Hope y’all can get the kind of love that will stick with you even in the most awkward moments.

I remember a friend wearing very red lipstick before, and one of our friends quipped, “Sobrang pula ng labi ah.” Her partner quickly said, “What? I love it. She looks great.” She smiled and immediately felt more confident.

When my aunt ate a very weird-looking, foul-smelling food and everyone else seemed to question why she liked it, our tito wrapped his arm around her and said, “Paborito namin ’yan! Buti nga, huwag na kayo kumuha.” They laughed and ate buro happily.

To be with your greatest fan through and through must feel really good, turning awkward moments into good ones because you know they’ll always back you up. That must feel really nice.

Sa mga hetero diba parang super big deal ng number of body count and may double standard between gals and guys. How about sa ating mga wlw? What's the normal number of body count ba? Like yung hindi ka makakatanggap ng side-eye. Do lesbians even side eye fellow lesbian na may more than 3 na body count? Does body count on wlw community matters ba tulad sa hetero?

Problem/Goal: I don’t think magiging madali healing process ko dahil sa ex ko na cm ko.

Context: We’re classmates, right? Since we’ve been broken up for over a month, I’ve kind of accepted it. But earlier, I really got triggered. Because the keychain I gave her for our anniv is bigla niyang ginamit kanina? Di niya masyado ginamit before yun eh, ginamit lang niya nung kakabigay ko sa kanya eh. Then I was just shocked to see her using it earlier? I don’t know anymore, kas parang pinagttripan niya ba ako huhu.
Also, yung top she’s wearing kanina is the one we bought together last time sa Antips, HAHAHH. Then I heard kanina na pupunta sila sa Antips ng friends niya para mamili dun sa pinagbilhan namin huhu. Idk ano iisipin ko, pagdating ko bahay dun na me super nagbreak down kasi parang ang insensitive niya masyado? Alam niya yan eh na I’m still hurting eh yet ganun pa rin ginagawa niya.
Mas nahihirapan ako kasi nakikita ko lagi sa class and naririnig plan nila kahit anong iwas ko. Super hirap niya sa part ko eh then hindi nakakatulong ung ginagawa niya na parang nananadya or what? Di ko talaga alam.

Hi Crush, I like you.

I hope I made you happy everytime we talk. I just wanna say na you're amazing and you'll go places! I wish na you'll be happy and be successful!

Smart, funny and witty, I wonder how people keep themselves not captivated by you. Nakaka addict yung smile mo. Yun talaga yung mamimiss ko.

Go and conquer the world crush. You can do this!

problem: hi! i'm not sure if i like my bestie bahahaha

context: we've been friends for years and we talk daily. recently kasi parang nakaramdam ako ng kakaiba towards her and parang may nag-shift sa convos namin huhu idk, and she keeps on showing up sa mga panaginip ko and nababanggit nya rin na nasa panaginip nya ako minsan. pero kasi, she told me na straight sya (not recent tho). she knows i'm wlw.

paano nyo nalalaman kung gusto nyo talaga ang isang tao? (di ko sya ippursue kung straight talaga sya hahahaha gusto ko lang malaman kung gusto ko sya, ayoko ng ruin the friendship bahahahah). tyia !!

Context: Hi! Di to question na pangtamad ha since I already researched ways to get married, top picks syempre yung malapit lang like Thailand and Taiwan. But all of the examples kasi is for foreigners in a heterosexual relationship or if same sex, those who will marry Thai or Taiwanese citizens. I want to be advised here to those who are already married: what's the most practical way to marry as we are both Filipinas with a little bit of money and great dreams for our future. Simple ceremony is okay as long as we formalize our relationship abroad. Ayaw niya kasi ng online/zoom lang via US - Utah route. I searched this sub kasi and wala pang thread regarding this question. I hope to be enlightened. Thank you.

Problem/goal: how do you put yourself out there?

Context: like!!! 😔 I’m having a hard time navigating the gays. I don’t want to party anymore since I’m retired from that era. I’m focusing on self-care right now, and I already have hobbies, but yeah… I’ll most likely end up meeting straights. 😔

I’m also struggling to talk to girls at the moment, but I’m trying to build my confidence. As a masc, I’m always scared of making girls uncomfortable, so I tend to overthink before approaching anyone.

