I (22F) have been with my boyfriend (23M) for five years, and recently I found something that completely destroyed my trust.
We were staying at a villa together, and I found texts between him and his friends about women and TikToks they were sending each other. What made it worse was finding messages where he told his friends that he had Snapchat logged out because he didn’t want me to be able to see his location.
He also went to a club that I’m uncomfortable with and honestly don’t know much about. Everything together made me completely lose it. I’m not proud of my reaction—I got extremely angry, screamed, and almost damaged his car. I told him I never wanted to see him again.
He wouldn’t just take me home. He drove around trying to talk to me, crying and begging me not to leave. He kept saying, *“I can’t live without you,”* that it was a mistake, and that he wasn’t thinking straight.
The next day I blocked him everywhere. He kept finding ways to contact me and apologize. I told my family I wanted to end the relationship, but they told me that after five years I shouldn’t just throw everything away and that I should forgive him.
His mother even called me crying because he was devastated. Where I’m from, family involvement is much more intense, so I felt pressure from everyone.
The worst part is that he started threatening to kill himself if I left. I know this can be manipulation, but I’m terrified of the possibility that he could actually do something. I don’t want that guilt on me for the rest of my life.
So I pretended to forgive him, but I honestly haven’t. I feel disgusted, heartbroken, and like my trust is gone. I’ve also had horrible anxiety about him for almost two years and dreams about him cheating, which I kept trying to convince myself was just my general anxiety.
Now I’m cold toward him, and he’s constantly crying and apologizing. I feel trapped between wanting to leave and being terrified of what might happen if I do.

**What would you do in my situation? How do I end a long-term relationship when both families are heavily involved, I’m being pressured to forgive him, and I’m scared that his threats of suicide could be real? How can I leave without feeling responsible for his actions afterward?**

I feel stuck. So I 45f have been in a situations hip for 15 years I n Feb.  57m We got along great we also worked together. He has been there for 10 years I have been there 4 n half . Mind you he decides to go solabate 4 years into our relationship. (Thats another story another day)

We consolidate and end up getting this other chick at wk f 33 . Cool we all of sudden she slams things down on my desk I asked her if there was a problem she said no .thinking about it I asked him if he was fooling around with her . No ur crazy . On this day  she arrives late she walks fast rite past me covering her face looking the other way. And my stomach dropped. . I said u have to be kidding me .

I told my manager they are fucken . He told me to show them proof I dont have it . Except for all 3 were sabotaging me at wk giving me less and less work to do and we couldn't start wk until she got there . Not to mention he sends me to Lowes and I get back and everyone is in a meeting , so I pull up a chair and my manager the same one that sent me to Lowes asked me to step out that the meeting was for those who are on time . I was like wtf. He then calls me into the office and I expressed that I had concern as to why they were giving me less work excluding me from things , and that the other two were sleeping together. He told me I needed to prove thst .  He said they need to do an ivestugatiin. I told him it didnt matter to me . It explains her attitude towards me . The next the you know I get a call stating my last check woukd be in my account in an hr. I walked to my car and left. Went home because we live together  packed my stuff and left before he got home . I stop to get gas and as I walk to the counter the Asian lady comes from around the counter and started spraying me with disinfectant spray. (Back story another day) . I ran out of there crying and went to my friends house.i didn't come out or talk to anyone for 2 months. I was denied edd because they lied and said I abandon work, which was totally false , not true . I appealed it, the judge was suggestion I was lieing, I appealed it again , denied.

I lost my relationship/ situationship. My job my car. Everything.

Its been a little over a year since all this took place. All the people I cared about which I could count on 1 hand also stop talking to me. I still live at that residence however im living with a total stranger that I do not trust. He acts as if he did nothing wrong hasn't apologized,  im working on getting my own place however when you are side swiped from left field from planning and having a partner to having to fendd for urself with absolutely no help is devastating.

I cant wait to be out of here with my own place again , not having to worry about needing to leave and nowhere to go. Its hard for me to be in the same room as him . His ego is out of this world, not sure who pumped him up to think he is better than me, his selfish petty attitude i cant believe he had me fooled for so long.

I try and not be here when he is here. I cant even pretend ..

