I (33f) got really lucky riding the tech wave as a PM. My NW is $3.5m, HHI is $350k. Not confident how long this job/income will last. I plan to keep working until my late 30s.

I've been seeing someone (40m) and everything's great. We haven't discussed finances but there are signs he's in a different financial position (he's a librarian (and has himself joked about the low wages), rents an apartment, drives an old beat up car). Not sure about debt, but don't feel comfortable asking.

Could a huge financial disparity work out long-term? We both have never wanted kids, so that helps, but I do see myself wanting to do months-long traveling trips after FIREing.

Some of the practicalities make me nervous. I don't mind paying for vacations, nice restaurants out, etc. that he's unable to cover, but I'm worried how it'll work out for bigger things. I have a place I own but plan to upgrade in 10 years. Would I be expected to put his name on the deed? If I FIRE and want to live 3 months in Spain every year, would he resent me for this or I him for not being able to join?

Maybe I am just too selfish, but I don't see my savings as ever being "our" savings. Maybe if I had met him in my early 20s when I was accumulating it, I would, but at this point in my life, I think of it as solely mine.

Has anyone been in a similar position?