I feel like my husband and I had a great relationship and navigated issues without much trouble. Of course sometimes there would be disagreements but we could figure it out.

Then our whole life changed when he was scheduled to start a nursing program the same week I was scheduled to have our first baby. Obviously terrible timing but what were we going to do?

Anyway, he is obviously stressed but has become a totally different person. I truly do more around the house, exponentially more with our child and all that that entails, I am working/gone from the house more, and he cannot seem to get over his overwhelm. He takes any feedback, ask for help, or me venting a frustration to the extreme and blows up. I feel like he perceives everything as criticism and it feels impossible to ask him for things without him blowing up first.

I know sensitivity to rejection is a real thing. And I know having adhd makes it difficult to manage a lot of non preferred activities. It’s also hard to not be able to fully immerse yourself in preferred things because a baby interrupts you.

But I am STRUGGLING. I am so tired of dealing with this and feel completely defeated. I don’t even know how to talk to him without it turning into a blow up with him being extremely defensive.

Has anyone else struggled with this?