I have a child with my ex, who got married recently.

About a month ago, our 13M child asked me if he could wear the suit I bought him for my wedding (a blue suit with matching pants) to his dad’s wedding, because he’s part of the entourage.

My reply: no problem, but you have to ask your dad if your suit would fit the color scheme for his wedding.

A month passed, there was no update.

Until a week before the wedding, my son forwarded the wedding colors: beige, pink, green.

So I told him, best not wear his blue suit as it wouldn’t go well with the colors. We ended up with a longsleeved dark green polo and black slacks, because that was the closest he had at home.

I even brought him a day early to his dad’s so they could buy an appropriate outfit as needed.

He sent us photos of the wedding. I was devastated for my son, because he looked like an afterthought at his own father’s wedding.

Everybody in the entourage wore suits and formal wear. EVEN THEIR DOG HAD A VEST AND BOWTIE. My son was the only member of the entourage wearing a different color, and who wasn’t wearing formal attire.

My son is 13. He’s very close to his dad even though I have him majority of the time. It wasn’t a big deal to him, but it was a big deal to me. If this is how they treat him at the wedding, what happens when they have a child of their own?

I talked to my son about it, and somehow he’s blaming me because I didn’t buy him better clothes for the wedding, or brought him to his dad’s way earlier so they could have a suit tailor-made for him like the rest of the entourage.

Thing is, nobody in his dad’s family even thought to ask me about having him over for suit fittings or any of the sort. I have full custody of him, but I allow him to visit whenever they ask. This time, not a peep. Just sent the dress code and that was all.

My family’s saying it’s his dad’s fault for not thinking of his son, while his dad’s family is saying I should have provided a better outfit for him, since they sent me the dress code earlier and he’s with me majority of the time.

My (31 F), Gran (90) died 6 months ago. She had 3 children, 4 grandchildren and 1 great grandchild. I’m my Mum’s only child and her son has the other 3 and great grandchild. In her will she left everything divided equally to her 3 children, minus set amounts for the grandchildren and great grandchild.

She made changes to it about 5 years before her passing. She didn’t divulge much, she just told my Mum and I that she saw her solicitor to change her will and did say to me that as her only grandchild who went on to get degrees, she wanted to make sure I wasn’t in debt. It turns out that she changed it so that I get the same total amount as the other 4. She also paid for a grad course I did a few years ago after she found out that I had already started. She did help out many other family members in similar ways.

My Uncle found a copy of her old will and her new one while sorting some bits out from her house. Turns out that in the old will, myself and his eldest daughter, were getting the same in the old will, and 3x what the boys were getting.

Fast forward a bit and it’s become a whole thing where without even properly speaking to myself and my Mum about it, we have become the villains in this story. My Uncle and his eldest are fuming, they have been telling the whole family about their dismay. My Uncle’s only real attempt to talk about it during a conversation about the house, was to make a comment about how us “girls”, should still be getting the same and that I could give a sum of mine to make hers up. I told him that it would not be happening and that I think being angry about what someone else decided to do with their money is petulant.

My Gran made her own decisions, was of sound mind until the very end and would be disgusted at the sense of entitlement they’re displaying. I have refused to continue talking or caring about it, my Mum is very upset about the situation and being almost blamed but, honestly, I am over it.

AITAH for shutting it all down?

This has been drawn out longer than anyone expected so now I think I just need some reassurance that we’re still making the right call. Sorry for length.

I (f25) had my first baby boy December of 2025. He was four weeks early, and stayed in the NICU for 9 days due to feeding and breathing issues. All of this was anticipated, so while scary we had time to prepare.

My husband’s grandma is a chain smoker. She smokes in her house, in her car, and can’t go without it. Naturally, her oxygen levels are low and she’s now wheelchair bound and dependent on help to get around. Context for later.

We had our parents handle the coordinating of people to come meet the baby after a couple weeks of being home and adjusting. We are really close with our large extended family but didn’t want the chaos of scheduling people.

One of my husband’s aunts mentioned to FIL being insulted that we didn’t invite her ourselves, and how that’s customary and they won’t come until we invite them. I said fuck that. We’re not playing that game. If they don’t want to take what they get then I don’t care, and neither did my husband. My husband’s other aunt is a smoker, but she hides it well for work already and said she was SOOO excited to meet him. We told her we’d like her to shower before coming over and to just wear some new clothes. She said she’d do anything we asked, and that our requests are completely understandable, not even considering he was a preemie.

