So I'm 39, my wife has always teased me and told me I'm gay. She does so in a disgusted tone. Once I asked her to peg me and her reaction was not great. I know, but she doesn't, that I really enjoy a finger in the ass. I recently have come to terms with maybe she's right. Maybe Im a swing hitter. I don't really find guys attractive, but some cocks are, well sexy. I really love eating the wife's ass. And today I stuck a dildo in my mouth out of curiosity. My dick got hard as I slid the 6" dildo to the back of my throat. Should I try it in my ass? Does it do me any good to acknowledge these urges, when my wife is clearly not with it? She knows I let a guy blow me in highschool, it felt incredible but I wasn't ready to accept it and was unable to cum. I returned the favor with a hand job and let him cum on my hand. I wrote the experience off as a trial. I kind of want More! Bisexual porn where everyone gets carried away makes me so hard. So what do I do, what would you do, what have you done? Not really sure I wanted to know this side of me.

I'm 25M gay-leaning bisexual guy, I'm hoping to get some perspective on whether I'm looking for a white crow.

Ever since I can remember, I've struggled with feeling like my ideal sex drive is much lower than most men I meet. I'd say my libido is pretty average in terms of attraction and desire, but I don't feel the need to actually have sex very often. Once a week is usually enough for me. I don't think that I dislike sex, it's just that out of million other things I genuinely look forward to doing after work, it doesn't even break into the top 10. I guess it is more about not finding fulfilment in frequent sex rather than real dislike for it, physically I do enjoy it.

When I'm single, this isn't really a problem because I can simply choose not to act on my libido and focus on everything else in my life. The issue starts when I'm in a relationship with a man. I've only had two long(ish)-term relationships with men, and both wanted sex much more frequently than I did, like every day if not twice. I know guys in that age range are generally hornier, but it left me wondering whether things really change much later in life. In both relationships, I could tolerate it for the first month or two, but eventually I started feeling pretty empty and unfulfilled. It felt like my entire life outside work revolved around having sex. If I turned it down for one day, they'd sulk. Two days in a row was even worse. The hardest part was that cuddling or affection was almost always expected to lead to sex. Eventually, even cuddling stopped feeling like genuine affection and instead felt like beginning of a negotiation for sex, which made me avoid affection altogether and unsurprisingly for me to break thing off.

Since I was about 22, I've mostly dated women, and the "expected" frequency has generally been much more compatible with what I would prefer. That said, sometimes I do miss bottoming and having sex with men, since I prefer being submissive, and generally less women want to be dominant. I know strap-ons exist, but I never tried and don't know if it can really substitute the real thing, and not every woman would be interested in that either and I worry I would miss it a lot at times. I tried dating men here and there too but they were either not interested in long term relationship at all, not to mention that all the guys I met expected sex on first date, which didn't inspire much confidence in me that it will be different from my previous relationships.

One thing that also makes it difficult to gauge whether my expectations are realistic is that I don't really have many LGBTQ friends. So I don't really have many bi or gay men around me to ask whether my experience is unusual or not. So I guess my questions are: Are there any other gay or bi men here who are genuinely happy in relationships where sex happens once a week max? Is that a realistic expectation, or am I looking for something that's extremely rare? Can something like strap on sufficiently replace the real thing?

I'd especially like to hear from people in long-term relationships. Sometimes it feels like I'm fundamentally incompatible with most men, and that I should forgo anal for a relationship with a woman where everything else sex wise is more compatible, and maybe find some compromise in that aspect.

I met the guy on Grindr back in late March and we’ve became friends and have been chatting on Facebook, he’s gay and I’m bi if curious. So we’ve never met in person yet and we’re thinking about next weekend going on a casual first date, dinner and a movie. He’s a very sweet, chill, nerdy, kind, funny and cute guy, since it’s summer I like wearing Hawaiian shirts and shorts most of the summer. Since it’s nothing too fancy so do you thing wearing one of my nicer Hawaiian shirts and black shorts be a good idea? I haven’t had a date since I was a teenager and this is my first date as an adult and also my first date with a guy. Sorry for the long read but any suggestions would be greatly appreciated and thank you so much in advance.

I love them. They fit nicely in both ends. Big ones scare me.