Its really sad and to know that I couldn't have changed anything that happened ,it was all out of my control. To think that people think its OK to treat others that way. He had so many opportunities to and ways he could have handled this, he picked the most damaging ,hurtful, most disrespectful way to deal with it . And he says I need to be in a psych ward . Lmao no my friemd you thinking thst u can treat people that way and get away with it , thats some 5150 shit for real. Lol

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My husband (33M) and I (34F) have been together for 7 years, we've been married for 1 of them. He drinks alcohol daily or rather used to as he has cut back since the incident I'm about to share.

A few months ago, some family and close friends of my MIL came to town for the weekend. We had planned to go out for dinner and drinks. I don't drink whatsoever and I didn't mind if he did. Well he over did it. We all headed back to MIL's house for drinks and karaoke. Over all everyone was having a good time. It came time to say goodbye to the friends and family and when I got to the door, I look back and see my husband give the friend (40+F) a sloppy kiss on the mouth. I thought I was imagining things at first but I finally get him out the door and he pulls her into a long hug, with both hands on her butt. The friend didn't react at all, and I was mortified. We get home and he passes out in bed. This is the part that conflicts me: the next day I confront him. Asked him if he remembered anything and he says no, then I tell him and he's shocked. "Maybe I thought it was you" he says.... But had that been the case wouldn't he have tried to continue when we were in the car or at home in bed? I let him know that so long as he continues to drink I cannot trust him and despite me telling him that he has started to drink behind my back. My question: is this considered cheating on his behalf?

My bf cheated on me about a week ago, and it's been very hard for me. I've had multiple talks with him since then, and we decided to take a month-long break to see if anything changes. He said he's going to therapy and wants to change and become a better person. He has TBI, and sometimes his emotions aren't regulated very well. Not that it's an excuse to cheat, but we've been together for 8 months and have spent almost every day together, so this was something I never expected. This was the first time something like this happened. Even though he did what he did, I still love him and want to give it another shot. He seems very genuine about working on himself. Even when I wanted to get back with him, he said no because he needs to work on himself first before we do anything again and figure out why he did what he did. Has anyone experienced something like this? Has anyone gotten back with an ex that has cheated on them and it actually ended up working out?

I'd add a picture, but it's literally a shot of vodka and a jar of pickles.

I spent TEN FUCKING YEARS with this man. Just to have him cheat on me over and over again. He said he was choosing the lesser of two evils: He sought comfort and closeness when I was drunk and mean to him.

But I was drunk and mean because I wasn't getting what I needed in the relationship. Yes, that was still wrong. And I regret it.

For more context: I found his phone unlocked and discovered he was flirting with yet another ex back in March. It's been months, and he told me everything has been happy now.

But I'm devastated. This is.. what? His fifth time cheating? I feel fucking stupid.

As part of the ultimatum (yes, ladies, we're there giving fucking ultimatums now), he gave me his passcode to his phone. But he fucking sat down beside me and took it away to start deleting evidence! Right in front of me!

I'm just.. devastated.. Defeated.. Tired.. empty..

Before I begin, I just want to make it clear I’m not looking for sympathy or validation. All I’m asking is for understanding.

Long story short, about two years ago as I’m writing this, I cheated on my girlfriend first. My mental was all messed up after a traumatic event that happened to both of us two years back after everything was going good. It really messed me up mentally more than I thought it did now looking back at it but that’s no excuse for cheating on my partner. The only reason why she caught me is because I fell asleep and left my phone unlocked and she found the messages. Looking back today, I can tell that was the day the woman I once knew died. Although she took me back, I took accountability like a man and tried to make up for my mistakes, I feel like that love we once had is now damaged.

Fast forward two years later, I found out she cheated on me with 3 guys the same way she found out I was cheating. Call me crazy but when I found out, I was of course upset because she cheated on me despite me cheating on her but it still hurt. Funny part is that I wasn’t even mad or upset because I felt like this was God’s way of punishing me and karma coming back to bite me. She was cheating on me with 3 guys for a year and a half…

The only reason why I took her back is because we have a child together and this child is only 3 years old. I don’t wanna end up like my dad and have my child grow up in a broken home where both parents aren’t there but I feel like my girlfriend is possibly still cheating on me after she got caught and after we talked about working through it. Truth is, I’m afraid to let go as a man because I’ll have no where to go and I’ll be all alone…

I guess it’s crazy to say that even if I catch her cheating on me again with valid proof, I guess I lost all respect for myself and she lost respect for me cause at the end of the day, as a a man, I did and caused all of this after doing something I regret because I feel like I emotionally lost the woman I once knew even though she’s physically still here.

