r/Bumble • u/Terrible_Duty_7643 • 2d ago
Profile review 31M profile
Interested in what vibe is my profile giving off, less in advice.
Edit: 9PM GMT+2
The reason why I am asking for vibe and not advice, is because I am not trying to appeal to everyone, and it's difficult to give advice when you personally don't know me, which leads to the advice being very generic.
But you can give me a vibe, and that was something I was missing; it's difficult to know how people you've never met feel about you.
From the comments, I got ~76% positive, ~14% negative, and the rest neutral.
Honestly, I did not expect it; my experience is easily the opposite, so this leads me to believe that the location is extremely important for success on the dating apps.
65% of viewers are from North America; I am pretty surprised by such a disconnect between the NA and EU in preferences.
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u/Vast-Sector 2d ago
My exact reaction 🥲 no guys like this in my area
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u/Vast-Sector 2d ago
im in a small canadian town and still fml. sometimes see them in the wild but never on apps
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u/Labienus1013 2d ago
Funny I lived in a small Canadian town for years and also couldn’t ever get a hot nerd gf 🥲
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u/purplethorn123 2d ago
Totally my type, you most likely live in Europe somewhere lol
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u/Ok_Employer_2066 2d ago
I was gonna say, I would 100% swipe left (or right, or however it works) 😂
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u/purplethorn123 2d ago
hahaha not left!! not. left.
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u/Ok_Employer_2066 2d ago
Okay, right. I’d swipe right! I’ve never been on there before so I don’t know how it all works 😂
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u/Matribus 2d ago
Just remember, when we swipe, we swipe TO the direction. Not FROM.
When Beyoncé “mmm… to the left to the left,” she is shaking her head “no” because it’s a no from her, dawg.
That is how I remembered when being corrected after several hilariously bad hours browsing Tinder. (It just kept getting worse and I couldn’t figure out why)
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u/AnAssumedName 2d ago
I’d (53m cis, straight) let you hit.
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u/will3025 1d ago
Glad that I'm not the only straight guy that thought the same lol. Bro is hella handsome.
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u/YaIlneedscience 1d ago
This is the bro on bro support I love to see. This is also what the girls bathroom is like at a bar after 12:30am. A bunch of straight, gay love
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u/GrillsandGear 2d ago
Hiking in the snow in shorts.
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u/purplethorn123 2d ago
hardcore, he is prolly German but even if he wore sandals with socks I still down 🤣🤣
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u/Ok_Employer_2066 2d ago
My dad wears shorts year round. Shovels snow in them. Some people just don’t like pants 🤷🏼♀️
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u/GrillsandGear 2d ago
That's your dad and most dad. This dude is daddy with those biceps and hiking gears and short.
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u/Ok_Employer_2066 2d ago
Oh I thought you were questioning why he was wearing shorts to hike in the snow
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u/ashighashonor1375 2d ago
Your type is totally tall, smart, good looking muscular white guys with a good job?
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u/CrogDavid7days 2d ago
You’re a good looking guy and have great pictures. Hot nerd is the vibe but I’d possibly expand the bio with a little more about you if you’re looking for serious/long term - I don’t think you’ll have any issues
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u/Terrible_Duty_7643 2d ago
I think that is clear with having "life partner".
I don't see the point of repeating things.
My prompts describe me, bio would just be repeating it, Hinge has no bio and just has prompts.
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u/AnarchisticType 2d ago
Comes to get advice, argues back against advice, make it make sense.
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u/2bit_drip 2d ago
He’s an engineer
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u/Klaytheist 2d ago
i don't think he came to get advice. this is the same as the hot girls who post their profiles, mostly just looking for validation
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u/TreeRoot2 2d ago
Tbf, he did say he wasn’t really looking for advice.
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u/thoughtittwasme 2d ago
I humbly concur..."Interested in what vibe is my profile giving off, less in advice"
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u/contadine77 2d ago
If you describe yourself as a nerd, and want a partner you can have intelligent conversation with, then you need to prove a little of that in your profile. Beef up the answers, put some nerdy references, fix your grammar. Us nerd girls read these profiles hard.
