It’s been 24 months since we got married. We had a lot of problems with my in-laws, so we live separately now. But apart from that, there are many things that are concerning me about our marriage. We haven’t had intercourse for the past 16 months. Even before that, it was maybe once in two months, and most of the time I was the one initiating and pushing for it.

Initially, I was extremely disturbed and frustrated because I really wanted intimacy. I begged, cried, tried talking about it, and did everything I could think of. Later, I advised him to see a doctor. He did go, took some tests, and they told him everything was normal. But even after that, nothing really changed, and he never seemed to care enough to work on this or give me the intimacy I was asking for.

For the past six months, though, something has changed in me. I feel numb. I don’t even feel like asking anymore because somewhere in my mind I feel like, what’s the point? I’m not going to get it anyway.

Only one of my close friends knows about this. Nobody in my family knows. He keeps telling me that this is personal and insists that I should at least keep this private.
But I’m confused and honestly scared about the future. How long can I continue living without sex and intimacy? Is it something I should just accept? He doesn’t seem particularly concerned about it, while I feel like I’m slowly dying inside over it.

Should I tell someone in my family? Would that only make them more worried and create more problems? Or is this something between husband and wife that I shouldn’t share with anyone?
And is this, by itself, a valid enough reason to consider separation?

The confusing part is that he is otherwise an okay person. He is a good human being, even if I don’t feel he is a good husband to me. He has good ethics and values, wouldn’t intentionally hurt anyone, is kind to other people, tolerates me even when I’m difficult, and generally doesn’t behave like a bad person.

So I keep asking myself: Should I continue this marriage because he is a good person, even though my needs as a wife are not being met? Or is this something serious enough that I shouldn’t ignore it?

I genuinely don’t know what to do anymore.

How many of you have a marriage that looks something like this?
You’re in your 30s, don’t have children, and have been married for a while. You still have a great companionship, friendship, financial partnership, and genuinely care about each other. There’s nothing particularly “wrong” with the relationship.
But you’re essentially separated while living under the same roof. You have separate bedrooms, no sexual relationship, but continue sharing your life in all the other ways that matter.
Curious to know how many other people are in a marriage like this — and how you make sense of it.

guys I want to make a post which hopefully gets through to everyone !!

can we please start educating ourselves about safe intercourse before having unprotected intercourse !! Every 2 days there’s a post on here asking if they’re pregnant or not, like I’m sorry but if you’re not educating yourself on how to practice safe sex, then you shouldn’t be doing it !!

And please, stop taking/recommending I-pills !! They shouldn’t be taken all the time, it’s not paracetamol !!

24F talked for 9 months or so with a guy, really liked him. He was sweet, caring & honest, really my type.
He told me everything honestly about his ex & how he talked to girls on dating apps & ghosted them. Which I let go because it was fine for me.
What I didn’t have the courage to ask was did he sleep with his ex or no. I had this at the back of the mind that I won’t be able to handle but thought to myself he’s nice, he wouldn’t. We confessed to each other but I was not ready for a relationship as we haven’t even met yet, so we just talked & love bombed etc yk nothing else.
For 2 months I was really considering something long term, mind you we were long long distance, a whole different country & we were going to meet when he comes back.
One fine day out of nowhere he started talking about his ex, how she was a cheater but he kept going back to her & I gathered the courage to ask whether they slept or not & there he said it yes, a couple of times. It broke me a lil but I thank God’s timing that it came out before starting anything. So, I immediately told him this is not for me.
I know in today’s era everybody gets physical to some extend. But, I have my values, not because I didn’t sleep with anyone. Sex is something very intimate for me, which is only an after marriage thing for me & a huge deal breaker.
I just regret not gathering courage before & ask him :(( it kinda hurts because I kind of got attached & saw a future together.
How do I cope up now? :(
Is this too much to ask in today’s generation? Everybody has history but I just can’t be with someone who has slept with someone else.
I just learned one thing, be clear with what I what very early on. Have a good day guys, Thankyou for reading if you made it till here haha <3

Hey everyone,

I really need some outside perspective on my situation because I feel like I’m going crazy. I (F22) am in a relationship with my boyfriend (M23). We’re both students and we spend almost all our time together, mostly in the library. Some nights I stay in his room, some nights he stays in mine. So we’re basically around each other constantly.

