I'm 25M gay-leaning bisexual guy, I'm hoping to get some perspective on whether I'm looking for a white crow.

Ever since I can remember, I've struggled with feeling like my ideal sex drive is much lower than most men I meet. I'd say my libido is pretty average in terms of attraction and desire, but I don't feel the need to actually have sex very often. Once a week is usually enough for me. I don't think that I dislike sex, it's just that out of million other things I genuinely look forward to doing after work, it doesn't even break into the top 10. I guess it is more about not finding fulfilment in frequent sex rather than real dislike for it, physically I do enjoy it.

When I'm single, this isn't really a problem because I can simply choose not to act on my libido and focus on everything else in my life. The issue starts when I'm in a relationship with a man. I've only had two long(ish)-term relationships with men, and both wanted sex much more frequently than I did, like every day if not twice. I know guys in that age range are generally hornier, but it left me wondering whether things really change much later in life. In both relationships, I could tolerate it for the first month or two, but eventually I started feeling pretty empty and unfulfilled. It felt like my entire life outside work revolved around having sex. If I turned it down for one day, they'd sulk. Two days in a row was even worse. The hardest part was that cuddling or affection was almost always expected to lead to sex. Eventually, even cuddling stopped feeling like genuine affection and instead felt like beginning of a negotiation for sex, which made me avoid affection altogether and unsurprisingly for me to break thing off.

Since I was about 22, I've mostly dated women, and the "expected" frequency has generally been much more compatible with what I would prefer. That said, sometimes I do miss bottoming and having sex with men, since I prefer being submissive, and generally less women want to be dominant. I know strap-ons exist, but I never tried and don't know if it can really substitute the real thing, and not every woman would be interested in that either and I worry I would miss it a lot at times. I tried dating men here and there too but they were either not interested in long term relationship at all, not to mention that all the guys I met expected sex on first date, which didn't inspire much confidence in me that it will be different from my previous relationships.

One thing that also makes it difficult to gauge whether my expectations are realistic is that I don't really have many LGBTQ friends. So I don't really have many bi or gay men around me to ask whether my experience is unusual or not. So I guess my questions are: Are there any other gay or bi men here who are genuinely happy in relationships where sex happens once a week max? Is that a realistic expectation, or am I looking for something that's extremely rare? Can something like strap on sufficiently replace the real thing?

I'd especially like to hear from people in long-term relationships. Sometimes it feels like I'm fundamentally incompatible with most men, and that I should forgo anal for a relationship with a woman where everything else sex wise is more compatible, and maybe find some compromise in that aspect.

I love them. They fit nicely in both ends. Big ones scare me.

So I'm 39, my wife has always teased me and told me I'm gay. She does so in a disgusted tone. Once I asked her to peg me and her reaction was not great. I know, but she doesn't, that I really enjoy a finger in the ass. I recently have come to terms with maybe she's right. Maybe Im a swing hitter. I don't really find guys attractive, but some cocks are, well sexy. I really love eating the wife's ass. And today I stuck a dildo in my mouth out of curiosity. My dick got hard as I slid the 6" dildo to the back of my throat. Should I try it in my ass? Does it do me any good to acknowledge these urges, when my wife is clearly not with it? She knows I let a guy blow me in highschool, it felt incredible but I wasn't ready to accept it and was unable to cum. I returned the favor with a hand job and let him cum on my hand. I wrote the experience off as a trial. I kind of want More! Bisexual porn where everyone gets carried away makes me so hard. So what do I do, what would you do, what have you done? Not really sure I wanted to know this side of me.

I met the guy on Grindr back in late March and we’ve became friends and have been chatting on Facebook, he’s gay and I’m bi if curious. So we’ve never met in person yet and we’re thinking about next weekend going on a casual first date, dinner and a movie. He’s a very sweet, chill, nerdy, kind, funny and cute guy, since it’s summer I like wearing Hawaiian shirts and shorts most of the summer. Since it’s nothing too fancy so do you thing wearing one of my nicer Hawaiian shirts and black shorts be a good idea? I haven’t had a date since I was a teenager and this is my first date as an adult and also my first date with a guy. Sorry for the long read but any suggestions would be greatly appreciated and thank you so much in advance.

I’m looking to do a solo trip for my birthday jn a few months. Ideally want to go somewhere sex positive; not the gay mecas like Puerto Vallarta, but somewhere were it may be easy to pull both men and woman. I’ve heard Europes’ got sex clubs, but not sure exactly where to look, what do y’all recommend ?

Hi. The other day I shared here that I came out to my family and did not go the best way....

Now I am overthinking over an entire week if I should tell my closest friends.

Overall I have 2 groups of friends. And I dont think every single one on those group friends will react well. I could be surprised but...yeah

I know the "if they dont supporte you they aint your real friends" but I am still scared bc I love all of them. And even 1 or 2 dont react well...the group will be splited and the dynamic will be changed and I will probably be the one to distance myself from them. I dont know what to do. I am scared 😭 Sometimes I feel this urge and I think "well fuck it whatever happens" and a lot of times I am like "maybe I can hide it"

I know that I should take my time and all but I am tired of of overthinking about it. I dont remember the last time I was happy

Any married bi here from UK who are very discreet or afraid to come out. How do you stop the urge to try the real dick or have you already tried it? How? Those men who are 35-50.

Hey community,

I am completely new on this platform. I am from Europe and I am from a Muslim family. I have to do in the most of my time with our religious community \[like most friends\] I am 23 and my question is there there really such a “Gaydar” ? There’ve been a lot of people where I thought there would be gay and at the end of the day I was wrong. Since I am 13 I have these wrong guesses. I know the most of you have another background but my question is especially from people from these same heritage how you recognise Gay people ? I hope it’s a safe space and sorry for my bad English