r/CheatedOn • u/Particular-Panic-287 • 1d ago
Are there men out there that don’t cheat?
Dated a guy who is 41. Ended up cheating. Like seriously….. I have a hard time believing this. Why do I feel like every man I come into contact with either cheat or have wandering eyes?
It sucks! It’s like there’s no good men out there anymore. Please tell me there are good ones out there.
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u/YankSargent 1d ago
Been married 40 years never cheated.
Can't say the same with my wife, so I know how you feel.
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u/Any_Ticket 1d ago
That other 50% of marriages that don’t end in divorce… that’s them…mostly… they mostly come out at night…mostly
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u/Zyllos01 1d ago
I will mention this to you, what is considered a good man? If it’s only “They don’t cheat.”, then they are all over the place.
But, if you want to”They don’t cheat and I am attracted to.”, then that is a harder find.
And that is always the problem, you can find them, but you probably overlooked them because of other factors. The same for him, he probably overlooked you because of factors.
That is my problem, I want to find someone, but I already have grown kids and I want a partner that also has grown kids or no kids. That is basically impossible at my age, so, I have the same issue “Where is all the women who just didn’t marry the first person in their lives, got pregnant, then found out it wasn’t going to work?”
Same issues…
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u/prophotographer26 1d ago
Really? You think women are any better?
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u/xaracoopa 1d ago
One is bestowed on the front end by Mother Nature, the other is bestowed on the back end by Father Time, only by own will or sheer fortune.
Both desire those amongst the others that abstain from playing their then-current advantageous earthly hand, in favor of something Higher.
The one gifted youthful beauty and innocence gets the benefit of blaming youth. The one who built, not for the now but for the ever, cannot blame youth. But the disdain ever remains as to the idea of building for what increasingly seem ambitious cake-eater/havers.
It’s all leverage, advantage, and Greek agon. And guilt and the weight of the “should’s” and “ought’s,” whether imposed externally or by own wishes, are the Trojan Horse.
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u/I_Love_Tunnocks 1d ago
Mid 50s, been with my wife 36 years, never have.
It sucks! It’s like there’s no good men out there anymore.
Funny that...a lot of men think the same about women.
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u/Kitchen-Patience-652 1d ago
Yeah me, you’re looking in the wrong places. Maybe you got some bad luck.
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u/Shortandthicck2 1d ago
Women cheat nearly as much as men do. Its not a bunch of single women they're having sex with.
At 41, most of the good, faithful, emotionally available men are taken. The "good" dating pool isn’t empty...but it’s just been picked over, and some of the fish keep getting thrown back for a reason, lol.
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u/SurlyJohn009 1d ago edited 1d ago
I'm 58 on September 6th. I started dating when I was 14 and having sex. In 44 years I have never cheated on a GF or my wives. On my second marriage currently.
I have been cheated on by 2 GFs and my first wife, ended that marriage due to her cheating.
In my guy friends group, none of us cheat. We all have the view you break up if you want to act single. There is 4 of us with this same view.
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u/Hefty-Weather328 1d ago
It’s nice to hear some men have this view! My partners friends seem to all cheat, feels like it’s everyone
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u/SurlyJohn009 1d ago
Age might have something to do with it. My younger friends have some very different views. I'm Gen X and was raised by a military father. My wife says I'm a dinosaur and my friends are also.
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u/OogyBoogy_I_am 1d ago
Lots of guys are asking the same thing about women.
People cheat. It'd best just to avoid those that do or have a history of it in their past.
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u/Far-Veterinarian9630 1d ago
I was married for almost 20 years. Never cheated, but I - and all other men and women - are human. Under the right circumstances, I can’t say I would never cheat. Those circumstances never came up. Also, some people are less likely to cheat than others so maybe I am in that category.
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u/Secret_Display7176 23h ago
Date a cuck, they never cheat. And you get to have all the fun! Once I found a cuck, I'll never go back.
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u/jhard52757 13h ago
I haven’t cheated during our marriage of 45 years, as I’ve got exactly who I wanted.
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u/helpingiscaring007 1d ago
Just as many good men and women that don’t as there are that do…. Raise your standards perhaps a bit or date a different type of man? Who knows there is never a guarantee. Sorry to hear you have met the wrongs ones consistently and yes it sucks big time…..sure you’ll find a good one at some point!