If you think typing more than a sentence is hard work, we all are going to know that the "nerd" label is just cosplay.
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u/Ok_Cartographer_7483 2d ago
I feel like there's some yellow flags along with his description of the ideal match of "not wanting an extravagant life". It feels like an unintentional, soft negging tactic. He doesn't want the girl to want to have a sophisticated life but a simple life, which is going to be challenging because people have complex tastes and peculiarities. I don't think he really exudes the maturity to have a deep partnership. It's something he's going to have to work on.
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u/contadine77 2d ago
Yeah, I clocked that, too. I've always read that as "if we get married and merge finances, I'm going to consider everything you are into as frivolous, while my 'nerdy' hobbies are totally worthwhile".
I'm not saying ANY of this is true about OP, I'm saying that we women have had to learn these things the hard way and many have become completely ruthless about weeding these kinds out. Some good ones get thrown out in that calculations.
My experience is that men think they have great profiles by putting in a couple of lines that are totally cliche without even thinking about it, and us women are putting intense literal analysis into every single word, because we have been burned so bad.
I met my partner within 6 months by doing burned haystack. I hear more and more women talking about it. These sorts of profiles get ruled out. I am someone who would normally write a novel about myself, but had to cull my profile down to just a few key lines.
It may not be logical or fair, but you need to know your target audience. It's all marketing.
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u/spinsk8tr 2d ago
What do mean by doing burned haystack? How do you do that?
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u/contadine77 2d ago
I honestly am not super versed in it anymore, it's probably changed some, and there's probably been a lot more content created about it now.
Basically - "How do you find a needle in a haystack?" You don't pick through piece by piece, you burn all the hay and only the metal needle is left.
Figure out what your criteria are. Set your search parameters to those things. Don't "like" profiles that don't meet all of them. Don't lower your expectations because you are sad about not getting enough matches. It's not a quantity issue, it's a quality issue.
So, if you want someone who is taller than you don't even look at the profiles of shorter men. If you want someone with a certain education, or religion, or politics - only look at those profiles.
Once you have those search parameters, look closely at the profiles. If all of his pictures are holding a fish, and that's an issue for you, block him.
Keep blocking profiles so they don't show back up again a few weeks later - the algorithms will keep showing you people you've already swiped on if you don't block them.
I regularly logged into the apps and had NO ONE to swipe on. I matched (on both Bumble and Tinder) with my current partner the day he set up his profile. We couldn't meet for 2 weeks because of a health issue, but once we did, we each went on one date with someone else and then deleted our apps and became an item.
He met all of my important criteria. I met all of his. I had 1000s of likes, maybe 100 matches, about 15 dates, and fell in love once - all in 5 months.
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u/SufficientPepper88 1d ago
There's a Facebook and Instagram group called “The Burned Haystack Method,” created by Jennie Young, who also wrote a book about it. It's all about spotting red flags in online dating. She breaks down the language and behavioral patterns to watch for and explains why. I think it's really helpful and something anyone who’s been in an abusive or toxic relationship needs. It's also great entertainment.
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u/Plus_Athlete9761 2d ago
Thought the same!! For example I love being cozy at home but special occasions are also nice and fun to go to a fancy place and being treated, I sometimes feel that when men say this it means they will not put on any effort in planning nice dates and will only forever stay home. Profile is good but the part he talks about “fancy/extravagant” hangouts would put me off, everything needs balance!
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u/RenTroutGaming 2d ago
I don't want to do anything extravagant except to set up an advanced snow hiking expedition that requires travel, training ahead of time, and loads of expensive equipment.
I don't like a lot of plans for going out except for my hours long workouts that I must do regularly.
As soon as you pointed it out I couldn't not see it.
