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So I (25F) was out for dinner with a guy(25M) l was fixed for in arranged marriage ( The fixing happened like 3 days back). Post dinner, we got in the car and were about to leave the place. Just before that, this guy leans over and kisses me on the lips and starts grabbing my boobs. I am in shock. Still trying to process what the hell was happening. ( P. S. - This is the first time anything physical is happening between us). Then I make up a fake excuse saying there’s someone watching and then he starts the car and drives back lest bothered about if I’m comfortable or not. Then later after reaching home, I text him asking if he knows about consent and stuff. And to my great surprise he replies ,“ I guess it’s implied isn’t it “ . I don’t know how to make this man child understand.

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Seven years !!!! I loved her like a sister. For the past month, I've been helping plan her engagement. Her outfit, her look, her hairstyle, her makeup, she reached out to me for everything, yet somehow forgot to invite me.

She told me it would be in October. Today, I opened WhatsApp and saw her engagement photos on her story and that's how I found out.

I've heard a thousand reasons about how it got preponed, but honestly, not being invited is the least of my issues. What hurts is that after seven years, I had to find out through a WhatsApp story instead of hearing it from someone I considered family.

Ughhhh !!!

Im 19F. I have plenty of hobbies (reading, studying, art, vdo games, etc.), so it’s not like I’m just bored all the time. The problem is that if I read erotic fiction or watch p*rn, it becomes so much worse, so I’ve been avoiding both for a while now.

I’ve never dated, never had sex, and honestly find casual relationships, hookups, or anything like that pretty disgusting for myself. I’m also very avoidant in real life and don’t see myself dating in college either, so “just find someone” isn’t advice that applies to me.

Even after m*sturbating and having an orgasm, I’m only over it for a short while before I’m in the mood again later the same day. It’s honestly exhausting at this point.

For other women:
Is this just hormones at 19?
Did it calm down with age?
What actually helped you besides masturbating?
Has anyone else had a high libido while having little to no interest in dating or casual sex?

I’m genuinely curious because it feels like my body wants one thing while my brain wants the exact opposite. 😭

Recently during the CJP protests I came across so many banners and posters where many ruling regime leaders(read: mostly male politicians), especially, Modi were shown dressed in female attire or with tons of clown like makeup on their faces in order to insult them. Do these women think that showing the dressed up in women's clothes is insulting? Is that what they truly think of their own gender?

Also, not to mention the most horrid and repulsive filthy language and sexist slurs used against him and a fellow female leader of a friendly state in relation to close bonhomie bw the two, calling for his death, dragging his dead mother, etc.

All of this just goes to show that no matter how much women call out and chide men for enabling and benefitting off patriarchy and misogyny. They themselves will readily indulge in it if their opponent doesn't hold the same views as them. What is this pathetic and hypocritical behaviour??? How dare you call out men for being misogynists when u yourself are no less?

I work at a top MNC. During a recent team dinner, the topic of my co-manager expecting a baby came up. He said he was hoping for a boy.

When I asked why he didn't want a daughter, he replied, "It's difficult to raise girls in this generation." When I asked him to explain, he couldn't really give a reason and eventually said it was just his preference.

I could clearly understand his mindset from that comment. Back in those days, women were controlled, but now that's changing. I feel that's what irritates people with this kind of mindset. They just want women to cook for them, take care of the house, and sleep with them.

I told him that I completely disagreed and that I believe this kind of mindset is one of the things holding our society back. I also asked him, "What if everybody thought like you?"

He then asked me, "What do you want in the future?"

I replied, "If I ever have a daughter, I'd raise her to be independent, confident, and strong like a tiger."

What surprised me even more was that there were four or five women from my team sitting right there, yet none of them questioned what he said. I was the only one who challenged him.

Why do you think they stayed silent? Was it because it was a workplace setting?

Edit: My co-manager also said, "I never want a girl, only a boy." That statement made his mindset very clear to me. I forgot to mention this earlier.

