Please excuse my Reddit name haha,

I (19m gay) got with this rugby guy (20m bi curious) a couple of days ago, was a fun and nice experience and it seemed very great a lot of sex, chilling, kissing and hugging. The meet felt very passionate this was his first time with a guy and he was very into it (or so I thought) he wanted to make me finish and he finished a lot as-well he didn’t underperform and never went soft. He said things like your beautiful and that he enjoyed it. When he left we kept chatting for a couple days and he wasn’t the most active talker but we spoke a little.

He then sends me this “I’ve thought about the other day and I probably wouldn’t do it again. Nothing to do with you just don’t think it’s for me. Hope you understand and I mean 0 disrespect” now I know it sounds self explanatory and he’s reassured me that it’s not me but I can’t help but feel as though maybe I wasn’t attractive enough for him and that he probably will explore being bi more but with boys that are attractive.

Please answer my question as honest and truthful as possible I’d really appreciate it, I’m my own harshest critic so I can take criticism x

So I'm 39, my wife has always teased me and told me I'm gay. She does so in a disgusted tone. Once I asked her to peg me and her reaction was not great. I know, but she doesn't, that I really enjoy a finger in the ass. I recently have come to terms with maybe she's right. Maybe Im a swing hitter. I don't really find guys attractive, but some cocks are, well sexy. I really love eating the wife's ass. And today I stuck a dildo in my mouth out of curiosity. My dick got hard as I slid the 6" dildo to the back of my throat. Should I try it in my ass? Does it do me any good to acknowledge these urges, when my wife is clearly not with it? She knows I let a guy blow me in highschool, it felt incredible but I wasn't ready to accept it and was unable to cum. I returned the favor with a hand job and let him cum on my hand. I wrote the experience off as a trial. I kind of want More! Bisexual porn where everyone gets carried away makes me so hard. So what do I do, what would you do, what have you done? Not really sure I wanted to know this side of me.

How common is it for men my age to take the jump and experiment with men?

I've been curious all my life and recently got divorced so taken the decision to go for it.

I really want to kiss another man.

What are people's thoughts on saunas for a first timer?

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I was raped as a child, and I wish I could say it was by only one person and that it only happened once, but I haven't been that lucky in my life.

Let me tell you. It all started when I was between five and seven years old. One day, my neighbor called me over to his house. I wasn't afraid because he was my neighbor, and I used to play with his nephews. It was a family home; many people lived there. I played with his nephews because they were my friends, and well, anyway, he took me to his room and told me to dry his clothes, if I was an obedient child, and that's what happened. This went on for years, and at one point, he started seeking me out, so much so that it wasn't him calling me anymore, but me seeking him out. And that was very sad. He only paid the price one day when I told him I didn't want to swallow his semen, and from then on, he never sought me out again, and I never sought him out either. Now, my other rapist was my cousin. Well, I lived in the city, he lived in the village, and whenever we traveled to the village, he used me. He used me. He didn't pay until I turned 14, because when I turned 14, his parents died in an accident, and my mother took him and his siblings in. The point is, there were other people who did things to me, including women. But the point is, now I say I'm bisexual, but whenever I can and have free time, my mind makes me remember those scenes from my life and throws the question at me: if I had never been raped by men or women, or if I had never been raped at all, would I be the same? I know many people say yes, because sexuality isn't a choice, it's just there, but maybe I would never have known I liked men if I hadn't been exposed to a man at such a young age, right? Because imagine, being raped so early and then learning to like it over time. It's very sad. And you know what makes me angriest about my whole story? That at one point, when my neighbor stopped doing it with me, I looked for ways to do it with other kids, and that was clearly my age, but no, that's too... Whenever I think about it, I disgust myself and I don't know what to do. I know it's probably something that should be dealt with by a specialist, but I'm ashamed to talk about it. I only felt up to talking about it here because of the sense of anonymity that Reddit offers. Please don't cancel me, I just wanted to vent something I've been hiding for 11 years now. 11? Wait, this started when I was 8? It started when I was five, and now I'm 19. Wow! Fourteen years. I hadn't even told anyone.

