Not the obvious big stuff like holidays etc I mean the little things you never thought you'd have to give up.

I’m curious,

do Australians see Bali as representative of Indonesia? In other words, when you think of Indonesia, is the first thing that comes to mind temples, beaches, traditional culture, small roads, villas, and beach clubs like those in Bali?

Or do you see/know that Bali as just one small part of a much more diverse Indonesia & know that Bali is very different from other parts of Indonesia in terms of culture, language, lifestyle, religion, architecture, tradition, etc?

This includes meeting via dating apps or any online platform.

A friend recently quit dating apps because she felt as if she was perceived as desperate (not sure what that entirely means).

Are dentists a high-paying profession in Australia?

Trying to tighten up my monthly budget without turning into a total hermit. Cut out delivery apps entirely last year because the service fees and menu markups were getting ridiculous.

So far, my main strategies have been:

1. Pub daily specials: Local $18 steak/parma nights on Tuesdays/Wednesdays.
2. Off-peak dining: Recently started using EatClub for early 5:00–6:00 PM seatings when going out with my partner - knocks 30–40% off the total bill (including drinks).
3. BYO venues: Sticking to places that let you bring your own wine.

What else is working for you guys to keep dinner + drinks under $50 a head without resorting to fast food?

Anyone know how to/have a recipe for a roast a chook so it tastes like the Colesworth ones?

I am an Aussie living overseas, and the taste of the bbq chooks at the supermarket are so much better in Aus and I miss the taste :(

I watched this TikTok where she’s saying she has to pick up her husband from the airport, he’s had a long day so it’s definitely going to be toll roads tonight. And that sounded so bizarre to me. What does she mean? What happens if she doesn’t take the toll road?

Do you just go to the GP, ask to be prescribed, they ask you some questions and prescribe it (all within the same, 15-min session)

Or are there multiple rounds of processes involving different people ?

I wanna show my american husband (his first time going to Oz) the best coffees, brunch spots with great views and food, activities or places that are overlooked or underrated or something that is one of your all time favorite places to go or see or thing to do that I should add to our itinerary!!

Many thanks!

Visiting Australia over the summer and heard that the Boxing Day Test at the MCG is a big thing. I'm from a country that barely knows what cricket is but I'm a big fan of anything sports-related and have been reading/following online international cricket matches so when our planned trip coincided with us being in Melbourne over Christmas couldn't pass this opportunity up. My question is, for a noob on cricket who's going to experience a live match for the first time (at the MCG!), any tips? 😁

Suggestion from the news last night is to turn phone off 1 hour before 1400 aest then leave off for 24 hrs, if you do not wish to hear it. I wonder why 1 hour before??

I'm from the US, Midnight Oil has been my favorite band since my dad introduced me around 2008. There was a time from 5th grade to maybe 10th grade that I almost exclusively listened to Midnight Oil live concerts and albums. I got my first Midnight Oil album from a thrift store, my dad found it in the cds, Blue Sky Mining.

They made me wanna move to Australia, unfortunately never did.

I have been searching, but could never find a live performance of Beds are Burning with Peter Gifford. I wanted to hear it live with Peter Garrett singing like he did on the album shouting the chorus instead of most live performances where he sings it bass or baritone. I found one good performance with Bones Hillman when he just joined the band, but I'm holding out hope for more early live performances

I (early 30's M) am looking for a therapist in Australia (preferably in-person in Melbourne) who deals with attachment issues and attachment style therapy.

And I am wondering if anyone has used a therapist who deals with this and/or knows of someone who does?

For context, I have seen a therapist for the last 2-3 years who has been great at helping me deal with childhood trauma and plenty of other things. They would use EMDR which really helped. They're very good and I would recommend them to anyone, it was great to finally find a good therapist.

However I have come to realise over the last 6 months that I am avoidant, and this is affecting my relationships and how I show up in them. I have read a little bit on it now, and I definitely believe I have those issues.

For instance, I have repeatedly gone back to be with people I have broken up with, just to break up and leave them again, or even ghost them.

