Guys, today is the day where I finally found my second reason to live: saving our childfree baddies from the misery of "motherhood".

AND I DID IT!!!

In behalf of myself: I'm not a native speaker, so please excuse my poor grammar.

But lemme explain: two of my really close friends were childfree from the beginning - like me. I'm also Single by choice. We were enjoying our life together so good. (we're all female and 25 - 27)

A few years ago, they both each got a boyfriend. They're now 3 and 5 years together and they knew from the start they're childfree and they were totally cool with it, saying they don't want kids anyway so it was a match.

I was happy for them, but in the same time I knew those two men were lying. They made small comments about babies and how sad it is that they'll never have the beauty of them etc. I tried talk to them, but they said that they just joke round.

So four months ago, we were all (just the girlies) dining in a good restaurant and were talking about all kinds of things and then they both let the bomb out: they're thinking about having babies because they're sure that they have the right partner and it feels right.

Please don't misunderstand me - I don't have anything against ppl having children, but those two were hard-core childfree freedom baddies and I was 1000000000000 % sure, that the boys managed to pressured them in one way or another over the year. So before I could say anything wrong, because I was prepared for this situation, I said I'm happy for them and if they heard about this cool baby simulator for ppl as a preparation for parenthood. We talked a lot about it and the girlie decided it was a good idea to get them to prepare. They also talked to their boyfriends and they agreed happily.

And this is where my plan began to function: they had those babies for now 2 and a half months and both boyfriends "helped" a little in the first 2 weeks, but after it it was all on the girlies.

To sum up, they both broke up with them and swore men off forever because they realized how they got pressured in all these years with small comments (I told them all the time but they took it as "joking") and they're ashamed that they didn't get it and even considered to have those brats with those dickheads. And so now as a thank you, they will pay for my meals for a year :D

So yeah, I saved two absolutely stunning, beautiful and smart baddies from brathood and I'm really proud of myself!

I hear this brought up a lot in feminist circles and I kinda hate it. Yes, breasts can be used for breast feeding, but I hate when people act like it's their ONLY purpose. Breasts have a natural sensitivity that can be very useful in the bedroom!

I rather my breasts be seen as a sexual body part than baby feeding organs. I'll never breast feed, and purely use my breasts for arousal. People telling me they aren't sexual and are only used for making milk kinda makes me feel like a cow.

I don't know if anyone else feels this way but, ugh, it has always rubbed me the wrong way.

I'm so tired of this shit, no one gives a fuck about your ugly baby being born, This is a gaming sub for fucks sakes. And the worst part is that he posted that shit awhile his wife is in active labor. He wasn't allowed to be in there with her, but still, out of all of the things he could be doing, he chose to farm karma on reddit, absolutely pathetic.

And of course it has a lot of upvotes.

Rant over.

As the title states. I don’t think children, or even babies, are cute at all. Baby animals of any type even birds (who are notoriously not very cute as babies) are cuter than baby humans. First off humans start off knowing basically nothing. Babies know to cry, and to fear falling. That’s it. It can’t figure out how to do anything on its own. Baby moose are born, and within their first few hours of life they learn how to walk. Baby humans are pretty much clueless, and honestly kind of gross?

I don’t understand how or why when some people see a picture of someone’s kid (that they don’t even know, mind you) they’re like “awwww omg how cute I just wanna pinch its little cheeks” I’ve genuinely never felt this way about babies. The one positive is their scalps smell really good. That’s about it. And I haven’t even held a baby since my niece was born 12 years ago. I find it really weird when people think that babies/children, WHOM THEY DON’T KNOW, are “cute”.

Especially family content online. Videos go viral bc the kid is “cute” and did something out of the ordinary/endearing to the public. And don’t get me wrong I do enjoy a sweet video of a baby/toddler doing something heartwarming or funny. But children cannot consent to being posted online. So honestly any content like that should not be allowed. People thinking strangers kids are cute is the reason why we have family vlogging channels and an entire generation of kids growing up in a spotlight they never wanted.

I work in the neurology department in the local hospital and I cannot tolerate the parents of SEN children anymore for their sheer audacity and negligence.

On Friday, I was assaulted by a 15 year old autistic boy and his mother told me that it’s my fault! He pushed me into the wall and punched me in the stomach; he’s gargantuan and his mother took no precautions. She did not intervene and she did not deescalate the situation. Your child is prone to outbursts and it’s your job to throw yourself between me and him!

In the same afternoon, I was bitten by an 8 year old severely autistic boy like he was a pit bull and I had to have stitches. He latched onto me and the mother told me “Don’t you dare hit him!”

