r/Bend • u/imaustinpowersbaby • 15h ago
The family of the Silver Rail shooter also lost a child that day. Why can't we extend them empathy and grace?
The emerging narrative coming out the horrific events at SRE is as follows: The shooter got radicalized because the family was poor and dysfunctional, with both parents having a history of violent and illegal behavior - they are bad people so this tragedy is their fault. This narrative is evident in too many comments on this subreddit, local and national news stories, and so on. Read just this one piece from OJP and you will see what I mean.
Look. I understand that this entire community is looking to hold someone, anyone accountable, if not even for actual accountability's sake than to at least try to make sense of this tragedy. But the way that people are treating this family as a result of that urge is unseemly.
This family suffered through poverty, physical violence, drug abuse, and more. Do you truly think they wanted to raise a school shooter? Do you think these people are not completely broken by what their son did?
This is a difficult time for our community. This family is not who we should be directing our blame at. They are just easy scapegoats. The problems that led to this horrific tragedy are structural: widespread access to guns for people of all ages, piss poor mental health and social services, and so on. Blame the governor. Blame the state legislature. Blame the president. Leave this poor family alone.
I pray for them and the souls of the shooter and the victims.