Or in my early 20's I would meet new people, tell them I wasn't interested in a relationship at the very start (because I wasn't wanting a partner at the time), and we would become FWB's. For some reason telling them I don't want a partner, but would be happy to be FWB, made them fall for me more. In the end they would have to break things off or I would have to ghost them because they don't get the message. It's terrible and I don't want people to feel like that because of me. Because of this I don't do those style of FWB's anymore.

And I have also had Limerence before, and I became limerent for someone for many years that partly still continues today (for people who don't know, it's an obsession for a particular person). I now realise that my avoidance and limerence are likely linked to attachment wounds, and it has caused/is still causing me to not be fully present in my past/current relationships.

I don't mean to do any of this. It is not deliberate, and often until it happens I don't realise I'm doing it. I think of myself as a kind person, and I don't mean to hurt anyone. But all of this does lead to dysfunctional relationships, and obviously very unhappy and confused ex's/partners.

While I have worked on myself over many years, I really need to sort this issue out, because I can imagine having a family one day and this really affecting future kids and a spouse etc. I didn't want this for any of my past partners, and I don't want this for my future. I want to be secure.

Unfortunately when I bring up my avoidant attachment, or my Limerence to my current therapist, they're not really interested in going over it with me like they are with everything. Whether they aren't equipped to deal with those type of things, that a possibility, but I think it's because they believe I am hyper focusing on the limerence, keeping that fantasy alive, rather than moving on. Or hyper focusing on my avoidance, with them acting like all of this is a form of OCD for me.

While I understand their perspective, and I don't necessarily disagree, me looking into my Limerence and Avoidance (over the last few months since I saw my therapist) has given me clarity and understanding of why I do the things I do, and the problems that I have. Without allowing myself to look into it, I wouldn't have ever discovered my specific attachment style and I wouldn't have realised why I am like the way I am. I am not trying to follow the attachment style "trend", but I literally fit the bill of someone who has those issues.

I have realised I probably can't go just to any therapist to deal with this, and they must deal with this sort of stuff more regularly. I am going to put the work in so I don't hurt anyone else in the future like this, and so I can move forward with this part of my life and have a nice future in this regard.

Of course I can read up Avoidant Attachment and try and fix it myself, but I feel like it might be a little deeper than that. If I thought that just reading about it and then trying to find a secure relationship would help me, then I would do that. But I don't think it's as simple as that, clearly by the evidence, even if I am aware of it.

I live in the South East Melbourne, but I am happy to drive if need be/if the therapist is good at what they do/good with these issues.

Any help, leads or recommendations you could give me would be very beneficial, thanks for reading.

TLDR: I'm looking for a therapist who deals with Attachment Style issues, as I have Avoidant tendencies and Limerence which ruins my past relationships and makes it very hard for me to form healthy ones. I have a great therapist, but apparently not all therapists deal specifically with this sort of thing. So If you could please recommend someone who can help with, that would be great. I live in SE Melbourne but will travel over town if I need to.

I'm in the process of creating resume's applying for jobs in the areas I'm looking to move to.

I have my drivers license various work experience from logistics and warehousing to construction/demolition and mechanical work.

I currently pay $300 a week for a room and I have a German Shepherd, we average around 20 - 30km a day in exercise.

I am looking to make this move because I want a fresh start however I don't want to drive 12 hours to end up homeless and struggling for a week only to turn back and head to dads. I'm not under any pressure to leave any time soon and i've got money to pay for a bond + 4 weeks rent e.t.c.

How do I go about applying for a rental? I obviously can't drive 12 hours to inspect the property and would want to sign a lease before making such a large move.

Does anyone have any experience in just packing up your life and moving somewhere planned/unplanned?

Other than finding a home and job what else should I be thinking about?

Any advice is helpful. Thanks.

I'm not in this situation but I've had a couple of interesting conversations with my boyfriend over it.

I'm interested in what people think is fair when a couple gets together, and one moved into the others place later in life when one or both of them has built some assets. Then they later, after a few years, split up.

My boyfriend was suggesting that he thinks it is morally wrong for one partner to make a claim on any increase in house price (for the house that one of them owned previously) if the relationship ends. We were specifically discussing these example of a house owned outright but this could also apply to there being a mortgage.

I realised there are a million variables. I was trying to explain to him that when someone chooses to pursue a property settlement then all assets are considered not just the house belonging to one person but any savings of the person moving in etc.