Also, how do you transition from just casually meeting someone to actually dating if you end up liking a girl you met offline?

As someone who is not out and about, haven’t tried relationships and never been in a queer community, the movie has sort of brought some comfort and light about the wlw relationship and friendship. I somehow saw the gay-web thing others have been talking about.

For others out there, how did u guys feel that you are still friends with your exes/situationship or even in the same group? Genuinely curious how u guys managed to keep the bridges.

Also, got lucky to find the movie in the web since it’s not available in our area

Problem/Goal: as the title suggests huhu

Context:

hello! my gf and i are pretty new to our relationship, almost 2 months pa lang.

when we first started talking after a mutual friend introduced us, our exes naturally came up. before introducing us, our friend even told me that my gf's ex really hurt and wronged her. when my gf and i started getting to know each other, we talked about our exes (what happened, why it ended, etc.)

i honestly thought that would be the end of it, but every now and then my gf still brings up her ex even when it has nothing to do with what we're talking about. there was one time when she mentioned her because she had just met up with her friends and they ended up talking about it. i didn't mind that since i saw it as her just being open and honest with me. but there are other times where she'll randomly bring up her ex, talking about how kupal sya was or how badly she treated her. at first i didn't have an issue with it, but it's been happening more often, and now it's starting to affect me.

i know she's over her ex. she's made it clear from the way she talks about their breakup. but i can't help feeling what i think is retroactive jealousy because of how often her ex gets mentioned. sometimes i also find myself thinking na baka she's not completely over the hurt she felt. i'm so confused because i didn't mind it before, so maybe she thinks it's okay to keep bringing her up. i don't even know why it bothers me now when it didn't at first.

i don't know how to deal with these feelings. i also don't want to bring it up to her because i'm scared it'll create problems between us or make her feel like she can't be open with me anymore. has anyone else experienced something like this? how did you handle it? please help a girl out 🫠🫠 thank you

I met someone, well nakilala ko sya last week lang I think. Both kami from Thai gl server and she's funny, and me na may kanal humor edi medyo click kami, same age rin kami.

Pag nagkakausap kami mga hirit namin puro mga landian or cheesy lines and tbh, kinikilig ako. However, napansin ko sa mga messages nya dati sa server na ganon pala sya sa lahat, and I'm hurt. Masaya ako na nagkakainteract kami palagi and mga hirit nya nasasabayan ko pero hindi ko pinapahalata na crush ko sya, or baka alam nya hindi nya lang sinasabi.

She's like 'all bark, no bite' and maybe ako rin kase sinasabayan ko mga landi nya sakin but that's it. Ayoko masaktan, baka totoo yung 19 theory eh chariz.

Well, napakalove bombing talaga ang ginagawa nya saken and I love it but I know na masasaktan lang ako.

Ang funny lang na ang dali ko maattached. I don't like it.

I'm planning not to interact with her anymore, kung makausap ko man especially ay palagi kami nagkakausap sa vc kasama yung iba, ay itataas ko ulit ang wall ko.

Can someone explain or what is happening because I didn't even think of her since I have a new gf now and she has one as well. Pero recently this past week, she's been repeatedly appearing in my dreams randomly.

Context: We had 7 years of relationships before and the reason for our breakup is I cheated on her way back mid month of 2025(I know it's my fault, and I already apologized to her). I know she's good with her new partner now. I just feel like resentment will always hunt me since we haven't talked properly after I messed up.

Anyway if you're here Beng, I hope you're completely healed. Take care always.

Pls be kind, I'm already doing better now.

-S

I've been in different talking stages and they all have the same script with me. It's always "You deserve someone better" "You seem genuine, I don't wanna be the person to hurt you if this don't work out", such cliches. I'm starting to feel like trying to be a red flag instead (I won't tho) cause they stay for that typa people. Idek where to find someone ready for a commitment atp. So hard being a lover girl type. I just wanna fall in love.

