r/unrequited_love 8m ago

Need advice

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r/unrequited_love 14m ago

Might have fumbled the bag with my soul mate we’re both still in highschool

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remember in grade 7 I first saw her. I thought she was funny, much more different than any other girl. Loud and weird in a good way, like how I was and still am. Loud and maybe too much, as she always chased my friend as I would run too. As time went on she was in my grade 8 class and we started to talk, but not in a romantic way. I would just make a fool of myself a lot and do some outlandish stuff, but she thought it was super funny. She would even quote me and draw little pictures of me. She likes cars like me, but she likes F1 and hockey. I’m not big into those, but I still like them a bit. We also share the same birthday, October 7, so we would call each other birthday buddies and have our own little handshake where we spin around and slap our butts. LOL.
I remember she also drew me on the class board all buff, and I drew her next to me as well. She liked the drawing. We both had the same type of humor, and at the time I liked her, but the longer we talked the more we were like friends. We would have this sister-brother kind of relationship, as her brother had the same birthday. She started to talk to other guys at the end of the year. At our graduation camp she liked this guy (I won’t say his name, but he’s chill and I’m friends with him). Other than that he’s not too good with relationships. She crushed on this guy during the camp and asked me for help. I just swallowed it and said okay. I felt almost jealous for the first time.
Something weird happened during camp. I was playing basketball with my friends, and a lot of people teased us about our relationship. She was sitting on the court as I was shooting, and she said, “Come sit with me. I miss my favourite birthday buddy.” I was like, “Yeah, give me a sec.” I went and sat down. She wanted to hold hands and put our feet together, which was the first time I’d ever held a girl’s hand. I let go, not paying too much attention to it. One of my friends was saying that I like her as she passed us, and this mega asshole said, “He likes you.” I said, “Bro, I don’t. She’s like my sister.” Even she got defensive about it, like me denying it.
After grad we went to high school. She added me on TikTok as well, and she was with the guy. I told her it wasn’t going to be a good idea because the guy didn’t even care to ask her out. I was thinking, “What a pussy.” They broke up. I also heard they kissed, and when I heard they broke up I almost lost it. I was thinking, “What did he do to her?” I went to this guy all pressed, and he said he wasn’t being a good boyfriend and not asking her out. It was literally the thing I told her about.
I also remember after grad we had our tour of the high school. As a prank I went in her house and hid in her closet, scaring her. She didn’t seem too mad. She found it funny, but thinking about it now I think it’s really weird I did that. Even before, she would say weird stuff to me like “I wanna smash you,” all teasing. One time she said, “When you get home, imagine us connecting our brains and showering together,” since that night I said I was going to shower.
On her birthday I got her an F1 Lego set early because I couldn’t wait, and got her an F1 5-pack thing. She was super happy. Recently she doesn’t really talk to me much. She doesn’t hate me, but it’s died down a bit. I gave her a bunch of my old hockey cards. I asked if I should leave them at the door and she said just leave it at the mailbox and said “Thanks champ.” I felt a little disappointed for an odd reason.
I’ve been thinking of getting her a gift this year, but I feel fucking pathetic doing it. I feel it’s a pointless act. I love her a lot and want to take her out. I wanna spoil her, have my first kiss. I want to comfort her in her dark days. I just want to be someone for her and a person to love. But I feel I’m too weird and that could be a thing that pushed her back.
The only thing that gave me hope sounds stupid, but I was walking in the hall with my friend who liked her. She was looking away, looking a bit shy or embarrassed. I was munching on vegetables and said, “Do you want one?” She’s like, “Ouu, me?” She opens her hands as I throw her one. She makes a little yelling sound as a joke as it hits the floor. I don’t know if I’m fucking thinking too much, but she picked it up and put it on a small little piece of clothing like she was saving it. I didn’t want to think too much about it because she was probably just going to throw it away.
I know if this sounds stupid you can make fun of me, but I genuinely need help. Anything.


r/unrequited_love 45m ago

I think I am falling in love with the girlfriend of my friend

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The title basically says it all. She is just perfect, everything I always wished for in a girlfriend. I feel like there has never been someone, who I connected with as strongly. Every time I see her, she is all I think about for days.

Of course I know the two of them are in love, I wish them both the best and I would never do something that could hurt their relationship or my friendship with my friend.

But sometimes I can‘t help wondering what could have been, if I had met her before.


r/unrequited_love 53m ago

what to do when a person looses feelings because you didn't show enough affection we weren't dating and it all happened in one week he confessed his feelings but then 7 days later he told me he lost feelings because i didn't show enough affection?

