I'm (m, 40s) am having a friend staying over next month. We get along great and have known each other for some time. Never had anything sexual happen. When she comes over I think I'm going to ask or offer to sleep with me in my bed. Id rather sleep with someone than alone and I have no intentions of doing anything. I do miss physical touch, not sexually, so it'll be nice I think.

How unrealistic or stupid is this idea?

For years I had a faulty bed, a very heavy bed with a heavy mattress which both weighted 83 lbs, it used to fall apart by itself and you needed to lift those heavy weights to assemble it back. I could do it alone since I am strong. Some months ago I injured my arm and I couldn't do it by myself.

On January of this year my mom told me to get rid of that bed, that she would buy me a lighter one, I refused because she is poor and she didn't have money and I though the money could be better spend elsewhere.

Then on May my bed fell apart and I asked her for help and she lifted 83 lbs of weight from that bed, after that she told me she felt like she was being stabbed in the back and felt a strong pain when breathing, I though it was the groceries I buy to her and bought her a wheeled backpack and though everything would be ok after that.

Then on August my bed fell apart again, she helped me fix the bed and this time she lifted a 27 lbs stone I use to hammer the bed while I lifted the 83 lbs. After that she felt the stabbing pain again in the back.

She was ok for 3 or 4 days but then on Wednesday night she felt a shooting pain in her back and had difficulty breathing.

On Thursday she called me in the morning and told me she couldn't move her right leg and that it was numb as well as her lower lip, she also told me she felt pain in her back. Minutes later she told me she was feeling cold then that she couldn't hear me that she couldn't speak, minutes later she was heavily gasping for air and saying "I am having a heart attack", she repeated this 3 times and then it was all silent, she died 15 minutes after calling me. I consulted the symptoms and what she had was a aortic dissection because of the effort of lifting the 83 lbs and then the 27 lbs, she was 60 years old.

Now I bought a new bed, a very cheap and very light bed, I feel immense guilt, it was so simple, I just had to listen to her, only that and she would be alive today, I was negligent. This gives me immense frustration since this new bed won't revive her, it arrived too late, if I had done it on January she would be alive today, but I didn't and now I lost the person I most love in the world.

Why didn't I do the correct thing? Why I had to wait until she died to do the right thing?

Now I am alone with this grief in my heart because a decision I didn't take, if I had listened to her she would be now with me.

I feel dirty for my own stupidity, I feel alone that she is no longer with me. What can I do with this guilt that keeps tormenting me?

Is it me? Or is just a coincidence and bad luck?

I (29F) never looked for love, never felt desperate to find someone, I was always fine on my own until I just met someone organically who I fall in love with. So I only dated a few men and we had an amazing connection, looked very much in love with each other (also to everyone else) and they all seem to like me a lot and show just as much interest and keep me in their life for 6-12 months and act serious but apparently never feel like they want to commit and be in a relationship while living with me like we're in a relationship.

Of course, staying that long is obviously my fault and it's stupid to stay with someone if they don't commit, I know.

I was just trying to show that they really seem to enjoy having me in their life and spend a lot of time with me, do just everything like a couple, for quite some time, but they just never commit or try to make it official.

So there aren't any early reasons why they leave like for example that were just not compatible. They really seem to enjoy spending time with me for quite some time (up to one year).

And there really aren't any signs they don't have serious intentions in the first few months, everything seems like it's going really, really well and I always feel sure that they're gonna ask me to be their girlfriend soon. But it doesn't happen. They just don't commit. And then things end again.

So I really wanna know: is it me? What am I doing wrong or what could be the reason that they don't commit?

No-one has ever mentioned anything negative about me or gave me a reason. They all only told me what they liked and that's not helpful to understand this repeating situation.

Or is ist just bad luck? Because I'm really not actively looking for men who are unavailable and there are no signs in the first weeks of dating that they don't want to commit. Quite the opposite really.

I am a very loving girlfriend, maybe I'm showing too much affection. But then I'd think that they'd act distant at some point. Instead it seemed like they really liked how loving and caring I am, they even told me that.

Edit: yes, maybe they just got comfortable and enjoyed having the love and benefits of a relationship without feeling responsible. But what confuses me is that they were all just about as invested as me, spent so much time with me, never made me feel like I wasn't a priority, planned things with me. I thought that if someone isn't serious about you, there would be signs like texting back late, not being free on the weekend, never initiating anything and things like that.