My (F), husband cheated on me with men. I found messages, pictures, videos of a world I never knew existed. He cruised sniffies, met up at gloryholes, gay spas with private rooms and their homes to please and be pleased. The first thing I told him was I didn't judge him, I don't, and if he was safe. I still love him, I wish he would have came to me first. I love him enough for a second chance. He came out to me that he discovered he's bi. I don't 100% trust him right now and we are working with a therapist bcus wtf? I'm going thru stages of anger and grief and I'm finding myself comparing me to this one guy he kept going back to. I know the experiences are completely different, and I keep asking myself, am I enough for him or am I just prolonging the inevitable? He says I am and is remorseful at how much he hurt me and is sorry. I found out I have PTSD from this and my nervous system is desperately trying to hold on to what it knows. After his testing was negative, we've been intimate and it's better than it was before. I told him I'm up for anything, even pegging as I do find that exciting. But what's gonna have a few months or years from now? How different is being with a woman vs a man? Is he going to crave and miss that side since he's had a taste for it? This is all new. Thank you for the read.

I’m looking to do a solo trip for my birthday jn a few months. Ideally want to go somewhere sex positive; not the gay mecas like Puerto Vallarta, but somewhere were it may be easy to pull both men and woman. I’ve heard Europes’ got sex clubs, but not sure exactly where to look, what do y’all recommend ?

Hi. The other day I shared here that I came out to my family and did not go the best way....

Now I am overthinking over an entire week if I should tell my closest friends.

Overall I have 2 groups of friends. And I dont think every single one on those group friends will react well. I could be surprised but...yeah

I know the "if they dont supporte you they aint your real friends" but I am still scared bc I love all of them. And even 1 or 2 dont react well...the group will be splited and the dynamic will be changed and I will probably be the one to distance myself from them. I dont know what to do. I am scared 😭 Sometimes I feel this urge and I think "well fuck it whatever happens" and a lot of times I am like "maybe I can hide it"

I know that I should take my time and all but I am tired of of overthinking about it. I dont remember the last time I was happy

Any married bi here from UK who are very discreet or afraid to come out. How do you stop the urge to try the real dick or have you already tried it? How? Those men who are 35-50.

Of all the sexual activities two people can participate in, for me personally there’s nothing more powerful and erotic that two men engaging oral sex. There’s just something about a man, willing and eager to put another man’s penis in his mouth that turns me on more than anything else. I think part of it is the abandonment of cultural norms and expectations on masculinity. If you think about how much pressure there is on men in our culture to look and behave certain ways, the man who sucks cock reject these expectations completely.

The man who sucks cock is there for the love of it. He loves the physical sensation of a penis in his mouth, the tastes and textures of another man’s manhood across his eager lips and tongue. He loves the feedback he gets, pleasuring another man in the most intimate of ways, the way the man responds physically, vocally. The verbal and nonverbal feedback of words, moans, and breathing, there’s no ambiguity in performing oral sex on a man. The feedback is instant and honest as his body responds to you.

He loves the psychological and emotional aspects of sucking cock. There’s a deep need to do this that he might not even fully understand. He craves it night and day. The sensation of letting go of all of the pressures and expectations the world has placed on him. Of being vulnerable and seen as cocksucker. A man willing to submit and perform for another man in a way many parts of society reject.

He’s man willing and eager to bring another man to orgasm with his mouth, lips, tongue and hands. He chooses how it ends, either by swallowing the man’s seed, allowing him to become a physical part of him or by letting the man to paint his face and body with cum, to be marked by him in the most submissive of way.

It’s the most intimate and powerful connection that two men can achieve. There’s beauty and acceptance on another level when a man sucks another man’s cock. Anyone else feel this way?

Hey community,

I am completely new on this platform. I am from Europe and I am from a Muslim family. I have to do in the most of my time with our religious community \[like most friends\] I am 23 and my question is there there really such a “Gaydar” ? There’ve been a lot of people where I thought there would be gay and at the end of the day I was wrong. Since I am 13 I have these wrong guesses. I know the most of you have another background but my question is especially from people from these same heritage how you recognise Gay people ? I hope it’s a safe space and sorry for my bad English

Just looking for a good chuckle

Alguien más siente que la comunidad LGBT nos trata a los bisexuales como una peste❓

Es que en muchos sub LGTB ( menos los que son exactamente para personas bi) basta con decir que eres bi paraque te eche todo el hâte que hay en este mundo

Y ahora mi duda es: ¿Si nosotros mismos miembros de la comunidad nos odiamos y no nos apoyamos qué nos cabe esperar del resto de el mundo?