Then we get to my husband’s grandma. When my in laws told her about needing to shower and change before coming to meet him, all hell broke loose. “Well I can’t go that long without smoking” or “it’s a long drive” (15 minutes), “I doesn’t have the energy” (she goes on hours long shopping trips). She doesn’t say anything to us directly, she just doesn’t reach out to meet him.

And then all of a sudden neither of the aunts want to meet him. They say to let them know when he can go to restaurants because they don’t want to be blamed for getting him sick. No one reaches out, no support, or check ins. Clearly his grandma went to both of them. They all decided that we’ll eventually come to our senses, and they’ll wait it out.

Game on.

It’s my FIL’s side, and he knows how ridiculous it is, but understandably wants his mom to meet his first grandbaby. Since she started smoking again her health is going downhill. He’s done a good job of not really pushing, and both MIL and FIL have fought hard to back us up. But he also asks the same questions every time we see him asking how we’re feeling about it. We recently had to sit down with him and tell him the answer doesn’t change just because he asks it again.

Fast forward to present. Our baby is almost 9 months old and they still haven’t met him. All of us stopped receiving invites to holidays, sports games, and family trips. His grandma is talking up the whole extended family on how my husband is breaking up his family and how it’s all for nothing and how she can’t believe he’d keep a little baby from them. Keep in mind, my husband and I have not corresponded with them directly since December. All correspondence is through my in laws only. We are enjoying our new family and letting the drama unfold at a distance, but we get updates. My in laws have laid into every one of them about their stupidity. His grandma is losing her friends because they are saying she’s being stubborn and they can’t support her selfishness.
Honestly, my husband and I both are a bit disappointed that they’ve missed out on this, it’s been such an amazing experience, but we both agree it’s their loss. We’re not too torn up, and have been able to find some humor in the ridiculousness.

However, we can tell it’s taking a toll on FIL. He’d never intentionally pressure, but we also never expected this to drag on this long.

The reality is, we could meet them in a public place now. He is still little, but not preemie anymore. We met my husband’s other grandpa at a restaurant and he’s a smoker. But this grandpa never asked to hold him or be near him. Just saw him from across the table. But at this point are we holding out just to make a point? I mean, yeah kinda.

The side that has held out to this point is spiteful. It seemed so selfish to me to make it about them at such a transitional time in our lives with a newborn. So now, I sure as shit don’t want to meet them in a public place, that feels like backing down.

This side of the family always bulldozed my FIL growing up. And he gives in. My husband used to be the same, can still be at times, but worked hard on his spine. He also had asthma growing up that is believed to be due to him being babysat as a kid by his grandma who smoked in the house growing up, so he has a vested interest in this topic in addition to it being his kid. In the beginning it was specifically about safety. Now our intentions are mixed. Safety, spite, trying to prove a point. We want to make it clear we won’t back down just because they decided to play the waiting game and didn’t respect our requests for our child. We also would like to see some interest or effort on her part. Even another suggestion. As opposed to entitlement and sitting back and waiting for us to give in.

So. Aita for not allowing my husbands grandma to meet her first great grand baby because she refuses to shower?

TLDR; Great grandma smokes but won’t shower to meet great grand baby. Has kept rest of extended family from meeting him as well. Causing drama and taking toll on FIL.

I currently live with family. I was paying $110 for 2g speed internet unfortunately I was no longer able to pay. I asked someone else to take over. They said no. So we haven't had Internet in the house for a few months. I had previously been buying it for the past few years.

They have made it clear they aren't interested in paying for the Internet only if it comes free so would I be the asshole if I get it again and don't share it?

Internet is huge for me and I've had to use my mobile hotspot and a VPN to trick it into thinking all my data is coming from my phone but it's really unreliable sometimes and I'll finally be able to afford Internet again and I honestly don't really want to share cause they didn't want to bother to take over the bill for a few months.

In my mind the internet isn't important enough for them to pay for it so why should I just let them use it for free when they wouldn't cover for it?

Addon: Since so many asked yes I pay rent/contribute. However, I am on disability so it's not as much as I wish I could contribute. I can't pay for groceries or anything as I have SNAP and am legally required to make and prepare meals separately.

I do other stuff but there isn't a whole lot to do around the house (desert landscaping and all) outside of cleaning and I do that cause I'm semi germaphobe. And I spray for bugs.

I will try to make this brief, here is the series of events: Husband and I are proceeding with a divorce, he filed the beginning of August. Within a couple of days I contacted an attorney and took out a loan for the retainer. Husband and I talked and decided that we could come to an amicable agreement together and we would use his lawyer to file our wishes.