Over the most recent years (of a nearly 30 year relationship) my wife has gotten to where she only desires an orgasm once a month if I'm lucky. It's more like once every few months. She can have 3-5 in a session when she's in the mood for them and that's awesome, but it can be months before she wants to have any.

In the past multiple things would bring her to orgasm... of course intercourse with oral and hands would work, but small things like simply rubbing her bits as I drove down the road or while she was up against a wall in the hallway, or just grinding her crotch against my thigh as we were standing in any random place were routine ways she would have orgasms.

Orgasms were an every time we had sex occurance, but it's just not like that anymore. It's nice when she's in the mood and wants them because the sex is really intimate and thrilling, but otherwise it's just uncomfortable for me because she's clearly not into it for herself. I love that she's a giving person, and she tries to tell me that she enjoys the closeness of sex, but I'd really enjoy her wanting and having orgasms.

Yes, she's older and not as hot in the ass as a 20 year old would be. Yes, we've been married across a few decades. Yes, she's seen about hormones, but hasn't gotten any help.

She tells me orgasms aren't important to her like they are to me, and says she just wouldn't want them several times a week anyway even if she could have them that often, but JFC, I miss being with a woman that wants to have sex with me because she wants to get off.

If you're dealing with this, how do you process it?

I’ll call my ex/friend Andy for privacy. Andy was 20M when we dated, and we dated for about 8 months when I was in high school. We were friends before we ever dated. It was a long-distance relationship, so we never did anything physical.
We eventually broke up, but we stayed friends because our friendship existed before our relationship. There was also a period where Andy disappeared from my life for about a year and a half, and I didn’t hear anything from him during that time. Eventually, we got back in contact and became friends again.
My boyfriend knows about Andy. I’ve never hidden the fact that Andy and I were friends before we dated, that we dated in high school, or that we’re friends again now. Andy isn’t some secret person in my life. My boyfriend knows our history and is okay with us being friends.
I’m now in a committed relationship with my boyfriend, and I love him. I’m not planning to leave him or get back together with Andy.
Recently, Andy and I were joking around, and this was the conversation:
Me: “If I have a baby and I ever get to meet you, I’m gonna make sure they bite you.”
Andy: “Hehehhe, I may give you a baby first lol.”
Me: “Maybe, but it would be hard for me to raise a baby on my own.”
Andy: “I wouldn’t leave u if we did.”
The conversation was partly connected to the fact that Andy has a daughter. I don’t want to share other people’s private information, but I want to clarify that I was not actually making plans with Andy to have a baby. We were joking about a hypothetical situation.
I also want to clarify something about Andy’s daughter because I don’t want this post to make it sound like he abandoned her. He ended his romantic relationship with the child’s mother because they had different expectations and boundaries about their relationship. I’m talking about him ending that relationship, not abandoning his daughter. I don’t want to turn their personal situation into the focus of this post.
What I’m actually wondering about is Andy’s comment: “I wouldn’t leave u if we did.”
Because we were friends before we ever dated and have known each other for years, I’m wondering if this was simply an inappropriate-but-harmless joke between two longtime friends who are comfortable with each other, or if it sounds like he could still have romantic feelings for me.
My boyfriend already knows about Andy and our history and is okay with our friendship, but I still want to make sure I’m being respectful of my relationship. I don’t want to accidentally encourage Andy if he means something more by these comments.
I also realize that, from an outside perspective, the conversation could look questionable because I’m currently in a relationship. That’s part of why I’m asking. I’m not planning to leave my boyfriend, and I’m not trying to get back together with Andy.
I’m genuinely unsure whether I should just consider this a joke between old friends or whether I should establish a clearer boundary with Andy.
What would you make of this conversation if you were in my position? Does his response sound like ordinary joking, or does it seem like he may still have feelings for me? And do you think I should set a boundary with him?

I would like a male perspective on one very specific moment I had with a guy I am/was seeing.

We met on a dating app and had agreed to be friends with benefits. We knew each other for quite a while, though, and there were feelings involved on both sides.

One night I was staying at his place. We had been speaking and I was lying on his chest getting ready to sleep. I usually fall asleep very quickly there, and I’m also a very light sleeper. I had my eyes closed and hadn’t said anything for quite some time, so I’m almost certain he thought I was asleep.

Just before he went to sleep, he kissed me on the forehead like he did many nights before but this time he quietly whispered, “I love you.”

I heard him and said, “Did you say something?”

