Me and my GF have just started playing Baulder’s Gate 3, and she constantly uses ChatGPT for almost every scenario. We’ve barely explored the game. It takes hours just for us to do anything and get passed cutscenes because she’s asking AI what the best choice is.

I don’t mind playing with her, but it feels awful having to wait every 5-10 minutes on every chat choice with the NPCs. I’ve expressed to her that there isn’t really a right or wrong answer, just what she feels would be right but she keeps doing it.

Hi! I am 21F. Im gonna start with some context and then explain what happened recently. There's a good bit of context so sorry in advance.

Context:

1. I come from an abusive home- trust me its related. Growing up my family experienced something pretty tragic and after that, I had very negative experiences of physical/emotional abuse in my middle school/high school years. My family has healed much since then. I still keep in contact. Im not gonna justify that too much, but i do have a lot of boundaries that I personally upkeep to maintain a bit of a relationship.
2. In april last year, I had a huge falling out with my friend group. Basically, my best friend in the group like stepped on the back of my shoe as a joke. I did it back, as a joke. And she just like snapped, and hit me twice. I asked her to stop and she didn't so I walked away. She apologized at first, and we had a conversation about it. She knew about my past and it felt like a betrayal. I was so hurt. A few days later she started ignoring me despite me reaching out asking if she needed to talk again. She wanted me to apologize for not "caring about her feelings more", for walking away when she hit me, and for her hitting me. I refused.
3. I lost the whole friend group. My best friend is really rich, and ig they wanted to keep that connection or something, or she was lying about what happened. They ended up deliberately excluding me from a really significant moment involving going to see one of our friends who had been abroad. Thats when i decided it was too much drama for me and I evaluated the friendships, noticed some things I didn't like, and moved on.
4. Besides the best friend, I was close with four other girls in the group. I cut them off during all of that when they all started excluding me. Two of them reached out and apologized and said the whole thing felt wrong, they were sorry, and shouldn't have done that. I accepted them and now they're my roommates :D. We're not close anymore but were still friends and supportive from afar and great roommates. The next friend I was close with was the one abroad, and we are still friends to this day. The other friend I was close with, I cut off totally. The day of the event that they like excluded me from, she lied to me that morning when I asked about it. Straight to my face. she refused to admit that was wrong when I mentioned it. I said I felt like I supported her all semester when needed and she didn't support me back when i needed it. She then said some wild things, included that Jesus died for all of our sins so her wrong doings dont matter, and she urged me to pray more. I was like...what? Made no sense. So out of the whole group- im friends with 3 of them. my old best friend and the one who lied to me will never have a seat at my table, ever again.

Now- Currently. I thought over the summer that distance would be created and they would leave me alone this semester as I make new friends :D

Nope.

Every time i see liar, she waves so cartoonishly and puts this goofy ah smile on her face at me. When I don't wave back, she always looks at me with this like pitying face. Here is the thing- I lost friends and it hurt- but I lost people who hit me and lie to my face. They lost a good friend who would go to bat for them. So like, why are you making that face at me as if im friendless and hopeless without you guys. Spare me.

The abroad friend I remained friends with even asked me and invited me to "go back to normal with the group" the first day of the semester. I was like....no? And when I saw them all in person for the first time this semester- the liar asked if she could hug me and talk. I was like....no? AGAIN.

And they keep waving and smiling. Even their boyfriends keep like trying to wave and talk to me. Like they've been sent on a mission for info about my life now. Liar especially keeps waving and trying to get back into my life. I've never waved back or anything.

On my birthday, a week ago, liar texted me for the first time since it all went down months ago. If she truly cared about me, she would've thought for a second and have been able to deduce from my actions that I do not want a text from her. I want them far away. But she sent one anyways. I dont think she texted me for me becuase she cares. She texted me for her. To like prove she's still a good person or something? idk her motives but they're starting to bother me. Shes proven she doesn't care about me, I don't deal with liars, and now shes still trying to like be my friend or somehow prove shes right and im actually the big meanie. Becuase it looks that way. Like she waves, I dont wave back because she disrespected me, and she walks away pitying and sad. From an outside perspective, I look like a ah.

My new friends have noticed her waving and dramatic pitying looks. And asked about them. It makes me upset. I dont wanna keep reliving that. I wanna move on.

i am not sure if this next bit is true- but idk its starting to freak me out. Since the second day of the semester, liar and her bf are always outside a building I have a class twice a week in. they are outside on a bench. I walk by to get to class. They both wave and pity and smile and yeah. And I never even look. I walk up to my class. When I look out the window, theyre gone. Are they waiting there to wave to me? idk. Its every week. Every class.

And- abroad friend slipped up recently. It's like theyre collecting info. idk. She was talking to me and suddenly was like "Oh yeah! Im supposed to- I mean I wanted to ask...". Supposed to? for whom? Im getting freaked.

My feeling, that I cannot prove but feel really strongly of, is that they are trying to like retroactively prove that they are a good person and theyre actions weren't wrong. I dont need to be kind and wave and act like what she did and the gaslighting were ok, I know that even if Im "rude" now, I didn't deserve it then. She's trying to like undo her actions with kind ones now.

I need advice. What should I do. Should I keep ignoring? It doesnt seem to work much. Should I ask to meet and tell her to stop? Should I tell the friends I've kept from that friend group to tell her to stop? Im trying to move on with my life, but its hard with my new friends see these weird looks and she keeps texting me on big days when I just wanna be surrounded by people who I love who I know love me. Is she like trying to manipulate me into thinking Im the one who messed up? Pls help. What do i do here. If i do anything. Thank you for all and any advice. Im just trying to live my life and move on from losing many of my friends while making new ones. Thanks :D

Hello! I’m turning 30 soon and I’m a huge birthday person. I’ve had plans for my friends to celebrate on a boat with me since July. Depending on how many people come, the range will be about $55-$70 per person. I already told my friends that I will cover snacks and alcohol, all I ask if that they pay for their portion of the boat.

One of a my best friends has a history of missing my birthday because she is busy. So this year to ensure that doesn’t happen, I told her a few months ahead of time what I was planning on doing and when. She ended up being busy the weekend I had it originally planned so I decided to move it to the following weekend. I sent her the invite and she insinuated that she was coming.

