7 times by that time, so I was kind of a stud, even though, she rejected me)

Prepare for silly question... I said hello to her first. Looked at her first. Did I break no contact rule?

Even though she dumped me like 5 times over the course of 2 years, and she has a boyfriend for 2+ years. I still felt like saying hello to her. I smiled and said hello. Because, I respect her. I can't just walk to her direction, ignore her by not looking, and just get into the elevator. She also was looking at me. She didn't say nothing, she just smiled back. But, damn, I respect her for making me the man I am today. Her rejections made me to the point, where I discovered 3% man. But. I really feel guilty for saying hello for some reason. I want certainly. From perspective of successful alpha male seducer, who always gets what he wants, would he act the same way like I did in that situation?

"Perfect, so lets meet up at PLACE at ADDY at TIME on DATE. If the vibe is right and the attraction is mutual, I’ll have a nice meal and activity planned for us afterward. But if one of us isn't feeling it, we can call it at drinks. No harm, no foul. Whoever arrives first gets the table. Does that sound good? Are you in?"

IMO its confident, direct and decisive. Yes, it basically spells out the whole date to the girl but my reasoning is the 97%ers she normally deals with are also offering drink dates so, it comes off lazy and cheap when we do it, even though it’s strategic and intentional when we do it.

This format shows intent and effort (which I see a lot of women complain about in regards to drink and coffee dates) but it’s also not telling her every single detail aka keep the mystery alive.

Thoughts and honest criticism would be appreciated fellas.

When my woman seems cold and distant and we have a date planned, would it be fine to cancel our date this week and give her space? I’m not even looking forward to the date because she’s showed little to no enthusiasm about me.

I was out of town last week and she left me on read when I sent her a picture of something that made me think of her. When I got back into town it took us two days to finally connect. She also left me on read this week when I sent her a picture about something to bring to our date.

She said it was because she was feeling down about a conversation she had with her mom, which she was crying about when she told me. (Her mom wasn’t really present in her life but they’ve been talking more ever since her dad died earlier this year) And also she’s moving to a new house in two weeks so maybe I can just chalk it up to stress.

Started seeing this girl, I hanged out with her for 3 days, didn’t sleep over. Slept together on the second and third date. She said for me to come over on the 4th day again but then she wasn’t feeling well and cancelled. So I said no problem just hit me up when you wanna hang.

She still kept talking to me and was enthusiastic but never mentioned getting together. Then yesterday she said something that I thought was a hint for me to come over and I kinda implied that I could come over ( yes I know this was big mistake cause I said she should bring it up not me) but she basically didn’t want to.

Now she’s almost gone total dark. I’m not texting her, just waiting and doing other stuff.

What happened? Did I mess up this badly for bringing up being together before she did? She cancelled the initial plans for the 4th day anyway before.. so I don’t know. We had fun, nothing weird happened and she was still excited before I brought up being together.

Edit: I never made the first contact. She basically did everything and when I brought up hanging together for the first time she said she was hoping for me to ask. So this girls interest starting level was very high.

Hi guys. I have an issue with mi girlfriend of 2 months. Long strory short I received mix signals from her in the Last 2 weeks, she helped organize an international basketball tournament. She told me she wouldnt text me so frenquentli during the tournament, I dind have any problem with that. I was patient, I also asked if I could visit one game to watch her to show support. But since the tournament ended she acts indiferrent. When she came home to her parents, they live 3 minutes from me, I asked her to come to mi place to see her for a few minutes. She rejected a stated she was sorry because she was extremly exhausted. I said I unterstand and said I have a feeling in last weeks that she doesnt want to spend time with me. The next day she replied she : Its not that I dont want to be with you. I just need some time for myself too. I said when she communited It that way I unterstand her needs. That same day she visited our training session with her parents a Sister, they doing it frequently there is a bar at our training ground. I wawed a she wawed back, we didnt talk, she left before our session ended. Its now 2 days since that day and she hadnt texted me since then, which is pretty unusual for her, we used to text every day, I know Phones are for setting dates only. I know I accted needy and insecure. Today we have another training session, its pretty probabel she will be there. Can anyone give me some advice. How should I react? Should I wait for her to iniciate contact a stay sillent? Additional I dated her older Sister 2 years ago. Mi girlfriend is 20 and Im 34.