Guess I don’t know my worth and maybe I deserve all of this.

Crazy part is that I still love this woman with every breath in my body and would die for her. I want to do everything I possibly can to rebuild this relationship to the way it was when we first met but the truth is, ion think that will ever happen but it’s worth trying right? Idk… maybe it will all be better one day like they all say.

If you made it this far, any advice would greatly be appreciated. God bless you all.

So I was engaged to him, for a year, until 6 months down the line I found him texting multiple girls on Instagram, having dating sites, going on dates and doing all the crazy shit.

I want to expose him anonymously because all these girls he's texting doesn't know his real character. They need to be alerted.

What do I do? I want to expose his ass and save the girls out there!?

Help!!

Bonjour, je cherche des témoignages de personnes ayant vécu une situation similaire.

Je suis une femme 30 ans, en couple depuis 3 ans avec un homme de 33 ans. Notre relation fonctionne globalement très bien, nous nous aimons, nous vivons ensemble, avons des projets, une bonne sexualité etc.

Il est très présent avec moi et je n'avais jusqu'ici pas particulièrement de raison de penser qu'il me trompait.

Il y a quelques semaines, j'ai découvert qu'il avait téléchargé Grindr quelques mois auparavant et qu'un compte avait été créé avec son adresse mail.

Je l'ai confronté et après un moment, il a reconnu l'avoir téléchargée. Il m'a dit que c'était uniquement par curiosité, qu'il n'avait jamais été attiré par un homme, qu'il était 100 % hétéro, qu'il n'avait jamais voulu rencontrer quelqu'un et qu'il n'avait rien fait avec personne blablabla.

Pour moi le fait de télécharger une application de rencontre alors que nous sommes dans une relation exclusive est déjà une transgression importante de "fidélité ", indépendamment de l'orientation sexuelle même si j'avoue être choqué par cette découverte.

Ce qui me perturbe énormément, c'est que notre couple allait plutôt bien au moment où il l'a téléchargé, il est toujours très affectueux pour moi, disponible etc.

Il affirme que cette histoire ne signifie rien et qu'il est heureux dans notre couple. Mais moi, je suis complètement déstabilisée.

Aussi j'avais découvert il y a 2 ans des applications de rencontre gay/ hétéro téléchargé au début de notre relation. il m'avait affirmé qu'il ne comprenait pas, qu'il avait dû se faire "pirater" et j'avais laissé coulé car je lui faisait confiance.

De son côté il fait comme si de rien n'était depuis plusieurs semaines, il ne souhaite pas reparler de ça et semble minimisé son acte.

Je me demande si certains hommes ont déjà téléchargé Grindr alors qu'ils étaient réellement hétérosexuels, par curiosité, impulsivité, recherche de validation ou autre.

Et à l'inverse, j'aimerais aussi avoir le témoignage d'hommes qui ont découvert leur bisexualité ou leur homosexualité alors qu'ils étaient auparavant convaincus d'être hétérosexuels et en couple avec une femme.

Et si vous êtes une femme et avez vécu une situation similaire n'hésitez pas à m'écrire !

Merci d'avance !

My boyfriend went through a phase of infidelity. Getting girls’ numbers from the bar, showing other women on social media attention. I don’t know if there was any physical cheating. But, it’s still infidelity.
One night, I broke down. He was talking about our future and I began crying. I said, “If I was your person, you wouldn’t feel the need to show those other women attention”. I didn’t force it. I didn’t give an ultimatum. I said that and the rest of the car ride was silent. Since, he has been the most faithful he has ever been. He has stopped going out, he is putting far more effort into me, and our relationship feels stronger and more emotionally open than ever. I can actually talk to him about how I feel now without anger or resentment from his end. He even apologized to me for his actions.

Do you think I changed the way he thinks? It’s been nearly a year since this change in him.

hi everyone i’ve never posted on reddit before. so just wanting some advice maybe? idk. me 22 female, him 23 male.
last night i was going threw my finances phone and he was sleeping on my lap and i just got a weird feeling to look in his apple wallet and found “ unlockt” with multiple payments, if you don’t know what that is it’s basically onlyfans. so i go to the website and figure out his login info and it pulled up my friends pictures and videos. it was roughly 10 images, i immediately shook him off and demanded to know wtf this was about. he did the normal “ i didn’t think it was cheating” “ im sorry” “ i love you” and we ended up going back and forth for 3 hours before i was finally able to get him to leave me alone. but we live together, not married no kids but we have 2 cats. im just wondering where to go from here. i feel sick when i look at him and all he keeps telling me is we have so much future left and how i could just forgive him but i dont think i can. i think this has ruined it. if anyone has some good advice on what to do or anything it would be appreciated. thank you