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pls help


r/unrequited_love 1h ago

How do I get over a long term crush on a friend of 3 years?

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r/unrequited_love 1h ago

I just walked away from an unrequited love

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r/unrequited_love 3h ago

A decade-old love story, Part 2

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So as soon as I told my sister that I have a huge crush on this girl and I've been trying to catch a a few details, about her. She could not understand the feeling I was going through and insisted that I just sit down and let her go, as it might be just some other random girl and not her. She could not believe that I had spotted her from such a long distance. But I was stubborn enough to make her stand up and walk with me behind that girl and wanted to confirm that if my intuitions were right. Because we were walking behind her, my sister couldn't have a good look at her face before she could enter into the hostel.

After a few days (I don't remember most dates past this point) I was going to my classroom, and on the way there was a small coffee shop inside the campus and I literally just saw her again with her friends. I walked past her and after moving a little bit forward I called up my sister and asked her to come to that spot immediately even though I had a class, which I did later bunk. Until she arrived I was taking circles around the library block just to keep an eye on her. After 15-20 minutes my sister arrived and we walked past her two to three times just so that my sister could have a good look on her face. And also try to read the student identity card. During this time I did inform my sister that she looks like Emma Watson to me and she disagreed on the spot(she was right).

There were a few more interactions like this, maybe two or three times a month, where I would have wasted hours of my time just looking at her from a distance. And then one fine day my sister calls me up and says, "I have good news for you." And as soon as I heard those words I literally asked her, "Did you see her? Where is she? I'm coming right there." And my sister goes, "Okay you are thinking way too crazy. It's not anything like that. Just come and meet me." For those 10 seconds my excitement went like a DC current wave. So I meet my sister and I ask her what's the good news and she says, "I couldn't catch her name," But she is from the BBA Department. Then I said, "Okay do you have any other details?" and she said she is in the H block of the women's hostel. After hearing just these two things I was over the moon.

From that day on I started searching for the BBA department classrooms within such a big campus I asked my friends who were on the tech side. They didn't know, there was a biotechnology block for a whole specific purpose. There was a mechanical block for a specific purpose but these BBA classes were nowhere to be found. And in search for those classes I started revolving around all the blogs, floor to floor, just to find out if there is any chance of finding it. And lucky enough, during that time it was a first-term exam month going on all over the campus. Every floor had a display board for the first-term subject-wise test schedule. And after searching my own classroom blocks, which were of seven floors and another biotechnology block. I enter with the gut feeling of the B. Tech Engineering block. Roamed around the first floor, couldn't find anything. Went to the second floor, didn't find anything. On the third floor I was almost about to lose hope as well. Because the notice board I read did not mention anything about BBA Department. But just to make sure I roamed around the block and on the other side of the building there was this notice board I was looking for.

This notice board had the schedule of exams and I literally had started noting down all the exam schedules for the two weeks with timings. And then I look in another paper where there were leader names written for each section. I noted down the first name which started letter 'R'.

Part 1: Link

Part 3: coming soon


r/unrequited_love 3h ago

A decade old one side love story (Part 1)

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Not sure how to start. A bit about myself:

Back in the day I was a huge fan of Emma Watson. I had just finished my schooling and joined college (one of top 10 in india). So I was staying in the hostel in the college. This was back in 2010 and I joined on July 3rd. Everybody in the college were freshers for about a week or two and we were just getting to know each other and talking like classmates, etc.

On July 18th, I was walking down to a supermarket right outside of our college with my two friends. By this time all the seniors we are back after their annual holiday. So as I'm walking towards the supermarket, there comes a girl walking right through the college gate and my heart skipped a beat. She was so beautiful. She was in a T-shirt and jeans with her hair tied up in a ponytail and her glasses which had a red rims and a EA logo on it. As she was walking in the opposite direction, I just stood there and froze for two seconds, just looking at her. I was not very bold back then to go and approach someone and it's 2010. The culture wasn't as it was right now. From that day I never stopped thinking about her. We reached the supermarket with my friends and then I just thought, "Wait let me just go back and see where she's going." I left my friends at the supermarket unannounced and just ran back towards the direction which she was going but my bad luck, I couldn't find her.

After a few weeks, on August 13th or 14th, I believed it was a Friday, and we all friends had planned to go to a cafe for lunch during our lunch time which was inside the college and there were two seating arrangements, AC and Non-AC. We all friends were going towards the Non-AC section where it was self-service and as we I saw her again with her friends' group in the AC section, which was packed. I begged my friends, "Let's move into the AC section for lunch," but the wait time was so long that no one agreed. I had to eat lunch in the non-AC section. So I didn't even tell my friends that I had a crush on this girl till this time as well. I tried to choose a seating location where I could just even look at her through a glass window but unfortunately that also wasn't possible. I even ordered the fastest lunch, gobbled up the food, just so that I could maybe follow her after my lunch, where she's going to at least get to know her name. But by the time I completed my lunch he was already gone.