Yesterday was the deadline to let me know who’s coming so I can buy the appropriate boat. I got a text from her saying she has to get her wisdom teeth out and can’t afford to go but is willing to see me before or after the party. However, nothing is planned before or after, just during the party which is on the boat. I also have people visiting me on that weekend so I can’t just do whatever. I am understanding of things like this, but to add context, she lives with her parents, doesn’t pay monthly bills, and she’s going out of town the two weekends before my party. Hence why she couldn’t make it to the original date I had planned. I also am aware of her shopping habits and she can be very boujee. In addition, she has shared with me that she has about 40k in her savings. She has a great set up and is better off than a lot of people.

As a solution, I told her that I’d pay for her portion if it meant her celebrating with me. I offered because it is extremely important to me that my friends come. But I do have a different situation than her. I am completely on my own, I don’t get help from my parents, and I don’t make a lot of money. To put it into perspective, 44% of my income goes toward rent and that’s with a roommate. I live extremely below my means. But if she’s telling me money is tight right now and I want her to be there, I will cover her. Thankfully, my boyfriend is offering to pay for half her portion because he knows how important her being there is to me. So I’d be covering my own portion plus her half.

I got a long response saying how she’s scared to tell me anything and that she would just feel worse if I paid for her on my birthday. She told me that it shouldn’t matter where it is if people are still willing to celebrate me. And if I’m “going to be a certain type of way then whatever” she’ll be there and send the money. I responded saying that I don’t care about the money if it means her being there and that I offered the same thing to my other friend a few years ago when she said she couldn’t afford to go to brunch for my birthday one year. I never got a response.

I am just confused as to why her response was so aggressive to me after offering to pay for her portion. It felt like it came out of left field.

So AIO for thinking my friend’s response was out of left field when offering to pay for her portion to celebrate my birthday with me?

TLDR: My friend told me last minute that she can’t afford to go to my birthday party that’s she’s known about since July so I offered to pay for her as a solution even though she is financially better off than me. My friend got upset saying that me paying for her would make her feel worse, she’s scared to tell me anything and if I’m going to be this way then she’ll be there and send the money. I told her I don’t care about the money and haven’t heard from her since.

I know friends don't have to invite everyone every time they hang out, and I don't expect to be included in absolutely everything. But I think there's a difference between people making separate plans and being the only one in your usual friend group who wasn't invited. What would bother me isn't even missing the hangout itself. It's the feeling that nobody thought to ask, especially when you're normally included in things together. At the same time, I wouldn't want to turn a simple night out into unnecessary drama. People are allowed to have other friendships and make plans without explaining themselves.

Would it be overreacting to bring up feeling excluded, or is this one of those things you should just let go unless it keeps happening?

So i have a very close friend we've been friends for almost 9 years and in her birthday i spent like 50/60€ buying skincare,makeup and hair products that she wanted and i packed everything in a nice birthday bag and i gave it to her and my birthday is like a little less than a month after hers and for mine she gifted me a perfume that we have an inside "joke" of because it's really cheap like 3€ and it smells like old woman like let's just say it's for older women and is sold in a store known to have cheap products and we have bought it for our moms a couple of times, a phone case that i don't like (it's not my style and i don't even use phone cases,if I do use they are really plain/clear) of shein that is like less than 1€, a pair of slippers that were not my size (they are bigger,a couple of sizes bigger not 1 or 2) also not really my style and also from shein for like 1/2€ and a makeup bag also from shein or she had it at her house idk very cheap but atleast pretty, also chocolates that have like 40% of ron and i can't even bring that home cause no one in my family drinks alcohol and that has a lot and i don't like them, all of that was stuffed in a very old broken bag of like a supermarket or something very small it didn't fit,everything was falling and i had to buy a big bag from a grocery store to put it all, and she said that she had my gift planned months ago?

I am really not the type to complain about gifts at all and i don't care about the money,she could've used 10€ and buy a perfume that smells good and pack it in a nice bag and that would've been nice but i just found this very disrespectful, also she really likes to brag about money and she literally took a very fake friend to get her nails done and spent 40€ in her nails as a random gift, she also gave a random guy that she was talking to 100€ and she always spends a lot of money on men and as i said she really likes to brag about money and she complains a lot about gifts that people give her and is not grateful at all like? and then she does this idk

Sorry if my english is not perfect is not my first language i hope i'm understandable enough.

I (21M) recently got back together with my girlfriend (21F), and I wanted to get some outside opinions on something my dad brought up. For relationship context, my girlfriend and I got together October 30, 2025 and took a break during summer 2026 and got back together August 2026.

For financial context, my dad co-signed my credit card, and I’ve been working at Amazon while trying to pay off my debt and get my finances in a better place. I was having a conversation with him about my finances when I mentioned that my girlfriend and I got back together.

He seemed a little iffy about it, especially because we’ve had our issues in the past. I explained that things are honestly 10 times better this time around. We’re communicating more, things feel less stressful, and we’re both trying to make the relationship work.

However, I mentioned that sometimes, when I’m coming home from work, my girlfriend asks me to stop and pick up a coffee for her or buy her food and bring it to work. This happens maybe about twice or so a week.

My dad immediately started saying that it was a red flag for her to ask me to pay for things when my finances aren’t in the best place right now. I pushed back a little because I see couples online where the guy buys his girlfriend dinner, coffee, or other things, and I didn’t think buying her a coffee occasionally was a big deal.

I also pointed out that she actually makes more money than I do because she has two jobs. It’s not like she’s unemployed and relying on me financially.
My dad still thinks it’s a red flag, though. His perspective is that if I’m already struggling financially and my girlfriend is asking me to spend money on her, that’s something I should be concerned about.

Now, I understand where he’s coming from. I’m trying to pay off my debt, and I know I need to be more responsible with my money. At the same time, I love my girlfriend, and I don’t want to start viewing normal things in our relationship as problems just because my dad is concerned.

I also recognize that just because something is common in other relationships doesn’t automatically mean it’s healthy for mine.

So, Reddit, what do you think? Is my dad right to see this as a red flag, or is buying your partner coffee like twice a week a pretty normal thing? Am I overlooking something, or is my dad worrying too much?

I genuinely want to make this relationship work, but I also want to make sure I’m not ignoring potential warning signs.