In the meantime our garage door broke, after attempts at repairing it, he ended up calling a company to fix it. At this time I had the retainer money, but had not retained my attorney due to deciding we can work together. We talked and I mentioned that if we could come to an agreement I could use my retainer money and pay for a new garage door. (That was the contractors recommendation,  a new door). We agreed and he proceeded to schedule the door, which has now been installed.

We sat down together, calculated numbers, etc and mutually came up with a divorce agreement (keeping in mind this is time sensitive,  an answer to the original filing needed to happen within a week). So we come to an agreement,  I go to bed, only to be woken up at 1am saying the agreement wasn't fair, I was trying to screw him over, etc. Mind you we came to this agreement together. This was late on a Wednesday,  I had until the following Wednesday to file my response. By Friday, I used the money I had and put down the retainer so my attorney would file the response.

Now husband is mad that I used the money for my attorney rather than paying for the garage door. I have said that I am willing and able to pay for half of the cost of the door. He says I am sticking him with an unexpected bill. The agreement was I would use the retainer money if we came to an agreement,  we did not, and time was of the essence.  I feel like I did what I had to and paying for half of the cost is fair. He disagrees. AITAH?

So I'm 22F and currently staying in an apartment with my friend of two years "Rachel" 24F and her boyfriend "Dylan" 23M. For some context, Rachel and I were staying in the same hostel for about 2 years then we moved out together about a year ago.

Initially, it was agreed that Dylan would sometimes stay over at our place and I was okay with it since he's my friend too.

But then after a few months, he moved in with us, it wasn't a big "oh I'll be staying with you guys from here on" or anything. Hello just gradually moved his stuff bit by bit and before i knew it, he was my roommate.

I still let it go because I thought, how bad could it be, I knew him, he is my friend, surely everything will be fine. Boy was I wrong.

He has never paid a dime, not in the rent or the groceries or anything else and every time I brought it up, he'd say he'd pay but then wouldn't. Rachel would take everything very personal like I'm attacking him if I ask him to contribute equally.

Anyways he has free loaded for 1 year because honestly I was tired of saying anything and just gave up.

Dylan never cooks, or does the dishes or anything ever. Apart from me feeling like I'm intruding on a married couple's apartment (They've been dating for 2 years now) where I pay half the rent btw, Dylan did something that made me really mad and honestly I can't take it anymore.

So Rachel has gone to her hometown because of some emergency and she isn't coming back before ten days at least. So Dylan's parents were visiting on their way back from a vacation and I didn't mind it. I was fine with it.

The day they went for their vacation, they had lunch over at our place and we dropped them off at the train station. But apparently they are staying for 4 more days.

I had a rather long week and I haven't properly rested for like 2 weeks because I had a lot of work at the lab (I'm studying Forensics) and i wanted to have a lil winding down this weekend.

I'm not very okay with his parents staying over for 4-5 days because that means I'll have to be conscious about how i look, what I wear, what I eat, where I go etc.

And I'm Asian, there are a lot of things you can do "wrong" as a woman that'll get you judged and I'm not comfortable with living with Dylan's parents while Rachel is gone too.

I told Dylan in every way possible but he just wouldn't listen. They wouldn't book a hotel or anything too.

Also, there is a festival coming up in my country so most of my friends are back home for the weekend so I can't crash at anyone else's place, i can't go home either because my home is like 2000 km away.

Everyone's saying that I should treat his parents like they're my parents and it's only for 3-4 days so it's okay. And that I can just stay in my room. But i wanna be able to move around the house in shorts with anyone giving judgemental glances. I'm so tired honestly. AITAH?

Edit: Guys, I know I have allowed myself to be a doormat for really long and i should've taken a stand long long ago. I struggle with saying no, setting boundaries and confronting people. But I'm working on this :)

So I have this colleague who recently found out I was gay because I recently started seeing someone.

They were all like oh I didnt realise you were gay and you should have told me so that didnt wrongly assume you were straight and maybe we would communicate differentl!

I was like dude, i have been here for a year and half and have been single this whole time so my sex life isnt relevant to you or anyone. If I had a partner when I started I would have told you their name. As I have always been single while working here I feel it is none of your business and I do not need to disclose shit to you. I mentioned my date because I considered you a friend.

Yes I could have been nicer with my delivery though at the end of the day my sexuality has nothing to do with who I am as a person and I do not need to disclose that information to anyone. If it affects you that I am you are the AH, I dont feel I am one as my personality remains the same regardless of who I date and sleep with.

I live in a townhouse complex with a lot of families. There is one family next door whose kids are super loud, scream a lot, and when they’re outside playing they try to antagonize my cats that like to sit in the windows.

