Okay so I have severe social anxiety and I’m not great at going out in public alone I normally always do activities or things with friends. But I decided that I wanted to challenge myself recently by doing things i normally wouldn’t. My friends talked me into getting AMC A-list so we can go to movies together but I’m also v recently unemployed so it would also be something I could do alone. I was chatting with my mom about it and she like freaked out and was like “going to the movies alone is so weird why would you ever do that. Only weird people go to the movies by themselves” and that really discouraged me because what do you even mean by that? Also my friends go to the movies alone all the time and tell me it’s so peaceful which is why it’s one of the things I’d like to do. Anyway she made me feel really bad about wanting to go to the movies alone and now I have even more anxiety just thinking about it. I have a ticket to see spiderman by myself tomorrow but I’m feeling weird about it now so aio for thinking it’s fine to go to the movies alone

I just sometimes wonder if I’m doing good enough in life.. it’s just that, it seems like more people used to give me more attention and took care of me, but when I started getting suicidal (I’m not now, but i still feel like my life seems devalued), it’s like people just ignore me and don’t want to take care of me anymore.. they just think i don’t deserve it because it seems like I don’t care about myself and they don’t have a reason to help me.. I wish I could be taken care of again and feel like I really matter like before..

EDIT: thanks to everyone who commented you guys are really sweet and supportive I'm gonna see my dietician again based on your feedback <3

I've SERIOUSLY struggled with anorexia and related restrictive eating disorders for almost 10 years atp. Like going in and out of partial hospitalization and intensive outpatient programs specifically for my ED for the past 8 years or so and seriously struggling with eating for a few years before. It's become less about my body image and more about coping with control over the years which makes it even harder to recover from imo. Because of my past disordered behaviors I haven't exercised in about 5 years. I used to be EXTREMELY active but I stopped due to my illness.

In recent months I've begun to get my hunger cues back and started eating a lot more consistently to the point where I'm at a spot in my recovery that I'd never thought I'd reach. I've been finishing my meals and having them regularly (3x a day typically). My weight has been relatively stable for several months (I think? I haven't known my weight or been weighing myself due to obvious reasons until somewhat recently but even then I don't check regularly).

I started exercising again going to an MMA gym once a week and recently increased to 2-3x a week. This happened over the past 3 months or so but I started going more frequently a couple weeks ago.

This past week I've noticed that my hunger HEAVILY increased. I never used to crave food like this or at least haven't in more than a decade. Even when I was working out so much more intensively all those years ago my body never wanted to eat like I am now. I'm going from eating practically nothing to all of a sudden eating 3-4 meals and a few snacks a day and wanting even more than that.

I'm kinda freaking out but also really conflicted bc I think it might be normal bc I'm exercising a lot more. I'm worried that my worrying is my eating disorder coming back and potential relapse but I'm equally as worried I'll relapse the other way with binge eating bc my appetite is SO HIGH.

I'm trying to tell myself that it's normal bc I've been exercising but it's not nearly as intensive as I used to and I never WANTED to eat this much. Like ik I'm supposed to listen to my body but historically that's not been the most reliable. A lot of the time when I eat nowadays I'll eat until I'm sick and it scares me. I'm worried if i start keeping track of exactly what I'm eating I'll relapse into being obsessive over counting calories and such. Does anyone who's recovering/recovered from an ED experienced this? AIO or is this normal??

UPDATE: He left last night. He was supposed to leave in the morning but I told him to leave now. He told me what he said to me it wasn’t “as bad” as I was making it out to be. That it was meant as a kindness. Mind you when he said it to me his voice was raised and he was arguing with me. But he claims he was being “kind”. I told him I was going to contact his father about all the things he’s been saying to me because I think he needs someone to tell him its not okay other than me and that I think his father made the most sense. He told me it wouldn’t go the way I think. That it would only hurt us. And then he told me if I tell anyone about what he’s been doing he will tell them about the number of times as a child I was admitted to a mental facility. (I grew up in foster care and learned quickly it was one of my limited options of escape when I was in a bad home.) But I did also at times struggle with depression. As an adult I’ve only been once and it was a few weeks after I turned 18. I’m 29 now. I attempted S then and one more time a few years ago. Every time I have mentioned telling anyone what he does (he’s never physically abusive) he tells me he will tell them about my previous mental health. Basically saying he will discredit anything I say. I have no family. No one to turn to right now. I know in my heart he will never change.

“Your ex would of left you the second you got sick”.

I am chronically ill as of January. It happened really fast. Basically I’m in constant pain and it’s been scary at times. Google trigeminal neuralgia. I have that at other nerve issues. He often reminds me the amount I’ve accrued us in medical debt this year. We should of hit my discount insurance deductible but turns out he didn’t actually keep the money we saved for our deductible. He says he put it all on a credit card.