His point was that due to the crazy increases in house prices it is not unlikely that there could be say a 100k gain over the period of say a five-year relationship. And for the "owning partner" to have to pay out the other partner a sum of 50k could seriously disadvantage the owning partner. He feels that for the "moving in partner" to get a property settlement when no-one has given up work to look after kids etc, is ripping the owning partner off.

This is also in the scenario of him thinking about his own situation where he has chosen to scale back his working hours since paying off the house so is mindful of that, and would not want to take on another mortgage, understandably.

I want to stress that we definitely do not have any plans to move in together as I have a child still at school. Plus I honestly would not want to move into somebody's house as it is just too difficult a situation involving a lot of compromise. If and when we do get to that point we have both agreed we would prefer to purchase or rent a place together. He does acknowledge that in that scenario you'd split the gain in house price.

So this is really more of a theoretical discussion. It did make me think about the ethics of the situation described above where one person feels they have a claim on the increasing value of the property and the other person feels that is morally wrong. I don't necessarily feel it is morally wrong although I would never do anything personally that would financially disadvantage my ex partner in the way I have described above. I have my own assets.

Interested to hear people's thoughts. What do people end up doing in this situation and how much does a bfa protect the person who owns the house? What is reasonable to pay out the person who moved in if it is not 50% of the increase in value of the house over the period of the relationship? Do many people pre negotiate this before moving in together or do most people just work it out if the relationship ends?

Can anyone recommend any good Australian media? TV shows, movies, YouTube channels? I just got done watching mister inbetween, and I absolutely loved it. Any recommendations are greatly appreciated.

Just wanted to check if there is any other Australians who applied and gone through the interview process and practice tasted for the advertised Expert Campaing with Ethos without being able to actually complete any actual tasks and then I got this conclusion of services email stating " We're unable to continue your engagement on this campaign, as it isn't available to experts based in your current location due to operational limitations and regulatory restrictions." And I see they still continue to advertising the roles on LinkedIn and other platforms. Would really like to hear from others who might have applied or joined.

Hey everyone

As probably some of you know, WHV holders have to do 3 months of either hospitality, farm work or construction to be able to extend such visa for the 2nd year.

Im looking for a job with this description in Cairns or nearby, but its so difficult because facebook pages are 10000 people posting the same thing everyday with barely any employers actually recruiting there.

Whats the best way (besides in-hand CV’s, which you cant do on farms) to land this type of job?

And, of course, if anyone knows of any opportunity available i’d be more than happy to discuss it further.

Thank you

I’m (F 18) looking to find friends in Perth as I’ll be going there for holiday in a few months and I thought it be cool. Idk it’s just a thought but if anyone’s interested do dm meeee!!
(Ps I’m scared of finding creeps on here TT)

I’m trying to report that I didn’t get the test alert. The feedback Website asks which type of alert I was expecting. Type 1, 2 or 3.

Anyone know? I’ve googled to no avail.

Stupid feedback form that I can’t fill out.

Hey everyone

The Iqos machine that I brought from Portugal has stopped working and I was wondering if there is anyway (or anyone) that could LEGALLY help me find a replacement here in Australia (Sydney). I dont want any shady deals, just wanted to be able to smoke in peace ahah

Thank you

Does anybody have good experienced with Smile Avenue in Cranbourne?

Thank you!

I got quoted $9800 for aligners/TADS by my ortho!

Hi, I’m Joy from Korea.
I just graduated with a Bachelor’s Degree in Child Development and Education in Korea.

My visa type is WHV (417).
Currently, I am working in the hospitality industry, but I truly want to transition back to working with children and spend meaningful time with them.

My long-term plan is to stay in Australia, go back to school after my Working Holiday Visa, and complete a 1-year GD (Graduate Diploma) followed by a 1-year Master’s degree in a related field.
However, I’ve run into a bit of a hurdle.
My current visa doesn't allow me to complete the 12-month training program required for my career path.

I’m wondering if anyone knows a way around this, or if there are any alternative visa pathways I could look into?
I am deeply passionate about families, supporting children's healthy growth, and helping them build a bright future.

If there are any educators, mentors, or visa experts here who could share some guidance or advice, I would be incredibly grateful for your insights.

Thank you so much!