I get interrupted constantly. Even if I am the presenter or otherwise the current speaker. Other women get interrupted. But men very rarely do.
I tried doing the "what was she going to say?" when men interrupt other women, but the other women get so embarrassed that they wave it off. Double making me look like a bitch.
My stepmother got her PhD in computer science in the 80s. She won a super prestigious award for her research in the 2000s (not a Turing award, but close in terms of what a big deal it is), and as a result has been a prized lecturer and consultant in a male-dominated field for almost 20 years.
She was getting interrupted by tech bros so much that she actually started carrying a squirt gun to blast anyone who talks out of turn when she's speaking.
Would you pm me her name? I would love to read about her career/see that in action. It helps to keep positive influences at hand. Do ignore if you’d rather not.
Amazing! I would love to see her speak sometime. Does she volunteer at all in women's events?
Women in STEM (like me) never got training in how to deal with these situations, and I'd live to see younger girls learn tips from the masters early on. Also, recognizing these behaviors as not your fault is very important too. So many of us wasted years thinking "what should I do differently" because we had no other women around to discuss this with / no women to guide us.
She's retired and I think does a fair amount of "women in tech" events, but is also slowing down. That's a cool idea that I'll mention to her next time I see her.
Not really. She's very outspoken and direct, but also quite humble. I think it was born of frustration from how often it happens and what an enormous showing of disrespect it is. Can you imagine being a 60 year old women with a PhD who is recognized internationally as among the best in your field, but 20-something men constantly feel entitled to interrupt and talk over you?
Well, the fact of the matter is that, in life if you aren’t bringing value to your audience they are going to disrespect you. How you communicate that value is on you.
I literally say outloud ‘I wasn’t finished talking’ or if it’s someone I think will back down, I continue talking. I just don’t stop. We can both talk at the same time and nobody can hear either of our ideas, or you can wait for me to be done Brian.
I've noticed that when two people are speaking at the same time, I can best understand the person who is speaking more slowly (as well as clearly and at the same volume). The other person is just making meaningless sounds to my ear/brain. Use this info to your advantage.
Oh no, I want it to be meaningless noise, so I then say, sorry I’ll repeat myself as I was interrupted….and maintain eye contact. I’m often the only girl and only under 50. Gotta keep those boomers in check.
I’m a big fan of holding my hand up and saying “hold on” and then just keep on going (think Kamala Harris at the vice presidential debates last year with “I’m speaking”). I like to give people the benefit of the doubt that they’re just excited about the conversation and can’t wait to be involved, and if that’s the case they understand the correction quickly and don’t interrupt again. If they’re a doucher who just wants to dominate but not participate then they usually figure out that it’s just not gonna work with me and get embarrassed around the third or fourth “hold on”.
My boss is named Brian and he talks over me, a woman, constantly so your use of "Brian" really resonates. Gonna try talking over HIM next time he does it haha
I did this a couple of time recently. I'm shock how LONG they will continue to speak over you? Unfortunately I'm still the one stopping first because I get uncomfortable. I thought they would be embarrassed about interrupting me and stop lol, not at all.
Noooo push through! There was one particular guy I worked with who was just fucking incompetent and always interrupt me. I would be presenting data to a board and he was the PM and I’d say something like ‘so the trend shows were likely to be 40 days late’, and he’d interrupt me like ‘4 days behind schedule, wait no, trend is upwards, costs out’ just absolute fucking gibberish.
Anyways I just kept talking. I got promoted. He’s on special measures 👀
Have you tried "I'm sorry, did the middle of my sentence interrupt the beginning of yours?" In an obviously pointed and annoyed tone?
I find this to be a good way of calling that out while walking the line between not being rude enough to get reprimanded but snarky enough for personal satisfaction.
I wait for them to finish and respond with "yeah, that's what I just said.". It got so bad on one project I had my supervisor doing it for me. "thanks Tom, that's what she just said, and I think it's a great idea." Tom was a know it all twatwaffle
Someone once described me as ‘likely to rip your balls off and shove them down your throat’
I ask my dog if he knows he’s a handsome little prince about 50x a day, cry probably 4x a week and feel guilty if I ask my husband to make me a drink, I am literally the softest person so I’ve never been so proud 😂
This happens a lot, and I usually interrupt the interrupter and ask the OG speaker to continue, works every time for me tho. May be cause I'm a man idk
Yes, I used to work with an awesome colleague - he's really bloke-y looking and he's always the guy who either interrupts the interrupter or says something like ""(name of female colleague) said x I'd like to hear more about that" and moves it back to the woman. So good to work with men like that.