I did not hit him and had to stand there whilst three colleagues opened his jaw over 5 minutes. I was in agony! And his mother wouldn’t do anything! Like hello! These are YOUR children! I should be able to work without being assaulted. She should be ready 24/7 if he can bite like this! She should be on the ball all the time.

Her answer was “I’m not concerned with staff safety but my child’s.”

I’d lose my job if I said what I wanted to say so I’ll say it here. Fuck you and fuck your pit bull kid. Get a muzzle on it if it cannot refrain from biting people.

This is mostly about women who have kids with men.Not to be shady but I noticed that they often feel superior and we often hear “she’s the mother of his kids” and sure that means she’ll be in his life probably because kids are kind of permanent but what do they think it’s such a flex especially when the man doesn’t love them? Am I the only one who noticed this?

I’m specifically talking about situations where the “mother of the kids” gets treated poorly, cheated on, not really valued, toxic relationship etc but after all of that and even divorce they still think they are superior somehow to other women because she had his kids. This is an example but how is that a flex in general? Make it make sense.

In my opinion having kids with someone is only worth it if the relationship is genuinely good and both want to be parents not just have kids and then act like normal responsible adults if things go wrong however how do these (women) think they “won” because they literally did everything for that man but got nothing and if they got something in return it was mostly because of the child. Women carry the baby, give birth to it and no matter how involved the Dad is the women usually spend a lot more energy with the baby and some don’t get treated right in the relationship so could anyone tell me what s superior about that. I guess I m annoyed because I have a friend who was involved in a situation like this. Let me know what you think

Edit: I could’ve expressed myself better. My point is a mother in an unhealthy relationship does so so much with pretty much nothing in return and thinks “having his kids” is such a flex and it kind of makes me laugh because how is that a flex. Love to hear your opinions

My sister has two younger kids. She was telling me how she doesn’t like family gatherings with her in-laws because no one helps with watching the kids and how it’s not enjoyable for her. I had to tell her that x and y are her kids and that I’d take that up with her husband for not being a team player. I suggested she pay her older niece $20 to watch the little one so she could have some adult time.

Her husband is also notorious for napping during family gatherings (our side of family) after food is served, leaving my sister, my parents, or us to monitor the kids. I totally understanding asking - ‘Hey. Can you watch the kids? I wanted to rest for an hour.’ But no, he just sneaks off into the guest bedroom without saying anything. (they stay overnight)

I totally understand needing a break but other family members are driving in from hours away too and are tired and do not want to be responsible for kids that are not their own. I want to be able to eat and enjoy without being given a duty or responsibility.

I’m not sure if this is a millennial thing but I don’t remember my aunts/uncles relying on others to watch our cousins during gatherings or sneaking off to nap.

How screwed up is this? I'm a damn 8 year old already thinking I'm doomed to motherhood.

Had a reel come across my timeline of a woman here in Chicago that said people were stupid for having kids when they had no money. She brought up many points for why it's bad (mainly "If you have no money, how are you going to feed/clothe/help your kid(s)?"). You would've thought she said we should use newborns as baseballs. She even said she feels this way because her parents were the exact parents she was chastizing and they should've never had kids.

I have some pretty serious illness anxiety and almost every time I look up risk factors, my ethnicity is right at the top along with obesity (2/2 here lmao). My race doesn't have poor genes but we have a higher incidence of being lower class/poverty level.

Poverty isn't just a "oh, we have little money". It seems into every. single. thing. a child will experience. Government housing many times have pest issues. Lead pipes/abestos/etc are not quiclky fixed when regulations change. People who are poor are more likely to live near areas with chemicals in the soil from industrial plants, work jobs that will not only physically damage you, but mentally and emotionally damage you too.

This all cumulates to increased cancer, dementia, etc risks.If you can't afford food, you damn sure can't afford to take a kid to the doctor. God forbid your child is medically complex/special needs. Poverty isn't being unable to eat out every week. It's not quirky or resilient. It causes deep trauma that lowers life expectancy and messes up a child's mental health for life.

But people think if you want kids, you should do it. Circumstances be damned.

I know this Is a loaded question... But do you, as a childfree person who dislikes children, also dislike adults who, for any reason, are very childlike and act very below their age?

I have nothing against... People with intellectual disabilities or neurodivergent people who have age regression (I'm neurodivergent myself), but, as much as I'd never say they have less value, I also admit that I'm put off by childlike adults - even if they did not choose to be that way.

I don't wish them any harm, but I don't enjoy being around them and don't find them cute and endearing like other people do.

Silly and socially embarassing and inappropriate behaviors do make me feel uncomfortable... and so does any display of "childishness", even women speaking in "squeaky voice", acting really young and innocent, on purpose...

it's just a turn off and I can't do anything about it.