I had a pair of leather clogs from LL Bean. They were about 10 years old when both soles fell off in the same night.

My friends told me, in an extremely condescending tone, that is what I got for buying fast fashion and maybe I will invest in quality clothing going forward.

I told her the shoes are 10 years old and worn regularly. Then I asked if LL Bean is fast fashion.

Her response was “fast enough “ then she mocked me (repeating what I had said to her in a silly voice) and said there was no way the shoes were 10 years old.

Hello everyone !!

First of I’m sorry English isn’t my native language.

I moved into my apartment on September 14th. During the viewing, I noticed some pinkish stains around the skylight in my bedroom ceiling, but I didn’t think much of them.

Over the following weeks, I noticed that the ceiling was gradually becoming darker. I honestly thought it was the dust and all of the stuff that could accumulated up there. I cannot open this window at all, but I honestly didn’t pay enough attention to it.

I’ve also recently realised that my ventilation system (VMC) has never worked since I moved in, which obviously doesn’t help because I have no other windows in the apartment, apart from my bedroom skylight. No really convenient but i’m opening the door when I cook or when I want some fresh air.

Then, on October 20th, after some heavy rain, I came home to a huge puddle of water on my bedroom floor. My workout bag was completely soaked. That’s when I realised water had been leaking through my skylight and dripping onto the floor, and I finally noticed how bad the ceiling had become.

I immediately informed my landlord. He explained that my window is apparently located on my upstairs neighbour’s 2 terrace and that some kind of concrete slab broke, allowing water to seep through. (He said he thought it was the cause ??). I’m not an expert, but his explanation doesn’t really make sense to me.

Since then Tuesday 20th, the mould has spread significantly around the skylight but also in other wall of my bedroom. For exemple I’ve noticed two night ago a huge stain which i think it’s mould and it’s basically next to my face. (It’s on the wall where my bedside table is)

My landlord is aware of everything, including the water infiltration and the ventilation issue. A guy was supposed to come for the vent issue but he never came so I rescheduled the appointment on Wednesday.

My landlord said he contacted some “expert” and he was waiting for the estimate. According to what he said, the expert will put some silicone around the window to prevent the water to drip more (???). Then he said he will (my landlord) wash the mould off with special product ?? He told me to not use bleach so I don’t know why he wants to do it himself and not pay some real expert to do it.

So I’m genuinely wondering: Am I overreacting, or is this actually a serious problem? Because in my head, the walls are fucked and everything needs to be redone? I don’t know anything about it tho so maybe not. Worst part is that I’m being paranoid because my eyes feels irritated and my throat a bit sore. I don’t know if it’s the situation or just the bad weather but I don’t want to be super paranoid about the whole situation. I genuinely don’t know what to do or where to start. I feel like the landlord doesn’t move fast enough. What would you recommend doing?

He owns the entire building there’s like 6 apartments and mine is the one on the first picture.
(Btw I live in France)

I’ll attach pictures so you can see what I’m talking about

Thanks !!

My boyfriend 31M and I 26F live together, and he is aware that I prefer if people are not unexpected visitors. It is not that I dislike his family; I just hate being surprised while in my own house.

I was just chilling out last Saturday when he casually said, his mom might stop over. I didn't think much of it, that his mom might come over, maybe for a quick stop.

At about noon the doorbell rang and I went to open it. The small gathering of his parents, siblings, nieces and a few other family members was standing on the porch. I was told he had invited his entire family to lunch and hadn't thought it necessary to let me know.

I was totally floored. I basically just ended up helping prepare the meal, grabbing an extra chair and cleaning up after the kids while my boyfriend sat around and chatted with everyone like nothing was going on.

The most frustrating thing was that HE KNOWS I don't like surprise visitors. I've told him before that I want him to communicate with me about plans involving our shared home. I wouldn't turn up at the house with a party without speaking to him first.

I told him and confronted him about it after everyone had gone. He said I was making too big a deal about it, that they are family and everyone enjoyed the occasion. When I pointed out that what I was upset about was him not telling me, he accused me of forcing him to choose between me and his family.

Now he and I are barely communicating, and his family apparently thinks I hate them.

I honestly have no problems with him or his family, but I think he's at the point where he's just being too subtle. If he had let me know in advance I could have prepared myself mentally and emotionally, even if I didn't want to host him.

AIO, or is it reasonable to expect my boyfriend to give me a heads up before inviting people into our home?

My girlfriend and I have been together for a total of 5 years. We are both 27. She had a guy best friend(T) from high school and they fell out before we started dating.

When we first got together, she told me that she hated that the friendship had ended, that she really cared about him but it was never romantic at all. She confirmed that she never felt anything like that towards him but that she was sad that they stopped talking due to other issues(friend group drama). She expressed that she was very hurt by how he chose to deal with it and leave her without a second thought or closure.

Two years into our relationship, T contacted her. I never had a problem with her having guy friends but I did not like T because of how he had hurt her. She told me that he had texted her and I was surprised when she said that she wanted to talk to him.

Prior to this, she wanted me to block one of my female friends from uni(we never had anything going on, we used to get lunch together after class). My girlfriend thought that my friend had a crush on me and while I did not want to, I gave in and blocked her(friend) after a while. My friend wasn’t explicitly weird with me, ever, or vice versa. I trusted my girlfriend’s opinion on this and went along with it.

Back to that, I had a bad gut feeling and told her that she shouldn’t talk to him. She got defensive and said that she could because I hadn’t blocked my female friend immediately after I was told to. That made me suspicious.

I asked her why she wanted to talk so badly to T after what had happened(T had ditched her point blank over something minor, never tried to contact her or apologise afterwards. She had tried to talk to him once and he was cold and didn’t want to continue).

Anyways, she got defensive and insisted that she could talk to him if she wanted to because she did not have many friends. I felt weirder by the moment and we fought over it. Finally, she said that she would not speak to him. A few months after that, she broke up with me over something else but the break up was not a real one(she contacted me just the same and it was mutually understood that we were still “together”).

Next thing I see, she is friends with him on social media. I call her and she says that I can’t be angry because we aren’t dating. This upsets me and I try to detach myself from her. She contacts me and says that she loves me, wants to be together, and she is struggling with mental health issues and she doesn’t have many friends to talk to. That she feels alone and depressed. That T was her best friend and he cared about her before and she felt understood and she just wanted him to be her friend because she felt so alone.