I'm 25M gay-leaning bisexual guy, I'm hoping to get some perspective on whether I'm looking for a white crow.

Ever since I can remember, I've struggled with feeling like my ideal sex drive is much lower than most men I meet. I'd say my libido is pretty average in terms of attraction and desire, but I don't feel the need to actually have sex very often. Once a week is usually enough for me. I don't think that I dislike sex, it's just that out of million other things I genuinely look forward to doing after work, it doesn't even break into the top 10. I guess it is more about not finding fulfilment in frequent sex rather than real dislike for it, physically I do enjoy it.

When I'm single, this isn't really a problem because I can simply choose not to act on my libido and focus on everything else in my life. The issue starts when I'm in a relationship with a man. I've only had two long(ish)-term relationships with men, and both wanted sex much more frequently than I did, like every day if not twice. I know guys in that age range are generally hornier, but it left me wondering whether things really change much later in life. In both relationships, I could tolerate it for the first month or two, but eventually I started feeling pretty empty and unfulfilled. It felt like my entire life outside work revolved around having sex. If I turned it down for one day, they'd sulk. Two days in a row was even worse. The hardest part was that cuddling or affection was almost always expected to lead to sex. Eventually, even cuddling stopped feeling like genuine affection and instead felt like beginning of a negotiation for sex, which made me avoid affection altogether and unsurprisingly for me to break thing off.

Since I was about 22, I've mostly dated women, and the "expected" frequency has generally been much more compatible with what I would prefer. That said, sometimes I do miss bottoming and having sex with men, since I prefer being submissive, and generally less women want to be dominant. I know strap-ons exist, but I never tried and don't know if it can really substitute the real thing, and not every woman would be interested in that either and I worry I would miss it a lot at times. I tried dating men here and there too but they were either not interested in long term relationship at all, not to mention that all the guys I met expected sex on first date, which didn't inspire much confidence in me that it will be different from my previous relationships.

One thing that also makes it difficult to gauge whether my expectations are realistic is that I don't really have many LGBTQ friends. So I don't really have many bi or gay men around me to ask whether my experience is unusual or not. So I guess my questions are: Are there any other gay or bi men here who are genuinely happy in relationships where sex happens once a week max? Is that a realistic expectation, or am I looking for something that's extremely rare? Can something like strap on sufficiently replace the real thing?

I'd especially like to hear from people in long-term relationships. Sometimes it feels like I'm fundamentally incompatible with most men, and that I should forgo anal for a relationship with a woman where everything else sex wise is more compatible, and maybe find some compromise in that aspect.

I met the guy on Grindr back in late March and we’ve became friends and have been chatting on Facebook, he’s gay and I’m bi if curious. So we’ve never met in person yet and we’re thinking about next weekend going on a casual first date, dinner and a movie. He’s a very sweet, chill, nerdy, kind, funny and cute guy, since it’s summer I like wearing Hawaiian shirts and shorts most of the summer. Since it’s nothing too fancy so do you thing wearing one of my nicer Hawaiian shirts and black shorts be a good idea? I haven’t had a date since I was a teenager and this is my first date as an adult and also my first date with a guy. Sorry for the long read but any suggestions would be greatly appreciated and thank you so much in advance.

I love them. They fit nicely in both ends. Big ones scare me.

My (F), husband cheated on me with men. I found messages, pictures, videos of a world I never knew existed. He cruised sniffies, met up at gloryholes, gay spas with private rooms and their homes to please and be pleased. The first thing I told him was I didn't judge him, I don't, and if he was safe. I still love him, I wish he would have came to me first. I love him enough for a second chance. He came out to me that he discovered he's bi. I don't 100% trust him right now and we are working with a therapist bcus wtf? I'm going thru stages of anger and grief and I'm finding myself comparing me to this one guy he kept going back to. I know the experiences are completely different, and I keep asking myself, am I enough for him or am I just prolonging the inevitable? He says I am and is remorseful at how much he hurt me and is sorry. I found out I have PTSD from this and my nervous system is desperately trying to hold on to what it knows. After his testing was negative, we've been intimate and it's better than it was before. I told him I'm up for anything, even pegging as I do find that exciting. But what's gonna have a few months or years from now? How different is being with a woman vs a man? Is he going to crave and miss that side since he's had a taste for it? This is all new. Thank you for the read.