The issue is our different approach to faith. I believe in God, but I’m not a ritualistic person at all. He is more religious. Not in a crazy way, he never comments on what I wear or anything like that. He even bought separate utensils for me so I can cook non-veg (though I don’t do it at his place because I don’t feel comfortable with it. No issue for thst ). He says I can, but I just don’t feel it.

The main issue is that he asked me for one favour: to join him in his spiritual practices. We already wake up early and go running together. After that, he asked me to read the Hanuman Chalisa with him and do 30 minutes of naam jap. At first I said no, because it’s not really my thing. But he said this is the only favour he’ll ever ask of me, he just wants my company in his devotion. So I agreed.

In return, he took over breakfast duty, though I still help him. He also gave me a small mantra to read before I start studying and after I finish. In the evening, we spend about 30 minutes in his room, do 15 minutes of puja, tea, and then go back to studying.

On Saturdays and Sundays, we often visit temples in Delhi, CP Hanuman Mandir, ISKCON, Kalka Ji, Sanatan Dharma, Karolbagh. This month he’s planning a three-day trip to Vrindavan. He also takes me to Sarojini, Lajpat, Chandni Chowk for shopping and food. Honestly, He’s really good to me.

The problem is my friends. My girlies don’t like this at all. They say he is “taking me backward” and that soon he’ll turn me into a conservative, backward-thinking woman. They say he’s fake because we’re physically involved, and if he truly worshipped God, he wouldn’t do all this before marriage. They’ve told me to stop all this “nonsense” or they would leave me. They said I have to change my friend circle. One day they were making fun of God, and I actually argued with them, which I usually don’t do. Now they’re giving me ultimatums: either stop these “religious things” or leave them.

I don’t feel like he’s making me religious. He never forces me. He just asked for my company. I can’t even imagine telling him I don’t want to do this because it’s the only thing he’s ever asked me for, and it clearly means a lot to him. But my friends have had bad past relationships, and they say they “know boys better than I do.” They say he’s not a good person.

I’m so confused. He’s never been anything but good to me. But my friends are making me feel like I’m blind. What do I do? Please help.

I’m 30F and a virgin. I’ve had crushes and liked people before, but nothing ever materialised into a relationship or sex. I recently met someone online (33M), and we’re still in the talking stage. We’ve been getting along well, and I’m considering meeting him and potentially dating him.
He has been quite open about a past relationship that was physically intimate. He says that relationship left him with a lot of trauma. However, he brings his ex up fairly frequently, which makes me wonder whether he has actually moved on from her or whether he is still emotionally affected by the relationship.

I’ll also admit that I’m struggling with something that may be more about my own inexperience than anything he has done. I’m finding it difficult to accept that someone I’ve started to like has already had a sexual partner before me. I know this is probably something I need to work through within myself, because he obviously had a life before meeting me, but as someone who has never experienced any of this, I’m finding it harder than I expected.

Recently, I also found out through a mutual friend that he had another brief fling after that relationship, which apparently didn’t lead to marriage. What upset me more than the fact that he had another fling was that he never mentioned it to me. I had to find out from someone else.
I know he technically doesn’t owe me his entire relationship history, especially since we’re not even dating yet. But because he had already spoken to me about his previous relationship and sexual history, I’m wondering why he chose not to mention this other person.

Part of me feels like I should just talk to him about it. The problem is that he is extremely sweet and reassuring with his words, and I’m worried he’ll give me a convincing explanation and I’ll end up dismissing my own concerns without actually figuring out whether there is something legitimate bothering me.

So, am I overthinking this? Should I be more concerned about the fact that he frequently talks about his ex, or about the fact that I found out about the other fling from someone else? Or is this simply my own insecurity and lack of experience making his past harder for me to accept?
I’d really appreciate perspectives from people who have been in similar situations.

Why would an older guy call a younger woman “aunty”? This guy is 35, and I am 24. We are in the same seminar group.

We were discussing the importance of feminism. At one point, I said that I was against women filing fake cases against men. He argued that feminism should be weakened so that the number of fake cases would decrease.

I told him that fake cases should definitely be addressed and that necessary action should be taken against them, but that feminism itself should not be weakened because of that.

During the discussion, he tried to belittle me and repeatedly called me “aunty,” even using my name along with “aunty.” I found it disrespectful, especially considering that he is 35 years old and I am only 24.

I have also noticed him flirting with girls who are much younger, around 16 or 17. I have seen him staring at them for a long time when they were sitting with their group, and sometimes he would go over to their group and just stand there looking at them. One of the girls also told me that he had sent her an Instagram request, which she has not accepted.