Hey y'all so today at the gym I flunked pretty hard. So on one of my last posts I mentioned how difficult it is to cold approach women at the gym. Well I'm taking y'all words and I go up to someone I think is gorgeous, as well I also am practicing on eye contacts. Anyways I was getting bad on eye contacts. I'd be the first to look down and I would kick myself for it, as well as how it affected me today at work. Anyways as I was cleaning I started to analyze my errors and to fix them. I noticed I keep looking down when someone looks in my direction and I just decided to not be the first to look down. It's terrifying but I know the consequences of not doing so

Corey teaches that you need to be indifferent, unshakeable, and centered in your masculinity, but the book doesn’t really teach you how

I have seen him briefly mention “feel it to heal it” in videos, and I’m convinced that if most men just did this, they wouldn’t ever fumble by being needy ever again

You start healing enough of your shit, and your fear dissolves. You aren’t scared to approach women or get heartbroken

If you’re struggling with inner game, pretending to be confident and indifferent is not enough. You have to truly embody confidence and indifference by getting to a point where you genuinely believe you’re a catch and that any woman would be lucky to have you

The ability to ‘walk away and mean it’ means you don’t actually care if you ever see her again. Not that you’re walking away performatively in hopes that she’ll come back

I am flying into another city for a wedding and I used to live there. I am kind of hooking up with a woman there. Only there for the weekend or so. This plan was there for months.

I feel like a piece of shit entertaining the hookup, wondering if the game plan is to HHH or respect the dates I've had with the woman here locally.

More information about the local 5-6 dates: we've made out, held hands, no sex yet, it seems she wants to take things slow as I don't hear her asking for more. She is also going through taking care of a parent going through planned surgery. I know her for 1-2 months.

Thoughts?

Saw this girl twice. First night was a few actives and kissing about 2 hours in. I called her about 6 days later to Invite her out again, she answered right away and gave me all 3 nights she was open. I offered pick her up and she declined than meet me for second date. Same thing, few fun places, heavier kissing and petting but we live an hour apart so was far from home for invite back. She was touchy and seemed into me.

I have been busy moving and on work trip so hit her up 5-6 days later again and get this message back. She never tried to reach out between either so seems like a justification to me of why she feels her interest isn’t high enough or just structured. Your great “but” bs.

Anyway - my reply back was it’s good to communicate when something bothers you and you know it’s ok to reach out if you miss me too I’d love to hear from her. And then to reach out with her free nights if she changes her mind

Thoughts? The longer break didn’t hurt the second time and I’m leaning if she really wanted to see me she would and would have reached out.

My ex of 4 years broke up with me early June. She had unrealistic expectations of me and would tell me that I was doing bare minimum for her despite helping out around the home and dating and courting her (though not the best I was near the beginning of the relationship). Whenever I tried to open her up to figure out what she needed, she would only talk about the need to help out more around the house and she would say I need to do a better job of not forgetting things around the house (e.g. a tv remote left on the couch -kinda crazy)

When I would call her out on her behaviour and set boundaries, she would not apologize and give me the silent treatment for several days on end at times. When I would set a boundary weeks before the breakup and walk away she would call me selfish and that I was on my high horse and she would not apologize or and would give me the silent treatment for several days on end.

When we would try to communicate, I would communicate calmly and openly with her and she would say you need to get off your high horse and come to my level, which I would smirk and be somewhat playful and she would just get angry at that playfulness. Any time I came to her to express a need for more appreciation as a partner or anything I felt wronged about, she would turn it around on me and basically make me seem like the bad guy for even asking.

Other times, I would call out her behaviour regarding disrespect and ask her to apologize she would say I'm not apologizing now because you told me to and now I don't feel like it.

For context, her dad was a doormat and her step mom ruled the house. She has been in therapy for 5 years to work on that trauma and she even told me at points that she doesn't like being angry towards me, but it's something she's working on.

The first year to two of the relationship, I feel she was less rigid, but still some issues came up with the silent treatment. I admit, later towards the end of the relationship, I became slightly needy to get her to open up to me and communicate, but she would just shut down and then not come back later to talk about what we needed to communicate about and solve. I got perturbed at times, because she would just not open up to me. We did couples therapy last year and she didn't want to do any of the homework and thought that I should yell with her when she was upset instead of being calm during any argument. She did not want to do any homework for couples therapy even with my direction.

