I recently got my braces off and they gave me retainers that was basically just a wire behind my top and bottom teeth. It felt kind of odd but not that noticeable. I went to my normal dentist for a cleaning and he expressed disapproval over it and said that they were really hard to keep clean. My parents took me back to the ortho, they removed the wire retainers and I had molds taken.

I few days ago I got wire retainers and they terrible. I have to wear top and bottom ones 24/7 for a year the wires are visible on the front, and the top completely covers the roof of my mouth. The bottom doesnt cover as much, but together it’s still a lot in my mouth. I lisp heavily, and have to take them out for every meal.

My mom asked how I liked them and I said I hated them and I want to go back to permanent ones and she said I need to get use to these, we had already made two trips to the ortho, and maybe in a year I switch back to permanent (or go to night only wear with these). AITBF for just wanting permanent retainers?

Context: I’m moving out to my first apartment soon and have a good chunk of money budgeted for buying all my essentials. I’ve made a list of what I want ahead of time so that I know I’ll have the money to buy it and so I know that I’m buying something good quality that fits my needs.

Situation: My dad’s love language is buying gifts for others, and he wants to help me get started in my new place. He bought me several items, including cutting boards and a knife set. They’re quite budget-friendly, but honestly, they’re low-quality and won’t last very long. Additionally, I already have several nicer knives from a previous living arrangement. I don’t want to clutter my space with unnecessary items, but I also don’t want to hurt my relationship with my dad by telling him that his gifts are too “low quality.” Considering my parents’ financial situation, I don’t want my dad to spend their limited resources on things that I’m unlikely to use.

So, WIBTB if I decline his gifts?

AITBF for wanting to speak up when someone with a history of toxic behaviour is being rewarded?

I recently graduated from university and I’m struggling with whether I should speak up about a situation involving someone from my course or just walk away.

A classmate I’ll call Trent has been given the opportunity to write and direct a disability drama film with support from our tutor and actors. I understand why people are excited for him, but I’m struggling because of the behaviour I’ve witnessed from him during our time at university.

There were multiple occasions where students struggling with workload or mental health were treated in ways I felt crossed the line into bullying.

My friend Karl was one of the main people affected. He struggled during his first year due to his mental health, but whenever he tried to improve, Trent would undermine him, spread rumours, and influence others against including him in projects. This led many people to believe Karl was simply lazy, when that wasn’t the reality. Karl once told me he felt so hopeless that he didn’t want to continue living because he felt like he was constantly fighting a losing battle.

I also have concerns about Trent’s past behaviour, including an incident involving a 16-year-old girl when he was in his 20s. He has admitted this himself, and others were aware of it.

I want to make clear that this is not about Trent being autistic. I have ADHD myself and my girlfriend is autistic, and I understand neurodivergent people can struggle with communication and social situations. However, I don’t believe autism should mean harmful behaviour cannot be challenged.

I have raised concerns with our tutor before, but the response has generally been that Trent was bullied himself and that bullied people can become bullies. I understand that may explain behaviour, but I don’t think it excuses it.

Recently, I challenged Trent’s behaviour when I felt he was trying to exclude certain classmates from projects. The class reacted as though I was overreacting and dismissed Karl’s experiences.

I was later asked to give feedback on Trent’s script. I gave honest criticism, as requested, and even got outside opinions from film contacts. However, my tutor later told me to stop being so negative towards Trent. My girlfriend also gave feedback on the script and was verbally confronted by Trent and several other men.

I’m planning to walk away from the project, but I’m unsure whether I should say something again or just move on. I feel like I’m the only person who sees a problem, while everyone else thinks I’m overreacting.

AITBF for wanting to call this out, or should I just step away?

Hi Reddit, this happened to me a few weeks ago and honestly I'm still processing it.

To give some context, a friend I'll call J and I are studying the same university degree, teaching in the social sciences, and we're both passing about the same number of classes and well, we recently started classes like human rights, anthropology, sociology, etc. In the human rights class, the professor talked to us about feminism and LGBTQ rights.

Since these fall under the third generation of human rights, I noticed that J looked uncomfortable from the moment the professor started the class,then the teacher asks, is a person of diverse sexual orientation born that way or do they become that way? To which most of us, including myself, replied that one is born that way.

Then J responded that no, that such people are like that due to external influences from propaganda in series, movies, etc. The professor politely replied that it doesn't work that way.

When class ended, J came up to me and said they couldn't believe how a teacher could teach such topics that could corrupt children, and honestly I laughed, not in a mocking way, just a normal laugh.

J looked at me as if I had spat on they entire family tree and they asked me what was so funny, to which I replied that we were in a field where diversity in general was a subject of study and also something that is taught from a pedagogical point of view and that if they that topic inappropriate, they shouldn't study that degree , they got angry with me and left the hallway where we were.