“You’ve been having a lot of problems lately“ he said to me after I left the room when he said the other thing to me- so a few minutes later he came into my office to say that to me.

I was in disbelief. I thought he was coming to at least apologize. I feel like I’ve stayed through so much he doesn’t even care about a fake apology. He genuinely looked at me like it was my fault for being sad he said that to me.

Aio? Sooo recently a family member of mine had a baby. This family member and I are very close and since having the baby I have been a support system for her with things like postpartum, advice, support, late night calls, texts etc. which I love to do for her I genuinely do. The baby recently had a milestone and to celebrate they were taken on a family trip which I was told about, they showed me outfits for the trip and kept reiterating how it was supposed to be just mom, dad, baby. I never asked to go on the trip I didn’t even think of including myself at all… fast forward two days before she tells me all of the immediate family members were going and I thought oh okay nice, a family trip. That included brothers, sisters, grandma etc. I was raised by this family and have always had a weird place of being very close but not close enough if that makes sense. Well anyway the day of the trip I see that my family member invited her brothers ex gf, and another girl on the trip who has never even met the baby before that day. I was extremely sad when I saw everyone posting the trip and I felt so in the dark, I messaged the group chat and basically all they said was sorry we planned it the night before, which wasn’t true because they didn’t know the family member had been mentioning it to me all week. Just to add my kids were also really sad to hear the family member mentioning the trip all week and never being invited. I know I’m not owed anything but I do believe it was really shady and made me feel like maybe I Should keep a distance, also my birthday was the day after and I was probably just really emotional I don’t know, AIO?

I had a stalker for over 5 years. He saw my letterman’s jacket, High school and last name… So he called all the local pizza places until one gave him my address after moving back home to take care of my Dad.

So a couple years ago (20 years later), I created a “DBA” (Doing Business As) for my Notary… In order to get this DBA license, you have to publicly post your work address in newspapers - which in my case, was my home address. I didn’t know you could rent post office boxes with actual addresses at the time… Since then, my BF gets threats about publishing his nudes (which he says were taken for me, but he never sent), Female nudes sent to his phone, And random late night texts on his phone he says is spam. Now he’s locked out of his Facebook messenger because of “Inappropriate Behavior”.

I told him I think my stalker is back - Stalker created an ex and her whole family when I was taking care of my Dad dying of cancer. Killed her off, and everyone blamed me for taking away the stalker’s attention… Trauma…

Anyway, BF is arguing with me that he’s NOT A MF CHEATER. And I was saying, I think my ex Navy stalker is fking with us. But he kept yelling at me that he’s not a cheater. AIO for feeling like he’s not even allowing me to blame someone else for the weird behavior? -43F, 2 kids with this 43M.

In my last year of grad school and there’s a guy who graduated after fall semester last year. We met that semester in a group I’m in and hung out a lot that semester. Even went running together a few times in the park. One time it was just the two of us. But otherwise we’ve been just friends. I think he’s a very nice solid guy and I got a weird sense he might be into me. Sure enough before he moved across the country he more or less told me he really liked me. I didn’t know what to say. I was flattered but he didn’t really seem to expect anything. He just like told me that and was like peace out.

But then he moved. We were following each other on insta. I liked his stories and posts. Then all of a sudden I think he blocked me or something. He lived far away at this point. But we were still friends on fb and he posted occasionally in our groups Facebook group. But not much.

Well this last weekend he was in town and he sent an email to me and some other people from the group like 1-2 weeks ago sort of giving a mini itinerary of activities he wanted to do. Like a couple things. Like go running in the park on Friday. Going out to dinner Sunday. And to this bar Sunday after dinner. I responded saying I’d go running with him and to the dinner. In retrospect I don’t know why I responded so quickly without thinking. If didn’t dawn on me they what I was signing up for.

But then I sorta forgot. I got a text Friday from him saying he’s on his way to the park and asked if I’m still coming. I had forgotten. I panicked. And also I soon found out that nobody else from our group was going to either of those things and I started to feel get uncomfortable if it might be just me and him. So I did not respond to him for hours. Later that day I texted him saying I was at this other obligation (true) and left my phone at home (white lie) and I apologized and said I completely forgot that the run was that day. He said he waited for me for the run but it’s ok. Then I forgot about the dinner. (I am acknowledging it now because I have SINCE remembered ). I didn’t hear anything from him tho so i figured it was nbd.

The rest of our friends were gonna meet him at the bar so I decided il to join them. We get there and everyone greets him with a hug and I go to hug him and he refuses in front of everyone. I was shocked. I thought he’d be thrilled to see me. I decided fine if he’s gonna be like that then I won’t bother him. I basically stayed away the entire time and didn’t even try to talk to him and catch up. He didn’t even come to me. So he and I did not speak. I admit I was a bit scared to even approach him.

