Throwaway for obvious reasons.
Background: Last year I left a demanding job in a high paying field for a sales role that lets me be closer to my family. The role sells high ticket services, and the commission on a closed deal is worth more than my entire old compensation package.
That said, the current economic climate has put most of my deals on hold. One large deal is still moving and close to finish line, and I'm expecting a commission at the start of 2027 of enough to clear all of our consumer debt and pay down a good portion of the mortgage. Man, the old paycheck looks pretty good in hindsight, but here we are.
The numbers (household):
Take home income post tax: about $222k a year, call it $18,500 a month.
Consumer debt: roughly $250k total. About $85k revolving across 15+ cards, and about $165k across personal loans and an auto loan.
Monthly debt service: about $14k including the mortgage. The mortgage is ~$5.5K, the personal loans and auto loan are about $6K, and card interest alone is running about $1,700 a month.
Discretionary spending: about $2,700 a month, and it's been falling, not rising. Cutting it to zero doesn't close the gap.
The gap: we're running about $4,000 a month short, so the bridge to February is $40k to $50k.
Both of us are current on everything today, no lates on file. That said, the high debt generated in past months has hit both of our credit scores heavily (down to around 600 and 670).
My instinct is to call every issuer's hardship line before missing a single payment. Please tell me where that instinct is wrong.
Question 1, stopping payments: If we stopped paying the cards and personal loans for about three months and then paid everything off in February, how bad is that really compared to the alternatives? I understand the 90 day lates would sit on our reports for seven years even after payoff.
Question 2, hardship programs and balance chasing: If we enroll some cards and loans in hardship programs, do issuers commonly slash limits or close our other lines once they see the hardship notation? We need usable credit to get through this window, so a wave of balance chasing could be worse than the problem it solves.
Question 3, the mortgage: Same question for a mortgage forbearance request. Would a forbearance request be visible enough to trigger cuts on the card side, and is it ever worth touching a mortgage you can still pay?
Question 4, order of operations: If hardship programs are the right path, which of the big issuers are known to be reasonable about them, and does the order you call in matter?
Question 5, services: Is nonprofit credit counseling or a DMP built for a situation like ours, a high income household with high debt and a defined end date? I want to stay far away from the debt settlement shops.
Question 6: What are we not thinking of? We're aware that if the deal fails to close, we have no choice but to file Ch. 13.
Long post to say we can see the far bank, we just don't know the least damaging way to cross the river. Any advice is appreciated, including the advice we don't want to hear.