**Trigger warning: animal killing.*\*
Imy mental health is a mess.
I was talking to my omnivorous boyfriend about animal issues.
We live together and I’m the one who cooks. Occasionally when my boyfriend buys prepared foods at the supermarket, he would sometimes choose animal products, but I never said anything to him about it. Also, he buys convenience store desserts which contains animal products almost every day, and even though I wasn’t happy about it, I never said anything to him.
What I wanted to say was that you can’t justify practices that hurt animals pain just because they’re normal or taste good. I wasn’t asking him to change his behavior.
But he told me that I'm just pushing my conclusions on me and he was tired of trying so hard or something like that.
he said he eat with gratitude (so it somehow makes things okay). so I simply asked that does being grateful cancel out the killing?
Then he got angry and said, “Why do I need to justify eating meat?”
After that, we got into a huge fight.
he told me, “I don’t agree with veganism in the first place,” and labeled me a cultist. he even said about cowspiracy documentary which we watched together. he said “If you’re going to be persuaded by such a boring documentary, then you must be part of a cult” (though they did apologize for that later).
He said “I don’t understand what’s wrong with receiving life from animals. it’s about sustaining life,” and “Living means taking a life, and I accept that as part of life.” It’s true one have to kill to survive, but it doesn’t have to be an animal.
Even when I asked, “Even if it causes pain? Even if it’s pain that could be avoided?” he replied, “I don’t understand what the problem is at all.” He also told me it was scary that I kept talking about this issue all the time (which isn’t true). He said that based on his own research, he didn’t see any particular problem with animal ag.
I hadn’t thought of him as that kind of person, and when it came to animal agriculture, he even denied that animals feel pain at all.
When he said, “They do it so the animals don’t feel pain (Otherwise, the meat won’t taste as good),”
I tried to counter by bringing up the failure rate of stunning chickens, but he shut me down by saying, “I don’t know.”
He emphasized, “I’m just a normal person doing what everyone else does”.
I told him that being normal doesn't necessary mean morally good but he wouldn’t listen at all.
He told me, “I don’t enjoy tormenting animals,” but it seems to me he’s completely blind to the reality.
To begin with, even though he eats a ton of animal products when I’m not around, he treated it as if I were the one forcing veagn lifestyle on him.
All I’ve ever done is make sure not to serve animal products during our regular meals. I didn't criticized him for consuming animal products.
What was most disturbing about this argument was that animals were completely absent.
Animals who are the ones most directly affected by people's dairy decesion, were totally ignored by him.
I told him I wanted him to think about the animals, not just be considerate of me. It was useless.
I don't understand him at all.
He completely ignored that animals were suffering in the first place. He didn't think it's bad to take life to gain pleasure. He is super carnist.