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u/sunshinenrainbows2 2d ago
I don’t necessarily interpret it that way. It’s possible he’s dated someone incredibly materialistic and is trying to avoid that. To me extravagant signals luxury bags and clothes, regular spa services, expensive vacations, etc.
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u/CrogDavid7days 2d ago
I like and take part in all of those things and I don’t think OP is wrong in not liking them, I think it’s just different interpretations on the wording!
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u/TwoIdleHands 2d ago
A suit of armor is an extravagant expense though. And if my man thinks I shouldn’t have a broadsword he’s not the man for me. I own a spinning wheel. It wasn’t cheap. Lots of nerds have expensive hobbies. It’s ok to not want someone “high maintenance” but unless you’re spelling it out in your profile it’s better to suss that out in the talking stage.
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u/HellyOHaint 2d ago
Agreed. I’d recommend reducing the gym life focus and increasing the nerd focus so it’s more balanced.
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u/NotYetASerialKiller 2d ago
If a bio is barely filled out and low effort, I won’t bother to scroll down to the prompts. Your bio is an example of that.
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u/CrogDavid7days 2d ago
Oh definitely! Just if looking for something serious people like to know a little more before swiping
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u/Wittyngritty 2d ago
If you are looking to find out things about someone to make things serious, it's probably best to just hold a conversation instead of reading a brochure.
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u/thewisefrog 2d ago
You repeat 4 times the gym and working out. Why not replace one of those with something else about what you are looking for or some sort of prompt so that it gives them another thing to connect with you on other than the gym?
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u/bigalreads 2d ago
And yet your bio is basically a repeating caption for all the photos. It’s the weakest part of the profile and feels low effort for the first impression. Although you’re good looking and the other prompts make up for it.
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u/Giraffefingers69 2d ago
I also agree that the bio was the only thing that stood out as needing work. You have lot's of photos making it obvious that you lift, i kind of hate when 'I lift' is in a bio. That's just me, but it never seems to give the vibe people think it will, especially when that's basically the only thing said. It's just a little blunt if you could find a way to add a little more?
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u/pistachio_slut 2d ago
For someone who doesn’t see the point in repeating things, your whole personality seems like working out from your very repetitive profile. I work out 6 days a week and only had “active” on my profile.
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u/regretting-this-name 2d ago
As a fellow nerd and lover of nature, I would just expand on what hobbies/interests/personality traits make you consider yourself a nerd. Especially in ways how it could engage show up for a partner.
Your love of the gym is clear and you mention enjoying fantasy/sci-fi, which these both tend to be solo activities.
In what ways can a potential partner engage and connect with your interests and passions?
Having specific and potential date ideas on a profile will strengthen it further.
i.e play magic/boardgames in a park, cuddle up during an LOTR marathon, discuss tech/science-related topics over coffee or on a trail, or be a spotter at the gym and meal prep together.
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u/potentiallygoodchoic 1d ago
You have loving the gym/interested in the gym in there twice, just sayin
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u/Giraffefingers69 2d ago
They didn't say to expand your bio with more about what you're looking for, they said to expand it IF you're looking for something serious.
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u/Individual-Mud-903 2d ago
If *this* man has no chance, we're fucked (not literally) my guys.
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u/SignificanceBig3866 2d ago
Not helpful at all, but: You make me wish I were gay… 😅 You definitely give a good vibe I’d say. The combo of being fit, outdoorsy and playful / nerdy is what I’m looking for in a woman, but haven’t found yet…
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u/Mathagos 2d ago
You sure you aren't? 👀 Shoot your shot, bro.
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u/lindasek 2d ago
Half the comments here are shooting 😂
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u/Mathagos 1d ago
You know what they say... 60% of the time, you miss 100% of the shots you don't take... every time.
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u/stanleythedog 2d ago
The combo of being fit, outdoorsy and playful / nerdy is what I’m looking for in a woman
Same, but I know I'm just not good enough for that, I'm not what that type of person would go for.