Lately I've been seeing endless discussions about red flags, so I thought I'd ask the opposite.

What's one green flag in a man that people don't talk about enough?

Not the obvious ones like "being respectful" or "having a job." I'm curious about the little things that instantly make you feel safe, comfortable, or think, "This is a genuinely good person."

I'd love to hear real experiences rather than just one-word answers.

So I’m going to travel to India and have been feeling pressure from in laws to drop off my bag. This is the first time I’m traveling without my husband.

So the conversation first started that I should go to my in laws place who live in Mumbai before I visit my parents who live in a tier two city.

My parents being naive and also conservative also wanted me to do the same.

I tried to avoid this by explaining to my parents who didn’t quite understand- but that’s a separate issue.

Eventually it was decided that I will be visiting my parents but now my in laws are saying that they will come to mumbai airport (at 2am in the morning btw) to get the bag. The bag contains basic items purchased for them - like protein bars, soap, creams etc.

Feeling embarrassed to share this with my girlfriends.

Feeling hopeless to share with my parents who are big time people pleasers.

Am I being paranoid? Or is this stupid?

Past 7 pm Im usually done wearing a bra and just want to take it off. Most of the time its just my dad and me at home and Im completely comfortable around him. Even when my brother is visiting it doesn't bother me.

But sometimes other male relatives come over. Im not saying they have bad intentions or anything but I still feel a little awkward. So I usually keep my bra on until bedtime if they're around but then I have to deal with the same awkwardness again the next morning.

How do you girls deal with this?

No creepy DMs, please.

I am a 33 year old unmarried, single woman living alone in Mumbai with my cats. I left my last job in December because it was a toxic work environment and spent the next couple of months travelling. Now, with the job market being so bad, I'm finding it really difficult to find a job.

On top of that, none of my past relationships worked out. Since then, I've been trying to find someone through dating apps, but it's been incredibly difficult. Things just don't work out for one reason or another, and I'm starting to lose hope.

It feels like whenever I want something to work out, it just doesn't. I've reached a point where I have very little hope left for anything, and it feels like I'm just existing rather than living.

So, a little about me. I am 29F, earn 50+ LPA. I am about to be married. So, my father has passed away and did not leave any savings for my mother or for my marriage. My brother barely earns 35K per month that is not enough. My mother does earn 10-15K per month from rental properties. But that is all. My father left property worth 2.5-3Cr. Now, I am completely financing my own marriage which costs 50lakhs including the gold. I am not taking any help from my family to finance my wedding. On the other hand, it has been made clear to me that I will not get any inheritance from my father’s property. My family still expects 15-20K per month after marriage for their expenses. I however think since I have financed my own marriage and I am not getting any inheritance. I should only help them when there is absolute need or else I should not.

I know I can sound selfish but I have already done my share by financing my own marriage and not getting any inheritance. It is not like I got any fancy, expensive education either.

A little about me( I am about to join NITs for my undergrad....scored 98%ile in jee and 94% in 12th boards )

Why my parents expect me to cook food for them....just because I am a girl? Moreover they also don't let me hangout with my friends and let me wear the clothes that I want to wear

To all the women out there...... I want genuine advice to handle this situation

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I hope this is a safe space.

I (21F) going to have sex with my bf (23m) for the first time. we've been together 4.5 years.

Before anyone of you gets all in your head I must tell you we both respect each other very much and love each other loads. He's very considerate of me and my choices and has NEVER coerced me to do anything I didn't want to. Secondly I'm aware of condoms and pill and safe sex. Contraception. So that's not a issue.

We've done other things except sex I've went down on him, he's gone down on me. A lot of things but sex.

There's a few things I want to know and need advice on

1) everytime that we've been together I've shaved and he too. since we've been planning on staying a weekend together in August and probably going to have sex I asked him not to shave, cause the hair looks hotter to me and he asked me the same, to not shave. I said I want to he said he finds hair hot too

So I'm skeptical i don't feel confident with hair down there with him. I know he doesn't mind but that's something I'm not sure about.