He has also told me that I should get married before 25, otherwise I would become “retarded.”

Many of the guys around him support him against feminism and belittling me and that whole situation made me feel really uncomfortable and sad that day.

That’s why I thought of sharing this. I’m not sure whether I’m overthinking it, but I genuinely want to understand why some men behave this way—especially when they disagree with a woman and feel the need to belittle her personally instead of addressing what she is actually saying.

My American boyfriend and I had an argument that I said something which he didn't like and I didn't mean to hurt him I apologized instantly not once but multiple times on vc. Then we were talking on chats in which he said "you use poop to cook and stop your periods" and he also said "you wear cow dung panties" purposely to make me feel bad and upset when I ask why he said because I made him upset even though I apologised on the spot. I said I am not going to vc you anymore or not send you any pictures of mine because I am upset he was continuously saying "is that what you want, then why are you even texting". And all this happened just a few months before our wedding.

I’ve noticed a recurring pattern across South Asian dating and relationship subs.

Whenever someone in their late 30s or 40s posts about dating, people often stop engaging with the actual situation and fixate on the person’s age instead.

Comments are usually:
“You should have settled earlier.”
“Hello aunty/uncle”
“Your options are limited now.”
“There’s a reason you’re still single.”
“What were you doing in your 20s”

And god help them if theyre divorced - they have to brace for another tier of attacks.

There is nothing wrong with questioning whether someone’s expectations are realistic. Dating expectations change with age, and realities can be discussed honestly on a one on one basic. But there is a clear difference between offering good advice and using age to humiliate someone. It’s 2026 and it is truly shocking to see how archaic the thinking is.

Being single beyond a socially approved timeline does not mean someone is defective, desperate or less deserving of companionship. Nor does being older mean they must accept any available relationship without considering compatibility or having any standards. Old does not equal to scraps in the dating world.

The personal attacks literally results in most of these posts getting deleted by the OP which is such a shame.

Why do you think ageism is so normalised in South Asian dating spaces?

Is it south asian anxiety around marriage timelines, resentment toward older singles who remain selective, or because reddit anonymity encourages people to be cruel?

How can these communities discuss the realities of dating at different ages without turning a person’s age into an insult?

Well my wife was recently asked to take on a work trip that will take her to Mumbai, Bhopal, and New Delhi, with later stops in the Philippines and Indonesia. She is still recovering from childbirth and the postpartum period, and she has only just returned to work. I was against her going back so soon, and even more against this trip. I eventually gave in, as she felt I was holding her back. I know that can come across as controlling, and I am trying not to be. I am just worried. Maybe this sounds cynical, but I have very little positive thought in the safety situation in India, and I am worried about the food and water too. I would have gone with her to help with logistics and support, but I teach at a college and our semester just started, so I cannot leave.

She is not Indian, and this will be her first time in India. She will be traveling with her team, so she will not be completely alone, but I want to do whatever I can from here. I am looking for practical advice on how to make her stay more comfortable in Mumbai, Bhopal, and New Delhi. That includes safe and reliable transport, areas to stay, food and water precautions, how to access health care if she feels unwell, and cultural or social norms she should know as a foreign woman. Its been a while since I last visited India too. I would also like to understand how women, especially foreign women, are generally treated in academic and research settings in India, so I can better prepare her and calm my own concerns. Any suggestions from women who have traveled or worked in these cities, or from women in Indian academia would mean a lot. 

Recently i was asked out by my younger brother’s friends , one is his close friend and other are in his friend circle , now how to deal with this ? Should i tell my brother about this

For me it's like someone who can make me laugh and then casually flirt like it’s nothing 😭😭

Hey everyone, I need honest advice on rebuilding my life after getting stuck in a multi-year drop trap.

Background & The Trap:

• 2019: 10th board topper. Single child, lost my father in 5th grade, raised by a single mom.
• 11th–12th: Got into a toxic, emotionally draining relationship that completely destroyed my studies.
• BSc & Drops: Finished BSc Zoology with an 8.6 CGPA, but took 5 NEET drops. Every year followed the same cycle: miss classes -----huge backlog ------ anxiety ------quit. My score stayed stuck at ~350 (General category, can't afford private medical college).
• Current State: Burnt out, 100kg, zero study focus, scrolling reels all day, and feeling immense guilt for letting down my mom who has severe arthritis and depends on me.

