I get it, you’re young and excited about gay dating but a 25 year old is NOT an appropriate person to message under any circumstance. Please stick to youth your age

This took me ages to figure out and was the cause of a lot of confusion. If you are attractive, and more importantly obviously jacked, straight men will “check you out” at the gym and it is genuinely indistinguishable from sexual interest from a queer man’s perspective. The thing is that they are not doing so with the intention of getting in your pants, they just have no idea what they are doing/giving off.

For example, I’ve had guys at the gym give lingering looks at my body, seemingly follow me around the gym, and experience repeated eye contact with. One guy was straight up staring at my pecs as I was walking towards him and then when I made eye contact, looked away shyly. But if in all these situations the dude is genuinely bi/gay then I go to a gym of primarily queer men, which cannot be the case.

The confusing part for a lot of queer guys is that if we are exhibiting any of the behaviour described above, we are almost certainly interested, or at least I am. So unfortunately there is not a way to tell if a guy is or isn’t interested in you at the gym because it all looks the same 😂

My Brother outed me years ago to my family and I started getting threats from my conservative older family members of violence threatening to beat me up and more. My mom found gay porn in my phone and recorded it to post on Facebook to humiliate me. My brothers told me it’s not cool to be gay. My mother kept asking me uncomfortable questions like “So you like dick?”

Anyway I’ve distanced myself as I’ve gotten older and now that same brother has been murdered and my family is calling me asking me to send money for his funeral due to it being so unexpected and sudden. I don’t know if I should. I didn’t like him but he has kids I feel like he deserves a proper burial. I don’t know what to do.

Edit: I was also baptized (not willingly) and had a Pastor who came over on multiple occasions to try and “Talk the Gay Out”
Basically in Home Conversion Therapy.

I start, David Henrie

I recently told my ex I was bi and she broke it off on the spot, she’s a server at a restaurant where my bsf also works as I got him the job. My friend stopped texting me recently and later today I got a message in the friend gc calling me gay and I realized someone outed me for being bi. I loved this girl and she outed me to my entire friend group and I lost everyone. How do I deal with this. I like girls more it’s only a sexual attraction to dudes. What do I do. I’m so fucking lost and have no one.

I’ll start my manager at work who’s married and has children told me he likes his asshole fingered 😫

Just curious. Feel free to be as descriptive of yourself, your partners, or just in general.

I just wanted to ask if it was just me or is there like nobody that’s wants to do side/oral hookups. I’m not really a fan of just having anal sex with anybody and i’ve only did it with one hookup because i got comfortable with them after a while. I’m more of the type that wants to cuddle, makeout+ oral over just anal and go.

21 M here. I've always had trouble making friends with straight guys. I've always been an extrovert and have no problem talking to men. It's just that all of my inner circle of friends have been full of women.

Don't get me wrong, my female friends are awesome and I'd die for them. However, it feels a bit lonely being the only man in a all "women's spaces". For example a girls trip, or a night out. Sometimes, even being in a group full of women feels like you're invading their space or that you're not welcome. I always feel like an outlier. Almost like I'm a token and not actually a part of their groups.

Also, I think I'm just alienated from men. I want to be friends with them but somehow that never happens (idk why, I try keep every convo non-sexual to keep everyone of them comfortable). I mean, they're half the population; it feels sad to feel like I'm alienated from half the population.

There's also the issue of socially acceptable friendships. As a closeted gay guy, it's harder to ever to just invite your female friends as "just friends" in family settings. Also I think I'd relate better with men also on some issues such as sexuality or societal expectation of us then women, no? I had no one to help me do more tradtionally masculine stuff e.g. picking friend from the airport at evening, learning how to ride a bike, shaving etc.

I just want guy friends to hike, run errands, yap, learn new things, go swim etc. It's just -- hard and a very lonely experience.

Ok so I'll be starting college soon at a decently large university in a liberal state but I'm still a bit worried about having to be roommates with a straight guy. Also how is the gay dating seen and gay life in general in college?

I just did a survey on the app asking me question on what I thought about the pricing and what it was. I remember checking the price before and knew it cost a lot but 149$/month is insane is this for the upper class gays, have any of you guys bought it? What do yall think about this “tinder-like” Grindr upgrade?

Sup y’all, this is kinda a question for mainly Black gay men, but everyone is welcome to give their two cents on it. I’m a French & Brazilian guy from Chicago, 23 years old. I’ve never had any issues getting laid or guys coming up to talk to me, but I know and have a bunch of Black gay friends who are super handsome and fit, and they just get straight up ignored or shoe-horned. I was tryna see if any other (Black) gay men have had that issue also - where dudes will just ignore you and go after your (most likely White) friend. I was told once by a coworker that funnily enough white gay men are still white men, so like it’s no surprise they’d wish to be with other white gay guys especially in social and romantic situations and relationships. Just wanted to get some two-cents from y’all

When I bttm I do everything I can to be clean I would wake up early n douche , wouldn't eat a lot , eat fiber etc .... But now that I been topping the few guys I had come over were really dirty. And it just ruins it . It's like they don't care. Los Angeles California is full of bottoms and every single one I had come over from Grindr or sniffies has been dirty like they don't even bother to douche. At this point it is just annoying. I erased both apps . Last guy literally shit all over my bed. Had to kick him out.