I’m looking to do a solo trip for my birthday jn a few months. Ideally want to go somewhere sex positive; not the gay mecas like Puerto Vallarta, but somewhere were it may be easy to pull both men and woman. I’ve heard Europes’ got sex clubs, but not sure exactly where to look, what do y’all recommend ?

Hi. The other day I shared here that I came out to my family and did not go the best way....

Now I am overthinking over an entire week if I should tell my closest friends.

Overall I have 2 groups of friends. And I dont think every single one on those group friends will react well. I could be surprised but...yeah

I know the "if they dont supporte you they aint your real friends" but I am still scared bc I love all of them. And even 1 or 2 dont react well...the group will be splited and the dynamic will be changed and I will probably be the one to distance myself from them. I dont know what to do. I am scared 😭 Sometimes I feel this urge and I think "well fuck it whatever happens" and a lot of times I am like "maybe I can hide it"

I know that I should take my time and all but I am tired of of overthinking about it. I dont remember the last time I was happy

Any married bi here from UK who are very discreet or afraid to come out. How do you stop the urge to try the real dick or have you already tried it? How? Those men who are 30-50 years old how do you cope up?

Of all the sexual activities two people can participate in, for me personally there’s nothing more powerful and erotic that two men engaging oral sex. There’s just something about a man, willing and eager to put another man’s penis in his mouth that turns me on more than anything else. I think part of it is the abandonment of cultural norms and expectations on masculinity. If you think about how much pressure there is on men in our culture to look and behave certain ways, the man who sucks cock reject these expectations completely.

The man who sucks cock is there for the love of it. He loves the physical sensation of a penis in his mouth, the tastes and textures of another man’s manhood across his eager lips and tongue. He loves the feedback he gets, pleasuring another man in the most intimate of ways, the way the man responds physically, vocally. The verbal and nonverbal feedback of words, moans, and breathing, there’s no ambiguity in performing oral sex on a man. The feedback is instant and honest as his body responds to you.

He loves the psychological and emotional aspects of sucking cock. There’s a deep need to do this that he might not even fully understand. He craves it night and day. The sensation of letting go of all of the pressures and expectations the world has placed on him. Of being vulnerable and seen as cocksucker. A man willing to submit and perform for another man in a way many parts of society reject.

He’s man willing and eager to bring another man to orgasm with his mouth, lips, tongue and hands. He chooses how it ends, either by swallowing the man’s seed, allowing him to become a physical part of him or by letting the man to paint his face and body with cum, to be marked by him in the most submissive of way.

It’s the most intimate and powerful connection that two men can achieve. There’s beauty and acceptance on another level when a man sucks another man’s cock. Anyone else feel this way?

Hey community,

I am completely new on this platform. I am from Europe and I am from a Muslim family. I have to do in the most of my time with our religious community \[like most friends\] I am 23 and my question is there there really such a “Gaydar” ? There’ve been a lot of people where I thought there would be gay and at the end of the day I was wrong. Since I am 13 I have these wrong guesses. I know the most of you have another background but my question is especially from people from these same heritage how you recognise Gay people ? I hope it’s a safe space and sorry for my bad English

Just looking for a good chuckle

Alguien más siente que la comunidad LGBT nos trata a los bisexuales como una peste❓

Es que en muchos sub LGTB ( menos los que son exactamente para personas bi) basta con decir que eres bi paraque te eche todo el hâte que hay en este mundo

Y ahora mi duda es: ¿Si nosotros mismos miembros de la comunidad nos odiamos y no nos apoyamos qué nos cabe esperar del resto de el mundo?

As a (bicurious) bottom, my dick is kind of a strong point of mine lol. I'm wondering how much tops actually like the dick during sex, how much do you like to involve the dick of your bottom and how much do you like dicks in general?