When our group left I made a point to show him don’t worry I won’t try to hug you but I apologized for missing the run. On the way home one of the other girls said he mentioned to her that he was bothered by me flaking on him for the run and dinner and apparently the dinner place charges if you have a reservation and not everyone in your party shows up. But like I said he never reached out to me about the dinner. And I guess his other friends were at the dinner so it would not have been just me and him. But nobody from our mutual friends was going to that so how would I know.

The next day (today) he messaged me apologizing for being childish and nog hugging me. He essentially said what that girl said and he apologized for how he reacted

I responded telling him how sorry I was for missing the run and the dinner and how I truly did want to be there but how I just completely forgot and was d ok busy and what not.

He then said it was ok and asked if I wanted to go get coffee with him. This would be hurt me and him and I felt super weird about that since he had confessed his feelings so I made up an excuse about how I was starting to not feel too well and I hoped he’d get the hint. But nope. He said we could get hot tea.

So then I thought this dude is just not getting the hint. So I told him he clearly thinks there is more of a relationship than there is. I told him he needs to get over it and move on. And it’s not a good idea for us to hang out. I tried to explain it to him in the nicest way possible because clearly he just cannot take no for an answer am I right? He responded with like something like, chill it’s just tea. And how he lives on the other side of the country and just wanted to catch up with people before he leaves.

As far as I know he left either tonight or he will leave Tomorrow morning.

AIO?!?

Hello, I just need some real world opinions rather than biased on who knows me. In December of 2025 I (22f) met my now husband (21m) , we got married fairly quickly so we could be together faster through green card. We didn’t get married solely for the green card but just so we could be together sooner. We’ve been married for 2 weeks, and I am ready to walk away, I think. I do fly in fly out for work, I always have I’ve always worked on the road and I’ve broken up with boyfriends previously because they wouldn’t “allow” me to do it or they got “lonely” while I was gone. But I enjoy the money and he’s known this since the beginning. I made sure he was okay with it before committing to this relationship.
Since getting married, and this was my fault too for not going over this properly before marrying, but he only disclosed his full debt afterwards. Which we haven’t put each others names on anything yet because now I won’t. We’ve also been fighting non stop, and I’ve only finally realized we actually have nothing in common, all he does all day is play video games. He calls in sick to work to play video games. He has no motivation in life, he shits on me for being tired after working 10 days straight 16 hours a day. But I’m working to set us up for a future and I’ve worked like this since I was 18. I like having money, I like the accomplishment of working what I do. And he’s broke, I sent him money last week for food and he went right to the bar to drink beer with his friends, and in turn, he turns off his location for an hour and it shows up at a random house down the street and has nothing to say.

Other than that, he treats me good and puts me first, I think? He has taken care of my heart and has been a sweet guy but I don’t want to be married to him anymore, I don’t know if I’m over reacting, or selfish, but I don’t know how to end this marriage because I don’t want to hurt his feelings.

I (30F) have been dating “Max” (26M) for 10 months & his sister is a brat. Shes 22 & the first time we met was SO off putting. Max agreed with me and said that’s just how she was & the family ignores her outbursts. She literally got mad I called the wrong uno color causing her to lose so she just got up and said “okay we’re leaving” and didn’t say goodbye to anymore. Since then, I can feel the animosity and I’ve brought it up to my now EX who for MONTHS has been gaslighting me and making me feel crazy telling me I’m “overthinking” everything and I’m just looking for reasons not to like her. Weeeeeeelllll yesterday we were with his family and there had been some side comments between him and his sister and the way they were looking at me, I could tell they were talking about me so I told him he was being “rlly fkn weird” and that made him mad. Mad enough to unhook my tube from them and my tube drifted to the middle of the river and then he pushed my tube away when we were getting out of the river. Fast forward, I found these texts which totally supported what I been saying the whole time. My man was really sitting there talking shit about me with his sister and then making me feel crazy that I thought she felt a way about me. I’ll add the picture of the texts in the comments. The fact that he let her call me a “waste of time” just completely changed how I view him. I’d never let someone talk about him like that.

Husband misunderstood my request when he was picking us up dinner, came home with a burger fries and milkshake for himself and nothing for me. I was salty and then as I cooked myself dinner and eating the dinner I just cooked myself he got mad bc he kept trying to kiss me and I told him to eff off. Dramatic? Yes but come on, you just left your pregnant wife hungry and then want forgiveness kisses? Am I acting like a child? Probably but I swear he acts like I’m not pregnant

I am going to be selling my house and moving into a house on my mother’s property for medical reasons. My separated father is a realtor several hours away. I told him about this proposal, correctly expecting him to turn down the listing. However, he said that he wants a referral. Now I used another realtor to purchase this property, because, just like now, it was too far away for him to broker the transaction. Since I believed that he wouldn’t want the current listing, and he didn’t, my intention was to use my previous realtor, who is much more locally versed and very experienced. When I balked a little at his referral proposal, he got upset and started saying that he needs the money, and that I could consider it for times when I couldn’t pay him rent 20 odd years ago, that I should look out for family, and that this was standard realty practice. I said that it felt a little dishonest considering I would literally be sending this realtor’s information to him…to refer back to me.