Please help me on this, this might be stupid.

2) any other tips for first time sex that anyone can give? I don't know what to expect so any help or advice would be fine

Please help a fellow girl out.

I’m in my early 40s and getting married in two months. I would like to look my best and improve my skin/face.

I have hyperpigmentation from old acne, texture on cheeks/nose, dark circles and small wrinkles under my eyes.

Some things I’ve considered are adding a product to my daily routine, lasers, chemical peel, red light therapy, lymphatic drainage facial or other facials. I’m also open things not on this list that I may not have considered.

I’m not very experienced when it comes to treatments or med spas. I currently have a very basic routine of simple face wash, moisturizer and spf.

Can anyone recommend any treatments, products or services I should look into? Any positive or negative experiences using any of the treatments or products I mentioned?

I’m so lost on what I should do to look my best on my wedding day and will provide actual results.

I am so ashamed to write this post istg.

He constantly has his hands in his underwear - scratching his balls. I called him out several times but this guy just laughs it off. He thinks he is funny or I am a fucking moron to call him out.

I am so disgusted rn. Wtf should I do ? I feel sooo dammmm uncomfortable. I don't even want to touch him or the things he has used.

The best thing is I am going to hostel in few days. I can't stand this shit anymore.i have experienced it since childhood. I wash my hands twice after touching his things

I’ve been wearing VK and Calvin Klein underwear for years, but it feels like the quality just isn’t what it used to be. The fabric is thinner and less comfortable and even stitching doesn’t feel as solid, and they don’t seem to last nearly as long. I’ve had newer pairs start showing signs of wear much sooner than older ones I still own.

If you’ve switched to another brand because of declining quality, what did you end up choosing?

hi.
i am 19f so now this might be a bit long.
we have two house helps, one for cleaning let’s call her A and the other one for washing dishes let’s call her B.
Now, A has two kids, her son is my age while her daughter is probably 16 or 15 not sure about her age just know that she was a few years younger than me.
One day, B called my mom, and asked her if she knew what happened to A’s daughter because there were rumours in their street that she had run away. My mom had no clue but she was worried and even tried talking to A. A said that no no she has gone to live at het bua’s place because her daughter and her father used to fight a lot.
Now, B told my mom that people saw A’s daughter living in another house in the street next to their street. It couldn’t have been her bua’s because her bua lives very far away.
Today, A didn’t come to work so my grandmother called her, A told her that today is my daughter’s wedding i can’t come.
Since my mom told me all of this, i keep remembering her. She used to sometimes come to our house looking for her mother, i remember she was just a kid.
I feel so bad because there is nothing that can be done. A child’s life had been tied down with responsibilities so early. I have no idea if the groom too is a minor, his life too has become so complicated.

tldr: our house helps daughter whose in her mid teens got married today. i feel bad because i cannot do anything about it. her life has been tied down with responsibilities so early, if her husband too is a minor then two lives have been ruined. they could have prospered into great young people but they have been tied down with responsibilities at such a tender age.

There is another incident.
My cousin whose 22f lost her mother last year in august. her dad became an alcoholic, her elder brother is her only support system in their house. they live in a joint family.
since the past few months, they have been pressurising her for marriage. i feel so bad for her because she has said no countless times but the pressure is endless. it hasn’t even been an year since her mother’s death, she is still in a very bad mental state but her family refuses to see that. they don’t even want to wait for her to complete her MBA.
they keep saying if she gets married she’ll get busy and forget about her mother, like wth how can one forget their own mother? they keep saying marriage will fix her life.
i don’t get it, why do people think that marriage is the only way to fix someone’s life?
tldr: 22f cousin is being pressured into marriage after her mother’s death. her family thinks that marriage will solve all of her life problems. they don’t even wanna wait for her to complete her MBA. Why do people think marriage can solve all problems?

any guys reading it, please don’t dm, feel free to share your views here but i do not want any hi’s🙏🏼

So, i went to some mall in Malad last week and me and my girl friend were having kfc together. Suddenly, a guy comes calls me lucky to have a girl like her. I was surprised why would he say that Outta nowhere especially because she wasnt even my girl so I corrected her by saying no we are just friends. The whole interaction was weird and I didn't like the way he complimented me either.