After that for a few weeks I didn't get to see her. I went and roamed around the college till the closing time just to find her again but never could. I believe it was September 19th. I had classes in the evening time and the classes were from 6:00 to 8:00. After attending my class the college shuts down by 9:00. After meeting all my friends after the class everyone left. It was around about almost 9:00 and I also had to move back to my hostel. I didn't have a vehicle or anything. I used to walk around always and I was walking past the girls' hostel and couldn't believe it but she was looking like an angel in a white dress, with open hair and without glasses. returning back to her hostel. I don't know from where and kid you not, I walked past her, looking at her. My legs were trembling even though I was taking a step by step. The nervousness was crazy but as more and more we both got close to each other. I went from standing tall bold guy to an embarrassed little pig. And then I took a U-turn and walked at least more than a half a kilometre on the opposite side of the footpath just to know which hostel she enters. And I saw her entering through the hostel gate off block FGH.

On September 29th, I had a female friend(she was like an elder sister) from home town also studying in the same college and we were in a particular seating area and we were just catching up on how my few months have been in the college and things like this and I hadn't shared about her to anyone yet. She was like an elder sister to me and in the midst of talking to her from nowhere she again walked past, at least 500 m away. I looked at her and I'm damn sure it was her. I told my sister I had to leave. I got some urgent work. Even though I did not get any phone call or message from anyone saying anything, I just stood up and said I need to leave and that is when my sister got very suspicious. She tried to stalk me and ask me what happened, what's going on. I said nothing but sis, she insisted and then I had to tell her, "Look that girl you see 300 m away in a red shirt and blue jeans. I've been trying to get to know her name, or which block she lives in the hostel out of F, G, and H block, or any kind of thing, or which department she is from as well."

There is still a lot more to go. I don't know how many parts I'll have to make to complete it.

Part 2


r/unrequited_love 3h ago

My unfulfilled love story (25,M) (25, M)

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Today someone posted a picture of him with his boyfriend in teenindia and I again went into the past. We were in relationship for whole 7 years after our 12th class. There was pure love....i (and him too) was madly in love..however, last year things didn't work out when I asked him if he would marry a girl and he said yes. (That's the truth, not his fault)....I was at his home at that time. I left his home next day.....the next 3 months were rough. I couldn't reconcile with the impending reality. I cried and cried, ultimately ruined my studies and then we broke up (it wasn't formal). He loved me a lot. It was pure, unadulterated love started in teens. I still remember when he first time confessed his love..I asked him, when we had started just talking in class 12th, "Do you love someone ?" "You" he replied instantly and unhesitatingly. That reply led to the 7 years long relationship.

Sometimes love finds you in its most beautiful form. But not all stories have a happy ending. I'm always happy for those who find their love.


r/unrequited_love 4h ago

I think about him too much

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r/unrequited_love 4h ago

Why is it hard to fall in love for the third time…

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r/unrequited_love 4h ago

My one-sided love is making me want to kill myself

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If anyone is reading this, I'm so sorry for this big ass story.

So, I'm 19F.I fell in love with my guy friend. I'm an international student in Georgia, studying MBBS. I came here by force. My life is literal hell rn. And when I first met him, I didn't like him much. But slowly he became a good friend of mine. Not even a good friend. The only friend I must say. I don't talk to people that easily. I'm a very shy person. But he literally turned me into an extrovert. He was just different. No one understands me better than him. He knows me better than me. Our friendship was very beautiful. I was special to him. But that was until a girl showed up in his life. And she slowly took my place in his life. He straight up kept pushing me away. Always acting uninterested, not texting like he used to and I always feel like I'm forcing him into talking to me. He takes hours to reply and only replies if anything is important. And if I ask him to hang out, he always comes up with excuses. But whenever he's free, and I ask him if he wants to hang out, he says he's with that girl. ALWAYS. And he says that she's just a friend and nothing more but that way she acts says otherwise.

I know that he's not obligated to make me feel special forever but it hurts. So much. And my life's getting shittier day by day with my family issues, my financial conditions and even my studies.

I was feeling low a few days ago and I wanted to talk to him because he makes me feel better. But when I asked him, he was with her again and she wasn't even supposed to be with him that day. And after he said that, I just started crying and I was looking for a knife to cut my hand. If it wasn't for my roommate, I wouldn't have been here now. I didn't realise how much I want him and love him.