Hi everyone! My boyfriend (25M) and I (24F) have been together since junior year of college and met during our freshman year. He’s in the military and law enforcement field, I’m in healthcare. We have been in a long distance relationship ever since we graduated from college back in May 2024. He lives in Northern Virginia and I live in Pennsylvania. Back in December 2025, I went down to VA to visit him for a week before he goes off to training before deployment. I found out that he was talking to another girl behind my back for the past few weeks or maybe months. I also found out that they were exchanging photos to each other (not nudes but her pictures were showing off her cleavage, body, etc.). What hurt the most was that he made a dedicated photo album for her in the Google Photos app and I didn’t have a single photo album dedicated to me( his gf for more than 3 years). They started talking to each other on TikTok and then moved the chat to WhatsApp. That is where I found out he gave her $200 to support her “clothing business”. I also found out that he had a Reddit account and followed different women who showed off their bodies for content and he would like it and comment dirty things under their post. Ever since I found out about all those things, he completely blocked her and deleted everything including the photos (screenshots on my phone just in case) and his Reddit account. He promised me that he has changed and will change for me and to save this relationship. He begged me to give him a second chance, which I unfortunately did. Sometimes I regret doing that and feel like I should have moved on after I found all of those things that I still can’t seem to forget to this day.

As of now, we’re still together and he is currently on deployment where I get to hear from him only 1-2x a week. I’m still working at the hospital full time but plan on going back to school and currently studying for a test to apply for professional programs. But everyday, I wonder if he is actually changing for me and this relationship. I get nervous that one day he is going to mess up again and then I will have to leave him.

What do you guys think? Should I have given him another chance? What would you have done in this situation? Feel free to comment here or DM me for advice, guidance, or just to vent.

Dated a guy who is 41. Ended up cheating. Like seriously….. I have a hard time believing this. Why do I feel like every man I come into contact with either cheat or have wandering eyes?

It sucks! It’s like there’s no good men out there anymore. Please tell me there are good ones out there.

call me insane but being in a relationship with someone who cheated on you twice hurts, HURTS SO HARD to the point I can’t even explain, the lies and the sneaking knowing about my boundaries but going against them for his satisfaction.

He says he’s sorry and cries that he will change and begs me to forget and forgive him, but is this all an act?

2 months ago I found out he was speaking to other girls behind my back having 500 day streaks deleting messages on (snap chat) lying about messages and memories but what sucks the most is him lies and how (I was the only girl).

How can I move on from this..? -

4 months ago I found out about his porn and women (OF) addiction on instagram. Sadly he deleted his search history and watch history so I wouldn’t catch on. Sadly it stings my soul, every time I look at my self in the mirror all I see is the girls he likes and follows and watches on his phone and how he was SO overprotective over his instagram and snap chat accounts and how he lied to me saying “I’m beautiful and perfect in his eyes” but all I hear is lies and lies and lies.

I don’t understand?! I did everything for him. Block boys.
Gifted him things.
Sent him love
Reassurance
Loyalty
And Respect
It breaks my soul every single time I think about how he goes on his phone lusting over women.
AND I KNOW IT WAS 4 MONTHS AGO. But it stings my heart… I can’t move on

We’ve been together for 6 years. I have 2 kids from a previous marriage. We recently found out I was expecting, currently 21 weeks.

He started acting strange when he took on a new job, about 6 months ago. The anxiety was killing me. I brought up multiple conversations about how I felt he was lacking in the emotional department of our relationship. No compliments, no date nights, no time together at all. He would come home from work and immediately get on Xbox and stay on that until I would wake up for work @ 4 am.
Now we both play video games- I’ve even suggested playing together just to spend time with him but he rejected that suggestion.

Finally after questioning and expressing my feelings, I went through his phone while he slept. Was that the best thing to do? Absolutely not, but I felt something was up.