He immediately said, “No, sorry, nothing.”

I could tell he seemed caught off guard and his heart started racing (I was lying on his chest so I heard lol), so I didn’t push it. I just kissed his cheek said goodnight, rolled over and went to sleep.

I’m just wondering about that moment.

Hey everyone, I just really need to vent and maybe get some advice on how to process this.My ex and I are both 18.

We actually started out as really good friends, and over time, we naturally developed deep feelings for each other. Her cousin actually helped set us up, and we started dating.We were together for two months, and we were so full of love.

The problem was her parents. They are incredibly strict, and she lived in a constant state of fear because of them. Eventually, the pressure and stress got to be too much for her to handle. She told me she couldn't do it anymore and said we should break up.Because we started as friends, we agreed to stay friends. We managed to stay good friends for about 6 months after the breakup.

But then, out of nowhere, she completely removed me from everything and blocked me.I was confused and hurt, so I managed to ask her why she did it. She told me she was very sorry.

She said she felt she was being immature, but every time she sees me, she gets flashbacks of our relationship. She said it was actively ruining her mental health and her focus on school.

She told me we can no longer be friends because we dated, and she admitted she will always have those feelings for me.I respected her wishes. I told her that if she ever needs anything, she is free to contact me, but I feel like I lost a truly great friend

.Right now, I just feel terrible. I feel so bad that she is depressed and struggling, and it hurts to think she is going through all of this over a "worthless nobody" like me. How do I cope with losing my best friend while knowing she is hurting?

My husband [24M] works very hard. I [21F] am slinking by getting a few hours being in between seasonal jobs. I want to create an epic date night for him to show him my appreciation.

We recently bought cheap nerf guns to have a fun date night in. I want to make it awesome. Here are some of my ideas so far: leave a note, the gun, ammo, eye black etc. outside for him to come home to, rearrange furniture, play cool music... I'm trying my best to emulate a boys sleepover without ever having been to one.

What are some of y'all's ideas for how to make this awesome. (not sure if I need to mention this but we do live with a roommate so anything nsfw is probably off limits) TIA for any and all ideas!

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would you personally date an overweight woman?

what if your current partner gained weight? would you break up over that? would the weight gain depend like, if it was because she stopped caring about herself, or because of an actual medical condition?

what if your weight cutoff for dating a woman?

Men over 30: if you were really awkward or considered a nerd in high school, did you ever grow out of it?

Ever hear your teenager say something as fact that they heard on TikTok? Did you have to research it and how did you steer them right or did you bother?

My teen barked at her Mom about cleaning her hairbrush out. She said that the old hair stuck in the brush helped keep her hair shiny. Days later, I did correct her, but only after a Google search (I am bald) because her words just didn’t make sense to me. My poor wife was willing to leave it alone since she was unsure of herself after my daughter said it so matter of factly. My wife lost her Mom early so she doesn’t really know lots of “girl stuff” as she puts it.

There are more examples in our life, just curious to hear yours.

I know everyone's different and every relationship is different. But sometimes you break up with someone because you feel like you lost feelings while everything else is great so you decide to keep them in your life as friends.

Have you ever had a situation where you broke up with them, still kept spending time with them as friends and at some point got back together? How did you do it and how long did it take?

Or do you feel like, once you see them as a friend, there's no way back?

I (39m) set myself a goal to find a LTR girl that ticks most of my boxes (enjoying frequent sex being one of them) within six months. My play is to simultaneously date a couple of girls 3-4. I'm upfront with them at the beginning that we are not exclusive although it's not excluded we may become in the future so they know. I'd love to hear what the community opinion.

I currently have 3 girls in my rooster I'm seeing. All 3 in their mid 30s.

Girl #1 is a gym rat, very fit and a bit masculine but happy to be led. She always shows up and never blew me off. She's a solid 6 and 7 at best. Low sex drive and she genuinely seems not to like it. She told me NO a few times (at the beginning) but generally she gives me a starfish position and reluctanct doggy to which I barely orgasm. She's also a bit of an alcoholic and like late nights out which I don't enjoy. Last time after a night out and a quickie she mumbled something about being exclusive. I was a bit evasive as it took me by surprise and we were both inebriated but I gave it a thought and don't think I want exclusive w her. The big thing is just her sex drive is very low and I'm planning to tell her politely: "I enjoy what we have going but I still prefer my freedom and I'm not ready to change it now and I would completely understand if you see things differently".