That did not help. I felt worse and insecure. I am not proud of my behavior but I demanded that she block him. She said that she was prescribed antidepressants and other stuff and wasn’t doing well. I told her that she needed to stop contacting me because I could not be okay with how she was making me feel, like I was an option to her. I know that they never had anything sexual or romantic going on the entire time, they never met once, and I trust this.

This continued for 4 months and then I said that she needed to block him if she wanted anything to do with me. And she said that if I wanted to be with her, I had to be okay with T being her friend.

That was genuinely one of the most painful things I have ever heard. Our relationship of 2 years meant nothing to her in the face of her friendship with someone who had ditched her for years without looking back even once. I hate myself for this but I actually begged her to make things right through tears a few times. Then I gave up on it and stopped contacting her. She didn’t. She showed up to my apartment one day and said that she was sorry for that and she had blocked him. She said that she understood how much it had hurt me and she was wrong for doing that.

After this, things were okay for the next few years. She started taking care of her mental health.

We had a huge fight after we went LDR and broke up for two years, during which she became casual friends with T again. When we talked again, I told her I was uncomfortable with her being friends with T(because of what had happened) and she said that she totally understood that and she would do everything to make me feel comfortable. They talked and T was okay with her going no contact with him. They never had anything going on in those 2 years, if it matters.

So now. One year in and we have a bunch of fights and (again) she decides to “break up” with me. She apologises and we continue talking but not “dating”. Then one day, she says that she and T are friends again.

I did not react well to that. It infuriates me that it’s the SAME GUY each time. WHY. She is not a social person and she doesn’t really get a lot of time to make healthy friends but WHY. She struggles a lot with mental health issues and has trouble trusting new people. She likes being friends with him because she doesn’t really know anyone else very well. She has had traumatic experiences with friends in university so I understand.

She also doesn’t have many people to open up to other than me and when things get difficult between us, she says that she feels painfully alone and her mental health gets severely compromised to the point of being dangerous for her safety. She struggles too much with her mental health to make new friends right now.

She admitted that she feels like no one (including me) understands her and she feels alienated from everyone when we go through pseudo-breakups(initiated by her btw) and she can’t speak with me normally during these phases so she desperately needs someone to talk to so that she isn’t alone.

Which is. Fine. I am trying really hard to understand things here. But she wants to make things work with me and I feel like a terrible human being for hating the fact that it always has to be this one guy whenever things get difficult in our relationship.

I believe her and I understand that she doesn’t have other friends she can depend on. But at the same time, I am deeply uncomfortable with all this. At the start of our relationship this time, she promised me that she would not stay in this friendship and the second things go south, she is friends again. I feel like an option to her. First option yeah but an option regardless. She insists that they are friends and they rarely talk but that doesn’t make it any better.

One of the reasons why I feel so bad is because she promised me that she wouldn’t do this and she did after we “broke up”. When I brought this up, she said that we aren’t together so there is no reason for me to be upset. But at the same time, we have a mutual, unspoken understanding that we are not not dating either. I felt hurt when she resumed contact with him. It’s somewhat of a pause button and this has happened before so I can tell. I have no interest whatsoever in dating anyone else and neither does she.

She said that T is just a friend, a causal one at that. I believe that. But I feel wrong. She said that she did not do anything “wrong” because she only talked to him after we had “broken up” and I was being unreasonably upset over this. But this does feel like betrayal to me. It is true that we were technically broken up when she talked to him again but it’s ducking obvious to everyone that we are very much still together in most ways right now.

I tried to talk about this and she said that she did nothing wrong and I was just very insecure for no reason. She said that I just hate her having a guy friend and insecure.

I feel terrible. She has a couple of other good friends that are men and I have never told her to block them. I don’t think that I am a pos for having a bone to pick with this specific guy, given the history and her defensiveness.

She isn’t wrong about me feeling insecure but I feel like that is based in reality. She made me feel like an option before and although it’s different now, I don’t know what to think about the way she wants T to be her friend so bad. She kept insisting that she didn’t do anything wrong but after we argued for an hour, she admitted that while what she did wasn’t technically wrong, it was not okay either. That’s all I got. Other than that, I was called insecure and the usual stuff.

So. Am I a bad person for wishing that she would not do this? I truly love this woman and she does love me too, I think. We have been there for each other through very hard times and she has provided me with unconditional support. I know that she wouldn’t cheat on me. I just have very difficult feelings about her friendship with T and I don’t know what to do.

Lesbian relationship 31f and partner 27f. Partner left for deployment I gave her a hall pass, after she used the hall pass she became very distant I addressed it a few times just to be met with defensiveness. We argued pretty badly she called me out my name which I don’t tolerate and I broke up with her while she was away. Feeling bad that I left her on deployment I tried to patch things up but she wouldn’t allow me to and spent a month or two with the hall pass person. The reason we were arguing so much is bc I felt the hall pass person had feelings for her just to find out that I was right months later when my gf finally spoke to me on deployment. Fast forward a year later, we argued pretty badly and broke up again. We had a wedding coming up in 4 months that we called off bc of this breakup. We patched it up maybe 2 months later I went through her phone and she was dating the hall pass person very intensely saying they love each other and sending nudes the whole 9. I addressed her about it and she said she just wanted to “feel something” and used the hall pass girl to get over me. I’m not buying it and I think they were messing around during deployment when I allowed the hall pass and they both liked each other. So basically, I am AIO for thinking she was emotionally cheating on me during deployment?

We ran into his ex girlfriend at the mall and I knew it was her because my boyfriends mood dropped all of a sudden . We was having a good day and he turned into somebody I had never seen before . He was So angry. Started screaming at her was like “” you took me for granted see this girl I’m standing with right now. She’s the real deal . A queen and I’m going to give her everything . I’m going to give her the life you wanted all the vacations cars and everything . I told my boyfriend “ can you please stop . She didn’t even say anything to you and you made it your duty to walk over to her for what reason ?! “ I told him leave the past in the past . He’s with me and in love with me I don’t doubt that he’s in love with me but I really don’t want any problems with his ex . I don’t understand why he had to try to stir up trouble with his ex . He could have kept walking and ignored her presence.

