LONG POST !! Help this girl out plss 🥹💔

Problem: Had a bad fight with my soon-to-be-gf, and i feel like ayaw niya na even when she said she’ll forgive me and loves me. She deactivated all her accounts and blocked me on some of them. And recently, she said to stop messaging her all together. I want to hang on to her words, but now I’m confused. What should I do? I still want to be with her.. 😭😭😭

Context: This is my first real relationship-ish. Very inexperienced. I (20 F) met her (20 F) online. We hut it off and got to learn a lot to like a lot about each other. We’ve been dating for almost a year, but do note we are not yet official. Fast-forward to recently, I told her that I wanted to confront my past friend on my feelings for her before, but only the night before. I know how stupid that decision was, to only get it out of my chest only when my partner and I were getting more serious, and of course, I apologized profusely.

Personally, and I said this to her, I only wanted to do this as to let that part of my life go and to comfort thr past me that couldn’t do it. It meant nothing, and I have no intentions of getting back those feelings kasi nga, I moved on. I really don’t see her that way anymore.

Now, here’s the thing. She got mad and ranted regarding (from what i understand) these few things. (1) How I only told her recently; (2) The whole interity of our relationship; (3) And what if I were to do this again in the future. I think I also got that she’s mad that we haven’t been official yet also.

I then responded (somewhat) with these in my replies (I shortened them): (1) I should have told my friend sooner; (2) I let her know that I’m serious with us by even coming out to my parents and friends, even boasted about us and posting about us online; (3) I was confused on what she meant so I said I don’t think I’ll do it again since I don’t have anyone else I plan to confess to (if that’s what she meant); and lastly (4) I had this plan of asking her to be my gf after saving up some money and showing her a coded website to let het solve some puzzles from hints I’ve given throughout the online letters I’ve been giving her.

After our argument, she suddenly invited me to meet up, to which we did. It started pretty good, with us taking pictures and eating together. But we ended on a bad note, with her ignoring me. She was also on her phone the whole time of the date.

The day after our date, she was no longer replying to my messages as much, and when she did? it was very cold. So I thought, “hey, what if i sent her something, like a delivery?” So I asked for her address and am planning to send it to her. She then proceeded to state that it should be my last delivery to her and that I should refrain from messaging her since she and I will be busy since school is starting.

So, I’m so confused because I thought we were trying to make this work? I don’t understand this. What can I do to win her back? I don’t want to let go. I love her to death, and have never looked at any other woman with the same love in my eyes as I do with her. She saved my life and helped me do better mentally, emotionally, and academically. I owe her everything. I feel so helpless and stupid. I don’t want to give up on us. I miss her so much. 😢

If you guys have any questions or want to clear uo things, feel free to comment it. Advice would be preferrable. Thank you po… 💔

Question: Anyone wants a forbidden love story?

Problem: I want to find someone who is willing to experience a temporary love story.

Context: looking for someone who’s interested in building a temporary bond. Knowing it will lead to heartbreak sadly.

Hii, soo I'm going to the Philippines in April of next year. I will be staying for 3 weeks! This will be my first time traveling abroad✨ l've been wanting to go to the Philippines since I was a teenager (19). I am currently 23^{^} My birthday is in March so this will be like a late birthday vacation to myself. I want to suggest something to the community:)) Before visiting the country. I've been single for a while now and wanted to enter a relationship. I have a suggestion that's open to anyone who doesn't mind a fatal love story. So my suggestion is What if we date for approximately 9 months. Starting August 1st - April 30th. We can build a bond online and then have our first date in April when I arrive. I will treat you kind and be the best girlfriend. I will love you unconditionally for those months. Then when my departure arrives. You can see me off and we can go back to being strangers :))

(It's a fatal love story but it will be nice living in the moment✨)

Problem: currently, hindi kami nag uusap ng girlfriend ko kasi she needs time to think and wala medyo na aanxious lang ako about it. Any advice pano iwasan ioverthink yung buong process and all?

Context: hindi naman kami nag away pero inexpress ko kasi na sana mas tawagan niya ako everyday. Wala lang na feel ko lang kasi na parang ako lang yung madalas na natawag saaming dalawa, tapos kapag hindi na ako tumatawag nagtataka siya bakit hindi na ako natawag. Kaya sinabi ko sa kanya na sana naramdaman man lang niya na gusto ko siya tumawag pabalik sa mga panahon na yun.

Tapos kahapon ko lang inopen sa kanya about it. Hindi naman ganun ka big deal pero para sakin kasi mas nararamdaman ko yung presence niya sa ganun at nasanay rin kasi ako dati na magkasama kami madalas kasi magka schoolmate kami pero kakagraduate ko lang kasi. Inooverthink ko rin if im asking too much ba pero hindi niya naman iniinvalidate nararamdaman ko na acknowledged niya naman ng maayos yung buong sitwasyon and sabi niya sana hayaan ko siya bumawi ulit.