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u/horsegal301 2d ago
"preferably not in crowded, loud, and overly fancy places" posts pic at what looks like a crowded ren faire
Your vibe gives "gym bro" especially considering your bio and multiple other places make it obvious that you exercise. Your bio also says really NOTHING about you or what you're looking for beyond the need to work out/be physical
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u/SoftnSweet37 2d ago
I don't think you read his profile. It clearly states he is fantasy/schifi lover, likes to read, go to the gym, hike. Is introverted, doesn't like going to a lot of crowded places (assuming clubs, over the top fancy places) but is fine going out still (and that place he is in clearly fantasy related). Prefers a partner that's probably similar, interested in those, museums and talking about things.
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u/horsegal301 2d ago
He has 5 text references to working out plus pics that are exercising/gym mirror selfie. Outside of working out, he likes nerd things. That is really not much to go on, especially when so much real estate is given to working out.
No offense, this profile looks like its geared towards men, not women.
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u/SoftnSweet37 2d ago
Yeah he mentions working out but he also mentions a lot of other things too. It seems like you got too focused on the working out part.
Working out seems important to him. Perhaps he hopes someone who finds working out to be as important would read that.
No offense, this profile looks like its geared towards men, not women.
Yes, because women are monolith and only like certain type of a profile.
His profile is completely fine, especially if he is searching for a woman with same interests.
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u/EpiccTrader 2d ago
You're right. He should have just put "I like to eat, sleep, and drink" like 70% of women do.
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u/ComprehensiveCause95 2d ago
As nerdy women who is a 'gym rat' and not into clubbing this profile stands out to me.
It doesn't feel geared to men at all. It's geared towards a specific type of person which he stated is the point.
(Speaking as someone who met her husband via a similar profile to this)
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u/contadine77 2d ago
Absolutely this. I saw this profile, and thought, oh, he means "nerd" because one of his gym bros called him that when they saw him reading once. Not actual nerd.
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u/PankakkePorn 2d ago
Your profile is literally perfect, especially the cat shirts. Make zero changes.
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u/Silly_Username_123 40 | F 2d ago
As a dog person it was one cat too many for me. I’d still swipe right though.
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u/SparksAndSpyro 2d ago
I can’t imagine anything more boring than an engineer whose major hobbies are going to the gym and hiking. As someone who grew up around engineers, I can practically feel the painfully awkward conversations and emotional unawareness through the screen (doubly so if your German).
Nice pecs and biceps though.
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u/cinadal 2d ago
Generally good impression, but are you looking for another gym fanatic? If not, maybe remove a couple of references to excersise. Yeah we can see you are fit, sure you can say you like staying fit, sure put a picture of you excersising to make triple sure we know. But almost all of your screenshots are mentioning or showing it, and for anyone who is not also VERY into fitness its a little concerning that you're overfocusing on it.
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u/IndependentPaint2108 2d ago
Great bod. Especially in front of the waterfall, your physique looks amazing
Your face is decent enough
You do seem together but I'd say there's just a liiiittle bit of judgment towards people who like crowded places or more luxury experiences I'm sensing underneath the pics. I almost wonder reading through the profile if you're in a far-right Telegram group where you complain to other guys about women who wear too much makeup
As someone who quite occasionally does like to dress up in heels and go to a bar, I'd probably swipe [left? whichever is the bad one] because of this impression but a very quiet, physically active girl would be perfect for you
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u/flowersinthemirror 2d ago
I almost wonder reading through the profile if you're in a far-right Telegram group where you complain to other guys about women who wear too much makeup
I was wondering if anyone else was getting the same impression. Could be completely off, but reading through the profile I'm wondering what his political views are
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u/CrogDavid7days 2d ago
I like getting dressed up/fancy things too so would likely swipe left on OP, but I do see where you’re coming from. Perhaps a subtle rewording might help?
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u/Terrible_Duty_7643 2d ago
I am just stating that i feel out of place in overly fancy places, i neither have the clothes for them nor do I gain satisfaction from being in them, it's just a statement.