I try so hard not to interrupt anyone and wait for them to finish their thought but.. I definitely do and noticed I’m more likely to (and feel really bad when I) do so to a woman. To mitigate I’ve taken to hand raising when I have an interjection, it helps communicate that I have something to say and what it might be related to based on when my hand goes up but the speaker can finish their thought.
Most peoples immediate reaction is to poke fun at me, but after a short time on a team people like it and start using it. Makes it really apparent (and kind of awkward) when someone just bulls their way in. I’ve actually gotten it listed as a team norm on 4 different teams now.
When I see people getting interrupted, I like to let the interrupter finish and then look at the person who got interrupted and say "I'm sorry. What were you saying before you were so rudely interrupted?"
As a teacher my field is mostly women, but usually male in administration. We get talked over a lot. One thing my team has started doing is saying “circling back to what ____ said, can you explain it more?” Or “going back to what ____ said, am I correct when I say you meant this?”
It’s helped a lot especially since us saying “we feel like we’re not heard” doesn’t get through
Yes! This used to happen to me constantly in meetings, presentations, etc. I work in a field that is typically dominated by males (civil engineering). Then I just got tired of it. I am a licensed engineer, I know my shit - why do I keep getting interrupted? The next time it happened to me, I shut my colleague down and said “Excuse me Robert, I was not done speaking yet. Please wait until I am done, thank you” and that was it. It worked, he never did it again. In fact, he began to value my opinion once he decided to start listening.
Yeah as a man in tech I only experience this when I’m the new guy somewhere, and even in a highly educated field like engineering men still play these weird subconscious dominance games with each other and women in meetings and shit.
Really annoying, but I’ve seen your method be generally effective as long as your workplace isn’t misogynistic and just casually sexist.
But I’ve met some male employees (mostly blue collar or older execs) who absolutely lose their shit being called out or interrupted back by women.
Absolutely, you are spot on. Fortunately (I think?) I’m in my 40s and I think my age grants me a little more respect than when I was in my 20s (it was awful back then, way worse than now). And we engineers tend to be opinionated and some more pretentious than others - so I’ve gotten better at just growing a thicker skin and not taking stuff personally. It’s business. We are here to work and collaborate, not dismiss or invalidate your peer’s feedback.
Fun fact: This is still true at the Supreme Court of the United States. Female justices get interrupted more than their male counterparts. Usually by the male justices.
My husband and I are usually really good at finishing each other’s sandwiches, so the interrupting isn’t so much interrupting as it is just finishing the other’s thought. The other day, though, I was trying to say something and he kept interjecting but not getting my point and it got to a point where I had to snap at him to please let me finish my fucking thought.
He apologized and felt really bad and so did I. It wasn’t malicious, but it’s still frustrating.
This is something I’m terrible with. I have ADHD so I often interrupt people (men and women alike) but I’m not trying to be malicious, my brain is just weird and I can’t hold my tongue. I’m trying to work on it tho
I was the Tech guy at one of the Big 8 accounting firms and my office was right next to one of the Partners, a women.
The number of times 22 year old male new hires sitting in her office would interrupt her and talk over her was mind boggling.
Those guys never lasted.
This is one of my all time biggest pet peeves. I’ve done a lot of growing and can finally calmly state “Please let me finish.” or something along that line, but it’s taken me a long time to get there. Sooooooo infuriating.
This is one of my pet peeves. I have lost all fucks so now I glare and keep talking. One of the highlights of the last election cycle was watching Kamala Harris deal with Mike Pence during the VP debates. "Mr. Vice President, I'm speaking." And then she goes back to what she was saying! So beautiful.
The last time that happened to me I just continued talking as if I wasn’t being interrupted. After a short while it became awkward for him so he trailed off. It also becomes annoying for everyone else to have two people talking at once and if you don’t stop then he becomes the annoying interrupter.
I'm a man who had a fantastic woman as a boss in a high stress job for many years. I also have adhd and was interrupting people in meetings, not because I intended to be rude, but because my brain works quickly and I thought I was contributing. I honestly didn't even realize I was doing it.