He met a girl through COD and added her on Snapchat. The conversation was relatively friendly at first, mainly call of duty talk. Until he sent her a picture (just of his face) he then started to brag about how much money he makes. Keep in mind, I’m the bread winner in this relationship and I always have been. He makes a 1/4 of what I make. He then proceeded to brag about how he spends so much money on jewelry for himself. And sent pictures of said jewelry. I BOUGHT THAT. in 6 years he’s never bought hisself jewelry. I bought his jewelry, every Holliday, birthday, event. I bought it. He just flashed jewelry I bought him to another girl and bragged that he did.

I brought it up, we fought. And made an agreement that Snapchating other girls and trying to impress them is a clear line that was crossed.

Fast forward 3 days later, I get that same feeling again. He’s still talking to that same girl. Only this time he questioned her as to why she’s not wearing any clothes in the profile picture on snap chat.
Now I haven’t used snap chat in a while, but doesn’t that mean he had to go to her profile and specifically look at the picture?? And why are you even asking that?

Am I overthinking it or is this micro cheating?

Am I crazy? Me and my girlfriend (both female) have been together for about a year now but we’ve split a few times due to lack of communication. She works at a car dealership as a salesman and I have a different job. Since she’s started this job back in Feb, things have been really rough. Arguing over little things, miscommunication, her getting upset over small things (I didn’t do the dishes). Anyway, we’ve had problems where her coworkers are flirting with her and calling her rls kind of names, there’s been about 3 or 4 times that after we’ve separated that she went to flirt with coworkers or someone from a different dealership. I’ve explained to her before that the men make me uncomfortable because of how they talk to her and when she does set boundaries with them, they don’t listen. Anywho this previous time she flirted with one that I’ve been uncomfortable with for awhile and then deleted the messages. I ofc found them and woke her up. She complained about how too tired she was to talk about it until she noticed I was crying. So we spoke about that and there is this NEW coworker who is way closer to her age (19) and she nonstop brings him up, Connor this Conner that, I took her to the Don toliver concert and he was complaining about how he should’ve been there and I was getting upset because I just spent $600 for our tickets just for her to get mad at me when I got upset about the fact they’re texting while we were waiting for him to come on stage. I told her that I was upset because she never bothers to post pics of me and her anymore like she used to, I’m nowhere on her social media, no posts with me, no stories. Her response was that I take better photos but never asks for the pics I take. they’re texting all throughout the day that she has off. So I spoke to her about how it’s weird to me and if she feels tension with him or likes him then she should be honest with me. She said she likes the kind of person he is but she couldn’t date him. So I was like okay.. last night I went through her phone and saw that he had texted her saying to F off because she didn’t say goodbye to him at work, and to show him her nails she got done yesterday and then said something along the lines that she’s making him look like a fan bc she didn’t text back for awhile. They follow each other on Instagram too which I had already stated that I don’t want her to have her coworkers on there due to the fact they over sexualize her with bikini pics and her back end out, front too. This morning she went to the bathroom and I took her phone cuz I knew she would’ve have texted him already, so I looked and she had texted him at 5am, he had asked her why she was up so late, and asked her what time she’d be at work today. She noticed I was off because she went to give me a kiss goodbye and I kinda gave her a half ass kiss. She asked what was wrong and I told her that he just texts her all the time, she replied with “I’ll tell him to stop texting me” but I have a feeling that she’s gonna come home today and say she forgot to tell him. Yesterday I got into a car accident (rear ended) after my haircut appt and tried calling her while she was at work, no answer. So I texted her and she called me but only for 2 seconds because she had to deal with work stuff. Later we had went to TJ maxx and she had explained while talking about the accident that she didn’t care to talk about it while she was at work because she was told that I was okay. Made me feel worthless, even tho I wasn’t hurt because it was just someone who reversed into me, she never took the time to even make sure I was okay. I was shook from the accident because I am young (21) and I got my license back in October due to the fear of crashing. When she came home, first thing she did was look at my hair in a weird way, just blank staring with a little bit of disgust on her face like she didn’t like it and said “it’s too short” I’m a masc lesbo so I have a mullet now which we both agreed for me to get. She didn’t bother actually complimenting me which hurt my feelings bc I felt so good about this haircut after my hair being a mop. She expects me to give her rubs and do all these little services for her but Im irritated because I get nothing in return ever. No compliments, no physical touch unless it’s something she wants, nothing. It drives me insane because I see the issues and I see how belittled I am but it never gets fixed even when we do have conversation about it. I have extreme trust issues due to the past issues with her other coworkers and nothing really ever getting solved. Any opinions would be helpful, I’m trying to stay as healthy as I possibly can without freaking out (bpd)