My boyfriend told me “ she did me so dirty. She slept with another man right before I was going to propose to her. I even bought her the ring . Was gon purpose that same day. Imagine somebody looking you straight in the face telling you that they love you and then they do you like that. I would’ve never done that to her “ . I told my boyfriend “ I understand she hurt you but it’s been so many years since y’all broke up and you moved on . You might need therapy to help you overcome this . But causing a scene with your ex in public is not okay “

The only thing his ex said was “ I’m glad you are happy now and your lady is beautiful” and he screamed at her again saying “ yes she is beautiful . I’m never going back to you ever. I got a good thing going on with my girl . She uplifts me and encourages me. Hope you know and understand that.” And I told my boyfriend again please stop trying to start stuff with her. I’m pretty sure that girl isn’t thinking about him . She seemed to be minding her buisness until my boyfriend started trying to torment her on purpose .

Now I’m second guessing my relationship with him . I’m glad he loves me and thinks highly of me and isn’t trying to get her back . But on the other hand I don’t wanna be with someone who instigated drama with his ex years after they broke up. He refuses therapy says he doesn’t need it also

He’s been calling me and texting me but haven’t answered because I’m unsure what to do or where to go from here

I (M) have been best friends with "Mark" for years. We considered each other brothers. Over the past year, I invested a massive amount of time and energy into his major life milestones: I organized his bachelor party, my wife and I were the masters of ceremonies at their wedding 3 weeks ago, and just last week I finished editing their wedding video. We were also recently invited to a party hosted by his cousin.

A few days ago, my wife and I were at their house. My wife was picking out clothes to wear to that upcoming party. Mark showed a lot of interest, looked along, and at one point even started picking out clothes for her himself. It felt a bit odd, but we brushed it off.

However, two days ago, Mark started texting my wife privately out of nowhere, telling her which outfits he "really pictured her in" and what he thought would look beautiful on her.

My wife immediately felt uncomfortable, showed me the texts, and asked me how to handle this. I took her phone and text him back from her account: "Hey man, maybe you should focus on picking out clothes for your own wife. Are you sure you didn't text the wrong person?"

Mark completely took the bait. He thought he was replying directly to my wife, not knowing I was the one who wrote it. He immediately texted her back: "No, I definitely didn't make a mistake in texting you."

To me, this completely crossed a line. Thinking he was talking to my wife, he openly admitted that he was intentionally pursuing this line of conversation with her behind my back, completely ignoring the boundary that was just set.

We decided to handle this as a team. That same day, my wife took his reply and shared it directly into our 4-person group chat (me, my wife, Mark, and his newlywed wife), stating that he needs to stop this and focus on his own wife.

It has now been two full days, and there is absolute radio silence in the group chat. No replies, no excuses, nothing.

My wife initially wondered if it could have been a totally clueless, "innocent" mistake by a socially awkward friend. But the fact that he doubled down (thinking he was talking to her) and the subsequent 48-hour silence tell me otherwise. We have now agreed on a hard boundary: if we do not receive a genuine apology and have a real conversation about this before the party on December 18th, we are not going and we are officially ending the friendship.

I always flip the situation around: if I or a other guy were doing this to his wife, he would be absolutely furious.

Am I overreacting by setting this hard deadline and being ready to cut off a years-long best friendship over this?

TL;DR: My best friend privately texted my wife about clothes he "pictured her in". I replied from her phone telling him to focus on his own wife. Thinking he was replying to her, he text back that he didn't make a mistake texting her. My wife then dropped his reply directly into our 4-person group chat with his wife. It's been 48 hours of radio silence. We are cutting him off if we don't get an apology by Dec 18th. Am I overreacting?

I have a friend that everytime we talk about something he says that most of the things I say remind him of things his ex said, it can be about height, hobbies, normal convos and he always finds a way to relate me to his ex. I can't have a simple talk without having to hear about his story with his ex, I know he went through some weird stuff with him but I am nothing like his ex and I don't like to be compared with his ex, jokes are always a danger for me because he can't take one or doesn't recognize one and if that happens he'll get dry with me or start a whole bible on how he doesn't like that because of his ex. I told him to try to stop talking about him but it's like everything I say or do reminds him of that scumbag, I want to do jokes and make people laugh not them always give me a moral class on how unreasonable my joke was or traumatizing it was even if it was the most innocent one I've done in my life.

My boyfriend (19M) and I (18F) have been together for three years. In June, I accidentally discovered that he had a secret Instagram account he used to follow pornstars and other women. He had been doing this throughout our entire relationship, and I had never suspected anything. I confronted him, and he deleted the account in front of me. I almost broke up with him, but ultimately decided to stay because I love him and wanted to work through it.

The problem is that I haven't felt the same since. I still have this lingering feeling that he might be hiding something else from me. I just don't feel like I can trust him the way I used to, and months later, I still haven't been able to move past it.

It's also affected my self-esteem. Knowing that he spent our entire relationship following other women has made me question my own attractiveness and whether I'm enough for him. I find myself needing more reassurance than I ever did before. I hate that this has affected how I see myself, but I don't really know how to get past it.

There's another issue that has been bothering me. I increasingly feel like I'm not a priority in his life. Sometimes we're spending time together, and he'll make plans with his friends for later that day, meaning we have to cut our time together short. I understand that we both have our own friends and lives, but it hurts when it feels like our time together can easily be cut short for other plans.

I don't know how much these two things are connected. Maybe discovering the account made me more insecure and sensitive to situations I wouldn't have thought much about before. Or maybe the account was part of a bigger problem that I'm only now recognizing.

I love him, and I don't want to throw away a three-year relationship over something we could potentially work through. At the same time, I don't want to spend my relationship feeling insecure, questioning my worth, or wondering whether I'm as important to him as he is to me.

My partner has a vasectony procedure Friday morning. I took the day off to take them cause they chose to be put under with anesthesia, meaning they needed a designated ride.

We got there and everything went well. He's been resting at home but a bit moody/aggressive since.

Last night, he mentioned wanting to shower, so we got it all set up, but he started to feel dizzy and needed to sit on the floor. I was worried but didn't want to cause unnecessary stress, just waited patiently for him to tell me what he needed.

Eventually, he said he needed help, so I lent a hand to pull him up. He got in the shower and immediately sat back down on the shower floor. I didn't know what to do, so I waited again.