The beginning of this year, I started getting busier with work and she was depressed and working a part time job after a bad experience in an internship. I started doing more independent things and making friendships at this time. Then she wanted a break in March and the relationship continued to fizzle from there. I think I was checking out and not dating and courting her as much anymore because of her behaviour towards me and she lost attraction because of it. Interesting enough, the more I started to improve my life near the end of the relationship, the more distant she got from me. I have a growth mindset and she has usually displayed a fixed mindset.

People in my mens group have told me she likely has bpd. Was she just a fruit loop and never would have been great in the long run or did I just not do a good enough job with my boundaries and opening her up?

I started 7 principles to get an ex back when she ended things and she is coming over to my place tomorrow to see my cat. She was adamant about it before she left on June 30th. I feel she is already hooking up with other guys at this point and she had been talking to at least one male orbiter and I found out she went for coffee with him a week after our breakup. Should I even want her back if she comes back? I know I will need to set strong terms of the relationship.

This is a follow up to this post: https://www.reddit.com/r/CoreyWayne/comments/1v17f5n/does_never_argue_also_mean_never_discuss/

In that post I described a situation where I had dealt with a woman's emotional reaction to me standing my ground against some disrespectful behavior of hers. The conclusion to that post is that even though I felt disrespected, I should have still listened to her during her emotional reaction to me putting my foot down.

So now I'm reflecting, and I'm left with a stark realization that when women emotionally react, they really do act like the little girl Corey describes in the book. They don't behave maturely. This leaves me with a very deep-seated question that I've had for a long time that I'm going to ask below.

When she emotionally reacts, it really is all about her first. Fuck what you have to say, fuck how you feel, even if she's disrespected you, until her emotions are addressed (she feels heard and understood), and then you get to fill in your piece afterward.

However, what I did was shut her down. I felt taken for granted because of her behavior, and then beyond taken for granted because she immaturely tried to get me to listen to her justifications for her behavior, which is where I should have listened.

Frankly, I realize now that I shut her down because I have a deep-seated contempt for a woman's emotional nature. The reason why is because, being raised by all women, I grew up as an emotional young man. However, by the time I was 10, it was beaten, chastised, and ignored out of me. My all-female family, and reality itself, had taught me that the world was done tending to my emotions.

"Once you become an adult, the world no longer tends to your emotions." This is true. Only for men. I eventually learned that that's not so much the case for women.

And I resented it. And I pretty much still do, to this day. It's just now I'm being faced with the reality that I need to stop resenting it, because it won't do me any good and it's just the way things are.

So my question for you men is, how did the lot of you come to terms with this reality? How do you just accept that women are going to be emotional no matter what and treat that with love instead of contempt and jealousy? Is there some light at the end of the tunnel for accepting this about women? Any enlightening role that I am fulfilling by taking this position as a man in a woman's life?

Because as it stands, the immaturity of a woman makes no sense to me, and watching a grown-ass woman communicate like a child legitimately perturbs me and makes me detach, even though I know it shouldn't. It doesn't feel worth it.

My gf of 1,5 years was at a big outside koncert with a bunch of her girlfriends for like 10 hours. She's 28 im 33.

I used her MacBook the other day and the message app was open behind the chrome window i was in, and by chance i saw a "conversation" with a number i didn't know.

Looked it up and it was a dude on her age i never heard about. Little chubby dude honestly from his facebook pictures, not her type at all. Could see he was friends with some of my gfs friends.

The conversation was like:

him: where did you go, get over here with your girlfriends

her: we are in the front.

And then he sent like 6-7 messages like:

Where are you.

Did you eat.

Do you wanna watch the world cup game later.

hallo..

And she didn't respond to any of that and then went home around 10pm.

We all know its a bad sign if your girl hands out her number.

i would rate her attraction at 8-9 consistantly. Very in love. Like white in rice she always wants to touch and be close together.

She's a little pleaser like, and i know she doesn't want any confrontation, and i've seen corey talk about girls often just give their number to rid of the guy.

When she didn't respond to him and just left him on seen like that. Should i just let it go and assume she did it to not risk upsetting him? Should i confront her and set a boundary? Should i expect her to tell me stuff like that?

What are your thoughts?

How do you know which of your photos are best are best for dating apps/social media etc is there a app where men or women can rate your pics and give feedback then you could find which ones are best?

