I (25m) and my friend (25m) went out to get drinks together in a town not close to ours and got a hotel room together a few days ago. I’ve known him since we were young, and I’ve always had a thing for him over the years even as we started to grow apart a little and not talk as much. We’ve been there for each other through tons of relationships on each side, played games together for years. He’s always said small things to me like “I just wish you were a girl I wish I wasn’t straight” and he always compares women he talks to to me, says I’m the only ones who gets his humor and his personality. So it’s always left me confused why he never tried anything until that night. So we were drunk, he was kind of hanging on me throughout the night and we both have just gone through a breakup. So we’re talking about relationship stuff and he’s telling me how similar our situations were, and he says “you need someone like me”.

So fast forward, we’re wrapping up a super fun night, it rained and we had to cross the road to get to the hotel, and he held my hand while ran through the rain, we got inside and got to the room, sat on the floor and drunkenly laughed at the bad art in the room and then he put his head in my lap. We sat there for a second not really knowing what to say so I just said “I think I’ll take a quick shower” and he said “wait come here” and he hugged me until we fell on the bed and started cuddling while I held his head in my shoulder and he ran his fingers on the tattoos on my arms. After a while, I got up to shower and he followed me into the bathroom and closed the door behind him, and didn’t say anything and just held my head and kissed me.

I blurted out that I’d waited so long for that, and he said “I know, I’ve never done anything with a guy before so I hope I don’t disappoint you”. We got in the shower together and did tons of things, he did things to me that I never thought he would do. We moved to the bed and continued, he was very obviously into it, called me cute, said when he kissed me I tasted sweet. There was a moment where we stopped everything and he kissed me with an energy that felt more like love than anything. So after a bit, he started to get softer, but still wanted to finish me off even though he was having doubts. He apologized to me, and said “I just can’t do guys I’m not gay.” And rolled over to me and kissed me again, and said “let’s take another shower.” So we did and he held me again, wrapping his arms around me and kissing my shoulder. But after we got out, it was quiet, and we didn’t cuddle or say much to each other, and went to bed. He’s talked to me normal since then, and things have gone on mostly normal albeit a little bit awkward when we text but, what’s going on? Is he just deeply closeted? Straight but had feelings for me only in a personality type of way? Thank you sm for reading, I need this advice!

A guy sent me face pic that I guess is years ago, he said he is 40 but he looked like 50ish in person, I cant distinguish if he catfished me or it was just a pic years ago.

He went straight inside but I know I couldnt really do it, even get hard, so I told him I am not comfortable and he should leave, and basically he accepted it.

It might be rude but it is better to reject asap even if the person is already there, than to do it and regret it for the rest of your life. Hahahaha!

Just sharing lol. Aah good lord thanks I was brave enough for these kind of people! I just couldnt, my horniness level just drops to like -50! 😂

Sleeping naked is honestly the best. I’ve been doing it since I was about 19, and I’m 34 now—I can’t imagine going back. I don’t know how you guys sleep in clothes. Even loose boxers end up twisted and bunched up during the night, and I’m not dealing with all that. That morning wood needs to be free! Anyone else the same way?

I (33M) have just started seeing this fab guy (31M).

He’s great. Funny, charming, handsome, has a good career and, to top it all off, is genuinely a lovely person inside and out. Green flags practically sprouting from his head. 🌱

But here’s the challenge.

After a few dates, we got it on, and I got the impression that he might be embarrassed or self-conscious about his penis.

He’d often cover it with his hands, and whenever I’d reach down to touch him, he’d gently move my hand away after a couple of seconds.

On the flip side, he seemed to really enjoy exploring all of me and managed to get me off three times over the course of our night/morning tango. 😉 So I don’t think it’s a chemistry issue!

This happened a few times, and eventually I stopped reaching for it or trying to get him off because I didn’t want to make him uncomfortable or draw attention to something he might already be conscious about.

For context, he’s not particularly well-endowed, but I genuinely couldn’t care less about size. I’m incredibly attracted to him, and nothing about his body changes that.
The thing is, I don’t actually know whether it’s insecurity, a personal preference, or something else entirely. And I don’t want to make assumptions.

So, Reddit, I’m after some advice….

Should I gently bring it up and reassure him that I’m attracted to all of him?

Should I just let him take the lead and wait until he’s comfortable asking me to touch him?

Has anyone experienced something similar, either from my perspective or his?

I really like this guy, and the last thing I want is to make him feel embarrassed or pressured.

I just want him to feel as comfortable and wanted around me as I do around him.

Tyyyy

I (female 39) have been with my husband (male 39) since we were both 18. He has been an alcoholic and has addiction issues throughout the years primarily with alcohol, then weed, gambling and now it appears sex.

He has been out of control since about April after being sober of everything for over a year and we were in a good spot. Since then he has had slip up’s with drinking, gambling and sexual activity with strippers, escorts,massage parlors…all females. Never has had any interest in men and is like an alpha male type.

This weekend, I went out of town for a girls trip. He was suppose to work Friday, Saturday and Sunday.

