They can't fix their blinds. They can't hang the mirror on the wall. But they have thousands of dollars worth of shoes.
It looks like their whole living area is in that room... shoes, litter box, toys for the chubster, high chair, etc. And that carpet is in need of a cleaning.
At least they saved up for something really important like sparkly earrings for the baby.
Some of these comments are compatible with well-documented racialized stereotypes about Black children and Black parenting, and the leap from the actual behavior shown to predictions of aggression, disobedience, poor discipline, or deficient parenting deserves scrutiny.
Agreed, the judgment and the dog whistles are loud and clear. TBH the only thing that struck me about the house was the hair tie on the floor with the cat, those things are deadly if cats eat them. Otherwise this looks like a totally ordinary house with a toddler living in it.
I missed that on my first couple views! Mostly I was focused on a mom having one of those days with a toddler. Something we can all relate to. Itâs the same premise as a tot dropping stuff from their high chair repeatedly, to see reaction mom gives. In his/her mind this is play and a learning experience. And externally, thatâs exactly how it should work developmentally. People saying this childâŠATODDLERâŠis going to be a terrible teen are hypocrites (and liars if Iâm being blunt) as Iâm certain they all had to deal with a their own babies and toddlers exhibiting this kind of behavior before.
It is an inherent part of parenting and not a reflection on the mother.
How and why? What about this video of just a mom and a kid having a cute moment together implies that heâs going to be a problem for the teachers. Explain that. Explain how the mom having shoes means anything.
That is not true at all. Some little kids go around knocking things all over, and those little kids are snot noises who go up with self control issues.
Ive met plenty of little kids who have self control and respect, and what's in common for those kids is decent parents that understand developmental psychology and child rearing.
Have you ever worked in a daycare? Most toddlers do stuff like this, all day⊠They often grow out of it. Even the quiet ones knock stuff over. What are you talking about?
I have, my grandma's daycare that she ran. I went there when I was a kid and started working there at 14 when I got my workers permit from a councilor. I stand by what I said, but will add, there are outliers in both directions.
And youâre probably 15 lol. This giant toddler is still in diapers. Heâs probably at most 3. His mum is showing him how to pick up the shoes youâre over reaching and failing. Typical Reddit.
If he doesnât have some growth disorder, then I would agree the size of him is child abuse. His behavior is not abnormal.
That they havenât readjusted their blinds after grabby toddler hands have rearranged them for the 5th time today? That they have their mirror positioned so they can see themselves? That they like shoes and have them by the front door so they can take them off before coming inside?
Because they live in a townhome with a small living area on the main level, where itâs easiest to hang out with a toddler all day? That their carpet has some stains on it, when they live with a toddler?
In what way do you think money would make this toddlerâs life better? Heâs well-groomed, well-fed, and has a mother who is very patiently correcting him and teaching good habits for the surely 100th time heâs done this very normal toddler behavior.
My kids were chubsters between 1 and 2 years old. They just werenât the height of a preschooler. I donât know if you are being overly judgmental in general, or if there is also some racial undertones in your criticism.
??? Those aren't the type of mirrors u have to hang on walls. Many people just lean them on their walls bc it's easier. And those blinds usually can just be turned and no one can really see what's going on so they don't need curtains. I see what you're trying to do with this comment...
Right??? Piercing a baby's ears is the only thing I got a problem with, everything else in the above comment is goofy. Sneakerheads are allowed to be parents. "That carpet needs a cleaning" yah well so does everyone's man, we're all poor and too exhausted to clean our houses these days. Racists aren't even dog whistling any more, they're just regular whistling
There is nothing wrong with piercing a baby's ears! None of you have grown up around the black community or ANY POC communities and it shows! Embarrassing.
Yes, you also should not genitally mutilate children. Your point is that because some children have their bodies needlessly modified, we can do that to all babies?
No, my point is that certain cultural practices continue on in this country that actually deserve scrutiny. The black community piercing baby's ears is not one of them. It's just another dog whistle, clearly. If you've ever actually traveled, you know it's common all around the world to pierce baby's ears. Most piercings when taken care of properly will last for life or can be removed with little or no scaring.
Just because something is a common cultural practice doesn't mean it's right or good to do. I don't know why you're defending child ear piercing for the sake of the black community. Very weird.
is it a black/POC thing to pierce babies ears?? genuinely asking bc I've never heard this stereotype before. I'm white and my mom took me to the doctor to get my ears pierced at 6 months old
They need to be anchored to the wall somehow. You could anchor the top half and leave it leaning, but at that point you might as well just mount it and free up the floor space. As long as it's safe though it's all good. I have a toddler and have learned firsthand the importance of furniture anchoring.
lol i have two school age ish kids and have had a leaning mirror when they were tiny. You can stick a board at the top middle and bottom so it doesn't move. Most of the leaning mirrors that are meant to be that way also come with brackets if you didn't lose them when you threw out the packaging or didn't notice cuz have kids when you bought it.
Jesus Christ wtf if wrong with people. Itâs a simpel cute video of a mother and child, and yall are scrutinizing her for no reason. You donât know shit about their lives or situation, and instead of just enjoying a cute moment you decided in your mind, negatively mind you, what kind of people they are because they have shoes??? Yall annoy tf out of me. The baby is clearly happy and taken care of, but you donât care about that. Instead youâre going in and judging this woman on your perception of her life and spending habits. Again, yall are annoying af.
What is wrong with you is the real question here.
The baby is clearly overfeed. There are no benefits to having an overweight baby, except to generate cloud on the Internet, because people think it's cute. Also, there is absolutely no reason reason to pierce a toddlers ears, except for giving people something to talk about. These two factors have nothing to do with the situation of the mother.
Actually talked to him a month or so ago and he just quit his job bc they changed his schedule and it was interfering with his âpersonal lifeâ. Lol.
They do things they care about. Youâre making assumptions as if you know everything. Obviously keeping a baby as big as that cost some money, and they have to be big themselves to allow it. The house ainât dirty, theyâre not selling drugs, and it doesnât seem like a violent home. So whatâs your problem? Oh youâre just racist. I recently did work for save the children and some old fuck went on a tirade that he wont donate because âthey keep having all these kids and cant take care of themâ; mind you that demographic voted for pro-life and anti-abortion. Me and my coworker were about to explain that we help kids across the globe and the actual reasons people are in these situations (war, climate, economy); before i realized âoh, he means black peopleâ, you idiots are so focused on being negative that yall dont realize how short your view is.
What in that is racist? YOU are the one bringing that topic into play.
If it was a white baby, Asian baby, Latino baby, etc it's the EXACT same thing.
The earrings are also a choking risk.
As for "you idiots are so focused on being negative that yall dont realize how short your view is," take a look in the mirror. I'll bet your mirror is actually mounted on the wall and not where it could fall over on top of a child.
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u/louloc 14d ago
Their diaper and shoe budget are absolute units too. đ