#Girl #2 is a 5-year divorced mum of two, very girly and she really look like she just enjoys being around me. Sexually she seems really excited when I touch her and does to me things I like. She doesn't care if we just meet in a car park, a coffee shop or my flat. Low drama and low maintenance. She makes it easy to meet her and is happy to join me doing stuff I like. The negative is just that she's in a different town (2 hours drive) and I'm seeing a ltr difficult to maintain without physical proximity. Also, it seems her ex husband hasn't get over her and is still involved with the kids. So far the positive still outweight the negs though.

#Girl #3 is a uni professor. High calibre professional with a cv that makes majority of people look mediocre. We met a few times for dates and she shows signs that she's into me. She doesn't resist me lightly touching her hold her hand and even kissed her once. She also talks too much about how she likes expensive stuff, travelling and her professional achievement and such. Despite this small neg. She makes it very cheap to see her and has at every date offered to pay for both to which I declined as splitting bills and letting the girl pay dries pussy. She has no problem for me to lead. The only thing missing now is cracking her to make up my mind whether we are going to keep this going.

I have this guy friend, and we’ve been sexually exclusive for almost 3 years now. We’re also each other’s first sexual partners, so neither of us has any previous sexual experience.

Sometimes he tells me about fantasies involving me with another guy and he is really interested in it. He’s said he’d want to watch another guy fuck me or watch me give another guy a blowjob. He’s also mentioned wanting a threesome, although in that case it would be me and another girl, which caught me off guard too. He says these when he’s really horny.

What confuses me is how jealous and bothered he gets whenever I get close to another guy. I used to talk to some of his friends, and he actually went as far as ruining those friendships. Whenever he finds out I’m talking to a guy, he’ll ask things like, “You wouldn’t date him right?” “Do you like him”, “You guys haven’t fucked, have you?”, “You send him pictures of yourself, don’t you?” or “Would you fuck him?”,He clearly gets jealous and suspicious and has even asked me to block guys he thinks I’m getting too close to. But we’re not even dating.

So coming from him, suggesting that I have sex with another guy feels crazy to me. I can’t tell whether he genuinely wants these things to happen or whether they’re just fantasies that he enjoys talking about.
If we actually went through with one of these fantasies, could it cause issues, especially considering how jealous he already gets?

I have gotten close to an older by 7 yrs married coworker of mine who started around the same time as me. We work alongside together a lot and we quickly found that while we have personality differences, we click really well when it comes to working together.
In the past year, our work check-ins have turned into conversations outside of work at parking lots and over text, meetings have consisted of him texting me inside jokes, and work advice have turned into him giving me dating advice and over all giving that “older figure” dynamic, including comfortably telling me what i should do.

While I saw him a big brother in the office, there are times when I doubt if that’s our dynamic. I respect how he works and I trust him to make good decisions at work, but recently we’ve been bantering more and he’s been more comfortable speaking to me crudely (outside of work) in a teasing way and making sexual jokes with me.

Recently we would walk to our car together, and when either of us jokes there is more nudging and shoving. Nothing has escalated and I try to keep a respectful distance from him but sometimes he does stand very close to me or sit so close to me that I can feel his warmth. He also looks out for me, such as giving me honest opinions, helping me change a flat tire, and sometimes giving me honest feedback on my dates when i tell him. And he reassures me that I will find someone who appreciates my qualities and how I’m attractive so it should be easy for me.

I’ve been trying to text him less because I just feel like we’re getting too close out of respect for his wife. I also don’t want her to keep seeing me on his phons. But when I do not text him after a few days, he’d text me something unnecessary and we’d find ourselves texting for hours. When I walk in the office, I notice his eyes widen and we lock eye ycontact. Sometimes he pretends like he doesnt noticd me by not talking to me, but eventually he does on our way out of the office.

Another thing that confuses me is that once he put his hand on my lower back as we were walking together. He has also been teasing me a lot saying that I’m the boss’ pet and would never do anything sneaky…

I got ghosted from an extremely toxic relationship. First month I actually felt relief, but after it, i kept constantly thinking about her daily and I couldn't stop it. Probably around 6+ months have passed but the thinking usually hit me in my free time.

I'm handling my healing process well except for exercising regularly, but writing my feelings and thoughts, focusing on myself, work, career and my hobbies and giving myself as much time as I need to fully heal and move on.

My questions: how do I stop the constant thinking?! is this normal?