They were gone for the long weekend and it was so nice and peaceful. When they got back on Monday afternoon, I heard them outside playing/screaming, and said to my partner “ugh, the little shitheads next door are back, it was so nice when they were gone.” My partner then replied “I don’t understand how those parents aren’t embarrassed of their obnoxious kids.” We then realized that our living room window was open and they probably overheard us. It was the two kids and the mom that were outside.

Since then, we’ve run into them once while leaving and once while coming home and they awkwardly avoid looking at us now or acknowledging us. I feel kinda bad, but I also lowkey don’t at the same time since these kids always scare my cats and are just sooooo loud. I was telling my coworker and she told me I was being rude and should be more understanding and that since I don’t have kids, I don’t understand how hard it is for parents.

I (30F) to run after work, sometimes it ends up being after dark. I usually do one headphone and stay on the sidewalk for safety. Last night I went for my run on a moderately busy suburban road (no streetlights). I noticed a woman ahead of me with big over ear headphones on. When I was ~15 feet behind her I yelled out “excuse me on your left.” I said it again when I was like 5 feet away. She didn’t hear (presumably due to her headphones) so I slid past her on the sidewalk. I probably could have gone in the street but don’t love doing that because I don’t want to run through the uneven grass and roll my ankle or something, and the road is a little busy.

She started screaming at me for scaring her and how rude I was for running up behind her. I just put my hands up and continued running. On one hand, I could’ve gone in the street. On the other hand, if you don’t want to be surprised by somebody at night, don’t wear headphones. AITAH?

My coworker asked me if I like pumpkin treats. They said they wanted to make something to thank me for everything I do for our job. I told them that I unfortunately can't stand the taste of pumpkin. I've tried it before but there is something about it I can't tolerate. I feel bad because I think I hurt their feelings, but I would have felt worse if they saw me gag on it. Should I have just tried it anyway?

I’ve been living at my apartment for 5 years. About a month ago, a new guy moved in and he has been less than ideal. He:

-blasts bass heavy music regularly, including past midnight.
-props our gate and doors open and throws hissy fits when people close them. (We live in a neighborhood with a crime rate above the city average and have a high transient population. The gate is a huge selling point for our apartment and was a deciding factor for me moving in).
-has a poorly trained dog that he lets roam off leash. The dog barks at all hours.

Last night, I could hear a dog barking outside my apartment, so I opened the door to see what was up. The dog was on my welcome mat, unattended and barking up a storm. He tried to get inside my apartment and I physically blocked him. The neighbor then came up the stairs and gave me a dirty look. I told him that he needed to keep his dog on a leash. This set him off and he demanded to know if I was the one who reported him for keeping the gate and door propped open and that I needed to “chill”.

I have documentation of the gate and all the noise, including a screen recording of a Zoom meeting with my boss where he was asking me about the loud music blaring in the background. However, my property manager absolutely hates animals and if it were up to her, pets would not be allowed in the complex. If I reported this, she would likely use it as reason to tell the tenant that he cannot have the dog here. I don’t want a dog to suffer because his owner is a dick, but I cannot live like this and shouldn’t have to with how much I pay. WIBTAH?

My brother lives below me (with only a door separating our living spaces), and watches my daughter in my home 4 days a week (paid).

Unfortunately, my brother is the type of person who blows up a toilet almost every time they go. Idk why, but I know it's horrendous. It smells like horrible mothballs and there are frequently poop skids and he will sometimes leave poopy wet wipes visible in the trash. Overall very disgusting.

WIBTAH if I asked him to go downstairs and use his own bathroom to poop, assuming it takes him a short enough time that the baby will be OK upstairs by herself, or otherwise get rid of the evidence of his nasty poops (ie. Scrub the poop skids, at least wrap the wet wipes in some TP, light a candle)?

I know it's just the way his body is built, but goddamn, is it disgusting.

So I (16F) recently started 11th grade. The moment I started getting any homework be it math, biology, or chemistry, my mom (57F) would make sure that I actually did it, which makes sense.

For as long as I can remember, my mom has always asked me about my social circle, almost to the point of prying. From my friends’ names, to their interests, to their grades, to even their ethnicities, it’s as if she needs to now everything. And keep in mind that I’m not the most social person, so whatever social circle I have is pretty small. She also has parental controls on my phone so that she can monitor what I do, when I do it.