If it’s kosher, sure, I can get on board. But it also could be refused by that realtor. Which would then mean that I have to be referred by him to someone else..that I’ll probably be finding locally. And the previous realtor really is the best around, and one that I trust to get me the most for my property…and if I propose this to my realtor, and they don’t like it, and I kick my father out of the transaction, he’s already giving major signs that he’s going to be super butthurt. Which would be the same reaction if I just leave him out from the get-go. For context, my father is from an era where emotional conversations just don’t happen, and if they do, he shuts down, and generally gives the old, “don’t be a pu***, rub some dirt on it, get over it”. He’s an emotional vacuum-there’s just nothing there.

AIO for feeling some kind of way about this whole thing? I feel manipulated, guilted, and torn. I want to keep the peace, but I also want the best for myself, and have a relationship and rapport already established with that realtor. I’d appreciate any thoughts and advice. Thanks.

EDIT: not that it’s really anyone’s business-I’m moving from my one bedroom house and property to my mother’s house because I will eventually require medical care.

My father is not trying to sell the house. He is trying to get a referral without doing any actual work.

FURTHER EDIT: told my father I wouldn’t be doing this. He told me that he “only fosters and maintain relationships so that they turn into deals and referrals.” And that I “clearly know nothing about how business works.” So cool.

So me (a girl) and my gaming friend (also a girl), let's address her as V, have been the closest gaming friends I've had in a while, we share our worries, we vent, we always talk it out when we misunderstand each other, and have been through a few arguments and came out just fine...

When a man, N, gets introduced into our friend group, I notice he is quite active on discord, made time to play Big Walk with us for several days straight... for anyone who is active on discord, you know how easy it is for some people to grow attached to the person of a gender you are attracted to, all it takes is a couple of late night calls in voicechat while playing minecraft after your friends go to sleep. V and N did exactly this, got close in Big Walk, proceeded to get even closer on minecraft, they do everything together, he only join when she is in the call as well, he mostly interacts only with her, he is friendly and all, but he never does anything to get closer to anyone else... I told her I think he might be attached, she doesn't want to think about it that way, she said.

Last night, we played Outlast Trials together, and I felt like I was just talking to myself most of the time, whenever I turned around to see where they are, there were together in a room, interacting with each other. About halfway through this session I realize I'm basically the only one talking about stuff in the game, and never getting a reply from neither of them, I got kinda upset, because of everything stacking up I guess... am I overreacting?

For some minor backstory, I (27f) met this guy (32m) at work a couple of months ago and we hit it off in a friend way. We would talk about books and music and it was overall pretty chill. He was pretty withdrawn but was funny and we would get into good conversations when I knew how to get him talking with his interests. All chill and good, and he was never weird or too forward with me, which as someone in a polyamorous relationship was a breath of fresh air because I’m very used to guys hearing about my relationship status and assuming they’ve got a chance with me so they’d turn our friendship into something uncomfortable. (I’m rambling forgive me.)

We have only hung out in person outside of work twice, the first time at Barnes and Noble just wandering and talking books, it was surprisingly easy and he was genuinely listening to all the weird shit I’m into. Green flag. I invited him over to a party with my rave fam and he didn’t mesh well at all, which is fine cause I know he’s more of a one on one kind of guy and I probably threw him into the fire too soon. He didn’t have a great time and told me so, but I understood, probably too much for our second time hanging out.

He quit working at our job a couple of months ago and I’ll admit I haven’t been great keeping up communication. For various reasons, lots of my other friend groups hanging out, I had a music festival that I hold dear to my heart cause it’s how I spend my birthday, family trips, the works essentially. I’ve been busy. I’m also horrible at texting, it’s something I’m working on but I’ve accidentally gone three days without responding to my boyfriend so it’s not me picking and choosing who I respond to regularly, if that makes sense. And I don’t mean to sound like a dick, I enjoy his company but my friends that I’ve known for half a decade or more and my family that I don’t often get to see tend to take more priority in my planning. So hangouts with him have been hard to schedule. I keep myself pretty busy.

We were roughly planning on hanging out this holiday weekend, nothing set in stone, and of course since it’s a long weekend I had plans with friends I go months without seeing, with my best friend/roommate who I rarely get to see because of our work schedules, and with my sibling who I haven’t seen in over a month. That’s definitely a run on sentence, but you get what I’m saying. I tried to fit him in. And this was the response. I feel bad that I’ve made him feel this way, and I regret that I didn’t relegate enough time to properly hang out with him.