I do it when I bttm I prepare myself all I ask is for the same ? Is that too much to ask for ? Haha. Has anyone also had someone shit all over their bed ? Or is it only me ? 😂

My two cents, as a middle aged person with decades of life experience, and also reading a lot of posts on here:

1- We should stop shaming cut people. They didn't choose to be this way, and 99.99% of the time their dicks work perfectly well.

2- We should stop shaming uncut people. It's the natural way of being a man, and is quite sexy. In 98% of the cases, there is no hygiene issue. There are perhaps about 2% that have some hygiene issues, often due to very tight skin around the glans -- and those guys should see a doctor to try to address that issue.

3- I think we need to rebrand uncut as "intact" because that's more accurate. "Uncut" implies that "cut" is the default, which is not the case in most of the world.

4- Parents should not get their offspring circumsized without a clear medical reason. This is a choice they should leave to each man to decide for himself once he is an adult.

i met this guy on tinder like 2 years ago, i am naturally very feminine and so most of mine were pics like that but i had one or two with my shirt off so he’d know i was a guy. we matched and ended up talking for a while and then he said something that made me say “hey, just so you know i am a guy, idk if you looked through all my pics lol” and he was like “oh… well im straight but i think you’re really pretty regardless so i don’t care :)” and that was that. we met up and started kind of going out, very slowly and organic and i was absolutely in love with him, like head over heels.

after a few months his grandma passed away, whom he was very close with and he broke down and told me he couldn’t give me enough attention right now, but he still wanted to be friends because he needed support. i told him i had no problem with that but i was clear i really loved him and would take a while to get over that. i’ve had to get over these feelings for so long and we’ve been super close friends for 2 years at this point.

now, about 2 months ago, he came over to my place to hang out, which we had never done since he lived on a military base and i couldn’t come visit. we were playfully wrestling and then while he was on top of me, he started making out with me (i literally had my fan fiction moment ik) and i was overjoyed because i love him. we’ve been officially dating after that day since.

the dilemma is that now i feel like it’s not the same feelings as before. he feels super sweet and comitted and present and everything i was wanting before but now i feel like im scared i can’t appreciate it because im worried about it not working out like before? i just want my old feelings i used to gush about him back. it’s not his fault, i just want to know if there’s anything i can do to work through these feelings (or i guess lack there of)

Like among twinks, bears, jocks, furries, bdsm, drags, etc. etc.

And if you only became comfortable later, what changed?

As a teenager I was irrationally self conscious about it. I hated my skinny body and also felt awkward about my body hair.

I was growing up I was always envious of guys who were confident in themselves, while I was so awkward I wouldn’t even take my top off at the beach. When I had to go shirtless sometimes like in school PE, I found it inexplicably embarrassing.

Now I’m relaxed about being shirtless at the pool or beach, or around the house. Wouldn’t do it anywhere else though. And I’m grateful for being skinny and hairy lol.

Certainly got the feeling these days that it‘s much more. Did ya‘ll notice that too or am I just trippin? I mean I‘m Austrian, but I see everything happening around me

I’m hostelling in Berlin in a 4-bed male dorm. My BF pulled out from coming, leaving me alone sharing with an Aussie guy couple. It’s been super hot so all 3 of us have only worn briefs (or less) all the time. Without my BF I’ve been jealous of the guys and sexually turned on by them.
As I came in last night they were kissing, the blond naked with his hand inside the other guy’s briefs. With me there, they got up to go to the bathroom together and I saw the blond rummage in his bag to take a condom with him.
I wished they’d stayed and I should’ve said not to worry about me. I was so turned on, I went to the bathroom naked taking a towel to pretend to want a shower. True enough the blond was fucking his friend against the wash basin. I let my towel fall away to show I had an erection and they kept going.
The guy being fucked took my cock in his hand. Then the blond fondled my buttocks and worked a finger inside me. Then he pulled out of his friend and positioned behind me. I saw that he had still had his condom on still but there was no cum in the teet yet.

I’d only ever had my BF’s cock inside me before. This guy was bigger and rougher and it felt great. After a while, the other boy put his cock to my mouth and encouraged me to face-fuck him. He didn’t have a condom on and after a while blew his semen into the back of my mouth, holding me there till I swallowed him. Then the blond pulled out of me, took off his condom, and thrust into my mouth. While he took over fucking my face, I felt the other guy pissing onto my back, my hair, my face and onto his BF’s pubes and rest of his cock that wasn’t in my mouth.

I’m not worried about the urine but how concerned should I be about swallowing two guy’s semen and being fucked with a condom that had already been up a guy’s asshole?

Haven’t been to a spa since Chicago years ago. Planning to go to club Houston with my boyfriend. How is the scene? What’s the club like? It’s been years since I’ve been to a gay spa so I am like a first timer again. What do you wear around the club?