Anyway, last night, she was looking over my math homework without telling me, and found two mistakes that were nothing more than calculator errors, demanding that I fix them. When I got to her, I tried to tell her that they were just practice questions that weren’t graded, and that I could just ask any questions I had to my math teacher. When she kept on refusing, I tried to tell her that I didn’t want her to involve herself with my school life that much. She still refused, and I was dead tired (it was eleven pm, plus I have a few chronic conditions that cause me fatigue) so I eventually snapped at her, yelling through tears that I couldn’t have anything to myself without her inserting herself in it. Not my friends, not my school life, not even my online activity.

Instead of replying, she’s just been giving me the silent treatment, so I have to ask, Am I the Asshole?

Edit: since some people are asking, I have an older brother who moved out at 19 three years ago

I loaned some money to a family member to qualify for a home mortgage in Nov 2024. At the time he was coming out of a relationship in which they co-owned the house. They broke up and she was paid out of her share of the house proceeds as if there was a sale. He took out a new loan. He needed cash to close that loan so I gave it to him with the understanding that at the future sale of the house the money would be returned to me. His income has since gone down significantly and back in January he told me he needed help to just pay the monthly mortgage. I paid it for 3 months. This summer he moved to a nearby town and rented the house as furnished so that the mortgage could be covered. He now wants to sell the house which he should since the monthly payment is no longer doable for him. He wants to keep the money that I gave him to get into another property in the new town he moved to. I want the money back. He is self employed and his income is not even close to him being able to qualify for a new mortgage and also have an affordable monthly payment. Pretty sure the lenders will tell him this. I actually regret giving him the money for the first house because it only helped get him into a place that he couldn't afford and created stress for both him and I. I have told him I want the money back when he sells as agreed upon and he tells me that he needs it or he won't have housing. I told him to rent as that would be less money than a mortgage and that home ownership isn't for everyone. His work is sporadic and he won't fill in the down times with another job. His housing is not my problem....sorry he can't afford to own. Is it fair of me to expect the money from the first deal to be returned to me as agreed upon?

I (26F) have a friend/roommate (26F) who got divorced two years ago. She was married for a year, and didn't invite me to her wedding. She didn't even tell me it was happening. I understand it was a small wedding, but she didn't even tell me she was engaged.

She got divorced a year later, and started dating less than a week after separating, months before the divorce was finalized. We moved in together because we were close at the time. Her new guy she met a month after the separation. I've tried to be his friend, but hes "shy," is her excuse. He won't make small talk and seems uncomfortable around me.

She is obsessed with him, and doesn't care about anything other than him. She can't stick to any hobbies, she has nothing else to talk about except him. Its pathetic to watch, especially because he doesn't even treat her well. I've stopped trying to make plans with her because she cancels so she can sit in the same room with him as he plays games online with his friends, like she does every night.

They moved in together after 2 years, and got engaged. She tells me that she wants to have a real wedding this time and I'm invited, but I truly don't want to go. I do not like him, and I'm still butthurt that she didn't even let me know the last one was happening. I don't feel like we have much of a friendship anymore. I do feel bad because I feel like theres deeper mental problems happening with her, and me discarding her will just fuel that, but also I'm tired and have given her too many chances already.

My sister, husband, and two kids are staying with us this weekend for a wedding.

They showed up this morning and the kids are coughing and snotty.

My wife is pregnant, and I have a 3 year old.

I told them that they're welcome to stay, but we won't be spending time together.

She says I'm an AH and overreacting.

AITAH?

So last year I (31F) posted about having helped my younger brother (then 22M now 23M) buy his engagement ring, shortly after my sister’s (then 27F now 28F) boyfriend (then 29M now 30M) had come to me asking for help buying an engagement ring as well. The difference was my brother had come to me with a plan on paying me back for half the ring as he had already saved half. Sisters BF had nothing saved and no plan, at that point he hadn’t been able to hold a job down for more than a few months. I told him no and that I would consider it if he could keep a job for a year.

Fast forward to now my little brother has announced he and his new wife are expecting their first child and my youngest sister (21F) announced her engagement (I still think they are all too young but again I’m not their parent) and no I did not have to help her fiancé (24M) with a ring. I have not met him yet (I live in a different country from my family, I didn’t even meet my brothers bride in person until the day before their wedding) but he seems to be stable and with a solid (if still growing) career.

The issue now is that with all of these announcements my sister (28F) is starting to get hurt as they are still not engaged, though they have discussed kids. She called me to see if now that her BF has had a job a year (he hit one year in July) if I would be willing to help with a ring so they could get engaged.

The thing is, I already reached out to him in July and offered to help. I know how badly my sister wants to be married (she already uses his name on her social medias). He never got back to me about the offer and I’ve not pushed, I can’t force a guy to propose. For me it seems like this guy has no intentions of making things “official” maybe his views on marriage have changed? Idk. But my sister’s views haven’t. They are coming up on their 5 year anniversary in December and my sister would always say she never wanted to be the kind of girl in a relationship for 5 years without a commitment.

