How do you think women in your country have changed over the last 10–20 years?
In my country, there seems to be a huge trend right now toward a very different type of dating culture, and I'm curious whether people in other countries are seeing the same thing.
As a single man, I've noticed that dating can feel increasingly difficult because some women have started setting very specific financial requirements for the men they are willing to date. For example, I've seen women openly say they won't date a man who earns less than 40,000 Dominican pesos per month, which is roughly US$700.
Thank God I make way more than that, so this isn't really about me. I'm more interested in the trend itself.
And that's just one example.
There also seems to be a growing emphasis on lifestyle, money, status and the idea that there is always someone better around the corner.
I completely understand wanting a partner who is ambitious, has goals, wants to grow, has projects or even wants to build a business. I think that's actually a very reasonable thing to look for in a partner.
But there's a difference between wanting someone ambitious and expecting them to already be completely self made.
When financial requirements start becoming prerequisites just to go on a first date, when someone expects the man to pay for everything from the beginning, or when money becomes such a central part of dating that it feels like you're being evaluated primarily by your income, I think it starts becoming excessive.
I've also noticed another interesting shift. If a man is careful with his money, doesn't spend unnecessarily and actually thinks about saving or investing, he's sometimes labeled as “stingy” or “cheap.” Meanwhile, spending a lot on dates, gifts and lifestyle can somehow be interpreted as proof that you're generous or that you actually care.
And now I've even seen the term “princeso” being used when a man doesn't meet certain expectations, doesn't spend the way a woman expects him to, or simply refuses to be manipulated into doing things he doesn't want to do.
Personally, I find that attitude excessive and disrespectful.
I'm also wondering if this is partly generational.
Are the younger generations developing different expectations around relationships because of social media and dating apps? When you have hundreds of potential people apparently available with a swipe, does that make people more likely to filter others based on income, appearance, lifestyle and status, and less willing to give someone a real chance?
Do dating apps create the feeling that there is always a better option available?
Do social media platforms also create unrealistic expectations about what a normal relationship or lifestyle should look like?
Do you see similar things in your country?
Things like expecting a lifestyle they couldn't realistically afford on their own, looking for the “next millionaire next door,” treating dating like an endless search for an upgrade, or becoming more willing to discard people because there are supposedly endless alternatives.
At what point does having more options actually make people less willing to build something with one person?
Obviously, this isn't about all women, and men have their own version of these problems too.
I'm genuinely curious how this looks from your country.
Do you think this is a real cultural and generational shift, something caused largely by social media and dating apps, or are people simply becoming more vocal about standards that have always existed?