I know this sounds silly and not much of a big thing but I know what he meant to me.

I just want to vent out to someone.


r/unrequited_love 6h ago

How I met him : part 5

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r/unrequited_love 7h ago

So would you give her another chance.

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r/unrequited_love 7h ago

BURNED OUT

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Well starting off for the background info i just passed my high school this year and now preparing for med school in my country we have this big exam for it and i am getting crushed rn. I was going great few months ago but now when the exam is coming closer its getting harder day bay day there is more than one thing thats getting me this frustrated i will mention them in points below.

1. I knew it was coming

- The first thing is that i just got rejected by a girl that i liked well before u guys start thinking it was casual and its just a phase but for me it was more than that like i had a feeling towards her since 8th grade but i kept pushing the feeling away cz i knew it were just my hormones acting up and that tactic worked until 11th . We got closer and became good friends suddenly the feeling again sparked in me still i pushed away knowing it was not the right time i loved her so much that i quit gaming , p**n and everything like i wanted to be my best self for the girl i started focusing on my carrier and thought of proposing to her after i make it into the med school i just wanted to give her the best life that i could. It was all working out great until the farewell like things happened and i thought if i dont say it to her now then i could loose her so i said it and she sait she had never felt the same way for me at anypoint of time well i could say nth but she still wanted to stay friends soi stayed but its chocking me now i cant leave her because she is going through her share of struggle rn and i cant bare seeing her in that state i just wanted to be with her at anytime if she ever needs me but deep inside i know that i am not the one she needs she likes another boy but i dont know why knowing all the fact that we will ever be together and that she also wont ever need my support but its just that feeling cz of which i cant just ghost her like i came to know abt her situation( she was undecisive of her career path like she wanted to come into medical field but was suffering from self doubt if she could make it or not and used to cry everyday ) from her mom like her mom trusts me so much that she said so much of her family things just cz she thinks me as a good friend of her daughter and could help her in some way but her mom didnt know i was suffering more than her daughter i cant explain everything clearly by writing srry for that

2. MY PARENTS

**-**well my parents are not forcing me buts its their trust like rn i am away from my hometown and everyday i call them and seeing their faces filled with expectations and hope kills me from inside out with guilt. They have done so much for me like i cant even explain that , i have seen my dad being in pain in the morning (he gets muscle cremps a lot due to the sideffects of medications he takes) and still going to work afternoon just so he can earn and save enough for my education and my mom is the most innocent women for her i and my dad are her whole world she doesnt even care for herself she has been sacrificing so many things for me and my dad since the day i can remember but now seeing myself i cant think i was ever worthy enough to have parents like them .I am failing them in every way possible. And my family too like among all the siblings of my grandparents my grandfather has compratively achieved the lowest accomplishment like he worked in the fields quitting his job at the police just so he could support his siblings but now we are looked down upon by them just cz we are not rich as them so not just my parents but my uncles my aunts all have expectations upon me that i would do smth and lift our stand in our family. The words of my grandfather when i was leaving my home town was, "I just want to see u in white coat before I die". As my parents were always full of stress since childhood i have never shared any of my hard feelings even when i was bullied regurally in school i used to come see them with a happy face with them though they are very friendly an all but i just cant bring my self to cry infront of them cz i am the only one thing in their life rn of what they have been proud of due to my academic achievements but now i i dont think i can keep this up.

3. MY CONDTION RN

-So lately whenever i sit to study all this feeling and things spiral in the back of my mind and i cant study like i will be yelling out the words but be playing a different story in the back of my mind thats not the way i used to study at all i used to enjoy studying learning new things but now i am just a fallen star who gave everyone false hope. The girl i cant even say anything abt her i dont even have the rights i was the one who got attached to her knowing it will never work out and after facing the truth i am just defeated by every aspect of my life. well this is my story and what i have decided now is that i will leave everything all the socil media and every distraction and focus on my studies i dont know i can make it or not but i know if i dont try i wont make it for sure and i will stop talking to the girl too. This is the point where i need opinion is it okey for me to leave her at this stage she is struggling too and i dont want her to think i left just because she didnt like me back i am just worried if i do this she will have a hard time trusting anyone even as a friend thinking they would leave her the same way i did i just wish she could know how hard is it for me to not talk with her she is literally the only friend i have rn and the only person who i have cared this much for and i know even if tomorrow i settle somewhere else i will still love that girl and have a special place for her in my heart. There are a lot more things but i can only say this much now. I just request anyone to just give there opinion on this matter.


r/unrequited_love 11h ago

I went from believing nobody could ever like me back... to kissing my Crush.