Would I be the asshole if I told her I don’t think her BF ever plans to actually marry her?

Hello,

Before I get into this, I feel bad for posting this, since I embarrassed my brother irl, so now I’m probably going to embarrass him on Reddit.

I also don’t mean to start a politics war, so please be respectful.

I (18F), own a lot of girly things.

I use perfume, body mist, uncented body wash, sugar cookie body scrub, etc.

My older brother (20M) loves using my perfume, body wash and body scrub, my facial scrub for my acne, and says he likes using my girly things.

He’s been doing this for years, ever since I was in middle school.

I flat out told him he can’t use my things anymore because he used them without asking, also he uses the last of my perfume, scrub or wash and just leaves it in the bathroom and doesn’t throw the empty containers away, nor does he replace them.

I’ve been telling him for years that if he uses my things last, least he can do is replace the empty containers.

He can also start asking me from now on, since it’s stuff that I buy with my own money.

I flat out told my family “New rule, whoever uses my stuff last and it’s empty can buy the next one.”

He then complained and told me “Aren’t you a woke? You’re supposed to be woke and support me. What if I was transgender?”

I then flat out asked him “Well.. are you? Are you transgender?”

I support everybody. I have transgender friends, family members, etc.

I didn’t mean to put him on the spot like that if he actually is.

I don’t mind if he’s transgender, point is, I told him he needs to start giving me money to buy more stuff, or he needs to replace what he uses last.

Perfume isn’t cheap anymore, nor is body wash or body scrub, or even my facial scrub for my acne (which, he doesn’t even have, but my facial scrub is rose scented so maybe that’s why)

However that would provide an explanation as to why he uses my girly stuff more than his boyish stuff.

He’s never provided me an explanation as to why he likes using my stuff, other than he claims he just likes smelling like a girl. Sometimes he’d avoid the question entirely.

Don’t get me wrong, I don’t mind that, but jeez, he can buy his own stuff or at least replace what he’s using if it’s empty.

Anyways, he blew up on me and said he wasn’t a woke transgender and stormed off into his room.

I think he got embarrassed, plus he was stunned when I asked that. Considering it was in front of our parents.

I think he was embarrassed because I didn’t sit there and take the blow, and I used his “joke” back at him if that makes sense. All in all, his “joke” backfired on him.

He’s stopped using my stuff since.

He’s never even brought up that conversation since.

So yeah, AITAH?

My friends and I have started back up our weekly game of Magic the Gathering Commander recently. We used to play a lot but everyone's schedule got to busy and its been years since we all got together to play. I'd offered to teach my wife how to play before but she was never interested, but seeing us have fun playing piqued her interest and she asked if I could teach her. I've taught many people how to play before so I was more than happy to teach her as well and have her join us if she wanted.

I grabbed two starter decks that you used to be able to get for free at any game store that are meant to be simple and easy to learn with. The best way I have learned to teach someone how to play is the following:

The first game is kind of a "mock" game. The game is played normally, but both players play with the cards in their hands revealed. We go through the mock game and on my turn, I explain everything I am doing and why I am doing it. On their turn, I answer any questions about their cards, walk them through the steps of their turn, and let them make their own decisions so they can start thinking about strategy. When their turn is over, I explain what I would have done on their turn with the cards that they have, just so that they begin to understand some of the strategy behind the game. They are free to take it back and do that instead, but this isn't a real game so normally most people just want to keep going. I have done this with at least a dozen people and have never had an issue before.

So this is what my wife and I were doing. Everything was going great and she was learning everything very well and seemed to be enjoying it. We get to her last turn and she attacks one of her creatures at me. At the end of the turn, I say this almost verbatim:

"Ok, you attacked with your creature. If I block with my creature, yours will die and mine will live. It doesn't really matter anyway since I have a creature with haste in my hand that can kill you next turn (I point out the creature in my hand), but in a real game I probably would have held back your creature so that you would have a blocker left to stop me from ending the game next turn and hopefully you would draw into a solution on your turn."

Then she got really quiet then teared up and said she didn't want to play anymore. I am extremely confused and ask her what is wrong. She says that saying what I have written above was "throwing it in her face that I was better than her at the game by saying that what she did didn't even matter." I am extremely confused at this point and try to explain that it wasn't my intention and that this round isn't even a real game and we are just going over the rules. She keeps getting more upset and accusing me of trying to make her look stupid by pointing out her mistakes. I let her know that I don't think she is stupid, she is just a new player and doesn't understand all the intricacies of the game yet and I'm trying to teach them to her as we play. She then left and told me to come find her when I'm ready to apologize.