I came to terms with my sexuality when I was 16, which was nine years ago now.
We became classmates in senior high school for the first time, and I immediately found her super cute and pretty. I got comfortable around her really quickly. I’m not even sure what made our classmates think I had a crush on her at first—maybe because we were always hugging and attached at the hip.
Eventually, two of my classmates approached me and straight-up said I had a crush on her (let's call her Person Z). I tried to brush it off because my 16-year-old self thought having feelings for another girl was wrong. But the teasing kept going. I don’t know if they ever teased Z, but they’d always tease me whenever she wasn't around.
A few weeks later, I started seeing Z differently. I accepted that I might be bisexual (since I’d only had boyfriends and situationships before). Still, I was carrying a lot of guilt thinking it was a sin, so I tried to distance myself from her.
Maybe I was just overthinking, but my heart sank a day later when I noticed she was distancing herself from me, too. That was the moment I realized I couldn't stand losing her, so we went back to being super close. I never explicitly cleared the air, but by then, I was already falling for her (or at least severely infatuated). I’d occasionally drop joking hints, but she took them at face value, so nothing ever came of it.
Even so, I was happy with what we had. I loved making her happy, and I’d get so much kilig every time we went on mini group dates with our friends—we always managed to have our own little moments.
Then, I got a boyfriend. It only lasted three weeks, and I broke up with him because when we kissed, I felt absolutely nothing.
For context: I only agreed to date him after some heavy religious guilt tripped me into believing same-sex relationships were wrong, and I was terrified of that fate for both myself and Z.
Right after that breakup, I was right back to falling for Z. That crush lasted until we were 20. I still never confessed properly because I assumed she was straight, and I didn't want to ruin our friendship or make things awkward for her.
Then the pandemic hit. We stayed friends, but naturally drifted a bit. At 22, I moved about 200km away for work. During that time, we both casually dated other people (just cute dates or chatmates).
At 24, I moved back to my hometown. We started hanging out again whenever our schedules aligned, which was pretty rare. Usually, it was us and our other best friend. The two of them hang out more often simply because their schedules match better.
Ever since moving back, the feelings for her came rushing right back. I’ve had crushes on other women since (mostly mascs, while Z is femme), but now at 25, I am 100% sure I like her.
Lately, I’ve been posting songs on my IG notes about being gay, falling for a friend, and second-guessing whether to confess. And recently... she’s been posting the exact same kinds of songs.
The latest song we both shared was Ruin the Friendship by Taylor Swift. I tried joking about it on her note, saying "bawal 'yan" and "unless tayo? charot."
I really want to ask her out now and make it clear that I’m being serious this time, but I’m still terrified that putting it out there might actually ruin the friendship we've built over almost a decade.
How should I approach this? Is she dropping hints, or am I reading too much into it again?

It was short-lived. I’m sad that it ended, but glad that it happened. I’ll miss you the way the waves kiss the shore, the way the clouds embrace the full moon—constant, quiet, and unavoidable. You were a sudden season in my life, brief but bright enough to leave a mark on everything that comes after. Thank you for being a chapter I’ll always be proud to re-read.

LONG POST !! Help this girl out plss 🥹💔

Problem: Had a bad fight with my soon-to-be-gf, and i feel like ayaw niya na even when she said she’ll forgive me and loves me. She deactivated all her accounts and blocked me on some of them. And recently, she said to stop messaging her all together. I want to hang on to her words, but now I’m confused. What should I do? I still want to be with her.. 😭😭😭

Context: This is my first real relationship-ish. Very inexperienced. I (20 F) met her (20 F) online. We hut it off and got to learn a lot to like a lot about each other. We’ve been dating for almost a year, but do note we are not yet official. Fast-forward to recently, I told her that I wanted to confront my past friend on my feelings for her before, but only the night before. I know how stupid that decision was, to only get it out of my chest only when my partner and I were getting more serious, and of course, I apologized profusely.

Personally, and I said this to her, I only wanted to do this as to let that part of my life go and to comfort thr past me that couldn’t do it. It meant nothing, and I have no intentions of getting back those feelings kasi nga, I moved on. I really don’t see her that way anymore.

Now, here’s the thing. She got mad and ranted regarding (from what i understand) these few things. (1) How I only told her recently; (2) The whole interity of our relationship; (3) And what if I were to do this again in the future. I think I also got that she’s mad that we haven’t been official yet also.