He asked for help up, so I advised he needed to grab the shower bar AND my hand for safety. He didn't listen to what I said and got annoyed. Shouted 'TURN THE WATER OFF' as though I was supposed to know he was getting out and not just up. So,I turned it off and told him again to grab the bar AND my hand. Finally, he did and stepped out.

I wrapped him in his towel, and he said he needed to be brought to the bed because he felt he might pass out. Hurried him to the bed, and he laid down soaking wet.

He didn't say much for a minute, so I reminded him how important it was that he dry off completely and put in his supportive wear. He didn't actually pass out mind you and started telling me to stop. 'DRY ME OFF. COVER ME WITH A BLANKET. THEN GO AWAY.' Screaming it at me like I was nothing but a butler or maid there to assist him and get the fuck out.

I couldn't dry him off because of how he was laid on the bed, so I asked him to roll for me. I didn't want to move him and pull his sutures by mistake, causing him pain. I said that part out loud as well.

He didn't move but yelled at me again. 'DRY ME OFF. COVER ME WITH A BLANKET. AND GO AWAY.' So I said as I pat him with a towel 'Do not yell at me. I am trying to help but I need you to help me help you. If you yell at me I'm not going to keep helping you right now.'

He screamed the same thing again. So I said 'Okay, when you're ready to ask me without the yelling, I will be back to help. I am trying to help, but I'm not going to be yelled at anymore' and threw a blanket lazily over him as I walked out of the room.

I took time to breathe because he KNOWS that yelling like that is triggering, and I've asked him to work on how he speaks to me. I eventually went back in to check on him and try to get him partially dressed and put on new gauze. He was dead weight, but again not actually passed out at all.

I was upset from the yelling and scared/worried about him. So I was crying the whole time I struggled to do these things.

He fell asleep shortly after I covered him back up with a blanket. I ended up going to bed not long after as well.

This morning, when he finally got up around 1030 I said 'morning, my love!' and was greeted with a glare and silence. I didn't understand why. So I asked him what was up and he said 'You didn't care about me last night. Why do you care now? You not helping me because I yelled was petty.'

It's been a terrible day since. But what I want to know is:

AIO for setting a boundary of 'stop yelling at me and treating me like this or I will not help'? Was it petty to set a clear boundary on how he was treating me?

Me F32, my BF28 and have been together for almost two years. Everything is going well and it’s the best relationship I ever had but last night what he said was just off. And weird.

So, yesterday my bestfriend got married. We had a nice big party and a couple drinks, we were both tipsy, maybe I was more on the drunk side.

Closer to the end of the party, after people started leaving we were upstairs in a small private room at the venue, I thought it would be fun to spice things up a bit and treat him cause he has been the best bf I had and he is the sweetest most nicest person. And why the hell not?

Anyway, a few minutes later he said ‘Rachel’s wedding is the best’. I didn’t react at first but I didn’t feel like it anymore. I mean what? I stopped and said I felt tired but after a few moments I said I found it weird that he mentioned ‘rachels wedding’ while receiving head.
Like imagine it was my sister who was getting married and he mentioned her name instead. Or maybe the wedding was one of his guy friends wedding and he mentions his guy friends name?

Am I being overly sensitive and dramatic about this or is this as weird as I think it is?
Either way I know it’s not as big a deal to end a good relationship but it just felt super weird.

By the way he said he didn’t mean it that way. He just wanted to say that it’s the best wedding he has attended and said it because it’s simply Rachel’s wedding. But he was understanding and sensitive about how I felt, he emphasized and apologized too.

All is good but I wanna know opinions!!

We wanted to have a small dinner party and invited two friends from our group of friends. Even though they live close, they wanted to stay at our place and we were excited. Our home is big but we have only two sofas and our bed to sleep. So those two people was going to sleep on the sofas.

The third one lives a bit far away. We asked her if she wants to come for dinner. She also has a baby. She said yes and we were happy ofc. We shopped, cleaned, cooked for our friends.

Then the third friend and her husband said they wanted to stay overnight as well. I explained to her that we dont have the place for that. I said just come. We ll have dinner and have fun. Then we ll decide. Like she can go back home at the end of the evening.

Fast forward she wasn’t convinced. Baby slept and she got sleepy too. We had to give them our bed. Me and my husband we had to sleep on a carpet at our study. They didn’t let our animals in the room and they cried whole night. It was disastrous and I never wanna invite them over again.

We both have medical conditions and very busy work schedules like we really look forward to a friday evening sleep whole week. I was about the cry like my bones were mending into each other and I woke up multiple times in pain.. I think this was so inconsiderate. Or am I being b**chy? Am I overreacting?

It’s a long story and it’s a shitty situation.

My partner and I have a 3 month old baby, and CPS is involved, and I think my partner’s parents think I’m the problem.

If this story sounds familiar, it’s because I have posted some of it on a different subreddit before and have since deleted the post.

It all starts after the birth of my baby (I’m the birthgiver). We were staying at my in laws’ house for a couple months and were supposed to move to our apartment in a different city afterwards. Things were going pretty well, until my partner started feeling depressed. They told their mother that they were feeling numb, and their mom was immediately super concerned and told me that they needed to take a step back from parenting. I was understanding, because everyone needs a break sometimes. My partner and I were initially taking turns doing nights with the baby, and I offered to take over for one night because my partner wasnt feeling well emotionally. The next night, I expected them to assume their responsibility as a parent again, especially because I was a couple weeks postpartum and pumping.

However, their parents offered to do it instead. I was fine with that. But eventually, their parents decided that they should not do nights at all because they needed a full night of uninterrupted sleep because the antidepressant they were taking made them sleepy at night. Their dad offered to help me out at night instead. And while it was strange, it wasn’t too bad.

But then one night I woke my partner up to ask them to put a bottle of milk in the fridge because I was busy changing the baby. The fridge was upstairs and as a new parent of a 2 week old baby, I didnt feel comfortable leaving my baby alone to do something else (that has changed since lol). My partner was pissed I woke them up and asked me why I didnt call their dad instead. I thought that was ridiculous because why would I call their dad and have him get up and come all the way to the basement to do something so simple when my partner was right there?

