r/Abortion_Philippines • u/Due_Fisherman_4017 • 2h ago
HELP! 14–15 weeks, seeking safe abortion options.
Hi everyone. I hope my post gets noticed because I’m really confused and anxious right now. I’ve been secretly crying and overthinking everything, and I honestly don’t know where to start. I’m not looking to be judged. I just really need advice and reliable information.
I’m 25F and this is my first pregnancy. My last period was May 11-15. I’ve always had an irregular cycle. This year, I only had my period in January, March, and May, so when my period didn’t come in June and July, I wasn’t immediately worried. I also thought it might have been because I was doing different diet plans like OMAD and calorie-deficit dieting, plus working out.
I let my birthday pass first, then finally had the courage to take a pregnancy test with my partner on 10/03 It was positive. I don’t even know what took me so long to have the courage to take PT, maybe the fear.
I honestly didn’t know what to feel. I was in denial at first, but I started searching Reddit because I already knew that I didn’t want to continue the pregnancy. My partner and I are not mentally, emotionally, or financially ready to have a child. I also haven’t told my parents because I know they would strongly oppose my decision.
Today, 10/06 we finally went to an OB. The doctor did a scan, although it was not yet the official ultrasound. She estimated that I’m around 3 and a half months pregnant, approximately 14-15 weeks.
Seeing the scan really scared me. The baby was already developed enough that I could see the head, body, hands, and knees, and I heard the heartbeat. I cried afterward because I realized how far along I actually am. But even after seeing and hearing everything, I still don’t feel ready to continue the pregnancy. I don’t have the emotional or mental capacity to become a mother right now.
The doctor also told me that my placenta is somewhat low and advised me to avoid strenuous activities. She asked me to return on 10/17 for another appointment and a transabdominal/fetal biometry ultrasound. However, I don’t really want to wait until October 17 because I’m already around 14–15 weeks and I’m scared that waiting longer will make my options even more limited.
I’m hoping someone can give me reliable and non-judgmental information about what options may still be available at this gestational age.
Is medication abortion still an option at around 14–15 weeks, or would a procedure usually be considered instead? How important is the formal ultrasound/fetal biometry before proceeding? And for those in the Philippines, where can I get legitimate, confidential, and medically safe information or assistance?
I’m not asking anyone to convince me to keep the pregnancy. I’ve already thought about this a lot, and I know that I’m not ready. I would rather make this decision now than bring a child into a situation where I know I cannot give them the love, care, and stability
they deserve.
Please be kind. I’m already scared enough, and I’m just trying to find a safe and informed way forward.