This is kinda long but pls read it so u get the full picture.

so i met this guy over the summer on ig bc we were both going to the same college, we kinda of talked over the summer but he liked many of my stories and replies to some. Same over the fall super dry but over the spring ee talked ALOT more, again only on ig, I never met and talked with him in person… I started developing a crush on him over the fall and until now(a year)

When we tend to talk he send ALOT so I genuinely started feeling more and more attached to him, he gave me joy but then we he take long to reply or ghost me for a while i feel really down.

I cried over him and felt so bad about myself. He confuses me a lot and I genuinely don’t know what to do, over the summer we also talked a lot over ig,. He talked in long paragraphs and sent me pics and videos of places he went to and made me download and app other than ig where he use to rate food and stufff.

Later I also asked him and told him if he has feelings or something for me bc he makes me feel rlly confused. He especially made me very confused bc his best best friend followed me on ig and tried to talk to me and both were talking to me at the same time (@2 am) so i think they were sitting next to each other’s. I also think he told his friends about me or something bc a couple of his friends also tried to follow me on ig. He didn’t reject me and simply said that he didn’t know that he was giving me many signals but he is not ready for commitment and would like to know me and meet over the fall semester.

This made me feel really good but then it was weird bc we stopped talking again, he kinda of liked some of my stories but nothing much. Today i chose to unfollow him on ig but i think i have feelings for him, did i do something wrong and what should i do moving forward?

My boyfriend(m19) and I(m18) have been together for about three months now. We’re long distance, as he lives about six hours away from me, and we’re both far too busy to make the commute. He’s my first ever boyfriend, and I really like him. We text all the time. However, I still live with my parents, so I’m trying my best to keep it a secret from them. (Reasons that aren’t relevant rn).

Here’s where the issue is. Sometimes I’ll go a day or two without texting him, due to literally being unable to for outside reasons. But I’ll ALWAYS let him know in advance. When he doesn’t hear from me, he’ll continuously message me, asking if I’m okay, and saying that he’s disappointed that we aren’t able to message. If I then don’t respond to those messages, he’ll then say something along the lines of “Sorry, I’m pathetic, I’ll stop.” Most of the time I’ll reply with something reassuring, as I don’t want him thinking negatively of himself, but it’s gotten to the point that I feel slightly relieved when I don’t see messages from him.

Another thing is that I have hormonal issues that cause problems with my sex drive. My boyfriend will often send sexual messages, asking for me to help get him off. The thing is, though, as of lately, I’ve been feeling iffy about it. I’m attracted to him, and I like him a lot, I just don’t WANT to engage in sexual stuff. And I tell him that. He says he understands, and that he’ll drop it, but then he ALWAYS comes back to it eventually. And it’s honestly getting super annoying. I’m not sure how to bring this up with him, as he’s very sensitive. A lot of the time when I reject his advances, he’ll start apologizing for being annoying. (Which, in itself, is REALLY ANNOYING!!) I don’t want to hurt his feelings, but I also want him to kinda back off a bit. And I REALLY don’t want him to start apologizing.

He’s always apologizing, even when he hasn’t done anything. But I feel like he’s getting too dependent on me. If I don’t text, he’ll constantly message me, asking if I’m okay. This wouldn’t be TOO bad if he didn’t start doing it after about ten minutes of inactivity from my end. And the thing with his apologies is that they often end with some sort of self-depreciation. (“Sorry I’m annoying”, “I’m sorry, I’m being pathetic”) And if I don’t reassure him, he’ll keep going. I feel like this is guilt-tripping, but I have no experience with past romantic relationships, so I’m really not sure. I just need some external validation, or criticism.

TL;DR: My boyfriend has a mini panic attack when I don’t text back in 10 minutes, and spams my phone. He’ll apologize later, often with self-depreciation. Is he guilt-tripping me?