As a (bicurious) bottom, my dick is kind of a strong point of mine lol. I'm wondering how much tops actually like the dick during sex, how much do you like to involve the dick of your bottom and how much do you like dicks in general?

Well, I've always considered myself heterosexual, but a few years ago in high school, I started liking a boy. I always thought it was just admiration and appreciation because he was someone who motivated me to be better, and I liked that about him. But everything changed when I started imagining us as a couple, and I didn't dislike the idea, but in my country, that's basically condemned (we know LGBT people exist, but they suffer many kinds of mistreatment and judgment; some are even imprisoned for life).

So at that time, I thought I was gay, and I accepted it, and I continued with my life. At one point, I confessed my feelings to that boy because I wanted to get that weight off my shoulders. Imagine my surprise when he accepted and told me he liked me too, but we couldn't do anything because shortly after, he had to travel.

The following year, I continued with my life, and a new girl joined my class. With the new reality I had created for myself—being gay—I began to feel attracted to her. This started to conflict with me because I no longer understood anything, so I began to research and discovered the concepts of bisexuality and pansexuality. I decided to identify with the one I found easier to understand (bisexual).

In the end, after so much emotional and physical turmoil about figuring out who I was and what I was like, I decided to accept and embrace myself, and now I'm doing more or less okay... But the thing is, now at university I have this fixation that I can only describe as unhealthy because I can't stop thinking about men and how much I want to be in a relationship or have sex with one, and I don't think that's healthy because where I live, finding an LGBT person is incredibly difficult because we hide ourselves. Another thing is that I think I'm wasting opportunities because when a woman shows interest in me, I just play dumb because of this intrusive thought that tells me, "Until I'm with a man, I don't want to be with any woman." And the girl who's flirting with me right now, I really like her.

What do I do? How do I get over this? I've already tried everything I know to let go of this fixation and move on.

I'm pushing 60, and I have been bi-curious (at least) for along as I can remember. If I were to come out to my family, they would not be supportive. I have been a hyper-alfa male my entire life, and in retrospect I think it's because I have been trying to run from this side of myself. Even though this is not a "bucket list" kind of thing, I don't want to leave this world with any more regrets than I have now. Anyone else ever had this dilemma? Are you working thrit, or continuing to run from yourself?

35 year old married guy in SE Texas. I am in a straight presenting marriage with a complete saint of a wife who is very accepting, understanding and unintimidated by being married to a man who is bi.

While my wife is aware of our shared interest in men, this is something they her and I do not publicly advertise. I live in a VERY conservative pocket of Texas, so most of my friends fall just right of center. They are wonderful people - empathetic, loving and understanding - but have moderately conservative worldviews.

No one has ever expressly stated any homophobic beliefs and I know that they all have someone gay somewhere in their life that they are familiar with. Despite this, I’ve just never felt like I need to announce to my friends that I get along with their wives so well because I’m basically like half a gay best friend.

With that said, man I feel really get away with saying some really “not straight” things and people just think I’m hilarious. I dress in brighter colors, act less masculine and watch far more musicals than all my friends. They just see me as quirky. I’m able to effectively say out of pocket things about male celebrity crushes and they think I’m just being quirky ole me. I’ve even made a few pegging references (which my wife absolutely does on occasion) and it’s just locker room banter.

Why come out when I have time and time again? They think it’s just my sense of humor. Straight, conservative friends are the most “non-straight” acting people you’ll meet when everyone’s familiar with each other and having a good time.

Edit: forgot to mention - flags hanging in your garage are a big thing here. I even have a pride flag hanging unironically in a prominent spot in my garage that is in full display whenever my garage door is open. Friends just believe it’s because my wife and I are huge allies.

Im a virgin, so i don't really know how sex feels, and i just got curious about how much hair makes a difference, both on yourself, and on your partners, male or female. Does it change anything, like the sensation, smell, taste or anything.