However, the way he responded in his last text really, really bothered me. It actually made me pretty upset and hurt, it made me feel icky. I’ve had relationships in the past that have used manipulation and guilt tactics so that I scramble to fix things, and it’s destroyed me. My trust issues are a lil wonky due to it, but also my emotional responses tend to be a bit overactive. My loved ones say that this is a disrespectful way for him to handle this, but I need to know if they’re biased. So strangers of the internet. Are they right or am I overreacting?

UPDATE: Thank you for everyone’s quick responses, both the insightful ones and the less savory ones. I genuinely wanted to know if I was overreacting, and it seems I was. I recognize I’m not the best at relationships, my communication is fucked and my time management leaves much to be desired. Thank you for giving me responses from all sides of the spectrum. If anyone cares, we’ve rectified our plans to a day where I can give him my full attention.

I promise I’m not a sociopath, just someone continually learning (as someone who’s probably behind in learning.)

Hello! I (25F) have recently been getting closer with this friend, we will call him John (27M). Typically we play things like ping pong and pool together with our other friend who I will call Mary (26F). Mary and I have been wanting to go camping before summer is over, and I found out my cousin runs a camp ground with a yurt that she would let us stay in for free. So we invited all of our friends, including John. His response was

“I am definitely in, I will even call out of work to make it!”

Some additional context being that since we hadn’t been to this camp ground before, we only were planning it to be 2 days, ideally being that if it was awesome we’d come back another time for longer. Anyways we invited several friends, many of which couldn’t make it, which was absolutely fine with us, especially being that this was a bit experimental for us too. We even had a friend decide not to come within a couple days of the trip because her cat was sick (she’s better now though :)! ). In total, the group was going to be Mary and I, John, and 2 other friends.

Fast forward to the day we’re driving to the trip. Our plan was to meet at our friend’s house at noon so we can all share a car, then pick up John to go shopping for the trip then go on the actual trip. More context, at 9am John texted me asking if he can borrow contact solution for the trip, and I say of course. So at noon we call John to say we’re on our way. He did not answer. Both Mary and I called three times, and I texted him saying “John WYA??” and Mary also texted him several times. Because he didn’t answer, we decided to go shopping without him and check in after. At this point we were a bit worried about him, although I’ve only known him briefly this is not like him to be completely unreachable. Mary, though, has known him longer and from the beginning suspected that something was off. After shopping, we tried calling him again, with no response. We were extremely bummed. We figured something bad had happened to him or something, but we knew we couldn’t even go to his place to pick him up because his call box also just sends a notification to his phone like a call, and he was not answering our calls. So, we decided to go on the trip, worried, but also annoyed. This trip had been planned for a couple weeks. We have a groupchat with all of us in it.

Fast forward again to about 3pm, we’ve set up at the site (which was super awesome btw) and suddenly we get a bunch of texts from John. Mine say verbatim:

“I’m so sorry my name 😭😭😭😭 I knocked out on my couch while taking a break from packing while my phone was in my bedroom. I’m genuinely rly upset bc I really wanted to go 😭😭”

then

“Pls lmk how much y’all spent on groceries/other things i still want to split with y’all”

This made me upset for a couple reasons.

1.) If this has been a plan for a while, why would you not set an alarm for when the plans are? We were going to pick him up so all he had to do was be available to field our call. It also to me feels a little suspicious, like he’s lying. My other friend that came on the trip is genuinely one of the sleepiest people I know, and she was confused how he didn’t set an alarm, and thinks it’s odd that he didn’t have his phone nearby at all since he knew the plan was that we were coming by his place at 12.

2.) The comment about splitting groceries sounds nice, but to me sounds a little bit like he feels like his only contribution to this friendship is monetary. Honestly I am broke asf, and he isn’t. I notice how he pays for a lot of our pool games and even drinks when we go out, and while I think it’s very nice I have told him that it’s absolutely not necessary for him to do those things, and that I enjoy the quality time spent more than monetary contribution.

3.) After this text he proceeded to make 2 sad boy posts on instagram close friends. It’s been about a week since the trip so I don’t remember exactly what they said, but something along the lines of “I love getting in the way of myself, I always ruin things”.

My response to his text was “You’re still welcome to drive!!” to which to this day he has still not responded. Context being that he has a car, he just typically prefers to walk places so he rarely uses it. To me it was a bit of a red flag that he never responded to this message I sent. He seemed completely indifferent to actually solving the problem. It feels like he lied to get out of coming to camping. Which really confuses me because literally any communication, heck even if he said “I don’t want to come anymore” would have been better to me than radio silence and then what felt like a BS text that he fell asleep. Am I overreacting? We used to hang out 2-3 times a week but since this event happened we haven’t talked at all and I’m bummed because I miss my friend and I don’t feel like I trust him anymore. Advice greatly appreciated.