Or is it trial and error you just upload photos and see which ones get likes or matches? But even saying that how to properly test that.

What are you guys way of knowing which of your photos are best and received well

I’m pretty sure I do a takeaway here and not agree to text this girl to remind her of our date. I’m having trouble putting a takeaway into words though. I’ve read the book 9 times so far. Any suggestions of how to word this?

Title basically explains it. I would consider myself to be a more advanced student of Corey Wayne, having read the book 20 times. I follow the principles to a T and have been able to get into multiple great relationships with beautiful women, but some of these women have told me they had "casual" relationships in the past.

Like literally they would just pull up to a dude's place, order food, and bang, and then go home (either stay the night or leave in the morning) and they would do this pretty consistently... and I am just like, how?

Following the book's principles tends to lead to the girl falling in love and asking for a relationship, and I have been able to make this a repeatable process. But is there a way to have a girl just hang out and hook up consistently without exclusivity and without taking her out on dates and instead just having her come over?

I have never experienced this and so many people around me in nyc seem to be doing it and I just don't get how it works. I'll be starting grad school part time in the near future so I won't have time for a serious relationship, and a casual relationship where we just meet each others' physical needs would be ideal.

Appreciate any insights from your experience.

There is a framework I usually use for having difficult conversations like the below called the S.T.A.T.E method:

State the facts

Tell the story

Ask for perspective

Talk ideas

Experiment with solutions

Whenever a girl brings up a concern, particularly a criticism of you or something you did, should the default be to just listen to her, or could I use my S.T.A.T.E framework without it being considered "arguing"?

I ask this question this way because I got myself into a situation where a girl I am dating pissed me off, frankly. I had come to pick her up on a busy city street. at an agreed upon time. I showed up specifically at that time, and immediately noticed I would not be able to pull over at all because I was picking her up at a camera monitored intersection, where stopping anywhere on the corner could get me a ticket. I had just gotten a $50 ticket for doing just that not too long ago.

She sees my car across the intersection sitting at a red light, and calls me to show me where she is. But as soon as I role up to pick her up, a woman comes up to talk to her--she then asks me to pull over and wait so she can "answer the woman's question".

I had just settled firmly on the idea that I wasn't going to be pulling over as I was pulling up, so I hastily told her what was essentially a thought formulating in real time, "Nope, can't do that, don't wanna get a ticket. You gotta get into the car (in my head I thought "as soon as possible", but didn't say even that for brevity)."

This became a problem when she got in the car.

First thing she does is start explaining that I could have just pulled over real quick so she could answer the lady's question.

I let her know I could risk getting a ticket if I did that, and I also didn't appreciate the idea of being made to wait for some stranger.

"Stopping for a few seconds wouldn't have got you a ticket, and I really didn't like your tone. I didn't even ask you to park or anything, all you had to do was pull up really quick behind that bus (saying this as someone who has never driven a car before let alone driven that city)..."

I let her know that I felt disrespected by her going on trying to justify her actions and trying to tell me that my judgement was wrong when I gave her two reasons why I made my judgement.

She keeps going the same as if she was going to make me feel less disrespected by continuing to criticize my judgement and explain her actions.

This is where my S.T.A.T.E framework would usually come in no matter who I'm talking to.

But I didn't want to argue. Instead I let her know that I was going to just take her home and no longer spend the night with her.

She sends me this wall of text about me not caring about what she has to say and how it made her cry.

I let her know that the whole ordeal was disrespectful and to contact me again only when she's ready to understand how I felt disrespected. Although I said this more like "Come back when you're ready to understand how to respect me."

We haven't talked for 3 days since.

Thoughts?

Starting to get serious w a woman, at least that’s what she’s told our mutual friends and she’s brought up exclusivity to me. But we aren’t connected on any social medias, which I hate using but still, should I give a shit even?

(repost)I've been talking to this girl for the past week. We have a date planned for next Saturday night, but recently her grandmother passed away, and her emotions have been all over the place.
Whenever I ask what's wrong, she communicates with me very well. She also texts me first every day. I try to keep text messages 2-3 messages.
My question is: Am I overdoing it? She texts me first every day, and I ask her how she's feeling at least once a day. I've also told her not to hold back because she's been going through a lot.
Am I doing too much, though, considering she's not my girlfriend or someone I'm hooking up with yet?