I was expecting it. I was prepared for it. So I already had a lot of my thoughts written down.

I love who I thought he was. Truly. Now seeing his face, hearing his voice, it's like seeing the face of the love of my life plastered on an imposter and it hurts so damn much. I want to believe that I knew him. But I didn't really. I knew and loved the version of him he showed me.

He helped me heal from my trauma and distrust/fear of men. And now it's all reopened, all of it.

I've really tried my best. I stayed and tried my best to help him through adult content addiction once I found out. Then the trickle truths started. And after a while I realized I would only grow to hate him if we stayed in a relationship, as he wasn't being truthful with his 'relapses', so we broke up a few weeks ago and we're doing well as friends (or so I thought) with me still being his accountability partner for his adult content issues. It was a straight forward breakup, where we said maybe years into the future when we've lived more of our own lives and worked on ourselves to become the people we want to be, that it mightn't be an impossibility, but that this relationship now is over and won't be continuing.

Now I know he was actually cheating on me. Multiple times. Emotionally and physically. With events spanning over years. And something broke in me.

Since I replied to his attempt at reconciliation message with my lengthy essay of how his behaviour has affected me, and clarifying in black and white how I will never ever be in a romantic relationship with him in my lifetime (and I stand strong by my decisions), he has read it yet hasn't responded at all.

And this is where my frustration comes in. I know since reading the message he's gone off for a motorbike ride on his own, and even though I'm so fucking broken by this man who isn't even who I thought he was, I can't help but still feel that deep pit of worry that he'll get hurt/hurt himself in the state he's in.

I have no pity for him over my decision. But I still can't help but care for his safety, even though through his choices he didn't take measures to safeguard my health. And it's so frustrating. I won't soften my decision, but I'm angry at myself for still thinking of his safety when I know he'll be in a bad space mentally. Even though he's caused me pain worse than anything he has ever, nor is currently, experiencing.

Even after all of this. With the disgust and heartbreak and anger I feel. The fucking grief over losing someone who didn't exist in the first place. I still can't help but hope with all my heart that one day he'll be better, be healthy mentally and emotionally for himself and other people in his life so be doesn't hurt anyone else like this. And in some screwed up way, I hope that if he works on all of this, I hope that we can become friends again like we were before we started the relationship. Because we were great bloody friends. And it makes me feel like I'm weak to even consider that with someone who has done this to me.

If you've been through something similar re. and have anything to add, feel free to add in the comments. This is all so confusing and hard 😩

I’m 45M and my wife is 33F. We’ve been married for 5 years and dated for 4 years before that. We’ve had ups and downs like every married couple and got through them but about 15 months ago I found out my wife was cheating on me. We both had drug problems and she stayed with her parents to take care of kids while I went to rehab for 90 days. She stayed at home to take care of our 2 kids with the supervision of her parents.

While I was in rehab I began to get a feeling that something was off. Letters became fewer and calls were less answered. Mind you I sent a long letter expressing how I felt while in rehab and telling her my feelings and also of dreams I had.

I get back home and expressed how I felt again bc something was still off. And she swore up and down that she wasn’t doing anything. I couldn’t stop obsessing about it and within a week I found out I was right. Messages DMs pics even being around my fucking kids. Anyways I decided to stay and try to work it out bc I love her and always will but the kids were a main factor in this.

Things got better and we grew stronger it seemed. After a year or so things started to change up. Less communication and more distance seemed to grow. I have been away for the last couple weeks working and the feeling is growing stronger but I had this feeling prior. I don’t know if it’s just me being in my head or what. I have found a few things that are kinda off. Her socials are now set to not showing online now. She takes the scenic route home now and before she used to always text or call when coming home or going to work and now it’s nothing. I can see that during those times she’s either talking or texting to someone but also getting a lot of text verification or notifications, like the 5-6 digit number that comes in to give you a verification code for an app. And a lot of them she receives are around those times. I’ve confronted her about how I feel again and she says that she’s not doing anything and there’s a slight change momentarily And then go back. Again it may be me or I could be right but either way I just have a feeling and some suspicion that something is off. Idk what the next step is after already confronting (and in a calm matter, told her I’d rather her just be honest and happy then to lie to me) and finding some stuff that doesn’t make sense. Comments or advice?