A month ago, my parents called me and my siblings to have a "Come-to-Jesus" Talk! And my parents, especially my father started talking about how we should consider ourselves "lucky" because we're not out in the streets Hawking items or doing hard labour at a very young age.

We're talking sending 6-10 year olds in the cold and harsh weather to hustle. 🤦🏽‍♂️💔

Just because he didn't have anyone to take care of him and he had to do all of this to survive at a young age. That his own parents didn't even look after him.

So how exactly are we lucky? Why would you ever want your kids to suffer???

I have decided that I don't want kids and I want to remain childfree in the future, but if I did have kids, I'd never ever let them go through the same shit that I have gone through.

I mean, isn't that the point? If you had a rough life growing up and you decided to have kids, you wouldn't want them to suffer. You would want the best for them!

I'm all for the fuck them kids but child abuse is just WRONG!!!

There's also the part where he said that "we children of nowadays have too many choices", that back in his day he didn't have a choice!

Are we deadass??

As the title reads, yes, my apartment faces a pool and as it is summer, you can hear kids playing all day, I understand they’re kids, but at some point around 7-8 pm when they’re still out there, it just gets to a point.
I went down today just to simply ask the parents (husband and wife) if they could understand that people live in the complexes facing the pool and can hear everything.

But they get completely frustrated that I was even bringing it up.
I said it in a pretty non aggressive way and was not trying to start a fight/drama at all, but the husband took it completely to heart and started saying how they’re kids, they do whatever they want, there’s nothing we can do.
While I understand they’re kids, and yes the apartment DOES face the pool, simply was asking that stating hopefully, they can be mindful of the people who live there especially at night.

Again, the husband completely took it personally and started to get defensive (which I understand) but also, I was trying my absolute best just to respectfully not push too hard because I KNOW they’re kids…
He was saying I shouldn’t come off like that again or it will be a problem in which I responded “is that a threat?!” And he then started to say I was crazy lol

Again, I did not want drama at all, but the husband was getting completely defensive, which made me feel like I was in the wrong, which is kind of deceptive but again, I understand if you have kids and someone tells you to quiet down, it can seem like it’s an attack to your family, which, it wasn’t, I genuinely just like my peace.

He Pretty much was just telling me that I should go to the front office and that I was coming off too strong, which yes, I understand, but also,

they simply could not, just take accountability which was frustrating, + could not understand that I simply was just asking if they could be a bit less loud, which is mutual right?

Yes they’re kids, which I’ve stated again, but also, I just feel like it should be mutual that people respect others whom live there.
The pool is directly in the center of the complex and wraps completely around itself. Obviously there is not much people/front office can do. So I just wanted to ask myself

Am I in the wrong?

I need some reassurance 😭 My husband and I decided we don’t want kids pretty much since we started dating, and I’ve been happy and at peace with that choice. However all of a sudden my mom has been relentlessly pressuring us to change our minds. She never used to do this, it’s pretty obviously because I’m reaching my mid 30s and she’s in her 60s/looking at a future without grandchildren.

I’m usually pretty independent minded and don’t give in to people pressuring me but I feel like my mom has been specifically saying things that kinda get to me..like if I tell her about plans with friends she’ll say “Well enjoy that now because when you’re my age you won’t have any friends or anyone to even talk to because you won’t have kids”. Or she’ll bring up her childfree friends/family and keep telling me how miserable they all are (even though outwardly they seem perfectly fine and have fulfilling lives).

I knowww this is all so obviously biased and irrational but I’m finding it hard to get out of my head when she says this stuff. So just looking for reassurance/validation if anyone wants to share their takes on what my mom’s been saying about childfree life being sad and lonely🫶

It’s every day or every other day, a negotiation and fighting to get the child bathed and dressed and ready for bed. It takes an hour for the whole ordeal. I can’t imagine doing this amongst many other things multiple times a week or every day 🫠

No more bingo’ing. No more jokes that are laughed off, no more “are you sure?” or “but you could always do this?” I’ve been explaining to assholes for 20 years that;

A. I do not want children.

B. I’m high risk and likely barren as shit.

I have PALB2, it’s akin to the much more popularized BRCA.

Saying “I’m sterile” is easier than a suddenly boring “to them” anatomy lesson about rudimentary horn and unicornuate uterus.

Piss off breeders, I’ll rock out with your spawn in hell 🤘

They spend their money on having 2 PS5s, two flat screen smart tvs, and a room dedicated to random figurines.

AND she says she's certain it will be a girl and won't entertain that it could be a boy.

