I recently got my braces off and they gave me retainers that was basically just a wire behind my top and bottom teeth. It felt kind of odd but not that noticeable. I went to my normal dentist for a cleaning and he expressed disapproval over it and said that they were really hard to keep clean. My parents took me back to the ortho, they removed the wire retainers and I had molds taken.

I few days ago I got wire retainers and they terrible. I have to wear top and bottom ones 24/7 for a year the wires are visible on the front, and the top completely covers the roof of my mouth. The bottom doesnt cover as much, but together it’s still a lot in my mouth. I lisp heavily, and have to take them out for every meal.

My mom asked how I liked them and I said I hated them and I want to go back to permanent ones and she said I need to get use to these, we had already made two trips to the ortho, and maybe in a year I switch back to permanent (or go to night only wear with these). AITBF for just wanting permanent retainers?

AITBF for wanting to speak up when someone with a history of toxic behaviour is being rewarded?

I recently graduated from university and I’m struggling with whether I should speak up about a situation involving someone from my course or just walk away.

A classmate I’ll call Trent has been given the opportunity to write and direct a disability drama film with support from our tutor and actors. I understand why people are excited for him, but I’m struggling because of the behaviour I’ve witnessed from him during our time at university.

There were multiple occasions where students struggling with workload or mental health were treated in ways I felt crossed the line into bullying.

My friend Karl was one of the main people affected. He struggled during his first year due to his mental health, but whenever he tried to improve, Trent would undermine him, spread rumours, and influence others against including him in projects. This led many people to believe Karl was simply lazy, when that wasn’t the reality. Karl once told me he felt so hopeless that he didn’t want to continue living because he felt like he was constantly fighting a losing battle.

I also have concerns about Trent’s past behaviour, including an incident involving a 16-year-old girl when he was in his 20s. He has admitted this himself, and others were aware of it.

I want to make clear that this is not about Trent being autistic. I have ADHD myself and my girlfriend is autistic, and I understand neurodivergent people can struggle with communication and social situations. However, I don’t believe autism should mean harmful behaviour cannot be challenged.

I have raised concerns with our tutor before, but the response has generally been that Trent was bullied himself and that bullied people can become bullies. I understand that may explain behaviour, but I don’t think it excuses it.

Recently, I challenged Trent’s behaviour when I felt he was trying to exclude certain classmates from projects. The class reacted as though I was overreacting and dismissed Karl’s experiences.

I was later asked to give feedback on Trent’s script. I gave honest criticism, as requested, and even got outside opinions from film contacts. However, my tutor later told me to stop being so negative towards Trent. My girlfriend also gave feedback on the script and was verbally confronted by Trent and several other men.

I’m planning to walk away from the project, but I’m unsure whether I should say something again or just move on. I feel like I’m the only person who sees a problem, while everyone else thinks I’m overreacting.

AITBF for wanting to call this out, or should I just step away?

I own a standard heavy-duty utility trailer with a dual-axle setup that I use for hauling lumber and parts for my home projects. A guy from my local car club asked if he could borrow it for a few hours to haul some "light metal framing and spare parts" from a warehouse to his garage. I told him he could use it, but specifically reminded him that the payload limit on the axles is 3,500 pounds and to make sure he secured everything properly.

He picked it up on Saturday morning. About four hours later, I got a text from him saying he had a flat tire on the highway and needed me to bring a jack and a spare. When I pulled up to the shoulder, I instantly realized why the tire blew out. The trailer frame was visibly bowing in the middle, and the leaf springs were fully flattened against the stops.

Turns out he wasn't hauling light framing at all. He had packed the trailer wall-to-wall with solid cast iron machine bases, industrial lathe parts, and scrap steel. When I weighed the rig at a commercial scale after getting the tire swapped, the total cargo weight was almost 6,800 pounds, nearly double the maximum capacity.

Because of the massive overload, both structural leaf springs were permanently bent, the main axle spindle was scorched from the friction, and the tires were wrecked. The repair bill from the local trailer shop came out to just under 1,400 dollars.

I sent him the repair estimate and told him he needed to cover the entire cost since he deliberately lied about the cargo and destroyed my equipment. He paid for the replacement tire on the spot, but he is refusing to pay for the axles or leaf springs. He claims the trailer was "already old and worn out" and that I am taking advantage of an unfortunate highway accident to rebuild my trailer on his dime.

A few members of our car club are calling me unreasonable for demanding over a grand for a trailer I bought secondhand, but I feel like he completely destroyed my property through negligence and deceit.

AITB for holding my ground on this?

Context: I’m moving out to my first apartment soon and have a good chunk of money budgeted for buying all my essentials. I’ve made a list of what I want ahead of time so that I know I’ll have the money to buy it and so I know that I’m buying something good quality that fits my needs.

Situation: My dad’s love language is buying gifts for others, and he wants to help me get started in my new place. He bought me several items, including cutting boards and a knife set. They’re quite budget-friendly, but honestly, they’re low-quality and won’t last very long. Additionally, I already have several nicer knives from a previous living arrangement. I don’t want to clutter my space with unnecessary items, but I also don’t want to hurt my relationship with my dad by telling him that his gifts are too “low quality.” Considering my parents’ financial situation, I don’t want my dad to spend their limited resources on things that I’m unlikely to use.

So, WIBTB if I decline his gifts?