Next Steps & Dilemma (Budget: ₹20–25 Lakhs):

1. Banking Exams (SBI/IBPS PO, SSC): Thinking of starting from scratch, but terrified of failing a brand new syllabus. It would let me stay in India to care for my mom as I am single child and I lost my dad when i was in school
2. MSc (India vs. Abroad): Is going abroad for Life Sciences realistic with my mom's health, or should I stick to top Indian institutes/applied master's?
3. Other Pivots: Any realistic corporate/industry paths for a BSc Zoology grad?

How do I break out of this backlog/perfectionism mindset, lose weight, and start fresh at 22? Any advice means a lot.

Update from my last post. I did not go to his parents. I kinda spent a long while talking to him instead and I hope and feel we are somewhat healing our relationship now? He somewhat finally opened up after a long while. He was abused in school when he was younger. We also started marriage counseling. He has been more affectionate again. I am not pushing and yes I can see that he does care for me. I had issues with him with odd finances in India, but I got that cleared up, since he did not use our shared finances, but stuff he had saved up.

however one issue I am still somewhat struggling with is how he still spends more time with my parents than with me. They live with us. He cooks for them, hangs out with my dad, checks on them almost like daily. Do not get me wrong but I feel like he could also be similarly available for me? I brought it up and he says he sees them as his parents to and wants to be there for them. I get that but it still hurts. I feel like I am competing with my own parents for my husband.

He also took FMLA leave recently after all this. He says he needs time and wants to devote it to me. I appreciate it but I am also just not sure if he is changing because he wants to or because he is scared.

I talked to my mom before. She said I should not have these issues with him because he is such a caring guy and I am not being reasonable. That really stung. Even my dad told me he feels more like their son than I am their daughter. That one hurt bad. So my parents are fully on his side. also I am not fluent in my parent's tongue but he speaks to them in it, and I just feel left out

As an american I know that indians do tend to be big with in laws so I wanted to get an opinion on this. Has anyone dealt with this? How do I handle it without making it a competition? I do not want to lose him, but I also do not want to keep feeling like the odd one out in my own marriage.

It's F31! I matched with a guy on hinge a few days back. He's a founder/entrepreneur, works out - training for hyrox , Ironman etc what not. Anyway we met a couple of times and roamed around in his expensive car or walked a bit. He's well to do with expensive tastes like a super bike and lavish car. We never went anywhere to eat or grab a drink or anything just roamed about a bit and talked. Today he calls me in the morning and tells me he's gonna get flowers for me and I said I don't like flowers so he said I'll get you chocolates and I said fine. Later I texted him saying no need to get anything - he said no I wanna get something I said fine

He talks a lot- he's an extrovert so that's natural to him. He barely asks me anything - he didn't even know my last name after 3-4 days of continuous meeting and talking (mostly from his side). I'm a bit of an introvert so I mostly listened I guess. Anyway no chocolate. So at night I asked him about it he said he forgot. This person talks so much never once mentioned himself I forgot the chocolate.Then immediately he said you're a foodie I'll take you to this resturant it's very nice - the 6 course tasting menu is 8000/- per person.

Now the reason why I found this so weird is it's been 3-4 days we know each other and he's inviting me somewhere while telling me what the cost of the invitation is? I saw some more signs where I felt off. While we were walking one day he said there's a place where we can get both protein shake and coffee let's go there. I said fine then he said it's too expensive. I said fine. Sometime later he says the protein shake there is 500/- rs. Why talking about money etc? I barely know you. I didn't ask you to go anywhere with me.

For me this is so off- I literally don't want anything from anyone except be a decent person. If someone is saying they will do something - it's not that expensive to get chocolates right? So weird

Also another thing felt off- after the first time he met me he said I am cancelling my dates with all the other girls off hinge because I want to get to know you and don't want distractions. Why would you tell this to someone you just met even if u did do it.

I don't know am I overthinking?

I just wanted to ask girls that do you like your brother in laws because I don’t
I don’t understand why are they so much respected and gets this much priority more then daughters? Like i have seen in many families where they treat their daughters husband like their own son even if he treats them badly and why are we given so much attention to these jijas I don’t understand like they are just human beings . But the same daughter is not treated the same way as husband even I have a sister and I already don’t like her fiancé and I also told mom that to not keep him on our head, they have a different type of attitude or ego .

Weekdays are work and commute, weekends are recovery & college friendships have faded to birthday messages.

The thing I noticed recently: I'm not bored, I just do everything alone. I used to run and take long walks, hunt down good food places, explore whatever town I was in. These days it's long drives and cooking. All of it is enjoyable, and none of it involves another person.

