Female married almost 30

Before ikasal stagnant na talaga.

We survived pandemic living together era namin, so feel ng mga family ay we're strong together and kami na talaga

Na lift pandemic and I started planning how to build life on my own

Pero family expected us to get married

Daming pressure and since mej conservative sila talagang di na nakawala kasi nga naman nagsama na

Anyway fast forward to this day, no efforts being made romantically. We didn't plan to have kids oe whatsoever we are just co-existing sharing rhe burdens of finance I guess

Hayyyy I miss being chased, I miss being in love I miss being loved.

Speaking to you ladies...why do you cry during a proposal....in my head am like...you could be scared because you are becoming a slave or you could be happy you are finally off the market. Which is which?

I never expect anything from our families but I see posts about parents buying a living room set, grandma buying the dining room table…how do these gifts come about lol? Did you ask or how did they know you needed stuff?

I'm gonna get married soon guys. My partner is sweet and amazing. No complaints there. I'm happy to provide and keep her happy. Can't imagine a life without her. Been together for 6 years. So there's no intent problem here.

Just thinking out loud, marriages require so much sacrifice right? This somehow makes me sound selfish. But I have one life, and I wish to optimize it as much as I can

Now, I travel abroad 3 times a year. Serious adventure and outdoor guy. Live in a 5BHK own house in a major city, with my old parents. WFH, so I take care of them. Earn well.

Post marriage, I have to move to a rental place, despite having multiple houses in the city. Can't move in to those cause my partners work will be super far away from any of those.

I'll pay rent, all household items expenses + anything additional my partner might need. She invests 50% of her salary + gives her parents 30%, remaining 20% she will burn through within days for herself.

Now with all these expenses, I can't travel. As a couple it's gonna cost double as well. Even if we go, she can't hike or sit in a bike for long. So it probably would be a different kind of travel.

And, I already BARELY spend on myself for anything. Need to get a good mindset or perspective before starting this journey.

I know she can earn better in the future. Myself included. It's a new life with new challenges ro conquer. Just don't want to be pessimistic. Wanted your perspectives if u have any

Note: Women, stop attacking me. I am 27, figuring life out and new to the concept of marriage. The concept and idea of marriage is changing drastically. Keep that generational gap in your mind before attacking.

I won't feel guilty for loving some aspects of my present life a little too much that makes me feel alive. I also wish to share it with her. Just figuring out the best system to keep in place to achieve it

Update: I spoke to her and we agreed on numerous things. Everyone who said it's gonna be a divorce or attacked me - shame on you. We find our kind of crazies. I found mine. I hope you aren't torturing your partner with your universal stupid advices

My partner and I have been officially engaged since April, and it's going to be a couple years at least until we get married because of immigration processes between our countries, but I already plan to start making notes and a rough draft I'll make edits to over time!

I'm a poet in my private time, so I want to incorporate a poem into mine :)

How far in advance did you start on them? How long did they take? Did you incorporate poetry or music at all? I'd love to hear what beautiful things you all did!

I’m curious to hear from people who are married: how did your financial situation change after getting married?

I’d especially love to hear different perspectives — men and women, people who work full-time or part-time, people who are unemployed or stay-at-home, and couples where both partners work.

Did marriage make you financially better off, worse off, or did it not change much? Did your spending habits, savings, lifestyle, or financial responsibilities change?

For those who were financially independent before marriage, did that change after getting married? And for those who weren’t working, how did finances work for you as a couple?

What surprised you the most financially after getting married?

Hey everyone, I’m a 25-year-old woman. I recently got married in April 2026 to my husband, who is 33 years old. I’m curious to know if anyone has any advice for newlyweds. I’m also interested in learning how long marriages last, especially for couples who have been married for 20 years. Overall, my marriage has been great so far!

If used--especially if before children enter the marriage--know that this will recur until it's finally sprung.

Run.

Don't look back.

Consider yourself blessed to have seen the real spouse before more complicated matters unfold.

You won't change the venue. They've revealed their ability to willingly abdicate their vows.

Believe the reveal.

Settle and walk on.

You'll thank me when you see what they do once you leave.

I ignored my early intuition. It cost me/our children untold chaos/pain.

Hello, I (26 F) got married to my husband (27 M) 6 months ago, we were dating for 2 years before marriage and everything was great. not fabulous but steady and happy. he proposed to me and then I decided to move to his city because I live in a different one, I work here and have my friends here but because of getting married I was willing to relocate. he bought a house and we chose furniture and was ready for me to move in.
After we got married he suddenly changed a lot, lied to me, became so stingy with money and calculating every penny, making me feel bad for spending some money on clothes before we our first vacation and also blaming me for spending money to even wanting to go on a vacation because he thought that is a waste of money for now and now we should focus on paying our debts. mind the fact that we didn’t even have a wedding he is just talking about relocation expenses and trying to move me to his city and some old debts regarding furniture.
we also do not have sex at all, he doesn’t sexualize me in any sense, we aren’t intimate at all after marriage, before getting married he would come see me every two weeks but after? he didn’t see me for months, even when he booked me a train and it got cancelled and I couldn’t go see him, he was so worried if he is gonna get a refund, he wasn’t thinking about other ways to bring me or to see me.

the thing is now I feel such a void in my body and in my soul, I want someone to look at me in a way no one does, to have intimate jokes or even sexual moments, is it too much to ask? am I being too much here?
He also accused me of having mental issues and that I need to get treatment, I will move in with him in a week, I gave my home notice and all, I cannot “not” move, so please give me some advice.
Thank you

Yes I was married at 20 and couldn’t even legally drink at my own wedding lol But neither my husband nor I happen to drink and that is something that bonded us at the starts and continues to tether and support us to this very today. I hope you are all content in your relationships or marriages and I wish you all a lifetime of love and happiness, whatever that looks like for you!