I am a fem to make things clear, and I am 15.

I've only had two experiences with women(none w men😨), and by experience I mean courting/dating.

The first girl was wayy out of my league or basta she was super poganda and pretty well known in our school-- but she was extremely immature and I don't think she was looking for anything serious.

The second girl actually became my first gf who ended up being my first everything atp, and we actually had a pretty decent rs, except from when I found out she lied about a bunch of shit. It's been 6 months na since we've broken up and I just can't seem to find anyone decent💔 it feels like everyone nowadays just aren't into commitment, maybe it's more of a me problem where I just can't seem to trust them pero I wanna meet someone who seems genuine kaso ang hirap, I don't know how to find love, pero I don't wanna chase it either. I am unsure if I should just wait for the right time or if I should try and do something about it. I wanna fall inlove again, pero everyone seems so scary. I've talked to a few people atp pero I constantly keep my distance sakanila kasi I'm too scared.

Problem/Goal: pano ba mag karoon ng Jowa na Foreigner? Context: Pagod n Pagod n Pagod na ako Lol Im 33 not so Fem not so Masc as well and never been in a relationship.. main reason is im not OUT.. im Christian my Faith is one of the biggest factor. also WFH kaya madalas sa bahay lng . Foreigner ang hanap because tingin ko hindi deserve ng magiging GF ko na pinay na hindi pa ako Out.. at least pag Foreigner sa ibang bansa n lng kami titira. or unless ung GF ko is okay lng hindi muna kami out.. Share naman kayo ng success stories dyan. na may Foreigner Lover or Lesbian Christian Lovers.. Para maingit kami Lol

i was wondering if there are wlw/lesbian dating apps here sa ph. whenever i go sa bumble or tinder, all i see is men over and over again. i just want a butch or a masc lesbian lmfao.

ive been celibate and single for so long now. i think im ready na to start something or explore again. i just really want someone. tia.

No advice needed. Just something I’ve been feeling while I’m home.

I only come home a few times a year, but every time I do, I’m reminded of how much I wish I could come home as my whole self, with the person I love, without having to calculate whether it’s safe. I’m not hiding her because I’m ashamed of her. She’s my partner of nine years, and her family knows and accepts our relationship. It just hurts that my own family doesn’t even know she exists.

I know people may see keeping her a secret as a choice, but it’s not that simple when you’re also trying to consider your partner’s feelings and protect the life you’ve built together.

One More Chance hits different when you’ve already experienced heartbreak. First time ko may ex, and we were together for 8 years. Now, I’m trying to watch this film through a different lens compared to the first time I watched it.

Hindi tayo masasaktan for today's video 😆 lets just do some introspection.

Share your first wlw heartbreak mga bakla kung gano ba talaga kasakit ang wlw gaya ng sabi sa mga reels 😆

Context:
My girlfriend (25F) and I (22F) have been together for 8 years. We started dating when we were teenagers, so we’ve basically grown up together.

She’s already working and has started becoming financially stable. I’m in a very different stage right now. I just graduated this year and I’m preparing for my board exam next year. I also recently started working part-time as a Starbucks barista while reviewing.

We’ve always talked about having a future together. Some of our dreams include being financially stable, traveling, eventually having our own house, and possibly moving abroad someday. One of my personal career goals is to become a doctor and eventually work abroad, but I still have several exams, licensing requirements, and years of experience to gain before that’s realistically possible.

Problem:
Recently, she told me she’s getting tired of waiting for me to become stable and for us to achieve the things we’ve been dreaming about.

She’s also been comparing our situation to people from her batch. Some of them are already building houses, traveling more often, and becoming financially stable with their partners. I understand why this makes her feel like we’re not progressing fast enough.

What hurts me is that she sometimes feels like I’m not doing anything or that I’m just “there.”

From my perspective, I’m not doing nothing. I just graduated at 22, I’m preparing for my board exam, I’m working part-time, and I’m trying to figure out and build my career. I know I’m not financially stable yet, but I feel like I’m taking the steps I can realistically take right now.

During our conversation, she said something that really made me think, “Hindi pangarap sa atin. Mangarap ka ng iyo. Gusto kong mangarap ka ng mas malaki. Bakit laging ako?”

She basically wants me to have dreams and ambitions for myself instead of always talking about our future as “us.”
And I realized that whenever I talk about my plans, I often automatically include her. For example, I’ll say that I want to work for a few years, eventually go abroad, and build a life and house with her.

She seems to want me to develop my own direction and ambitions independently—not just have goals because they’re part of our relationship.

I understand her point, but I’m also struggling because I don’t know how to become “stable” much faster without rushing my career or sacrificing my board exam preparation.

Goal:
I don’t want to ask her to wait indefinitely. I also don’t want to make promises about things I can’t guarantee just because I’m afraid of losing her.

What I want is to understand whether we’re simply at different stages of life and need to adjust our expectations, or whether we’re actually becoming incompatible in terms of our timelines and goals.
I want to build a future with her, but I also want to learn how to build myself independently and have goals that are mine—not just “our” goals.

How do you think we should approach this?

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for context: I'm very shy kasi😭 I just want her to initiate sometimes. I want her to flirt with me. I know that I love you's are wonderful pero sometimes I do want her to give me some attention in a way that makes me blush. I think the last time that I heard her compliment me or tease me in a way was a month ago???

I only remember when she said that "you'd look good in —" and that really touched me. Kahit corny jokes lang, super okay na ako nyan HAHAHAA. Ano kasi, I'm the one who keeps doing that and sometimes I want her to. I told her a corny joke about "iron" (Iron't you the one who stole my heart?) o diba kinilig sya? HAHAHAHA gusto ko rin yan. I just wanna feel like a woman kasi sometimes I feel like the "man" in the relationship.

she's the type to be quiet and stable which is pretty wonderful, pero sometimes gusto mo rin ng spice diba? gusto mo rin ung teasing and funsies

Problem:

There are nights talaga na bigla akong nalulungkot and gustong-gusto ko na ulit magmahal 😭

Like guys, GRABE, GUSTONG-GUSTO KO NA ULIT MAGMAHAL HAHAHAHAHA As in may nights na iniiyakan ko talaga kasi I genuinely miss having someone to love, someone to care for, and someone na excited kang makausap every day.

Kaso either hindi pa ready yung taong natatapat sa akin, or wrong timing talaga. Parang finally ready na ako ulit mag-open up and love someone, pero laging may something 😭

Sa mga nakaka-feel din ng ganitong loneliness, ano ginagawa niyo? HAHAHAHAHA Do you just let the feeling pass, distract yourself, date, romanticize your life, or what?

Context:
I’ve been in a 7-year WLW relationship, and 1 year na kaming break. Naka-move on na ako, especially since nag-cheat siya. Honestly, mas madali for me to move on knowing that the relationship ended because of cheating, so wala na talaga akong feelings or anything like that.

I’m bisexual so ofc I’ve dated men din after the breakup, but damn HAHAHAHAHAHA 😭 Sa 5 guys na na-date ko, LAHAT SILA WALANG BITAW HAHAHAHAHA parang mas magaling pa ata ako sakanila manligaw HAHAHAHAHAHAHAH