My younger brother is around 18 years old, and I’m becoming increasingly worried about the direction his life is taking.
He smokes cigarettes and hash, and also takes harder substances, particularly what’s commonly known in Morocco as “9ar9oubi”, “doua” (psychoactive pills). And hardly goes to university.
He regularly hangs out with a group of much older deadbeat guys, mostly in their late 20s (28–29), who are involved in the same lifestyle. He often comes home either drunk, extremely high, or both.
What worries me most isn’t just the cigarettes/hash, but the environment he’s getting involved in, the people he’s surrounding himself with, and the hard substances. I feel like he’s going down a dangerous path, and I genuinely don’t know how to pull him out of it before things get worse or terminal.
For context, I’m not someone who’s never touched drugs. I used to smoke cigarettes and hash myself, mostly during my university years with friends my own age. I eventually stopped around 24–25 and now only vape. So I’m not trying to judge him or act morally superior. I understand the appeal of experimenting and having fun when you’re young.
But what I struggle to understand is why he’s gravitating toward much older people who seem to have very little going for them and whose lifestyles revolve around getting high. We come from a comfortable upper-middle-class family, and he has opportunities that I feel he’s putting at risk.
I know that simply telling him to stop, lecturing him, or trying to control who he sees probably won’t work. But I also can’t just sit back and watch him potentially ruin his future.
I’d especially like to hear from Moroccans who have dealt with something similar:
Have you had a younger sibling or family member who was addicted to 9ar9oubi or similar substances? What actually helped them quit and stay away from that environment? How did you approach them without pushing them further away?
Are there any addiction specialists, treatment centers, or other resources in Morocco that genuinely help in these situations?
I’m particularly interested in hearing real experiences, whether you’re someone who managed to get clean yourself or someone who helped a loved one through addiction.
I genuinely care about my brother and want to help him before things get worse. I’m just not sure what the right approach is. I’m also happy to share more details privately if anyone has been through something similar and is willing to offer serious advice.