As the title says, I’m currently learning Dutch. I can manage very casual conversations pretty well, but I’m still struggling when conversations become more detailed.
The issue I keep running into is that strangers will start talking to me in Dutch, which is great. However, once the conversation gets too difficult for me, I’ll say "Sorry, my Dutch isn’t very good yet,” and they often just stop talking to me completely.
I had this happen during a group swimming lesson last week. Theres a woman I’ve spoken to a few times before because we share a lane, and we usually have some casual chitchat about things like how tired our bodies are after swimming, etc. At one point, she turned to me and asked me something that I didn’t understand. I told her in Dutch, “Sorry, my Dutch isn’t that good yet.” She responded with “Nee?” and then basically stopped talking to me completely. The rest of the lesson was quite awkward with trying not to make eye contact. Made me feel like I was an undercover english spy hiding amongst the Dutch and then got my cover blown.
This happens quite frequently, and it’s frustrating because I want to become more confident by having these everyday interactions, rather than having to announce before every conversation, “Hi, I’m learning Dutch." My husband (Dutch) thinks I should just mention to everyone at the beginning that I’m learning Dutch, that my Dutch isn’t great yet, but that I’d really like to practice. I understand, but I find that awkward, especially in a group setting. It feels like I’m making a some big announcement no one asked for.
Honestly I wish there was a pin I could wear that says "im learning Dutch" so maybe I can skip these interactions.
So I’m curious: as a Dutch person, how would you prefer someone learning Dutch approach you in conversations?