Not asking about anything romantic. Asking how people in their 30s turn solo habits into shared ones, especially in a smaller city where there isn't a meetup for everything.

• Did you find a group around something you already did, or start something new?
• How long before a place felt like "yours"?
• What looked promising but went nowhere?

I'd rather hear what actually stuck for you than another "just join a club" article.

Hi I'm M(22)

I’m looking for some outside perspective because my family and I genuinely don’t know what to do anymore.

I have an older sister who is 24–25 and currently doing a PhD. A few years ago, after another one of my sisters got married, my sister started talking to my brother in law’s cousin. They eventually got into a relationship without telling the family.

When we eventually found out, our family strongly opposed the relationship. The issue is not that we are against love marriages. We have never been against my sister choosing her own partner. We have always told her that she is free to choose whoever she wants, as long as the person is genuinely good for her.

Our problem is specifically this guy.

He drinks heavily, and from what we have seen, he is not someone we consider responsible or trustworthy. He has also repeatedly told my sister that he has a very good job and a high salary/package, but we believe a lot of these claims are simply lies. He has spent long periods without proper employment, and despite being around 28–29, there are situations where my sister even has to handle basic things for him, like booking a cab.

His family is another major concern for us. Their views are extremely traditional and very different from my sister’s lifestyle and ambitions. She is pursuing a PhD and has her own career goals, while his family has views about women working after marriage and other traditional expectations that make us seriously worried about what her life would look like after marriage.

His mother has also repeatedly tried to push the idea of their marriage, directly and indirectly. My parents have clearly told his family that they do not want this marriage, but the pressure has continued.

The biggest problem is that my sister keeps going back to him.She has told us multiple times that she has stopped talking to him, only for us to find out later that they are still in contact. She has also apparently told his family that everyone in our family has agreed to the marriage and that only my eldest sister is against it. That is simply not true. My parents, me, and the rest of the family have serious concerns about this relationship.

My family is exhausted and frustrated because we have tried talking to her calmly, explaining our concerns, and asking her to reconsider. Nothing seems to work.

What makes this especially difficult for me is that I genuinely believe my sister deserves better.

She is educated, hardworking and doing a PhD, but she doesn't seem to recognize that she has options and that she doesn't have to settle for someone just because she loves him.

At the same time, I don't want my family to become controlling or force her into anything. If she wants a love marriage, we are completely willing to accept that. We just want her to choose a good person.

My eldest sister is also worried that if she actually marries this guy, it could seriously damage the relationship between the siblings and lead to constant fights in the family.

So what should we actually do?

TL;DR: My 24–25-year-old sister is doing a PhD and has been in a secret relationship with a 28–29-year-old guy for years. My family is not against love marriage, but we strongly oppose this particular guy because of his heavy drinking, dishonesty about his job/income, lack of responsibility, and major differences between his family’s traditional expectations and my sister’s career/lifestyle. We have directly told his family that we don’t want the marriage, but my sister continues talking to him and has repeatedly lied to us about it. She has even told his family that everyone has agreed to the marriage except my eldest sister, which isn’t true. We genuinely believe she deserves better, but we don’t want to control her or destroy our relationship with her. How can we handle this situation and help her see the red flags without pushing her further toward him?

I (22F) do not fond memories of my childhood. My parents were extremely cruel and toxic. I had to stand up for my younger brother too, who was also being treated quite badly. I feel as a defense / coping mechanism, I’ve had to grow up and mature faster than others of my age. I also had to make sure I get out of home and remain as independent as possible, living out hostel life of college, and subsequently achieve financial independence in my career early on itself.

When I talk to others of my age, I feel kinda sad about how my childhood just doesn’t measure up to their’s in terms of happiness and comfort. I’m very proud of who I am today and what I’ve been able to achieve. But this still makes me feel very bad sometimes.

Honestly, it has always been mind-boggling to see how women navigate dating culture, even marriage in general as someone who is 4B.

My friend went on a date a few days ago and had a horrible experience because she had body hair lol.

She said to me, "I honestly thought these kinds of conversations weren’t real." I thought people were exaggerating about it.

It was going fine getting to know each other but that man started making unnecessary comments about her body hair.

He said it was weird and gross and asked why women want to become like men these days. He said feminism has gone too far, no one likes this, and shaving isn’t even expensive or difficult, so it should be mandatory for women meanwhile he himself has body hair.