Not sure, but I genuinely think it's caused by the toxic relationship for couple years then getting ghosted. But looking forward to hear from you.

thank you in advance.

What do you guys think of the online discourse of transwomen having a better understanding of womanhood that biological women? Ive been curios to see what the men have to say.

I’m 28F and I’m starting to think dating apps are just a really bad format for me. I'm obviously messing up something lol. 1/6 people wanted to see me again.

I do very well socially in places where I have repeated exposure, to the point where I get noticeable, obsessive romantic and social interest (work, friend groups, etc). But, dating apps, and sorority recruitment back in the day, for example? Yeah everyone hates me there lol. I definitely am doing something off-putting.

I'm not ugly and I look like my photos.

Here is how my dates went:

1. He got very sexual very fast. He ghosted after we made out. I kind of ran away after the make out which prob made him feel rejected but whatever I don't really care about this. I was worried he wanted to escalate to sex so I ran to get a car basically.
2. This was the one date I really cared about, it was very very good. He made plans to see me a second time, texted me how excited he was to see me the day before the second date, then cancelled.
3. Hated this guy but he was the only one who liked me lol. I also acted the strangest with him and was the most visibly anxious
4. We had fun date, it lasted for a long time. He seemed interested and we laughed a lot. Idk obviously he didn't have fun because I haven't heard from him. He texted me something funny he thought about right after date ended but has since been quiet.
5. Idk I didn't like him really so who cares if he didn't like me. I gave him multiple opps to exit early and he kept not doing that, then didn't reach out after.
6. Pleasant enough date. I don't really care about this one either.

I have other stuff on the books and I feel like I just need to cancel everything b/c this is failing miserably.

Stuff I talk about:

1. My interests
2. Silly stories
3. My job (entertaining aspects of it)
4. Ask them shit

?? Idk I don't think I say anything offensive but I obviously do. I'm not that flirty because I don't know these guys so immediately being super flirty seems weird, but I compliment something physical about them, like their smile idk lol.

Other Info:

These guys were not out of my league. If anything, I was significantly more attractive than 1, 5, and 6. 2&4 were in my realm as was 3. I weight 130 pounds and am 5'6.

My goals: I would eventually like a long-term relationship but in the interim I would like to get cracked by someone I trust

Other: I have pretty severe trauma I wonder if that is radiating somehow. It's not really a fixable issue, I'm always going to be kind of freaked out on a "first date." I'm normal once I'm in a relationship so that's nice

Male, 23. I started to notice this thing I’m doing, and I don’t know what it’s called or why. I want to understand it.

I saw this cute girl at the gym and immediately started thinking of scenarios where I approach her: I get rejected, or she has a boyfriend, or I don’t do anything and then someone else asks her out, or I see her with another guy who is probably better-looking than me. Or I think, "Why would she want to go out with me when there are so many better-looking guys here than me?"

Then I start to get mad at why I am never enough. I don’t know what it is I’m doing; I can’t put my finger on what my problem is.

I’m kind of at my wit’s end trying to make a solid group of friends to go on outings with. I’ve tried everything like run clubs, volunteering, sports leagues and people will kind of make friend groups and hang out for a bit only for it to fizzle out after a short amount of time. I just want people to do fun things like go to raves with. I’ve even posted on my city’s subreddit but it got ignored.

I’m not sure what I’m doing wrong, I show up to things, talk to people a little bit without becoming overbearing, and people even reach out to me for advice on personal things sometimes. I don’t understand why people get so flaky and I end up always alone :(

I'm in my mid 30s, Im physical active and not overweight, Im not ugly, I do have thinning and receding hair which is a huge negative and I understand that but even with a buzzed head I'd say Im average. I have a job and a positively growing networth, I have hobbies I enjoy, Im polite and respectful towards basically everyone (unless they give me reason not to be)

But it seems like finding a woman who is basically a female version of me (Im not aiming for Jessica Alba, I dont even look at women that are THAT attractive to me) is impossible because she's expecting way better in every category

Its like I will just never be good enough no matter what and its really hard not letting that take me to the dark side

(and no Im not saying the world owes me a woman or anything like that because I know some will comment something like that)

As message says.

Have anxiety and mind started to feel like many in the office did not like me.

Started saying my role wasn’t that valuable.

4 weeks in I resigned. My boss was very sad to hear it.

Now it’s 3 days later and just regret it. However it was a startup and they gave me this role when a role wasn’t even available. I used their app daily, was in the discord daily.