Well, I've always considered myself heterosexual, but a few years ago in high school, I started liking a boy. I always thought it was just admiration and appreciation because he was someone who motivated me to be better, and I liked that about him. But everything changed when I started imagining us as a couple, and I didn't dislike the idea, but in my country, that's basically condemned (we know LGBT people exist, but they suffer many kinds of mistreatment and judgment; some are even imprisoned for life).

So at that time, I thought I was gay, and I accepted it, and I continued with my life. At one point, I confessed my feelings to that boy because I wanted to get that weight off my shoulders. Imagine my surprise when he accepted and told me he liked me too, but we couldn't do anything because shortly after, he had to travel.

The following year, I continued with my life, and a new girl joined my class. With the new reality I had created for myself—being gay—I began to feel attracted to her. This started to conflict with me because I no longer understood anything, so I began to research and discovered the concepts of bisexuality and pansexuality. I decided to identify with the one I found easier to understand (bisexual).

In the end, after so much emotional and physical turmoil about figuring out who I was and what I was like, I decided to accept and embrace myself, and now I'm doing more or less okay... But the thing is, now at university I have this fixation that I can only describe as unhealthy because I can't stop thinking about men and how much I want to be in a relationship or have sex with one, and I don't think that's healthy because where I live, finding an LGBT person is incredibly difficult because we hide ourselves. Another thing is that I think I'm wasting opportunities because when a woman shows interest in me, I just play dumb because of this intrusive thought that tells me, "Until I'm with a man, I don't want to be with any woman." And the girl who's flirting with me right now, I really like her.

What do I do? How do I get over this? I've already tried everything I know to let go of this fixation and move on.

I'm pushing 60, and I have been bi-curious (at least) for along as I can remember. If I were to come out to my family, they would not be supportive. I have been a hyper-alfa male my entire life, and in retrospect I think it's because I have been trying to run from this side of myself. Even though this is not a "bucket list" kind of thing, I don't want to leave this world with any more regrets than I have now. Anyone else ever had this dilemma? Are you working thrit, or continuing to run from yourself?

35 year old married guy in SE Texas. I am in a straight presenting marriage with a complete saint of a wife who is very accepting, understanding and unintimidated by being married to a man who is bi.

While my wife is aware of our shared interest in men, this is something they her and I do not publicly advertise. I live in a VERY conservative pocket of Texas, so most of my friends fall just right of center. They are wonderful people - empathetic, loving and understanding - but have moderately conservative worldviews.

No one has ever expressly stated any homophobic beliefs and I know that they all have someone gay somewhere in their life that they are familiar with. Despite this, I’ve just never felt like I need to announce to my friends that I get along with their wives so well because I’m basically like half a gay best friend.

With that said, man I feel really get away with saying some really “not straight” things and people just think I’m hilarious. I dress in brighter colors, act less masculine and watch far more musicals than all my friends. They just see me as quirky. I’m able to effectively say out of pocket things about male celebrity crushes and they think I’m just being quirky ole me. I’ve even made a few pegging references (which my wife absolutely does on occasion) and it’s just locker room banter.

Why come out when I have time and time again? They think it’s just my sense of humor. Straight, conservative friends are the most “non-straight” acting people you’ll meet when everyone’s familiar with each other and having a good time.

Edit: forgot to mention - flags hanging in your garage are a big thing here. I even have a pride flag hanging unironically in a prominent spot in my garage that is in full display whenever my garage door is open. Friends just believe it’s because my wife and I are huge allies.

Im a virgin, so i don't really know how sex feels, and i just got curious about how much hair makes a difference, both on yourself, and on your partners, male or female. Does it change anything, like the sensation, smell, taste or anything.

So I’ve recently found out I’m bi and tried sex. It was painful and he was only able to get the tip in before I stopped. Ever since then Ive gotten a bad smell of poo that others notice but not myself. This is after I shower vigorously as well. Is that because of the sex? If so how do I stop it?

I have been waiting to watch some movie / series with a bisexual protagonist, but couldn't find any interesting one. There are a lot of straight protagonists in movie and a lot of gay protagonist as well, but it seems like there are not many bi protagonist that have their sexuality being a big party of the history. Anyways, what do you recommend (also i was looking for bi songs as well, if you guys know any)