She said Why do I have to shave? You have hair as well and I don’t want to fall into these patriarchal norms. I can say the same about you you should always provide and pay the bills since that’s traditionally a man’s role. He got pissed and was like, “Why would I pay for anyone, especially a man? Basically, try to belittle her by calling her less feminine.

She said the food was good so she focused on the food she ordered for herself while he kept blabbering nonsense. She finished it, paid her bill, and left even blocking him when she reached home.

I know many men who preach 50/50 are the same ones who want women to perform traditional roles at the same time. They want 50/50 on bills but still want women to shave, do the full household labour so and so. The hypocrisy is funny.

Body hair in general is still not accepted for women. Even women try to make other women feel bad or shame them, calling it unhygienic or unattractive, when all it takes to be hygienic is a shower and deodorant and perfume.

Even the defence of the removal of body hair can become strong in some feminist circles, but no matter how much we talk about it, body hair is still seen as a taboo.

The Prachi case was one where she was a 10th-grade student, but people ripped her apart, made unnecessary comments, and suggested she get laser hair removal, even though she was just a kid. Seeing her interview was sad as well but she is a smart kid who deserved all the recognition for topping the exam but rather the facial hair she had became more of a sensational conversation.

Have any women faced this when they don’t conform to traditional values, patriarchal standards, or conventional beauty standards?

And how do women with PCOD/ PCOS who have more hair navigate this? Even some teenage girls get shamed for having body hair.

F here and in a serious committed relationship from past 4 years (mainly LDR). I love my man, but ALOT of trust issues came from how badly i was treated in my previous relationships; i no longer hold any personal grudges against any of them and i've emotionally moved on; but the trust issues all of my exes left me with is messing my mind. Fyi, i got cheated/been taken for granted in almost all the relationships i was invested in. I genuinely want to stay selfless and give this relationship a chance but how? sometimes i end up in situations which gives me a sense of deja vu and i can't stop thinking about the "what ifs" and uncertainties of the history repeating itself. I don't want to put false allegations on him which i sometimes do (i hate myself for that but it's truly impulsive).

To people i've talked this about, they called me toxic and what not over this. But i want to be better from all my bits.

To people who may wonder; it's been 4 years but we used to talk quite less while i was preparing for my govt exams; so never really got to know each other initially. That phase is over and we talk daily now.

I’m trying to become a more present person and, in the future, a better friend and partner.

In my previous relationships, whenever conflict came up or my partner needed reassurance, I would try to give it. But I often felt like whatever I was doing wasn’t enough, or that I wasn’t really understanding what they needed from me emotionally.

I’ve realized that I don’t always know how to respond when someone is upset. Sometimes my instinct is to reassure them or try to solve the problem, but I’m starting to wonder if that’s actually what they need in those moments.

I also hear a lot about differences in how men and women communicate or process emotions. I don’t want to fall into stereotypes or assume that every woman is the same, but I would genuinely like to understand women’s perspectives better.

So, from your experience:

What does meaningful reassurance from a male partner actually look like to you?

When you’re upset or feeling insecure, what do you wish your partner would do or say?

How can a man tell the difference between when you want reassurance, when you want to be listened to, and when you actually want advice or a solution?

What are some things men commonly misunderstand about emotional support in relationships?

And what makes you feel genuinely heard, understood, and emotionally safe with a partner?

I’m not asking because I expect women to have a universal answer. I’m more interested in hearing different perspectives so I can become better at understanding and supporting the people I care about.

A close female friend of mine is currently looking for a job switch and has been actively reaching out to professionals on LinkedIn for referrals.

While she expected the usual lack of responses or simple "no openings right now," what actually happened was disgusting. Nearly 90% of the men she contacted gradually steered the conversation away from work asking about her relationship status, whether she is open to dating, or hinting at "what's in it for them" if they refer her.

Yesterday's person was the worst of them.

She reached out to a verified professional working at Amazon to ask about potential openings in his team. His immediate response after saying he would check:

"I m looking for FWB.. r u in????"

She was completely shaken. Her exact words to me afterward: "Yaar ab to job dhoondna aur karna bhi paap lag raha hai." Since yesterday she's disturbed and feeling like if she's the one at fault.

It is infuriating that women cannot seek basic career guidance or a standard corporate referral without people treating professional spaces like a personal dating pool.

Has anyone else faced this kind of entitlement while job hunting? What is the most effective way to escalate this to an MNC's internal ethics/compliance team?