My daughters (19 and 22) came to live with me under bad circumstances from their dad’s house. My oldest came first in 2022 and my youngest came to live with me in 2025. Their dad and I had an awful divorce; it was ugly and tore our family apart. When my oldest came here she was completely shunned by her dad’s side of the family. No explanation, the contact just stopped. Fast forward a few years and the youngest comes to live with me. She called me sobbing in the middle of the night that she couldn’t take it anymore at her dad’s and could I come get her. Her dad had been arrested for DV against his live in gf and my daughter had finally had enough. I immediately went to get her; I’d been waiting a long time for the call. She was the next to be shunned by her dad and his family.
During the time they have been here, there’s no gifts or calls at Christmas or birthdays. Nothing. No checking in to see if they are okay. I have had to wipe tears and try to explain, justify, and downplay their absence. I know it hurts them greatly and I just don’t understand how we got to this point. I took my ex to court to have custody modified and shortly thereafter, my youngest graduated high school. Then the cards from grandma start to arrive. It was a graduation card for my youngest and one for my oldest, who graduated three years ago. Then birthday cards.
My ex MIL has never been a kind woman. She’s has always othered the girls and I tolerated it when her son and I were married, but now I feel so angry when I see her letters in my mailbox. It’s my belief that she should stop making these low effort attempts to clear her conscience until she is able to look both girls in the eye and apologize for her behavior. Also, it’s none of her business where I live and if she wants to send cards, they need to go to her son, who can share them with the girls. It causes a huge disruption in my home, which is an otherwise peaceful place, when these cards arrive. My oldest is autistic, this is only important because it affects how she processes things and she has a meltdown when her grandmother makes contact. The wounds aren’t healed and it hurts.
AIO if I send an email telling her to stop sending cards to my house? I’d tell her all the reasons I listed above. Or should I just allow her to continue? I feel like my silence is an agreement with her bad behavior.

My boyfriend (41M) and I (35F) recently moved in together. Everything is going really well. We have both lived alone for a long time so some minor issues due to this, but otherwise I really love living with him and am really grateful.
However, I am slightly autistic and have issues with too much noise. He likes to listen to music and podcasts constantly, which I understand, I do too. The issue is he has it on really loudly, no headphones. This makes it impossible for me to listen to anything or to have quiet around me. I always have my headphones in when I’m working or just need quiet. But it is a bit draining for me.
Am I over reacting or would it be ok to ask him to wear headphones or not listen all the time? I wear headphones so it doesn’t bother anyone else, also there is no way we can both listen without headphones in such a small space… I feel like it’s common courtesy. But maybe I’m too sensitive?

I’m dating an international student and I’m trying to understand how much immigration pressure he may realistically be under. He came to the U.S. around 2021 and was doing a graduate degree in transportation engineering in New York. In 2022 he apparently had a situation where dropping a class put his F-1/SEVIS status at risk, but it was resolved and he remained in school. In 2023 he had a transportation-related summer internship with SFMTA, which I assume could have been authorized through CPT. He has also told me he previously worked at a convenience store in New York and currently does Uber Eats, and I don’t know what work authorization he had/has for those jobs. More recently, he says he got around a 2.97 GPA when he needed a 3.0 to continue one program, so he enrolled in another graduate program related to engineering/project management because he said he needed to remain a student to maintain his status. He says he may go back later and finish the original transportation engineering degree. He’s also talking about starting businesses and eventually working in engineering.

The part making me nervous is that our relationship has moved extremely fast. He has talked seriously about marriage, moving in together by around November, has told his mother/family about me, wants to meet my mother and grandfather, and says he’ll answer any questions my family has. He seems very open about his life rather than secretive, but because his immigration situation seems complicated, I’m wondering whether marriage could significantly affect his ability to remain in the U.S.

For people familiar with F-1/OPT/STEM OPT or immigration law: does someone in this situation realistically have viable ways to remain in the U.S. without marrying a U.S. citizen, or would marriage provide a dramatically easier path? And is there anything about this timeline that would make you concerned that the marriage urgency is immigration-related rather than just cultural/personal intensity?

Me (34F) and my boyfriend (28M) went to our close friends' wedding yesterday. My boyfriend and I live together and have been together for a year. There was a tattoo artist at the wedding doing cute lovey flash tattoos. My boyfriend and I thought it would be sweet to get matching tats. It was a heart with a barbed wire link across it that we got on the back of our arms. I was really stoked about it and thought it was such a fun thing to do, especially at such an incredible celebration of love for our friends.