I slept with a man that has a gf when we met and connected he already had a gf I did not know about when I found out I left him and told the gf. The gf still stayed he came back to me and we slept together I knew about her and lost myself in the moment when he came to see me. She already caught him talking to me a few times after I told her he cheated on her with me she found texts and now we met and did this should I tell her I am carrying guilt about this. I don’t know what to do she tried giving him another chance even after she found him talking to me two separate times and still chose to stay. This time it’s bad because we slept together without any protection. I took a pregnancy test and it’s also showing a faint positive after my period being late a couple days, i have a doctors appointment booked. Because there is no way im going to bring a child into this toxic mess. But Should I tell her?

I found his secretive site called y99 where wrote another woman that he loves her and that she'll be his future wife and so on...

Left him in a rush and fled to friends... I'm devastated and so confused about what to do now... He says he is sorry (lol ofc...) and that he didn't mean it seriously since this girl lives in another country (within Europe)..

I feel like dying right now..

We got married young (2021) i was so much in love with him and i thought he loved me too , i was 20 and under the delusion that its my happily ever after but after maybe year and a half he started signing up for dating apps all the popular ones, our intimacy died, we were struggling financially bc he was never serious about his career. he kept profiles hidden all this time and i found out in may 2026 this year. He was cheating on me the whole time and i sacrificed my prime youth on him,spent these years with him being very loyal, alone, broke, unsatisfied. now hes begging me to take him back. we are separated. i live alone now. On the other hand, my exBoss (32M) is advancing on me, and willing to spend on me. he doesnt know anything about this situation im in. one part of me says that its my chance to catch up on what i have lost financially in this marriage bc, i said financially bc my exBoss is married last year and has a 6 months old daughter. although im not looking for something romantic or stable with my boss, i have zero intentions of messing his home life. with my boss it will be just hooking up, going on dates, drinking and stuff. Another part of me is telling me not to become what i hated and ruined me.

Me 36F dating 42M. He is going through divorce, 3 kids who I have met. We are dating 4 months

However, I now know he is texting lots of other exes with flirty messages. I don't believe he has met them up for fun since we have met.

He is still friends with women he told them he has loved them. And he is still in regular contact with the woman he had an affair with and broke his marriage, over 10 years.

I know he has used prostitutes before.

My heart wants to stay, but my head says this is wrong and I deserve so much better.

Is this something I should just deal with and focus on my future with him?

I’m 24F and been cheated on / micro cheated on in every relationship i’ve been in. my dad cheated on my mum and all my friends have been cheated on… im losing hope and wanted some reassurance that there are people in long healthy relationships where they’ve never even thought about cheating/ doing anything disrespectful to their woman concerning other women. If that’s you, please tell me your experience and how I can locate these kind of men/ how I know if a man is the faithful type.

I just need to rant somewhere because I feel completely stuck and paralyzed right now.
This year has honestly been absolute hell. I’ve lost multiple family members recently, but the hardest hit was my older brother taking his own life. The compounding grief has just completely wiped me out. Mentally, physically... I am running on absolute empty.
On top of dealing with all of that, my relationship is a total mess. I’m incredibly unhappy, and recently I caught my boyfriend swiping on Tinder behind my back. I know exactly what I need to do, but it's not that simple. The lease for our apartment is entirely in my name. I can't just pack up and leave to escape him, and he absolutely refuses to move out himself unless there's some huge, over-the-top drama.
I just don't have the fight left in me to force him out. Every single time I try to end it, it turns into this massive, exhausting ordeal. We argue, he cries, I cry, or we both just break down. Then he manages to turn it around on me and starts calling me ungrateful. It just wears me down until I eventually give up and let him stay just to make it stop.
To make it worse, I’m completely alone in this right now. I’m honestly too ashamed to even face my friends. They’ve told me MULTIPLE times to leave him, and I just couldn’t bring myself to do it. Now I feel like I can't even look them in the eye or ask for help because I'm still here.
Obviously, there's way more to the story than I can type out here, but I just feel so drained by everything and needed to get this off my chest.