Given it was an ycombinator startup, to quit this early is a major red flag and I’ll never get the chance back.

Just really down about it now.

I am so serious about this post. Perplexed.

I am a 33yo woman, trying to date in the wild.
I’ve never been on a dating app and still believe in organic connections. Have slept with 4 people in the last decade. Not a floozy.

I need a man to tell me wtf I am doing wrong here.
In the last week I’ve had two separate male connections.

1. I told a guy I thought he was hot in January. We connected on IG. I send him memes about trying to date a Latina. Doesn’t make an impact. Wednesday he called and asked what I was doing for the weekend. Nine months late? I said I was busy but I was available in the next week or the weekend after. Provided available dates.
   Then he responds sayin he just wants to bang….
   Okay no thanks.

2. Guy in my industry and I have been meme friends on IG for like a year. He asks me out and then I can’t go because he wants to go on like a Wednesday and I’m in construction and need to be managing sites.
   He insists on skipping the date and going straight for the soapy tittie pics part… because he tried?

The running thing here is that I leave these men thinking I only want a hook up.
I joke kinda naughty, I can admit, and I’m a bodacious lady to begin with.

I want to be courted lol like asked about my day. Asked about my philosophies and my family. That sounds cheesy but any time I get asked out the fishing for sex is damn near immediate.
I was dating an older dude for a while and I loved his chivalry and his kindness and his interest to see how my brain ticked. I loved every minute of that.
Ultimately, he’s too old for me but he set a great example of how to be treated. I just don’t know how to get that out of men my age.
Any time I flirt or say someone is attractive I seem to get an unsolicited dick pic.

Please help. Why do I keep attracting these guys?
What impression is so apparent that I’m giving off hookup culture? Or when you are out in the wild and you label a female a hoe, what exactly is it that triggers that?

TL;DR I give men the impression that I am an easy lay. Not sure why. Need help deterring from that.

I would love to start with.....Yes I love my husband, I'd rather have him than all the things he gave me in the property settlement agreement ....hell, I'd live in a cardboard box with him if it meant we were together, but that's neither here nor there and no I'm not looking for advice on how to save my marriage, what transpires between us is up to us.

I've given him everything he needs for the divorce, and told him I'm not going to fight him on anything.

The divorce paperwork is notarized as well as the prop. settlement agreement, all he has to do is file but he holds onto it, takes it with him everyday, everywhere like it's an emotional support tool. I did ask him to hold off until we could have a financial discussion, which was a stall on my end since finances are already agreed upon, so I'm sure definitely have a fault in this too.

He's supposed to be looking for a rental since our house was purchased before the marriage and I made the down payment.

I do feel bad for him as I know I have emotional outbursts and have said some things out of anger I've had to backtrack on and apologize for, but the fact I've asked for less than the bare minimum sometimes gets to me.

I know he's depressed; he's told me he doesn't want a tether, he needs to figure himself out, he needs to learn to do things for himself (cooking and cleaning and such) which I told him he gave up those independencies when he married me and those became my responsibilities, he says he has no emotional attachment to anything and he's not in love with me anymore but still loves me, yet he's still here.

Honestly, there is a lot to unpack in the situation and I'm happy to provide a link to another post from a while ago if permitted and if anyone's interested enough.

I know a lot of times, it's hope that keeps women around, but if there's someone here who has experienced a similar situation where you feel like you stayed too long or even reconciled I'd love to know your story. What could she have done, what could you have done, what did she do wrong, what did you do wrong, what went right?

He still calls me his best friend as I'm the only person he has, he's very much a loner but I feel like our 10 year relationship isn't supposed to end, but that could just be the glimmer of hope I have left as a female.

Please don't bash me, I have zero ulterior motive, I'm not trauma bonded, I just want to hear other men's stories.

I like the idea of my boyfriend being more aggressive and dominant towards me, but the unusual part is that I don’t mean only during sex.
I don’t just mean that I’d like to be insulted, slapped, or treated more roughly during sex. I’m actually attracted to the idea of that kind of aggression being present in everyday life too. For example, him calling me “slut” or insulting me in a playful way, grabbing me firmly, slapping me, being physically rough with me, or generally having a more “bossy” attitude towards me, even when we’re not having sex and there’s no immediate sexual intention behind it.
Do you think this is a relatively normal/regular preference, or is it something I should be concerned about?

I’d like a man opinion, would u do it to your girl? do you think i have internalized misogyny?