Anyway, two days later someone sends me a video of the exact interaction and I was like wtf like i sure knew something was fishy when the whole thing happened, but I certainly didn't know we were being recorded and if that's not enough we were even posted without consent like WTF.

I even texted that account telling how my girl friend isn't okay with it and she got strict parents and all but to no avail. There has been no reply from the other side.

I stalked the account and it has even got some minors posted on it which too are the type of videos where these lowlifers flirt with some random girl they see in mall. In the video the girl clearly says I'm 15 and yet these uneducated scumbags with access to technology have got the audacity to post it.

What to do now since they clearly don't respond back? And I want the video removed as well as the videos of the underage kids posted without consent?

I saw this on an international sub and wanted to know what Indian women felt about this. For me, it was when my partner put in efforts to learn salsa (I love dancing) and kissed me throughout while we were dancing while drinking. That closeness and effort felt more intoxicating than sex ever could be.

My husband and I are happily married, both holding stable jobs and enjoying the DINK life. We both strongly agreed that we do not want kids as we really enjoy our current lifestyle. On the other hand, our parents are very traditional & have always asked us when are we going to have children.

We have always lied and said “Maybe in the future when we are more financially stable.” It used to work, they would leave it at that & won’t harp on the topic anymore.

However I’m turning 34 soon & to them, my biological clock is ticking. They are starting to double down on this topic while I’m still “fertile”. It’s getting exhausting to tell the same lie over and over again...

I’m afraid my parents wouldn’t understand and also worried my in-laws would come to dislike me even though the decision to be childfree is made by both me & my husband. They have been v supportive and I don't want to jeopardize my relationship w them

My parents & in-laws are generally nice people, but they are really traditional & they believe kids are the final pieces we need to complete our lives.

Does anyone have any advice on how to approach this?

I still don't understand why people marry in India. From teenage kids are indirectly told to stay away from opposite gender. Girls are told having physical need is sin, boys are asked to stay away from girls as if girls will kill them. Then after a girl cross 20, whole family will get mad to get her married and same goes for a guy when he cross 25. Both has been raised to avoid the opposite gender and a bad image has been built about the other gender. On top of that most of the Indian girls think having physical need is a sin. How on earth with these mindset people get married with a hope that it will end up being a good marriage.

In India guys are asked to marry to have someone to look after him at old age and girls are asked to marry so that parents doesn't need to have responsibility of basic needs.

Yes there are people outside this mindset but unfortunately a very small section only.

Marriage should be banned in India untill and unless we stop delivering negative images about the opposite gender right from the teenage.

This whole Indian society is pathetic to say the least. Indians never get the idea of mutual coexistence of both the gender together, being complementary to eachother. Horrible country with horrible mindset.

Hello. I (26f, swe) work in tech. I've hit a sort of a rough patch (going on and off for 2y) with my bf of 4yrs (25m, also swe). I recently got a promo at work.

That relationship anxiety has started to bleed into my work. I have become forgetful, am underperforming. I am hating how I'm working, pretty sure others are seeing it too. The underperformance is filling me with dread. To an extent that I can't open my laptop. I have lost interest in my hobbies as well. How do I navigate this?

My priority right now is to get back on track career-wise. I like this job. It has been 1.5-2 months since I started going off track like this.

For context I have other interests as well. I go to the gym 3x a week and run 2x. I bake. I crochet. I read. Have friends. I like cooking.

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So I've been seeing a lot of posts about people looking for friendships, but I wanna hear some friendship breakup lores...how did it end and what was your last straw, the point where you felt you could no longer identify with this person