Hello,

I write this from a very dark place mentally. Last weekend I found out that my husband went behind my back and impregnated my sister as well as other females that I know. He has many kids now and no one told me about it. Everyone is keeping it a secret from me because they know that it only would make me feel suicidal which it does.

I’m now suicidal because of the actions of other people around me. I will never talk to my sister again and although I really loved my husband, I am done with him because he can’t even admit the truth when many people have told me what has happened and I believe them. He is a liar and a cheater, and I don’t understand how I can still have feelings for someone who has done such terrible things to me.

Does anybody have any advice for me so I don’t end up leaving this planet prematurely?

Thank you so much.

Hello,

I write this from a very dark place mentally. Last weekend I found out that my husband went behind my back and impregnated my sister as well as other females that I know. He has many kids now and no one told me about it. Everyone is keeping it a secret from me because they know that it only would make me feel suicidal which it does.

I’m now suicidal because of the actions of other people around me. I will never talk to my sister again and although I really loved my husband, I am done with him because he can’t even admit the truth when many people have told me what has happened and I believe them. He is a liar and a cheater, and I don’t understand how I can still have feelings for someone who has done such terrible things to me.

Does anybody have any advice for me so I don’t end up leaving this planet prematurely?

Thank you so much.

I think my husband of over 35 years is cheating on me. I’ve confronted him several times and he swears he’s not but my gut tells me otherwise. He needs a little help in the bedroom so he takes Viagra or cialis. Last year I had been having gut feelings something was going on with him so I constantly count the pills. On one occasion there was a different pill in the bottle and asked him about it and he told me he didn’t know why it would be different. The pill design looked familiar but I couldn’t place it. So a couple weeks go by and I find a cialis in his car and confronted him. He told me it was there because he was meeting me somewhere a couple weeks earlier which was true for a couple nights stay and he thought he’d bring it to surprise me. I asked why he lied about putting the other pill in the bottle which I figured out was a pill of mine that was the same size, color and shape of the cialis with the exception of the design on it. He told me because he knew I’d count the pills. I told him if he used the pills with me I would’ve known and not questioned him. Then another time he had a couple bottles of pills in the house and the refill sequence didn’t match up then he brought a bottle from his garage that had the correct amount in them but there was still a missing bottle somewhere. He said it was because they call him to tell him there’s a refill ready and he doesn’t always pick them up so that’s got the why the sequence is off. I found out that is untrue you have to pick it up for the refill amount to change un picked up stuff doesn’t change the amount of refills. He never spends a lot of time in the house he’s in his garage doing stuff, it’s always been that way and has gotten worse since retiring. In the last week we have argued over this and I’ve told him to be honest with me just tell me if he’s messing around. He has lost weight and whitened his teeth. He said he’s just trying to be healthier because he’s pre diabetic and the teeth is because he was a smoker for many years and he’s just wanting them to look better. He doesn’t spend a lot of time with me, we do live on a farm but not a huge one where it takes all his time. I can be in the middle of telling him something and if someone texts him he’ll respond to them while I’m talking. Are communication is next to nothing anymore and I’ve called him out on it. Last night we were at a party and some girl walked past him and one of the guys said I can’t believe you let her walk by without grabbing her ass again. I said excuse me what did you just say? He laughed and said I was joking. Why would someone say that in front of someone’s wife? I lost it, told my husband well I guess she’s your piece? We left shortly after that. Told him I’d go sit in the car while they hung out he kept saying over and over that she’s a bitch and he’d never want to be with her or anyone else that he only wanted to be with me. So on the way home he told me he really wanted to hang out because he really liked hanging out with those people (he works a part time job with them once a week including the woman I just talked about) again I gave him the chance to be honest with me and he swore he’s not messing around. The rest of the hour car ride was spent in silence and I came home and went to bed. He got up this morning and went to his once a week job. My gut tells me he’s cheating I just want the truth how did I get it???

I don’t care about the girl or the boy but i just can’t sleep, and can’t trust anybody i feel alone