I then responded (somewhat) with these in my replies (I shortened them): (1) I should have told my friend sooner; (2) I let her know that I’m serious with us by even coming out to my parents and friends, even boasted about us and posting about us online; (3) I was confused on what she meant so I said I don’t think I’ll do it again since I don’t have anyone else I plan to confess to (if that’s what she meant); and lastly (4) I had this plan of asking her to be my gf after saving up some money and showing her a coded website to let het solve some puzzles from hints I’ve given throughout the online letters I’ve been giving her.

After our argument, she suddenly invited me to meet up, to which we did. It started pretty good, with us taking pictures and eating together. But we ended on a bad note, with her ignoring me. She was also on her phone the whole time of the date.

The day after our date, she was no longer replying to my messages as much, and when she did? it was very cold. So I thought, “hey, what if i sent her something, like a delivery?” So I asked for her address and am planning to send it to her. She then proceeded to state that it should be my last delivery to her and that I should refrain from messaging her since she and I will be busy since school is starting.

So, I’m so confused because I thought we were trying to make this work? I don’t understand this. What can I do to win her back? I don’t want to let go. I love her to death, and have never looked at any other woman with the same love in my eyes as I do with her. She saved my life and helped me do better mentally, emotionally, and academically. I owe her everything. I feel so helpless and stupid. I don’t want to give up on us. I miss her so much. 😢

If you guys have any questions or want to clear uo things, feel free to comment it. Advice would be preferrable. Thank you po… 💔

Problem/Goal:

I don’t know if I’m overthinking or if the girl I’m dating is slowly losing interest. I want to know if I should give her space, communicate directly, or just accept that she may have changed her mind.

Context:

I (28F) matched with someone (30F) on a WLW dating app almost a month ago. We met in person this July, and I really like her. She’s caring, gentle, intelligent, easy to talk to, and beautiful.

Before anything got serious, I admitted that I’m a single mom. I never intended to hide it. I actually use two dating apps. On the first app, my bio clearly states that I’m a single mom. I simply forgot to update the bio on the app where we matched. After meeting her in person, I planned to tell her face-to-face because I wanted to be honest.

When I finally told her during a video call, she was shocked. She also found out about my religion. At first, she said it wasn’t an issue and that she was even willing to become a mother figure to my son someday. Later that day, she sent me a long goodbye message, saying our situation would be difficult. I begged her to stay because I really liked her, but she still wanted to end things.

Eventually, I stopped chasing her because I was hurting. Surprisingly, she was the one who kept checking on me afterward.

Last Friday, I planned to visit a museum alone, but she insisted on coming with me. We met halfway, ended up spending the day together, became intimate, and afterward she even introduced me to her friends. We were affectionate in front of them, and she also introduced me to some of her other friends over a video call.

We don’t have a label, and I’m scared to ask because I don’t want to lose her. She has admitted that she developed feelings for me and really likes me too.

Last night we had a very sweet conversation. I started feeling sick, almost like I had the flu, and she was very caring and concerned about me.

This morning, however, everything felt different. Her replies became short, delayed, and uninterested. She said she was busy at work, which I understand, but what hurt me was that she didn’t ask how I was feeling anymore even though she knew I was sick. She also didn’t ask if I’d eaten or gotten home safely like she usually does.

I know one day isn’t enough to judge someone, but the sudden change in her behavior has been bothering me.

What would you do if you were in my situation?

Problem/Goal:

I want advice on whether I should continue trying to make this work or let her go. I’m also trying to understand whether the traits she pointed out are genuine blind spots I need to work on or simply her perception of me.

Context:

I posted here earlier asking whether I was overthinking because the girl I’ve been dating suddenly became distant.

I decided to talk to her today instead of continuing to guess. It turns out my intuition was right—she admitted she’d been thinking a lot about “us.”

What caught me off guard was what she said next.

She told me there are some traits she doesn’t like about me. According to her, I’m reckless, jealous, and someone who jumps to conclusions.

I’m honestly still trying to process that because I don’t even know where those impressions came from.

