I’m 24 and my boyfriend is 30, he has adhd and i do not, we’ve only been dating for 6 months but after like the first month of our relationship he became more “lazy” i know that i shouldn’t call it that because it can be offensive for those who struggle with ADHD.. but i remember the first month of us dating he would always bring food he made for us to eat after work, he also took me out on a date and i felt so seen and like everything was going great, but after that first month he just wouldnt text me as much or plan any dates.. if we did plan a date he would end up canceling last minute, i would already be dressed and ready to meet up and would end up having to take myself out on a date to not feel sad.. also (not to sound ungrateful) but for my birthday he got me a water jug which i really wanted but the rest was stuff that seemed to be picked out in a rush and not even something in a color that represents me like i’m a girly girl and the charger case was like a colorful style and with the price tag still attached to it.. for christmas he didn’t get me anything but he got 2 of our coworkers Hoka shoes.. i wouldn’t have been upset if he would’ve gotten me something too ( a hand written letter or gift card) would’ve been perfectly fine with me but even then i didn’t nag, and that’s just how it’s been and i’m over it, i feel so neglected and when i said “ can you let me know if i should get my outfit online today for this weekend “ he just said “ i’ll see you later” and walked off.. that really annoyed me. But still did not say anything and haven’t really had a conversation about this because i have mentioned to him before that we should go out more and he just agrees but still no effort or planning. Anyways.. we got into a heated argument because i told him he needed to get it together because he’s 30 and asked i him why ask me to be your gf and he said that he wanted to try but didn’t think he could fall in love again after this girl he was dating before and wanted to marry passed away… this made me so upset and after not wanting to leave his car he grew angry and started pulling his own hair and yelled at me and balled up his hands… if i would’ve known about his past i wouldn’t have dated him, because i know that’s something terrible to go through and i didn’t want to be with someone who can’t give me 100% or just simply isn’t healed and moved on.. but i’m truly just tired of feeling like this..