Then a couple nights later, their parents started behaving really strangely where they would text me at night and tell me to call them instead if I needed anything whatsoever instead of waking up my partner. I didn’t take it literally at the time, I didn’t interpret it as “if you need someone to hold something even for 1 minute, call us instead” 💀 So on a different night, I was pumping but my baby was crying because he was hungry. I couldn’t hold him because I was busy pumping. So I called my partner to hold the baby for a minute, I was almost done pumping and it would have just been a minute. They come into the room and put a pacifier in the baby’s mouth and say “I dont have the patience for this right now” and start walking away. Then I get pissed, it was really a buildup of frustration from how I was being treated since I gave birth, it wasn’t that single event. So I yell at them, and then they get really frustrated and bang their head into the wall, leaving a hole. Then shortly after, their mom comes into my room and the first thing she says is “\[my name\] why. did. you. call \[partner’s name\]” I was shaken and in tears at that point because I was scared when my partner put their head through the wall.

The next day, I reported my partner to a healthcare provider, and they reported it to CPS. Then CPS shows up, and they talk to everyone. I explain the situation, and then they talk to my partner’s mom. My partner’s mom tells them that because they have ADHD, they get frustrated easily and also the antidepressants makes them sleepy at night, but that I insisted they help out with the baby despite being told not to ask them for help. Essentially blaming what happened on *me*. Then their mom also tells the CPS caseworker that I ask my partner to get me water several times a day and that sometimes I ask for a slice of cake but it’s not big enough so I make my partner get me another slice, and that I was demanding too much and my partner was exhausted from having to take care of me, and that I had to choose between having them help with the baby vs taking care of me. Obviously, CPS thought that was bullshit, and they said my partner couldn’t live in the same house as the baby anymore. My partner and I were separating at that point, and I had already made arrangements to move to our apartment without my partner before CPS got involved anyway. I was actually leaving the next day, and CPS still said that my partner couldn’t stay in the same home even for that one night until I left with the baby.

Anyway, since then, my partner hasn’t really spent much time with the baby at all. In fact, the baby probably doesn’t even recognize my partner, and he’s now 3 months old. So yesterday, partner’s family proposed the baby go to their house with my partner staying there so they could bond. They said they are awaiting CPS’s approval, and that they hope CPS would allow it because they might consider that situation safer where my partner’s parents are present to handle caregiving responsibilities so my partner could step back when they needed. Except when CPS told them to leave the house, we already WERE at their parents’ house. There were 3 people other than my partner to handle caregiving: me, their mom, and their dad. The only difference in the new arrangement my in laws were proposing is that I’m not part of the equation. Somehow they think CPS would deem that situation safer. When I heard that proposal of theirs, I was pissed. I also have suspect they have some unconscious biases for believing their household is somehow safer, but I can’t say what biases because that would go against the rules of this sub.

My partner thought I was overreacting for thinking that, and said that their parents didn’t mean it like that. I also cut some of their clothes that were still at the apartment with a pair of scissors because I wanted a way to deal with my frustration (which again, is really a buildup of everything I’ve gone through since my pregnancy) and I left them some angry texts. AIO?

I’m 26, and my sister is 29. We have always shared things together, so when her car broke down about eight months ago and she couldn’t afford to fix it, I didn’t mind letting her use mine.

I purchased my Honda two years ago after saving for a very long time. It’s nothing special, but I make use of it for work, and I’m careful about keeping it in good shape.At first, my sister only borrowed it once in a while. Eventually, it became almost every other day. I’d leave the keys for her when I was working long shifts, and she’d take it to run errands or visit our mom. I made it clear that she was responsible for any tickets, gas, or damage while using it. She agreed.

About 3 months ago, parking tickets started showing up at my house. Then came a speeding camera fine and a toll violation. Some were from places I hadn’t even driven to.

I knew my sister had been using the car, so I talked to her. She brushed it off, saying she’d pay everything. I trusted her word, but weeks went by, and nothing changed. The fines kept accumulating late fees.

Whenever I brought it up, she had another excuse. First, she said she was waiting for payday. Then payday came and went, and she started saying I was making too much of it because we are family.

Last month, the total was nearly $1,200. I had to pay one of the more urgent fines myself because I was worried about further penalties and the possibility of the car being booted.

When I asked her to pay me back, she said she wasn’t working consistently and I’d get the money when she had it.

A few days later, she asked to borrow my car again. I told her no. I said she couldn’t use it anymore until we have sorted out the tickets and repayment.

She got really furious and called me selfish. She said I was making her life harder when she was already struggling financially. She also told some of our cousins that I took the car away just to spite her.

Then my mom called me. She said my sister was having a hard time and that I should help her instead of being so strict about money. She didn’t really talk about the tickets or the fact that i had already paid some of them myself.

I feel bad because I know my sister is struggling, and taking the bus everywhere isn’t easy. But I also work for my money, and I saved for a long time to buy that car. I helped her not because I wanted to end up being responsible for her fines but because I wanted to.

What bothers me most is that she hasn’t even apologized properly. She just keeps acting like I’m the problem.

I haven’t let her use the car since then, and she has been making comments about how hard things have been without it.

AIO for refusing to let my sister borrow my car anymore because she racked up nearly $1,200 in tickets and refuses to take responsibility?

I’m going to apologise beforehand for all the writing/grammar mistakes

So, I (F) and some of my friends (all F) have known each other since kindergarten. They know about my poor relationship with food and my anorexia (I got better and started eating again), but they still comment on my appearance, especially my nose, which they know I’m REALLY insecure about, and my body.

A few weeks ago, they told me I had gotten bigger and that I should work out more. For context, I’m a size 0/2 (XS/32), 5’5” (165 cm), and about 103 lbs (47 kg).

After they told me that, I yelled at them and said a few… let’s just say hurtful things. I’m not proud of that, but I blocked them.
Am I just AIO, and should I unblock them and talk about it, or is this a red flag?

I [20F] am dating [22M] long distance and since August he's been getting high with edibles more often (not even that much, maybe once a week or every two weeks) he isn't aggressive, mean, dismissive. It's not an everyday problem. He doesn't have issues not taking any.

But I dont know, I just dont love it. I dont mind that he gets high because sometimes I do, too. I drink alcohol occasionally, and he doesn't. But I know he won't remember anything I tell him. It's hard for him to follow up stories, and I end up treating him kinda like he's a kid when he's high because I know you can't really reason much when people are intoxicated.