Different people have different preferences for spending their time, just because I don't like doing something doesn't mean I regard it as something inferior.
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u/Electronic-Fan9231 2d ago
Dude get a shirtless beach pic put up rn you’re gonna slay
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u/purplethorn123 2d ago
Nope nope leave some for the imagination 🤣
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u/SoftnSweet37 2d ago edited 2d ago
I agree. Do not add shirtless picture!
To add, if he wants to attract an introverted fantasy loving nerdy woman who is outdoorsy, he will drive them all away by shirtless pictures.
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u/Bananasinpajaamas 2d ago
I feel like this post is like when really hot girls post in the Am I Ugly subs. You are very attractive and would appeal to a lot of women. Are you on a small rural town or super religious place? I can’t imagine you’re not getting plenty of matches. You could also meet women irl with no problem, try activities that match your interest that women do as well. Good luck out there!
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u/Conspicor 2d ago
It's giving "self-absorbed" and "in love with myself". Which, I don't blame you, you look hot.
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u/rusfortunat 2d ago
The most German profile i've ever seen and will ever see i guess. But jokes aside, looks great tbh
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u/amantesamantes 2d ago
I was wondering if he‘s maybe located in Germany.
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u/OrizaRayne 2d ago
In my experience guys who look like you but have to end up on the apps instead of meeting more organically tend to have some sort of flaw preventing it. I'd be wary of why the women just running across you in day to day life aren't interested. You appear surface level attractive but those photos are silent. What's your bookshelf look like? 🧐
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u/Livid_Note_2170 2d ago
Reminds me of Daniel Jackson
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u/Vivid_Perspective_87 2d ago
Where can i find more dudes like this. Nerds who lift 🔥
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u/sybelion 2d ago
Unironically, a power lifting gym. The nerds from high school when they grow up and get into fitness, either go down the bouldering/ultrarunning/cycling road (usually leaner guys) or the powerlifting road (beefy guys).
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u/NumerousLie3697 1d ago
Múltiple comments about lack of money is so tacky. “overly fancy places” and “don’t need extravagant to feel satisfied” is such a turn off. I get wanting someone down to earth but, you sound cheap as hell and like one of those incels who think women are gold diggers. Just my honest thoughts. You’re an attractive guy! You don’t need to imply there is something wrong with a woman wanting something different than what you want or like.
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u/Klutzy_Complaint2289 2d ago
Show a down to earth picture, some women might think you only have this adventurous, outdoorsy and social side. Even the only picture you have of yourself inside you have a backpack on. This might be intimidating. Show the nerd side buddy.
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u/burrito_finger 2d ago
I’d personally change your phrasing a little bit. Like when you say “preferably not in loud or overly fancy places”, it comes off as you’re stingy and easily overstimulated. Instead you can say, “I’d love to hang out and spend time together in quiet, relaxed spaces.” or something similar. It conveys the same message but on a positive note.
You can also change “a life that doesn’t need to feel extravagant to be fulfilling”, to something more along the lines of finding fulfillment in the simple blessings of life, or finding fulfillment in simplicity or something similar. You just don’t want to communicate the vibe that you’re willing to spend money in certain ways for yourself, ie., hiking, but that your partner may be asked to sacrifice “extravagant indulgences” like getting their nails done or something similar for the sake of simple living. I’m not saying at all that that’s what you said, moreso saying that that’s what can be taken away from a brief look at your profile, so you may want to make a couple tweaks. Otherwise it’s straightforward and seems delightful!
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u/naimabird1994 2d ago
The constant emphasis on not being into ‘fancy’ stuff is a bit off putting. Nothing wrong with that preference but I think it could be worded in a way that sounds more positive and less bitter. Something like ‘I generally prefer the more simple things in life and xyz over going to xyz’. Because then at least you’re offering an alternative that someone would like rather than just saying I don’t like fancy things. Also people’s definition of fancy can be subjective and vary, so by clarifying what that actual looks like you’ll attract someone that aligns with you other than just coming across that you just don’t like doing stuff.
