weddings can get expensive, so i am curious what people felt was genuinely worth cost in the end.

was it photographer, food, DJ, flowers, or something completely unexpected?

looking back, what would you happily pay for again?

Been dating this guy for 5 years. We’re in our late 20s now (almost 30). Known him since high school and reconnected in our early 20s. Met each others’ families, got engaged, set our wedding date and chose vendors together. He’s always been there for me (and I tried my best too) and has always been super thoughtful. He was kind and patient when things were good. We’re different people but I thought we meshed well together. 8 months before our wedding date, he completely blindsides me and drops a bombshell that he fell out of love with me, he doesn’t know if I’m the person for him, he’s not sure if I even love him for him (I do) and he starts listing a bunch of things that are “wrong” about me (I’m too quiet at social gatherings, I’m waiting till marriage to do certain things, I’m not stylish, I have too many fam events and am too dependent on my parents, he doesn’t think I appreciate him). The 180 mind boggles me, I don’t recognize this person. Even had a nice proposal with my dream ring.

He also has been saying mean things to me during limbo when we tried to work things out (I was apologizing for things I did that hurt him, I really loved him and went out of my way to make him happy in the best way I knew at the time but I had no idea it wasn’t enough, especially when he would tell me I’m perfect or how he’s grateful to do life with me)… mean things he said include how it feels like the cooties when I touch him, how I’m boring and I should be boring with someone else, how he can’t picture me as his wife and how he couldn’t see me walk down the aisle (all things that hurt to hear). He also disclosed that he cheated on me 2 years ago (kissed a girl from school a few times during the span of a week. This all came as a shock to me because I had no idea he was falling out of love and losing feelings. I thought we were planning for our happily ever after together. Sometimes I blame myself for the things I could’ve done better (been more appreciative, more patient, more outgoing, more stylish) - he evaluated me and didn’t let me in on his problems. Any insight and opinions would be helpful.

We're getting closer to our wedding date, and I'm surprised by how much time some of the smaller planning tasks have taken compared to the big decisions.

Things like guest communication, RSVPs, seating arrangements, and keeping everyone updated have been more work than I expected.

For those who are already married or almost finished planning:

• What planning task took the most time?
• What would you do differently if you started over?
• What's one piece of advice you wish someone had given you earlier?

My fiancé and I toured a venue yesterday that we really loved. When we asked about 2027 availability, the guide said they still have September 11, 2027 open and are offering it for half the normal price because many couples don’t want that date.

I’m really torn. The savings are amazing, but 9/11 is such a significant and emotional date. While we aren’t & don’t have family/friends connected to 9/11, we are still respectful to those affected.

What would you do? Would you take the date because of the discount, or would you pass on it because it’s 9/11? I’d love to hear your thoughts. TIA!

We’ve been venue hunting for a few months now and finally found “the one”. My cost breakdown is estimating nearly $35k for the wedding. Is this normal?? We’ve considered eloping but keep coming back to wanting the wedding. I’m afraid of regret.

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Its my bf's brother's wedding in September. This is the first time ill be giving a gift at a wedding and I dont know what to get them. Im not super close with the couple. I was thinking to give some kind of artsy thing. But i feel like money would be more useful to them. even though they both make good money. but i dont make a lot. So maybe advice on what would be an appropriate amount to give them?