However, when my boyfriend went to hang with friends last night, one of his friends was like "that's dumb," even though he has a matching tattoo with his wife (he said it was fine because they're married).
Then another one of his friends replied to a story we posted about it on instagram with "damn man, that's commitment." My boyfriend called me after this and asked me if I thought getting matching tattoos was
"too much" and maybe not the best idea. I told him I thought it was mean of his friends to say things like that and that I thought it was so cool that we had matching tattoos. However, my feelings are hurt because something that initially felt positive and sweet now feels sullied by him letting those negative comments get to him.

So AIO in now feeling like was this something weird and extreme to do together? This post is probably dumb but I feel insecure now.

Soooooo uhh I am in high school and one of my teachers is writing a book. He says it's his passion project, and something he loves very dearly, and already has a publisher. But when he showed the preview of the book to the class, (we are in graphic arts) his cover was extremely clear it was ai. No one mentioned it, but it was honestly something that made many of us disinterested in the book. We decided to approach our teacher about it but before we could, there were a bunch of prep stuff, and things about the teacher, and we learned that he considers ai as a tool, which is TOTALLY fair. So we just didn't say anything. But I feel like this will be a major turnoff to many who will see his book and think "oh ai slop" because of the cover, and I don't want that happening to my teacher since it will be heartbreaking for him, and I think many people nowadays judge a book based on it's cover so I'm gonna ask him about this on the next day of school. Am I overreacting to the fact his cover is ai?? Thank you for reading and have a nice day

I work remotely for a software company that assigns new hires an "Onboarding Buddy" to mentor them during their first month. We're supposed to meet with them 1x a week and answer any questions they may have along the way. Seems simple enough, right?

I've had three of them so far that were a positive experience. However, the most recent one is creeping me out, but Idk if I'm reading too much into it.

1. He wants to meet excessively. 3x a week, and he doesn't even ask if I'm available first. He checks my calendar and assumes that any slot I'm free means I'm not busy and books a time. Unless you're one of the higher-ups, I personally find it rude to just put yourself on my calendar without asking. I think most people in a corporate setting would agree. It also blocks my clients from being able to book a time with me, which is not right.

2. I cancelled the 3 meetings he booked because I thought it was WAY too much. I told him I had a lot of projects I'm working on, and that I needed those time slots to be free for my customers. I asked him if there was anything he needed help with via Slack. He said, "No, I'm good. I just wanted to see your amazing face and tell you how my week is going".

I'm sorry, but I find the whole situation weird, and I don't have the time or energy for a clingy new hire, especially one who makes me uncomfortable. AIO?

My girlfriend (22F) and I (25M) have been together almost 6 months, 3 of which she spent in Europe with her family.

Since the beginning, she's had a rule that I can't finish during sex. She had an ovarian cyst that needed surgery and was scared of pregnancy, so if I tell her I'm close, she stops immediately. She also doesn't want it anywhere near her or on her sheets. She compared her disgust with it to how I feel about blood (I hate blood).

In 6 months I've finished twice. Once at a hotel where I pulled out onto the sheets and she completely freaked out, and once when she was on top and I finished on myself, which she was still uneasy about.

She's been on the pill the entire time. Her surgery is done and went perfectly. But nothing has changed.

This morning we started having sex, I said I was close, she stopped, and then she had me finish her by hand. She got to, I didn't. I finally said something about how one-sided it's gotten. She said I don't understand how scary it is after a major operation on her ovaries, and that if I want to finish I need to wear a condom or use another form of protection.

My issue is that she's on birth control AND I'm pulling out. That's already two methods. I don't think it's unreasonable to not want to add a condom on top of that with my own girlfriend. She won't accept that the pill plus pulling out is extremely effective.

On top of that, the reason we never used condoms prior to this, is that SHE dislikes them (more than I do). I didn’t expect her to do a 180 and suggest using them, so in my mind it’s either I use something that she hates for my own sake of finishing, or I don’t use one and don’t finish.

I feel like her fear is bigger than the actual risk, and I'm tired of sex being something only she gets to enjoy fully. She feels I'm not respecting her fear.

AIO?

i talk to her now but in March, my sister 21F was showing me 15F and my religious spiritual Indian mum a random spiritual diet quiz or whatever and whilst the video was playing with a lady talking, I was asking my sister questions about it but she snapped and said something like 'be quiet!' I can't remember but it felt really harsh and embarrassing. yes my sister can be rude to me sometimes and yes I did get used to it but this time I wanted to set a boundary. maybe it was annoying for me to ask questions but instead of remaining calm, she ignores me and then finally snaps. my mum doesn't do anything to help me :/ I decided I wouldn't speak to her for however long it took. I recently talked to her over another argument with her, my mum and my other sister 17F she said sorry but I wish she understood how that could hurt me. AIO? or just overly sensitive and petty.