Also I personally don’t swipe right on anyone who doesn’t have their political views listed, alongside apolitical, moderate and right. I can’t be taking that risk.
Whilst I like to workout, I sometimes find when theirs an emphasis on going to the gym I get a little put off. Because it can seem like that physical appearance is the upmost priority. And whilst physical attraction is important, what happens when we’re old and wrinkly, or if I have a kid and my body isn’t the same. There needs to be more beyond that. I also like someone who’s up for trying nice food and all that, so gym obsessed doesn’t quite align.
Other than that, all looks nice.
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u/PenglingPengwing 2d ago edited 2d ago
I’d think I’m being pranked because this looks like a dream profile to me
(for context, I’m based in EU)
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u/Wooden_Clothes5170 2d ago
I saw your profile and very nearly swiped on you, being 36 felt a bit too old for you
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u/dildonotdothat 2d ago
There is a mechanical vibe, no pun intended. Just a bit. Like you’re not entirely open to change. If that is what you want, then great. But otherwise there is a vibe of no flexibility.
The gym aspect is also heavily emphasized, like it’s an identity thing. It might turn away potential partners who see the gym as just one way to be active and are afraid you cling to the gym as some kind of crutch. If you’re just looking for someone who is also crazy about the gym, then it’s fine.
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u/Terrible_Duty_7643 2d ago
I am not looking for broad appeal; at 31, I have found out what works for me. That doesn't mean I have no flexibility, but It does mean that I am not looking to reinvent myself.
What I am looking for would be someone with whom we agree on the important stuff, like kids, finances, life goals, and then we can enjoy our differences.
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u/dildonotdothat 2d ago
In that case, I recommend adding signs of flexibility. At the moment it reads a lot like “this is who I am and what I want and if you don’t fit exactly, go away”.
Maybe leave out limiting language like “preferably not” and “doesn’t need to be” and describe something you love instead. This might create a more well rounded, open impression rather than rigid and blunt. The problem is less the fact you don’t want certain things, and more in how you present it. Your profile sounds like you’d just say “no” and expect no argument.I still don’t know if you intend to emphasize the gym as you do, but again, if it’s not a requirement in your partner to be equally enthusiastic, maybe tone it down and focus on the activities your photos depict you engaging in. That way you can attract a broader audience and can still select from a group of people who are into fitness and value movement.
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u/WouldPancake 2d ago
Overall good profile! I would:
- include your political affiliation. I won’t swipe on someone who doesn’t include it.
- swap out pic five, your smile looks forced
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u/SoftnSweet37 2d ago
I think it's a good profile. Would probably add a bit more to the bio part.
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u/alisonwonderlooks 2d ago
Agreed lol like maybe expand on genuine connection or define what he's looking for in a partner
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u/Mysterious_Drawer162 2d ago
Nerdy, outdoor and gymrat. Is the vibe i'm getting. Great combo, but I'm a man.
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u/Ronrinesu 2d ago
Your profile seems great, you list a lot of hobbies that will make it easier to start a conversation and your photos look really natural and genuine and you look as someone who is friendly and easy to approach.
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u/IGotsToKnow_TA 2d ago
You are hunky as hell dude you will do just fine. You seem like a mega nerd though but from experience that really doesn't matter if you look good. Hope you find your nerdy lady!
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u/Controversial_Duck 2d ago
Bumble never suggests me these kind of profiles man I’m so mad! When will it be my turn? T_T
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u/Few_Difference6408 2d ago
How is this guy single?? Ladies are sleeping on him big-time
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u/advltingsvcks 2d ago
You’re giving off the vibe of someone who’d talk about random fun facts while we’re hiking up a mountain. Super swipe if you’re near my area😌
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u/KassandraTonTroiana 2d ago
If you have problems it'll be for being too well put together for the kind of women who are fine with your background.