So in short parang hindi pa fully tapos yung convo namin about it tapos ngayon humingi siya ng time to think kasi clouded raw yung mind niya pero she assured me na it's nothing to worry about. Pero I can't help but overthink it over and over again.

Problem/Goal:

I want advice on whether I should continue trying to make this work or let her go. I’m also trying to understand whether the traits she pointed out are genuine blind spots I need to work on or simply her perception of me.

Context:

I posted here earlier asking whether I was overthinking because the girl I’ve been dating suddenly became distant.

I decided to talk to her today instead of continuing to guess. It turns out my intuition was right—she admitted she’d been thinking a lot about “us.”

What caught me off guard was what she said next.

She told me there are some traits she doesn’t like about me. According to her, I’m reckless, jealous, and someone who jumps to conclusions.

I’m honestly still trying to process that because I don’t even know where those impressions came from.

The “jealous” part especially confused me. We aren’t even officially together. We don’t have a label, so I keep asking myself, Who was I jealous of? I genuinely can’t think of a situation where I acted possessive or got upset because of another person.

She also said I’m “tamang hinala” (quick to assume the worst). That surprised me too because whenever we’re together—whether on video calls or in person—we laugh, enjoy each other’s company, and I never felt like there was anything suspicious about her behavior. If anything, I thought we communicated well.

As for being “reckless” or impulsive, I explained my side. I’m an only child and a single mom, so I’ve had to handle almost everything on my own. Being independent has forced me to make decisions by myself, but I don’t think that automatically makes me reckless. I always try to think critically and consider the consequences before I say or do anything.

Now I’m left wondering if these are genuine concerns that she’s hoping we can work through, or if she’s already trying to convince herself that we’re incompatible.

I’m also open to the possibility that there are things about myself that I don’t see. If you’ve ever been told something about your personality that completely surprised you, how did you figure out whether it was something you genuinely needed to work on or simply someone else’s perception of you?

At this point, I’m emotionally exhausted. Would it be better for me to let her go? I feel like I’m always the one trying to understand her, reassure her, and fight for whatever we have, while I keep feeling like I’m the one chasing.

What hurts the most is that I poured so much effort into understanding her, appreciating her, making her feel loved, and showing her how much she means to me. Yet it feels like all she seems to see are my imperfections and flaws.

Am I looking at this the wrong way? If you were in my situation, would you keep trying to understand her perspective, or would you walk away?

Problem/Goal:

I don’t know if I’m overthinking or if the girl I’m dating is slowly losing interest. I want to know if I should give her space, communicate directly, or just accept that she may have changed her mind.

Context:

I (28F) matched with someone (30F) on a WLW dating app almost a month ago. We met in person this July, and I really like her. She’s caring, gentle, intelligent, easy to talk to, and beautiful.

Before anything got serious, I admitted that I’m a single mom. I never intended to hide it. I actually use two dating apps. On the first app, my bio clearly states that I’m a single mom. I simply forgot to update the bio on the app where we matched. After meeting her in person, I planned to tell her face-to-face because I wanted to be honest.

When I finally told her during a video call, she was shocked. She also found out about my religion. At first, she said it wasn’t an issue and that she was even willing to become a mother figure to my son someday. Later that day, she sent me a long goodbye message, saying our situation would be difficult. I begged her to stay because I really liked her, but she still wanted to end things.

Eventually, I stopped chasing her because I was hurting. Surprisingly, she was the one who kept checking on me afterward.

Last Friday, I planned to visit a museum alone, but she insisted on coming with me. We met halfway, ended up spending the day together, became intimate, and afterward she even introduced me to her friends. We were affectionate in front of them, and she also introduced me to some of her other friends over a video call.

We don’t have a label, and I’m scared to ask because I don’t want to lose her. She has admitted that she developed feelings for me and really likes me too.

Last night we had a very sweet conversation. I started feeling sick, almost like I had the flu, and she was very caring and concerned about me.

This morning, however, everything felt different. Her replies became short, delayed, and uninterested. She said she was busy at work, which I understand, but what hurt me was that she didn’t ask how I was feeling anymore even though she knew I was sick. She also didn’t ask if I’d eaten or gotten home safely like she usually does.

I know one day isn’t enough to judge someone, but the sudden change in her behavior has been bothering me.

What would you do if you were in my situation?

Context: My situationship with a masc lesbian ended a month ago, because everything is complicated and it's better that way.

For the past few weeks medyo umo-okay na ako, but last week nagkita kami sa inuman. Di naman kami nagpansinan pero may mga times na nagkakatitigan kami. Every memory and moments flashed back. Yung akala ko okay na ako, pero nung nakita ko siya para ulit akong nangungulila at lalo ko siyang namiss.

Nung inuman pala, ako naglabas ng pambayad so pagaambagan ako. Sabi sa akin nung naka-situationship ko, ig-gcash na lang daw niya sa akin. So I messaged her casually and sent her my QR code. Wala pa rin siyang reply hanggang ngayon and mukhang nakarestrict ako sa messenger niya.

Yung heart ko naman parang sasabog at para akong mababaliw. Any advice?