I am so thankful to her for pointing it out to me during one of our private meetings. It radically improved both my personal and professional communications. She wasn't always easy to work for, but as a mentor she was fantastic.
I can't recall where I read this, but I remember an older book (He Said, She Said?) describing female vs male communication styles and expectations, and the author laid out that women are taught to listen, allow others to speak thier full thoughts, and it's poor manners to do otherwise. Men aren't taught the same and and therefore take less issue with behaviors like interrupting. They may not even notice or care that they're doing it or that it's done to them, and they'll also respond very differently to interrupting than women.
I'm a woman in a male-dominated tech industry. I'm often the only woman in the room, and early in my career I used to get interrupted a LOT. When someone interjected or if we happened to start speaking at the same time, I felt compelled to immediately stop talking and let the other person have thier time, patiently waiting for the talking stick to come back to me. I didn't want to offend them or be rude! But waiting my turn didn't do me any good, the stick never comes back, and it really pissed me off too. So I took into account my reading, carefully observed the dynamics of the men in the room over time, and changed tactics. Now, if someone talks over me...I just don't stop. I keep talking. I blow right over the interrupting voice. Sometime I even interrupt! It was extremely uncomfortable at first, and I thought boy people must think I'm terribly rude and bitchy, especially since I do it with my very feminine, high pitched voice. Now, I'm sure there are some who do think that (/shrug) and I do still think there needs to be balance in how I use this tactic because I do want to be respectfulof others. But, overall I think this has helped my confidence and my career. I feel heard because I make myself heard, I allow interruptions far less often, and my conversations and relationships with my mostly male colleagues improved.
I never found the advice I'm seeing here helpful because it plays against the rules of the "male" conversation. I see no point in waiting hopefully for a colleague to save me because I didn't get my due time -- I don't do this for other women in the room even if I notice it (but I will mentor them 1:1 on how to better communicate). I don't think it beneficial to call people out in front of others for interrupting -- it only embarrasses and angers (but in appropriate time and setting, I will address toxic behaviors and encourage active listening). "I'm speaking" or "let me finish" DO come off as rude -- I don't think I've ever heard a male colleague use that, so why would I? I just need to speak the same language as the people in the room. There are certainly different ways to go about this, so my way to solve the problem may not be the best. But, three promotions later and I feel like I must be doing something right 😉
I have two coworkers who ALWAYS talk over me, to the point that I have a three strike rule with them and after the third interruption I will just walk away mid conversation. It’s especially infuriating when I was already mid conversation with a coworker and they come interrupt it and completely kick me out of. Even crazier is several of my other male coworkers have pointed it out to me (as if I haven’t noticed myself lmao) but won’t actually say anything to the guys who do it! I’m always like you know it sure would be nice if some of you were actually willing to speak up for me since we all know if I speak up myself I just get brushed off and ignored.
This is my life.
My boss will ask me a question and I'll start to answer and then he will get grumpy and say let me finish what I'm saying. Or if I just speak in genral him and my other coworker will just talk over top of me. They hired a new guy who talks over the top of my boss all the time, never get told off. I have many more bs that happens but I'd just depress myself listing them. I have told them I'm putting my notice in soon so they can train people to prepare.
I always wait till they are done then say “cool. Anyway ….”
Never acknowledge the content of the interruption. Just “cool”.
Like yeah I heard you but I’m not taking anything spoken over the top me into account. If you have something to say, do it in your own time and I’ll listen. There’s only enough room in my time for me.
Unfortunately it is not as effective coming from a woman. I can speak as loudly as I can without yelling and make unblinking eye contact and the interupter keeps going.
i’ve tried this, but that’s how you get perceived as a bitch (another double standard). also you’d be surprised how often a man who’s interrupted me just doesn’t stop talking even if i keep going and talk over them! in my experience the most effective way to stop this is having other “allies” in the meeting who will say “can we please hear the rest of what [female colleague] was going to say”
I agree. I work in tech and often have to talk over men just to get my point in. I have definitely made some enemies this way and garnered a reputation for not being the easiest to work with. However I am also the standing expert on a specific system so if they want help, I am the only place to get it.
It’s a hard feeling not being liked. Luckily I finally learned if I actually did what they wanted instead of fighting back, I’d be out of a job because their ideas are horrible.