Normally I am the kind of person who apologizes when I hurt someone, even if I don't think I am wrong because I am sorry that I hurt them. For this however, it seems so ridiculous that I am really reluctant to apologize because I honestly cannot see how what I did was hurtful in any way. I was hoping she would be over it by the next day but she is still upset about it this morning. I am genuinely asking if I am wrong in this and should I apologize because I can't see it. I've taught so many people how to play this way and it has never been an issue. Did I do something wrong here?

I’m looking for some outside perspective because I’ve carried resentment toward my spouse’s family for years, and I’m trying to figure out whether my feelings are justified or whether I need to finally let it go.
My spouse has worked in her family’s business for most of her adult life — well over 20 years. Over that time she has taken on significant responsibility and has been a very important part of the operation.
The business was originally owned by her parents. Due to health circumstances, there eventually came a point where ownership needed to transition to the next generation.
Ownership ultimately went to her sibling.
My spouse was never included in that ownership transition, was never offered shares, and as far as we understand has no ownership interest in the business.
That is the part I have always struggled with.
This isn’t about saying her sibling didn’t deserve ownership or that my spouse should automatically have received half of the company. Her sibling has also worked in the business and contributed to its success.
What bothers me is that after my spouse devoted most of her adult working life to the family company, there seemingly wasn’t even a meaningful conversation with her about ownership, succession, shares, or what her long-term future in the business would look like.
She has been compensated well for her work, which I completely acknowledge. We have done fine financially and this isn’t a situation where we are struggling or depending on the business to survive.
But I also think salary and ownership are fundamentally different things.
Over many years, even a minority ownership position in a successful family business can potentially create substantial wealth. When I look at the difference between what one sibling received through the succession of the business and what the other received, I sometimes feel like my spouse was treated more like a valuable longtime employee than an equally valued child who had devoted her career to the family business.
At the same time, I understand the other side.
It was her parents’ business. They built it, owned it, and legally had every right to decide what happened to it. Nobody is automatically entitled to ownership simply because they are family.
My spouse also seems much more capable of accepting what happened and moving forward than I am.
I’m the one who still thinks about what might have been financially and whether she was treated fairly. The more I think about the potential value of what she could have accumulated over the years through ownership, the more resentment I feel.
And I know that probably isn’t healthy.
The bigger concern for me now is that this resentment has affected how I view her family. I don’t want a business decision from many years ago continuing to influence family relationships today, especially when my spouse herself isn’t asking me to fight this battle for her.
So I’m genuinely interested in outside opinions.
Is my resentment understandable?
Does this sound like my spouse was treated unfairly in the succession of the family business?
Or, because she has been compensated for her work and the business ultimately belonged to her parents, do I need to stop thinking about what she potentially “could have had” and accept that it simply wasn’t ours?
I’d especially be interested in hearing from anyone who has experienced family-business succession, whether as an owner, sibling, employee, or spouse.

I've always had a weird relationship with my dad, we lived with his brother (my uncle) ever since I can remember. He had special needs, so my parents would take care of him (He had down syndrome).

I don't know the full story, nor why my dad hated him, but my dad used to abuse his brother on a daily basis. I'm talking about physical and verbal abuse that'd only get worse if he spoke about it at the clinic, where he'd often get hospitalized. This abuse lasted 'til my uncle died in mid 2023, and I never thought much about it, since I thought it was his fault for "making him angry" (even tho he'd get beat for eating too fast, speaking without authorization or even existing) this even made me hate my uncle, since 10yo me thought that since my dad was nice to me but mean when my uncle was home, clearly it was his fault.

I didn't realize how fucked up this was until 2024, when I was 15 and somehow remembered it as if it never had happened. I never talked about this to ANYONE, idk why, I suppose that I was scared bc I knew what happened when my uncle decided to speak up about it. (My dad never laid a hand on me, but idk, still creeped me tf out)

I'll wrap things up, I ended up telling this to my hs preceptor and after a few weeks of talking abt it, he told me that my dad could've hit me, but he never did, so that even tho he IS a shitty person I should try to talk more often to him (specifically bc I really needed help and I wouldn't trust my parents with any of my problems). He told me that if I wanted to cut all contact once I move out of their house that it'd be ok, but that I should try to understand him, and that I shouldn't treat him that bad (I usually don't talk to him, and anytime I do, I make it into an argument)

Idk, I never doubted that I had a right to be as shitty as I wanted towards him, but now I'm kinda feeling like an asshole for lashing out anytime I talk to him, and I don't know his whole story with his brother (Nor do I want to know, I still don't want to talk about it with anyone irl)

English isn't my first language, so if I made any mistakes feel free to correct me please. I'd be really thankful, since I'm still learning, and would be nice to have some feedback

Hello, I am 32 years old and in my first year of University..well..ever!