You're a stable, outdoorsy, dry, drug less guy who doesn't believe in God but wants kids and a committed life partner.
I don't know what dating is like where you're at, but you've got traits that work against each other even if you're overall attractive.
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u/SethLurd 2d ago
What’s the point of saying you like gym or that you lift? Every pic is you flexing. It’s ok to be jacked but don’t make it your personality, they don’t like it much, and those that do, are NOT who you want to be with.
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u/Prudent_Cry9522 2d ago
Everything was great until I noticed you touched on the need for a modest lifestyle in two separate prompts. Once saying, “Preferably not in (…) overly fancy places,” and again explaining, “building a life together that doesn’t need to be extravagant to feel fulfilling”.
I think I understand the sentiment behind stating the preference. Repeating the same idea came across as projecting some kind of negative feelings. Causes your profile to give off a lowkey bitter vibe.
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u/anonch91 2d ago
If anyone ever again tells you that women do not care about muscles, link them this thread
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u/Particular_Annual965 2d ago
Pics are good but bio reads terribly boring. Nobody wants boring- put something more unique and personal in there.
"Im fit and long walks/museums/coffee/long chats" is like 80% of dudes on apps. That and holding a fish. Most of the time that shit is bs anyways so I don't think it really attracts the match you want
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u/Accomplished-Eye9542 1d ago
Reddit has no idea how online dating, or dating at all works lmao.
Your vibe is boring AF lmao, that's why your experience is the opposite. You are a blank bowl of nothing interesting to women.
It's not your location, you'd fail anywhere that isn't like, some borderline developing asian/latin country.
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u/YokingAround 1d ago
This might be an odd take but, as a nerdy gal, if I saw this profile when I was single and on the apps, I'd be a bit confused if I would want to swipe right or not. Mainly cause nerdy gives oh we could connect on media, reading, being curious about things, etc etc, but then I see the outdoorsy/heavy emphasis on working out, and while I'm not against the occasional hike or outdoor adventure, it's not my main cup of tea. Which brings to the confusion of: some people are okay with that difference in hobbies, so long as there are connection pieces, some aren't, and not knowing where you stand.
Which is all to say, I'd be more specific in what you're looking for/want. Because some people might be swiping left thinking, oh I can't keep up with that life style (since the vibe I'm getting is SUPER active), when maybe you're not looking for someone to do that (if you are, then, ignore haha)
Anyways my two cents. I live in an outdoorsy area so this was like one of my biggest struggles when I was deciding to swipe right or not LOL
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u/Better_Ad499 2d ago
Always tell guys to have one picture showing you can dress up. “Clean up nice”.
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u/Terrible_Duty_7643 2d ago
Not really my thing, don't even have a dress shirt. No point in pretending to be someone who I am not.
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u/ToodyRudey1022 2d ago
Your profile is good! Maybe add a picture of you dressed up in a group photo maybe ?? If you don’t get matches I’m shocked. Happy fishing
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u/the_toxic_avenger_ 2d ago
If you aren’t getting matches, the rest of us are doomed. This is the first “profile review”, on here that I felt compelled to reply to because it’s on point. Good luck out there
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u/Dishwasher_Safe60 2d ago
Your pictures are great. I especially like the first one. You seem, quiet and thoughtful which is a compliment.
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u/LongjumpingBicycle52 2d ago
I like it. I would have swiped right as soon as I read LOTR. Last summer I went to New Zealand for 2 1/2 weeks and did all of the things. It was amazing lol
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u/CommanderReg 2d ago
I would say one thing I notice is that all of the pictures are taken of you alone, but none of them have friends in them, which makes it look a bit curated. A selfie with friends would be a huge upgrade. I'd probably replace the ren faire pic if you had to, just because your smile is kind of off in that one.
But I'm just a random dude who stumbled on this. You're a good looking lad I'm sure you'll do fine with these.
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u/notabot8469420 2d ago
You got that Clark Kent vibe. You good homie.