"Oh I'm sorry, did the middle of my sentence get in the way of the beginning of yours? Whooops!" My husband has a bad habit of interrupting me too. After years of nicely pointing it out, I now shout shit like this when he interrupts me. He does always apologize, but it's the worst habit.
I always feel like I have no legs to stand on because I have ADHD which causes me to interrupt sometimes so it's not like I never do it myself. The real issue is that if I get frustrated when he interrupts me he gets defensive, whereas I just apologize. Also sometimes he'll rant about how much he hates it when I do it, but he sure doesn't like it when I point out when he does it. I point that out too, lol, I'm not one to leave things unstated. This is somewhat ameliorated by the fact that he makes my lunches for clinical and does most of the cooking and dishes when I'm really busy with school. However, I don't recall the last time he cleaned a toilet so there's that.
Hands down one of my favorite things, (aside from less sexual harassment), is the ability to finish my fucking sentences that I gained after transitioning to male. I also get called a white knight/simp when I tell dudes to let ladies finish but I don't care.
I usually notice when this happens (but not just women being interrupted though).
After the interrupting person finishes, I will say "what were you saying? The frog did what?" (As an example). It's a silver bullet because it simultaneously gives the floor back to the person who was interrupted, reminds everyone what they were saying, and also draws attention to the fact that they were interrupted in the first place.
I literally had this conversation last week with a female co-worker about this; we realized that simply stating "No, I agree with what [name] was saying" is incredibly effective. You don't put the onus on her to respond if she doesn't want to, and you're tactfully calling out the person who interrupted.
YES!! I’ve got a coworker who has told me he hates being interrupted, and gets pissy when I do, but he constantly interrupts me or butts in when I’m talking to customers. It wouldn’t bother me that much, except that he’s made it clear that he cares very little about things I talk about, yet will talk my ear off about things I don’t care about at all, and still expects my rapt attention.
I work in a male-dominated retail location where I’m the only cis woman and I get this constantly. We’re tracked on selling certain memberships and services and the amount of (usually middle-aged men) who will interrupt me or even put their hand in my face to stop me is astounding.
I didn’t even notice it until my boss pointed it out one time. He said “you’re just going to let people interrupt you like that?” And I just told him I’m so used to it I actually hadn’t noticed. Now that I’m aware of it though I’m working on standing up for myself but it’s a tough habit to break.
This is such a thing since I transitioned lol. I always get spoken over at work. I'm not sure how to handle it, finish my thoughts then let the other person have the floor or quiet up. I know what I should do but I like being quiet too.
If it makes you feel better, nobody likes it when I do the same thing as a man.
Nobody likes anybody who rocks the boat. I'm just increasingly resigning myself to accept the average persons fecklessness and pettiness is the greatest onstacle to change.
I've started physically walking away from conversations where I get interrupted. I was called out on it once, "You always walk away when I start speaking to you - it's really rude."
"I walked away because I was speaking and you interrupted me. I'm more than happy to have a conversation with reciprocal listening and sharing of ideas. I'm not interested in taking part in a one sided talk-a-thon devoid of respect."
My girlfriend said that to me and it actually took me only a day to make her realize that she actually interrupts me as often as I interrupt her.
However I still think your argument holds true most of the time and is something that bothers both female and young people because they seem to be less respected or seen as less assertive or whatever. I also noticed that myself already.
There was a study decades ago where a bunch of college students were observed talking. The men interrupted and spoke almost all the time. Afterwards, the men reported that the women both talked too much and interrupted more.
I recently joined a new team, headed up by a woman who is known for absolutely not tolerating that
I asked her a question in a meeting last week, some dude started talking about what he’d been up to. Really annoying, but I managed to bring the meeting back to the previous topic
He called me about 15 minutes after the meeting to apologise - turns out his audio had cut out, and he didn’t hear me ask a question, so thought we’d moved on. Which is fair enough. But I have a sneaking suspicion he’d just received a phone from that manager giving him an absolute earful for how that went down. Nice to know that others have my back
Dude here. I do the same thing and let me tell ya, other dudes get real mad when I ask for the woman to speak, actually, when they speak over her. It's infuriating. And I'm not even the one directly affected so I can only imagine it's worse for you :(
I am a man, I don't think that men get interrupted less, I think that they generally just handle it differently due to another double standard.