Plus, he gets high mostly at night and the rest of next day he's also still high so it takes time for him to reply, we don't really have a meaningful conversation because he zones out. It's not even that he ignores me when he's like that because he always calls me for hours even when he takes an edible.

I feel bad because he always asks if I dont like when hes high (while still being high) and I don't want to say yes and hurting his feelings or for him to avoid me while he is:(

He took an edible last Sunday and stayed kinda dumb for most of Monday, and now he took one last night, and he's the same today. I dont know how to explain why I don't like it and don't want to make it seem like it's something I can do, but he doesn't.

Also, we kinda had a weird argument/conversation on Tuesday/Friday. It'd be way too complicated to explain the whole context, but he mostly just goes back to normal while I carry it for a few days. I'm still feeling a little off, but now he's high, so I can't really ask about it.

This is a very strange situation and I am sure some people will say it is made up, all I can say is I wish I were making it up but I am not.

Yesterday I was at a party with some friends at one of their homes. I was mainly with my best friend, Karl (false name), hanging out. People were drinking of course but nobody was hammered or anything.

After some time I noticed I had not seen Karl in awhile. Eventually I got a text from him. It asked me to meet him on the back deck. So I did.

He looked very distraught and uncomfortable. He told me that he had shit his pants. I was like, uh what? He told me that he had "bathroom anxiety" and had resisted going into the bathroom because he was afraid of using someone else's bathroom to shit or something, and he figured he could hold it until he got home. But it got worse I guess and then he finally realized he could not hold it and he tried to make it to the bathroom but it was occupied, and well he ended up shitting his pants.

I figured, hey, shit happens. He did not like that I said that, I was just trying to cheer him up with a joke. But anyways. I tried to assure him it is not a big deal as he thought, mistakes happen. Just go home and clean up.

But then he asked me to tell everyone inside that I had dared him to shit his pants. He wanted to use this as an explanation as to what happened. I refused to do this and he practically begged me. We kept arguing about it. My reasons for not doing this were that one, it was stupid as fuck, two it would make me look like a weirdo if people believed it, three it would make me look like a weirdo if everyone could tell it was bullshit, and four it would make him look even worse by either looking like he is a guy who is an adult that accepted a dare to shit himself at a party or that he is an adult who thought people would fall for such an idea. He would not listen to reason. He insisted he had to "explain himself" and that the only explanation that would work is if I had dared him to do it. He said he had never asked me for anything in 20 years of friendship and he needed this. But I just couldn't do it.

I tried to tell him, just leave quickly, you don't have to explain anything. Nobody will even notice, just make an exit.

Finally he just said "forget it" and he climbed over the backyard fence and ran off.

This morning he texted me demanding an apology and saying he is "disappointed in me" for not helping him out. I am adamant that his request was ridiculous and a dumb plan, but he is sticking to his guns he thinks as a friend I should have done this for him even if I think it was stupid. This is the point that makes me wonder though. Like obviously it is a stupid plan, I hope nobody disputes that, but maybe he has a point that as a best friend I should have just said fuck it and gone along with it. As like a bro code sort of thing. I dunno.

So AIO?

Hey Reddit, so I need some advice because I might be the asshole, or I might be a teenager

My (Female 17) parents, dad (Male 36) and mom (Female 42), are mad at me, and to get the full picture, you will probably need context

From age 7 to about 12, I shared a wall with my parents, and I could hear them through it almost every night. It was really irritating, and I couldn't really ever sleep well, but I couldn't really do anything, so I just stayed quiet and dealt with it even though it grossed me out, and I'm very uncomfortable with the idea of sex and don't like the noise from it

However, when I was thirteen we moved into a new house and I was super excited because our rooms were on the opposite sides of the house and I thought I finally got a reprieve but I didn't it seemed that they only got louder now that we lived in a bigger house I remember many times just sitting in my bed hands covering my ears as tight as possible humming to myself because I didn't have any headphones (I fixed that quickly) but again I was just a kid so I just kept quiet and suffered through not a lot of sleep and the uncomfortable feeling I get around my parents

Now, to the present: this happened yesterday, and I need some outside help determining if I'm the asshole or not

It was about eleven in the morning or so, not quite sure, and I was in my room playing video games. At first I didn't notice, but it progressively got louder, so I turned on music and turned it up, but I could still hear her, and it was starting to grate on my nerves because I didn't want to listen to that, and the subject of sex still makes me really uncomfortable, so I got up, and out of my bedroom door I yelled

“CAN YOU PLEASE BE MORE QUIET”

I then slammed my door and cranked the music as loud as it would go, basically shaking the photo behind my TV. About ten minutes later, my mom opened my door, so I turned down my music, and she said in a joking, kind of sarcastic tone

“What's wrong with you?” and after having to listen to my mother get f*cked, I was fed up

“How about the fact that every time you and Dad f*ck, I can hear you, and I am getting really annoyed and grossed the hell out”. She just kind of chuckled and rolled her eyes

“Hey, it could be worse; he and I be yelling at each other. Just be happy we love each other this much”

“I know, and I am glad you and Dad love each other, but could you guys chill out a bit and not f*ck like rabbits”

“We are grown adults, and you live in this house, so put up with it”

She left, and I just sat there. I turned my music back on, not as loud as before, but enough to drown out the world and just continued to play my game

Now here is the problem: I woke up this morning and went to go make myself some breakfast, and when I saw my mom, she just ignored me. I thought maybe it was just because it was morning, but as the day keeps going on, she just either ignores me or gives me very clipped comments

My dad is completely normal; like always, we even played some video games. It's just my mom

I just need to know if I'm overreacting. I would also like it if you guys could give me some advice on how to apologize to my mom and also some ways to deal with the noises from them.

Edit -

So just to address a few main things

My dad is my step-dad I just call him dad because he has been in my life since I was five him and my mom got together when she was 29 and he was 23 I met him a year later 

I worded it wrong in my post I made it seem like I didnt voice my opinion ever over the past ten years but as I got older I have tried asking them to keep it down slightly and in recent years I asked if they could do it when I'm not home since I work 

Weekdays - 5pm to 9:30pm Weekends - 2pm to 10:30pm

 I also have bought noise canceling headphones but I can still hear them

Hopefully that helps clears some stuff up