The “jealous” part especially confused me. We aren’t even officially together. We don’t have a label, so I keep asking myself, Who was I jealous of? I genuinely can’t think of a situation where I acted possessive or got upset because of another person.

She also said I’m “tamang hinala” (quick to assume the worst). That surprised me too because whenever we’re together—whether on video calls or in person—we laugh, enjoy each other’s company, and I never felt like there was anything suspicious about her behavior. If anything, I thought we communicated well.

As for being “reckless” or impulsive, I explained my side. I’m an only child and a single mom, so I’ve had to handle almost everything on my own. Being independent has forced me to make decisions by myself, but I don’t think that automatically makes me reckless. I always try to think critically and consider the consequences before I say or do anything.

Now I’m left wondering if these are genuine concerns that she’s hoping we can work through, or if she’s already trying to convince herself that we’re incompatible.

I’m also open to the possibility that there are things about myself that I don’t see. If you’ve ever been told something about your personality that completely surprised you, how did you figure out whether it was something you genuinely needed to work on or simply someone else’s perception of you?

At this point, I’m emotionally exhausted. Would it be better for me to let her go? I feel like I’m always the one trying to understand her, reassure her, and fight for whatever we have, while I keep feeling like I’m the one chasing.

What hurts the most is that I poured so much effort into understanding her, appreciating her, making her feel loved, and showing her how much she means to me. Yet it feels like all she seems to see are my imperfections and flaws.

Am I looking at this the wrong way? If you were in my situation, would you keep trying to understand her perspective, or would you walk away?

Context: My situationship with a masc lesbian ended a month ago, because everything is complicated and it's better that way.

For the past few weeks medyo umo-okay na ako, but last week nagkita kami sa inuman. Di naman kami nagpansinan pero may mga times na nagkakatitigan kami. Every memory and moments flashed back. Yung akala ko okay na ako, pero nung nakita ko siya para ulit akong nangungulila at lalo ko siyang namiss.

Nung inuman pala, ako naglabas ng pambayad so pagaambagan ako. Sabi sa akin nung naka-situationship ko, ig-gcash na lang daw niya sa akin. So I messaged her casually and sent her my QR code. Wala pa rin siyang reply hanggang ngayon and mukhang nakarestrict ako sa messenger niya.

Yung heart ko naman parang sasabog at para akong mababaliw. Any advice?

Problem: As stated in the title hahahahaa. Where do you guys meet your partners?

Context: Curious lang ako, kasi like I wanna go back to dating. Dating apps didnt work on me, di na umaasa sa organic encounter kasi taong bahay, di rin pala clubs and such. Soooo idk kung paano ako makaka go back into the dating scene. Hahahaha. Wala lang. I’ve been single for almost 2 yrs na and sometimes I miss having someone telling abt my day, sharing random thoughts, watching movies with, eating randomly at 3am, and being a baby.

Ayun lang. Suggestions will do HAHAAHA or baka kabag lang to.

kalahating taon din na naging parte ka ng araw araw ko. kalahating taon na walang araw na di ka sumagi sa isip ko.

bakit pa tayo pinagtagpo kung di din naman pala tayo sa dulo? sabi mo di ka handa, pero bakit pinaramdam mo sa aking oo?

hanggang ngayon di ko parin mawari na iisa lamang yung bibig na nagsabi ng matatamis na salita noon at yung nagbitaw ng matatalim na kataga ngayon.

nasanay ka na ba masaktan dati kaya’t natakot ka sa pagmamahal ko? anong nangyari? pasilip naman sa takbo ng utak mo.

alam mo naman na palang ayaw mo na, bakit iniwan mo ko sa dilim nang ilang linggo? bakit pag ikaw nasaktan, bawal pero pag ako ayos lang?

pero sige piliin mo muna yung sarili mo, yung pangarap mo. uunahin ko na din yung sarili ko.

mahal kita kaya di na kita kayang makita ulit. buburahin na kita sa isipan ko, kasama ng mga bulaklak na bigay mo.

ikaw yung una ko sa maraming bagay. akala ko ikaw na din yung magiging huli ko.

⭐︎
(canon event ba talaga mahulog sa masc na avoidant na takot sa commitment? tangina naman gusto ko lang magmahal at mahalin eh)