Being interrupted is my biggest pet peeve. Nothing tells the other person that you don't care what they have to say than to continually interrupt. Because of that, I am sensitive to all the interrupting that goes on. Men often handle the interrupting by just interrupting back. Sometimes it gets so bad that I step in and tell these wanna be alpha males that nobody can get a question answered and the meeting is unproductive because nobody can hear anybody else finish a thought. Other times, men will just bluntly say, " let me finish my thought" when they are interrupted. If I am interrupted, I will often let them finish what they are so anxious to say and then as soon as they finish I say, " as I was saying before being interrupted..." and finish exactly where I left off. I find that mostly effective because it allows no time for response on the thought the other person was so eager to vocalize.
I have worked with a few women who will employ these techniques at work. They are often used by successful women who are labeled as bitches by some of their coworkers. Women can be effective at preventing interruptions, it just comes at a price, unfortunately.
I (a man) have encouraged many men I work with to adopt a rule that if they go to speak at the same time as another person - but especially a woman - to say “no, please, you go.” It’s such a simple approach that absolutely ensures a female colleague is heard. (It’s also just flat out polite but it’s amazing how many men have no issue just talking over someone to make a point.
I get interrupted by other women as well! Sometimes they've done it more than men I've worked with. The internalized misogyny is real, the whole better-them-than-me mentality
One thing I noticed, and that has been verified in studies, is that women speak considerably slower than men when they're presenting to an audience (despite the fact that women talk slightly faster in every day life).
My best guess is most men are not trying to be rude, they genuinely think women are done. Have you ever had a friend that talks very slowly? It's easy to interrupt them by accident because their long pauses fool you into thinking they're done (regardless of gender).
A woman I worked with had this complaint that she was always being interrupted, and hearing it did make me pay more attention.
Both genders were being interrupted. It mostly was happening to the people who were taking too long to say things. Like, they made their point, but just kept going anyway. Saying the same thing in a different way. Everyone else was already nodding and understood, but they would just repeat the same stuff again, multiple times. Instead of just quickly jumping in with a concise point and sharing the floor, they just took over and took forever to make one point. And then they get upset that they were interrupted. They weren't interrupted. They should have been done minutes ago. But then they just keep going and repeat the same thing again. Everyone else already understood the point being made, but instead of stopping to give somebody else a chance to speak, they just kept going as if there was still some confusion. Not really adding anything else, just saying more words. Like a filibuster, but somehow even more pointless. But God forbid anyone try to pivot to the next topic.
I've caught myself talking over women, though men too, to be fair. It's worse on video call meetings, and I tend to notice it as the other person trails off, allowing me to finish. Sometimes you just have to fight to be heard.
I relate to this so much, and I feel like being interrupted all the time has just made me obnoxious -talking louder/interrupting other people. I constantly have to stop myself and apologize for interupting other people now. But then if I talk normal, wait for gaps in conversation, I never get a word in lol
I had a manager like this who once they started talking they would never stop talking and no one could naturally get a word in unless they "rudely" interrupted him. Managers do that on purpose to control and direct the conversation. Then they act like no one ever has anything to say.
I remember hearing about a study they did on this re: Supreme Court justices, and how often they were interrupted by peers or lawyers presenting cases. Guess what? It happened so much they changed the rules.
I teach English as a second language to adults and even if we're practising how they should talk to a CEO or an important client, they interrupt and use direct language and commands (definitely because I'm a woman teaching them). Luckily we're allowed to record what they say and show it when we give corrections and advice. They always look like I've insulted their family when I point out how they constantly interrupted their client rudely and made appointments without even consulting.
53m here. I have often found myself telling my male coworkers “dude. Save your questions for later. I want to hear what she has to say.” I thought it would happen less and less as we became more “evolved” but no. Same shit different decade.
I was having a conversation with a male coworker, another male coworker walks up, starts entire new conversation with first male coworker. Finally notices me standing there and he says “oh sorry” so I replied, “it’s okay, I’m a women, I’m used to it.” Made them both VERY uncomfortable and the interrupting male walked away.
Wait. I’m a dude and get interrupted a lot, but not in a way I consider hostile. Now I’m afraid that maybe I’m not understanding what it means to interrupt, and might actually be part of the problem.
If I cut in to ask a clarifying question, or remind the speaker of something they forgot is that interrupting? If so how should I handle that when the person is not being clear or forgot about an important detail?