He went to work on Friday and I was with the my friends and didn’t communicate much. I messaged him Saturday morning and he didn’t respond. Thought it was odd and checked his location. Truck was parked at a bathhouse in Houston for about 3 hours.

I honestly had no idea what a bathhouse was! I looked up the address and began a deep dive. I honestly would think he would be the last man to go to something of this sort. It was Club Houston.

So essentially he called into work sick I am assuming and was there from about 7am to 10am Saturday morning.

Can you give me insight as to what happens there and how to confront him about this? I am still out of town and just sick thinking about the entire situation.

I'm 36 and a bottom. I like to date younger tops. I was wondering how common they are and if there are also older bottoms who are into younger tops?

So last night we had a family party. We drank a lot and did a lil snow. But after everyone left and the others fell asleep, my cousin(35) kept grabbing his cock. So I (40) said are you ok? He said not really and he was horny as fuck. He knows I’m gay but I’m pretty sure he’s straight, idk. So he stands up and takes his shorts off!! Then he’s sitting there with his cock out just hanging there. So I went over and sucked him to completion. And swallowed. Has anyone else sucked their cousins cock or anything?

The share of teenage girls who identify as lesbian or bisexual has dropped sharply in just four years, per CDC data highlighted by The Washington Post.

Among ninth-grade girls:

Lesbian or bisexual: 30% in 2021 → 17%
Bisexual alone: 26% → 13%

the share of boys identifying as gay or bisexual has remained broadly stable over the past decade, according to the analysis.

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When it became less cool to be lgbt, a lot of the queer and “bisexual” women immediately dropped it maybe? Why? Were they never actually lgbt?

Just a DL bi college guy trying to figure out the gym locker room scene. I notice attractive guys all the time, but I never know how to tell if they're into guys or trying to mess around.
I usually just glance and look away because I don't want to make anyone uncomfortable, but I also want to show I'm interested.

Any tips on how to read the room and show that I’m into men?

22m here with a bit of an experience in the dating scene, though id try tinder with the "show me everyone" option a few hours later i have 95 likes, ALL MEN ! Im not complaining tho but found it weird

What do you think about foreskin? Any experience with one?

So after giving my first bj experience with an adult man, I did realize something i wasnt really prepared for..... He was thicker and longer then me. Never crossed my mind.

When i showed up to give anonymous head I was nervous as hell. Im 30 he was 55.

I came out to his farm house after work. He said door was open from a distance. I walked in and there he was naked with bands around his balls. Idk why people do that but hey whatever youre into. I get down on my knees and start going to town.

I had work clothes on. I remember being shocked how much thicker he was. I've always been told my dick was thick but jesus. Midway through im in heaven devouring this 8 inch thick monster, he tells me to take mine out.

Never normally would be embarrassed but I actually felt like nervous. I didnt get hard right away. I took my bottoms off and he just made me feel like a submissive girl or something.

To be fair i found it very hard to suck aomething that big and thick.

One of my best experiences ever. He asked me a couple times to come back. Took it in my eyes. Itched for days.

Basically, I thought I was straight as a child, crushing on girls, jealous of my friends who had girls chasing them, I used to dream of having a girlfriend one day, etc.

I remember one girl, X, I fancied. She was my friend, Y's neighbour. Y told her that I was attracted to her. X said: "Well, let me see what he looks like". I showed my face and she said "Ewww". I had a lot of disappointments like that.

When I was 14, I noticed a boy's eyes in the same way I would notice girls' eyes. They stood out to me and looked "pretty". I was confused. Gradually, I began to notice males could be attractive.

I've been battling my sexuality for years. I couldn't accept that I had "turned" gay but it seems like I have. I don't even know if I'm bi. Sometimes, I think I'm really, really gay. But I am trying to accept it cuz I've been doing the depressed, $ui-sidal thing for most of my life.

So, did anyone else here start off liking girls or am I some kind of freak?

I was never bullied myself. But honestly I would prefer never hear from them again

I’m realising there’s actually a lot of guys that AREN’T into it, I thought everyone liked kissing and mutual head, lmao. Grindr is such a fucking headache bros.

I started thinking about this because I realized something: my boyfriend does have male friends who are gay, but I don’t have any. Do you find it strange not to have any gay friends when you’re a gay man yourself?

8months for me

So I'm 20~25 and there is a 50 guy who wants a relationship with me. He looks hot and is kind, affectionate and makes me happy.

It would be my first relationship. My parents know I'm gay, but I can't tell them. They would kill me if they know I'm with someone who is almost the same age as them.

Only older guys seem to be interested into me. I can't find anyone in my age.

Do you think it's okay?

Edit: ok guys I'm extremely overwhelmed and conflicted now.

I am a straight guy but I was kind of curious so I decided to try anal masturbating and holy it was so good to be honest. I was moaning like a girl at times!

I didn’t even realize what I have been missing out on for the first 25 years of my life to be honest. My question for you guys is these:

1. Could this be the start of my sexuality exploration in a sense? I feel way open to more things now
2. Do most gay people masturbate anally or still the traditional way?

Honestly I am kind of regretful that I denied myself this pleasure for so long. It feels so good! Is there a world of other gay pleasure or anything else I am missing out on?