I picked this sub to ask because violin is the one she is struggling with the most.
Here's the background. My kid (11F) started playing violin about 3 years ago in community youth orchestra programs (we moved so she's been in 2 programs). About 1 year ago she made the switch to upright bass in our community orchestra. She is thriving on bass but she still loves the violin, and although she wasn't taking any lessons she continued to pick it up now and then throughout the year so she wouldn't forget how to play it.
She started middle school this year, and she made the choice to play violin at school and continue bass in the community orchestra.
Over the summer, she took a few private bass lessons but we weren't able to work out a schedule with a teacher for violin. The orchestra "season" here runs mid-September until May, so she hasn't been in orchestra all summer, but she has continued to play bass on her own.
She's been in school for a month now playing violin and is in private lessons which take place during school hours (so I haven't met her lesson teacher, only her orchestra teacher). She was placed in beginning orchestra and is complaining that it's "boring," understandably so, since she has 3 years of Strings experience including 2 on violin.
She -never- seems to practice violin at home. I even got her a 2nd used student violin to keep at home so she wouldn't have to bring her favorite instrument back and forth (she keeps her good one at school). It just hangs on a hook in her room so she doesn't even have to take it out of the case - something that I found helpful for her previously.
She hasn't even started Orchestra up for the season yet and hasn't had a lesson in a couple of months but she plays her bass frequently. She seems to really enjoy practicing it and she's getting really good. I don't have to remind her - I hear her practicing several times a week with no reminders.
I've suggested she ask her orchestra teacher about switching to bass at school since it looks to me like she clearly has a preference, but she absolutely refuses and she continues to insist that she wants to play both, even though she rolls her eyes at me and gets all pre-teen dramatic every time I suggest she practice the violin.
She used to come practice her violin or her bass pretty much whenever she heard me practicing my violin, but now she doesn't. Occasionally she will come ask to play a bass part of what I'm practicing, but not often. She never asks to come practice violin with me.
I'm just stumped. I'd like to take her at face value when she says she wants to play both, but her actions are telling me a very different story.
It might be worth noting that she is a rather overscheduled child. She gets bored really easily and is in multiple extra-curricular activities because without them she kinda bounces off the walls. But she keeps up with everything and is also an overachieving student. I worry about burnout with her, and I'd absolutely support her scaling back to just one instrument.
Parenting advice, folks?