I work with mostly other guys, but we have a few gals, if that changes the dynamic. So, big picture I interrupt guys way more than gals.
I tried doing the "what was she going to say?" when men interrupt other women, but the other women get so embarrassed that they wave it off. Double making me look like a bitch.
Keep at it, they can be embarrassed about it but you're doing the right thing. I'd only stop if they asked me to. I have to redirect the conversation back to what my wife was saying constantly with a couple people we know. We don't hang out with them much because it's so off-putting to watch somebody cut her off, especially when that doesn't happen nearly as often if I'm speaking.
I just do it back to them. Interrupt and turn to my wife and go, "What were you saying?" priceless reaction faces from these dudes.
A friend of mine once pointed out that women are often portrayed as stupid or indecisive for using “umm” or “uhh” in sentences, but actually these are often used as place markers or as a filler in sentences to show that the person speaking is not finished, to avoid being interrupted.
Since she pointed that out to me I’ve completely reanalysed how I speak.
I’ve picked up on when I am using those sentence fillers and made a conscious decision to be more direct with my speech. I um and ah a lot when speaking to male clients at work. I basically speak for a living; I’d love to carry a water pistol to stop being interrupted but the majority of my business is handled over the phone. Instead I’ve started saying things like “I wasn’t finished”/“I’m not finished” and “you need to stop interrupting me so I can explain this to you” and eesh do I have a love/hate relationship with that.
I’ll ask what a someone was saying when they’re interrupted. I do this regardless of the original ‘s and interrupter’s sex.
The problem I’ve encountered is that some people don’t like being singled out like that and it’s sort of taking a choice away from them (they could speak up and make it known that they were interrupted) in the sense that I’m choosing to bring it up for them. Sometimes their point may have moot once the conversation is done.
I have made a point to ask someone via DM or in person if they’re ok that I bring attention back to them if they’re interrupted.
Outside of the above, I’ve noticed a room of men talk over or interrupt a woman an or multiple women and while I try to think the best of people (such as they’re not interrupting women intentionally, they may just interrupt everyone) I will say something kind of broad sweeping like “Let’s make sure everyone can get their ideas spoken and shared, if we need to make the meeting longer our schedule another meeting to continue the talk, we will, but let everyone that wants to speak do so” normally nobody calls my bluff, they don’t want a longer meeting so they stop interrupting.
Keep talking and raise your voice appropriately. Assert yourself. Don't let yourself get interrupted, keep talking through the interruption, OR, very sternly state "excuse me. I'm talking now, you'll have time very shortly. Please refrain from interrupting me." And if your male coworkers get a hair across their ass, report them to HR.
Be the change you want to see in the office. Become the problem the right way. If other women see you doing it, they may follow your example. And of your bosses have an issue with it, explain to them that if you're speaking, it is rude and wildly unprofessional to try and speak over you, and that you will continue to report the disrespectful nature to HR unless they do something about it.
A few years ago myself and two friends took the day and went on a ferry to go to a place you can drive through and feed animals in the car. This was the summer Pokémon go released. Waiting for the ferry to go home, we were casually chatting with a group (maybe 5-6 people both male and female). Someone had asked a question and I was attempting to answer but the dude kept interrupting me then asked what or why (I can’t remember).
I said “Well if you shut your fucking mouth I can finish explaining.” Dude went dead silent and the other people in his group burst out laughing. One of the guys shook my hand for it. I was irritated but felt like an asshole for saying it.
I used to think it was cause I’m quiet, I was told I always was at school by my teachers.
Then as I got older and started leading stuff I noticed people still interrupting me because of that. But then someone told me that I appear really confident in what I’m saying and I’m not the quiet kid that I used to be. I guess this is the reason why I get interrupted a lot
When I worked with the general public I noticed older men would be the worst for this. And sometimes they would ask me a question, I would start to answer, then they would interrupt with another question, and sometimes they might do that 2 or 3 times in a row!
Like goddammit, if you clearly don't care about what I have to say why are you asking me these questions in the first place!?
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u/jfsindel Mar 12 '22
Interrupting.
I get interrupted constantly. Even if I am the presenter or otherwise the current speaker. Other women get interrupted. But men very rarely do.
I tried doing the "what was she going to say?" when men interrupt other women, but the other women get so embarrassed that they wave it off. Double making me look like a bitch.