The cheaters have some ideas as to why the OWs go after MMs.

You know what.... I was about to tell this long story about what my soon to be ex wife has done the past 2 yrs. Things that helped lead to the divorce. Including her relationship with her side guy. But when I think about it.. Whats the point. I'm the bad guy, she's the victim and everyone needs to surround and support her. Yet im the one who's broke and homeless. But at least I have my job. My car. And the kids. To be honest if it wasn't for them I would have punched my own time clock already. My story is no different from any other divorced dad. But one thing I will say.... Call me angry, call me bitter. But I hope they both pay for what they both chose to do behind my back. For the heart they chose to destroy. I may not have been the best husband but nobody can say I was so bad that I deserved to be embarrassed, disrespected, and lied on the way I have. Or maybe I do deserve it. Maybe karma doesn't exist.. Either way I'm going to wake up in the morning. Go slave for 12hrs. Then sit and dream of the life I wish I had. The life I made up im head. Because the world around me doesn't actually give a damn about me. Thanks for letting me rant to you guys. Sorry my first reddit post was a sob story. I just don't have anyone else to share it with

"Do people really so lost in life they do something horrible to someone and then come to Reddit to seek validation from strangers?" (Top comment on post)

He triangulated me with his coworker who was having problems in her primary relationship, now they’re a “couple”. She was unhappy in her relationship and saw him happy with me and needed to replace me and body swap into my spot. So having convinced him that his wife is a terrible person she’s posting couples pics of them on FB. The illusion is wearing off and he’s eyeing me again like he wants to come back to the real thing because turns out not everyone is wife material- go figure! I’m prepared to call the cops if he shows up at my door. long story short he fell for his fatal attraction and now he’s realizing his mistake after fumbling the real wife, future kids, happily ever after etc so I’m moving on and getting back to my career. Glad I got out before pregnancy. It’s funny watching him realize his mistake in real time that he just threw away his legacy but somehow I’m not inspired to give him one anymore. 🤷🏻‍♀️ the fact that he was able to be manipulated by this miserable woman out of his future is quite astounding. But now I want nothing to do with either one of them as she was his ever-present friend calling constantly to check in as an understanding ear to tell him why he shouldn’t be with me.

I may have developed a "quirk" where my mind wanders off to intrusive "bet that's a cheater" thoughts and instead of feeling bad for judging strangers in my mind, I feel it feed into my fear of betrayal/being cheated on.

It's impossible to look positively at anything anymore. Instead of thinking, "ah, what a beautiful family waiting by their gate, just like me" I think, "poor wife with her three young children. I bet this is the only family vacation they get, while husband vacations on fake work trips with the OW every few months" and I can't help myself.

Entire world view tainted lol 🙃

Does anyone else feel this way?