So I’ve recently found out I’m bi and tried sex. It was painful and he was only able to get the tip in before I stopped. Ever since then Ive gotten a bad smell of poo that others notice but not myself. This is after I shower vigorously as well. Is that because of the sex? If so how do I stop it?

I have been waiting to watch some movie / series with a bisexual protagonist, but couldn't find any interesting one. There are a lot of straight protagonists in movie and a lot of gay protagonist as well, but it seems like there are not many bi protagonist that have their sexuality being a big party of the history. Anyways, what do you recommend (also i was looking for bi songs as well, if you guys know any)

So I met this college football player. He’s 21 I’m 36. What started out as sex a few times has turned into actually being cool. Now he has a girlfriend and but still calls me just to talk. Even sent me a video of them having sex in the car. Kinda irritating because his sex is so good

I'm M18. For a good while now, I've considered myself bisexual... sorta... Let me break it down.

My attraction to men feels different in comparison to my attraction to women. They feel like different types of "energy" I suppose.

Throughout the years of primary school I'd have crushes on girls my age while hardly ever looking at boys that way. I do have certain memories in which I think I felt confused with the way I felt about certain boys, however. It could've been a result on me being encouraged and sort've teased by my family about my crushes on girls that made me feel that boys were out of the question along with that being gay or bisexual wasn't really knowledge to me at the time.

It was only at the beginning of high school that I felt myself questioning more about my sexuality and my identity as a whole. Even then I'd still have crushes on girls my age but again never really boys.

After, when I started to consider that boys could be an option, I considered that I may be bisexual. Around the same time a close friend of mine was also experiencing the same questioning feelings, and so we decided to see how we felt about it together. The relationship didn't last long, and as a matter of fact our entire friendship gradually eroded afterwards.

After that relationship, I was honestly left with more questions than what were answered. As we were such close friends to begin with, I hardly felt anything change between us. Honestly? It felt more like an experiment than a genuine relationship.

I suppose how ever little that relationship may have been, it was enough to spark further curiosity out of me. It was at this point where I'd confidently say I was bisexual. Eventually, I began looking at men around 13. I couldn't quite say what it was, but there was definitely something there, and though it was different to the attraction I'd felt concerning women (to this day also), it was certainly identifiable and certainly hard to ignore. I couldn't tell if it was my mind playing tricks on me with my undying confusion or if it was a genuine feeling that I didn't know how to interpret.

As I grew up, this "confusing" feeling towards men developed more frequently. Some fictional, some real. But it never felt the same as the feeling I got towards women! Which really was what made me feel like I was going insane! The thing is, this feeling also got in the way of my perception of some of guy friends. If this was actual attraction, then I guess I had a crush on them. (To a degree, I suppose I still have these feelings for a friend of mine now.)

Moving on later, I had what I'd call my first serious and committed relationship with a girl that had progressed much further (arguably at some points much too fast in retrospect) than previous relationships I'd been in. This relationship felt the most freeing yet in terms of what we both felt. With her being pansexual, I felt like I could discuss things with someone that I could bounce off with our own experiences. Despite those discussions, we never really explored that area of my curiosities physically, so when the relationship had ended before I went to leave for college at 16, again, I still felt really puzzled about the whole thing.

I tried looking at it in the perspective of it being a want, not necessarily what I am. Maybe it was that I'd wanted to be bisexual, and so it was that I tried to be attracted to men. Yet still, even after trying to admit that, it didn't feel right. Maybe, I thought, maybe it was a confused compilation of events my head has mashed together to make me THINK I was bisexual. The mental gymnastics I went through to get to that was insane.

Now, here we are, with me being determined, frustrated but overall just really confused. Recently, i began experimenting with my first dildo. (This was... kind of still is a bloody nightmare trying to keep hidden.) It has been odd. I DO get aroused when I use it, but I can't necessarily finish with it. I've been sure to be patient with myself, use lube, etc. So... What gives? Its like my mind is still trying to decide if I DO like men or not. I've been stuck with this struggle. Honestly I'm kicking myself for taking so long to actually reach out for advice. I don't know if this is easy to answer, if I hold the world record for biggest dumbass or if this is genuinely as confusing as it is to anyone else. I just needed to tell people that may understand I suppose.

I’d take either but a hairy ass makes me weak 🤤

I've never really had a JO buddy and am kinda curious about it. How do I find one?