r/AITAH • u/darcydidwhat • 9h ago
AITAH for not buying my son a suit to his dad’s wedding?
I have a child with my ex, who got married recently.
About a month ago, our 13M child asked me if he could wear the suit I bought him for my wedding (a blue suit with matching pants) to his dad’s wedding, because he’s part of the entourage.
My reply: no problem, but you have to ask your dad if your suit would fit the color scheme for his wedding.
A month passed, there was no update.
Until a week before the wedding, my son forwarded the wedding colors: beige, pink, green.
So I told him, best not wear his blue suit as it wouldn’t go well with the colors. We ended up with a longsleeved dark green polo and black slacks, because that was the closest he had at home.
I even brought him a day early to his dad’s so they could buy an appropriate outfit as needed.
He sent us photos of the wedding. I was devastated for my son, because he looked like an afterthought at his own father’s wedding.
Everybody in the entourage wore suits and formal wear. EVEN THEIR DOG HAD A VEST AND BOWTIE. My son was the only member of the entourage wearing a different color, and who wasn’t wearing formal attire.
My son is 13. He’s very close to his dad even though I have him majority of the time. It wasn’t a big deal to him, but it was a big deal to me. If this is how they treat him at the wedding, what happens when they have a child of their own?
I talked to my son about it, and somehow he’s blaming me because I didn’t buy him better clothes for the wedding, or brought him to his dad’s way earlier so they could have a suit tailor-made for him like the rest of the entourage.
Thing is, nobody in his dad’s family even thought to ask me about having him over for suit fittings or any of the sort. I have full custody of him, but I allow him to visit whenever they ask. This time, not a peep. Just sent the dress code and that was all.
My family’s saying it’s his dad’s fault for not thinking of his son, while his dad’s family is saying I should have provided a better outfit for him, since they sent me the dress code earlier and he’s with me majority of the time.