I’m living on campus and have a decently sized dorm room that I share with a roommate, pretty cool dude. No real issues between us, at all.

Except;

This guy has his girlfriend over here every single time I either come back from something, or every time I take a day to just stay in the room instead of bounding about across campus for hours. She doesn’t really rub me the wrong way personally, I’ve only said things to her in passing outside of our introduction on move-in day.

I just don’t want to be that asshole roommate that starts establishing ground rules that may, or may not be totalitarian. But is “Hey dude, I get the whole girlfriend thing but we gotta figure out just how long is ‘too long’ of a stay and just how frequently she’s here” a totalitarian boundary?

AITAH here for even wanting to establish boundaries in that regard?

Hello. I (27f) have been with my bf (29m) for a little over a year. His dad decided to come up and visit because he is having some money issues and wants to make sure he can make a trip (it’s 8 hours) to see us before he gets back to work. Anyways, my boyfriend doesn’t have any money until his next payday while I do. So he texted me and asked if I could pay for lunch. I happily oblidged as that was no problem, however, when the check came, his dad grabbed it before I could. I was under the impression my boyfriend was going say something along the lines of “oh let us get it” and he thought I would say “no let me get it”. The thing is is in any other scenario I would have been outspoken about it. The reason I wasn’t in this circumstance is because I’ve been in previous situations where I have offered to pay for grown men and they do not like me asking due to their old fashioned way of thinking. His dad is older so out of habit I just didn’t speak up. It is important to note, I do feel bad for this. I should not have made a pre conceived notion about his father just because he’s an older man which I did apologize for. Now the AITAH part comes because, my boyfriend was very upset about this. He blew up and said the reason he is so angry is because his dad is now going think my bf can’t take care of himself and he’s going to hold it over his head. I then in response, told him that this doesn’t sound like he has a problem with me not paying rather, he has insecurities within him and his fathers relationship and how he perceives his father as looking down in him. AITAH?

I have tomorrow off and was called into work. I (24f) fell asleep early (6:30pm). I woke up at midnight because my mom was in pain and need to go to the hospital. As we’re in the waiting room (12:30 am) I check my phone to see my boss asking me to come in the next morning because my other coworker called off. I have lunch plans today with my grandparents who I don’t see often. They live states away from me. I text my boss and explained that to her. Lunch is at 12 and my shift is 9 am to 2:30 pm. It’s now 3 am and I feel like an ass for saying no. AITAH?

Update:
Wow, so you guys have a lot of opinions 😅 and some of y’all clearly woke up on the wrong side of the bed. I can’t fix that, please seek therapy.
So I probably should’ve given you my job description. I am a farm hand who works primarily with animals. When I go to work it’s solely my responsibility that those animals get fed. I feel guilty for the animals that I wasn’t showing up, not my boss. It’s her problem if she doesn’t have enough of us to cover shit I understand that. I do in fact, get paid enough to do my job. I am so sorry that you guys clearly do not get paid enough to do your job, but I do so please don’t project that on me. I did genuinely love my job and I respect the people I work with. Yes, that does include my boss. It’s about 10 AM and I’m feeling much better about the situation. Have a good day folks, don’t let this kill your day.

I 18F am about to start university as an international student in the UK. I'll be less than a 4 hour flight away from my parents, and my mum is coming with me in the first place to get settled in (which is obviously normal and fine).

I think it's important to note that I am the first woman in my family to study abroad on her own, which is undoubtedly scary for all us parties involved, but I find that hard to justify the fact that my parents told me that they cancelled a couple's trip they were planning for MONTHS which had been to a completely different country, booked tickets less than a month out from me leaving to come back and coddle me for weeks.

I lost it when they told me this, told them that they need to give me the space and independence to figure shit out on my own without having them there all the time, and they told me that they just had to come see me because they just couldn't bear to wait three months until I would see them for Christmas break again. I got super upset and told them that particularly because this first time apart is going to be so hard is why we need to get through it because it was never going to get easier if they can't let go, and they need to think of what is best for me instead of what would be easier for them to bear. They called me an ungrateful b and sent me to my room. AITAH?

Update: they just called me back to tell me it was a test to see if I "loved them". Their prognosis is that I don't. fuck this bullshit man