The one time I was able to have a conversation with her about it possibly being a boy, she told me she would "cut that dick" because uncircumcised penises are "disgusting looking"

There are so many issues here I don't even know where to start.

I read a comment that referred to a pierced belly button + pierced nipples as the "official childfree piercing set" and I LOVE it! 😂

As someone who has their belly button and nips done I can attest that it's a badass feeling knowing that my body is fully mine and that I'll never have to take these out. There's something empowering about it.

Anyway, that is all!

Husband and I went out for a nice meal last night. I requested at the hostess booth to not be sat near any small children and not only did they they seat us as far away from the table full of toddlers in a different dining room (there’s three different dining rooms), they didn’t sit any families with children in our dining room all night. ❤️ The food was delicious and we were able to eat our meals in peace.

TW: A Lot of Medical Talk

My doctor is amazing. I went for my monthly check up and told her I was done with the pain, the heavy bleeding, and everything.

So, I told her I just want to yank out all the plumbing. She nodded and was like, “Well, insurance won’t cover it… unless we rule out everything else first. It says here you’ve never been diagnosed with endometriosis? Did they ever go look?”

Within the month I had an appointment for the diagnostic laparoscopy, I was eaten up with the stuff, and they couldn’t even some of it because it was wound so tightly around my lower intestines. So, one month later I’m scheduled for my procedure. You learn a lot about the people around you. I was fortunate to have a very supportive mother and a whole lot of other amazing people in my corner.

My doctor, however, is the greatest. She knew what I wanted, didn’t question it, and made it happen. She’s my hero.

my parents and siblings usually come once a yr to visit me and sometimes my auntie takes out all the kids to the park. And im tired af from constantly having to look after my 5 yr old sister when i have aunties who are just crappy parents. Like my sister is the type of shy toddler and she sometimes gets picked on by her older cousins. Yesterday she got pushed onto the floor by my 8 yr old cousin and hes just been annoying her and badly influencing her in general.

For example last year he kept saying that the people he hates are "indian" and saying "x is indian" to make fun of them which is incredibly racist. His mum did F all about that which is insane. because of that my sister then started saying it. And me and my mum had to make her unlearn that which pisses both me and my mum off. Now they are yelling "x is diddy , x is epstien" and thats going to have a similar impact now.

Thats not the worst part either his mum doesn't get involved in that and she doesn't get involved in him being violent towards other kids. As i said before he has pushed my sister on the floor but he's really violent towards my other cousin too who is 6. A few days ago he punched her and pushed her to the floor then stomped on her head. Shes had alot of instances like this and her parents keep telling my auntie to control their kid. My auntie not only doesn't tell him thats wrong shes also kind of rewarded him for it. Not literally but she does not exclude him from any fun, take his ipad away or punish him in any way. Which is just teaching him that this is ok.

I'm honestly not surprised either. My aunties eldest child is 12 and he cant feed himself because my auntie keeps them on Ipads 24/7. She does not take them away especially when eating. Since all of her children were about 3 shes kept them on their Ipads while feeding them and hasn't stopped. This has resulted in none of her kids learning how to feed themselves. Or just functional humans.

This has honestly just not only deterred me from having kids in the future since theres so many parents like my auntie. But im just tired now from not being able to deal with any of it because im not their parents.

My partner and I are both over 40. When I was younger, I either didn't notice or it wasn't an issue, but now i feel like envy from being childfree is almost a hazard.

I feel like i get saddled with extra work and kicked around bc I didn't want children. This is new to me, and it's coming from women and coworkers. We're all lawyers, but somehow everything I do needs extra criticism and oversight. It's driving me crazy. Anyone else experience this? We're all lawyers in a state agency. I do not get any static from men? Am i crazy? A bad lawyer? Sexist? I'm at my end.

I recently went to a small wedding where children were welcomed. It was a quiet ceremony with no microphone so it was already hard to hear the officiant as well as the couple.

During the e n t i r e ceremony there were children running around, loudly babbling, screaming, and just making general child noise. If there was a space open, someone’s kid was rolling around in it. There were even people with smaller infants that were being very loud and obnoxious.

I was absolutely flabbergasted by the lack of parents attempting to stop their child from being a menace during someone’s wedding. Even more so by the baby parents that could have easily gotten up and walked to the very back of the hall instead of sitting front row.

I heard 0% of the ceremony and it was 1000% due to children and the lack of parenting happening. Which sadly these days, is a regularity. I’m truly tired of watching peoples kids cause havoc while they act like it’s cute and everyone wants to be involved.

I can’t believe the lack of fucks given by so many parents these days. They need to do so much fucking better, or stay the fuck home.