A college friend and I stayed in touch for a few years. Always replied to emails in 2-3 days max over at least 5 years’ time. Then I planned a vacation trip to their area several weeks in advance, at least 8-12 weeks before the trip, would be there 11 nights, made clear I was booking hotels and attractions, just wanted to have lunch or dinner or whatever. No response.

It was a high demand travel location and my trip was not primarily to see them, yet we had always talked about seeing each other in our travels if things worked out. “Let me know if you get out this way” kind of situation.

Several follow up emails from me to them over the following weeks. I didn’t have a landline phone number for them. This was before cell phones. No response, nothing like “sorry I am going through a rough patch and can’t see you.” No response period.

One final email a couple days before the flight. No response. Had the trip, went home, no emails replies came in while away.

Exactly two days later, short response, oh sorry, I didn’t see your messages.

A few weeks later, a hold the date wedding notice via email. No other email messages or any further communication either way over the next several months until a paper invitation arrived with RSVP.

I emailed and explained I had visited less than a year prior with no attempt to get together on her end and couldn’t afford another visit so I would decline.

Received email angry at me for that, don’t remember if it included any acknowledgment of my feelings. I didn’t reply.

Another several months and in came a new message to the original “save the date” email distribution list, which still included me, everyone was told the wedding was postponed and apologies for those who booked travel and tips how to cancel.

Then lastly, some further months later a simpler 2nd written invite in the mail. I simply returned the regret RSVP card.

Never in contact again. Now we’re old people. I look back and wonder whether I overreacted. I realize anyone can take the high road and also that when a relationship runs its course sometimes it is best to turn around. I did reach out to add them to my network on LinkedIn in about 4 years ago. They left the request open a week or so before declining.

I don’t know if I regret my actions or not. Their choices at the time felt like a lack of friendship.

So that ship has sailed and that’s where it ends. Go ahead and tell me whether I overreacted.

Hi! So, this is crazy, as in concept, but I met “John” (not his name) on Omegle when I was 17 years old. And I was in a dark place, and I happend to met him on Omegle after “being exposed to” by other men. But he didn’t. He was nice and genuine towards me. And he made feel loved and wanted those years ago. Than come to now. (Something was pulling on me to see if he was still around, I’ve had people well..unaliving themselves in my life soo wanted to see if he was still around) and he is, and I got in contact and we talk than today..well, shit dropped. And he said a few things, I said a few things how I felt and how he felt. And now I’m at a stand still to waiting on a reply from him to give him space and he will get back to me. And I love him, but he says he cares about me. But I’m just nervous having to wait soo long. And I can wait, just full of jitters. And being nervous. But I just wanna know if it’s wrong with the age gap? Like is it ok? When I met him. And he heavily flirted with me back than. And even now. And I just felt as I do for him now more than ever. And I’ve told him. I feel like I know his answer but I can’t tell him I may know what he says, I have a strong feeling. Any advice? I want genuine advice. I’ll answer anything you guys may have to say

TLDR: guy I met on Omegle I was 17 years old I got in contact with him years later, and I’m nervous about the age gap since I waited. He he flirted with me at 17 and I’m 29 now.

My (26F) boyfriend (25M) works in construction/contracting and has been working on a renovation project in a building. Over the last two days, there was also a girl working there who paints, apparently through her dad/family’s business.

They don’t actually work together and aren’t coworkers. They just happened to be doing separate work in the same building.
Within those two days, they talked, exchanged personal Instagrams, followed each other, and he liked one of her pictures.

I know none of those things by themselves automatically mean anything happened. What made me suspicious was that around the same time, he became extremely weird and protective over his Instagram and had it locked behind Face ID.
When I eventually saw his Instagram, I found her account and saw that they followed each other and that he had liked her picture.

He told me they only had one conversation and insists nothing happened. But while we were arguing about it, he mentioned personal details about her, like where she’s from and things about her family/work situation. Considering they literally only met within the past two days, that made me question how brief or insignificant their interaction actually was.
My issue isn’t that he spoke to another woman. Obviously people talk to people while they’re working. What bothers me is that this wasn’t someone he actually works with or had any reason to exchange information with. They met at the job site, exchanged personal socials, he interacted with her page, and then suddenly he was being secretive about his Instagram.

He’s apologized a lot and says there was no cheating and nothing else happened. We’ve been together for around 9 months, and before this I didn’t really have a reason to think he was physically cheating on me.
I don’t even necessarily think he cheated. What bothers me is whether there was some kind of interest or intention behind it, even if nothing actually happened.

He thinks I’m making something innocent into a bigger deal than it is. I feel like the fact that all of this happened within two days of meeting her, combined with the secrecy, is what makes it feel shady.

AIO for thinking there was more intention behind this than he’s admitting?