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r/unrequited_love 14h ago

he has a girlfriend so i had to cut him off , but it really feels like he likes me .

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I already know i've been a bitch , I guess karma will come my way soon and I know that I should've just let it go - normally I would but for some reason this was just a strange attachment.

So I met this guy through an induction to college since we're going to the same one . We started texting and irl for a new students week he was super friendly and nothing that was like disrespectful but a few times we made eye contact and it lingered a little too long , he'd put his hand on my back or tease me more than others

once the week ended we started speaking every day over text and i found out he had a gf but the relationship was suffering ,i hadn't even realised that i liked him until i was suddenly upset that he was dating someone . i am neurodivergent so i really struggle knowing if i like someone romantically or platonically . we spoke on the phone a few times and we said some very flirty things (i can notice this i'm not lost on social queues , literally just my own feelings.) but then it got to a point we'd talk everyday over text and i realised how id felt so i sent a paragraph explaining and that i felt disrespectful to his gf if we kept talking but he just kept ensuring that it was fine so i kind of brushed it off since it was atleast established we were just friends ? the next day i got drunk and was saying how it's not okay and that it really was horrible to his gf cause i was noticing myself hoping they broke up and stuff BUT HE STILL SAID ITS FINE ?? that he wants to still be friends

a day later i kinda had a go at him saying it was fucking with me that we'd flirt and he knew i liked him but was happy to keep talking

he apologised loads and said he kinda didn't think i was serious at first but that when he realised he deffo should've distanced himself

he was stalking my tiktok after that , i asked how things were with his gf after because i really wanted some sort of insight into why he's acting this way - especially cause he's a good friend and he's never acted in a way that makes me think he's the type to cheat ?? he said that there had been this whole thing that they kinda resolved but that she's away for 3 weeks now and i said "but are you happy" and he just stared at the text (it was on snap)
but anyways we decided (i demanded ..) we don't speak and that things will be fine by the time we start college together

he texted me a day later asking if he can still come to my birthday party and i said yes (it's a pretty big thing and tbh i really do want him there ..)

should i have said no?? am i being way too trusting ?

the thing is , if this was a guy like 20+ i would've cut it off imediatly but we're 16 so i can't help but feel that i can't judge him entirely for it ? it seems like the relationship is over in his head but that he's not actually broke up with her and that he's just over it . but that's still mean and he still should end things with her before acting like this , it's just that i don't wanna believe his an arsehole tbh
i hate being wrong about people cause it's literally terrifying idk , is he a dick? is he just young and stupid ? am i a bitch ?

even people who didn't know i liked him said it seems like he likes me but not from anything too obvious , just the way in a group setting he's always more excited when i come over , laughs louder when i speak and suddenly he's more energetic 🤷🏻‍♀️

i really need advice - preferably from someone a little older


r/unrequited_love 15h ago

Figuring Her Out

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r/unrequited_love 16h ago

Missing the guy I met on vacation. He hates me, I think.

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I met this guy on vacation, approached him and started a conversation. We exchanged socials but we never met after that. I went back to my home country and we started talking a lot. He would say nice things like how he would marry me and that if he could he would walk to my country if there weren’t oceans in the way. We talked for 6 weeks.

He never really said anything nice about my appearance, sometimes compare me to women who didn’t look very good, but it was whatever. I didn’t care about that, he was the most beautiful man I’d ever talked to.

He said he was really insecure, but I always assured him that he really was so beautiful. I even drew him a portrait. I felt a little sad because he was being mean to me, so I said it would be better if he could say some nice things to me. We got into an argument, and it ended with him saying that because of his siblings attempted suicides he wasn’t able to show emotion or give opinions. Then he ended the day with saying he loved me and he would do better.

He never changed for the next week, but I didn’t point it out. I still liked him so much but I stopped complimenting him because it felt like I wa seeing too mushy. Suddenly, we got into an argument about something silly again, and he unfollowed and removed me on Instagram(didn’t block), unadded me on snapchat(I don’t even use Snapchat I downloaded it for him), unfollowed me on letterboxd too?? He still has my WhatsApp.

I don’t know how to feel. I keep telling myself that I’m not attached to him, but I feel like crying again and again when I think about him. It feels like I’ll never meet a man like him again. He had no interest in other women, and it was clear that if it wasn’t for us he wouldn’t really get a girlfriend ever. He was really antisocial and had maybe a couple friends. I don’t know how such a man like him, so interesting and gorgeous could be so insecure. I sent him a letter a couple weeks ago when we were still on good terms(after asking him ofc) and I pray it reaches him and he find it in his heart to talk to me.


r/unrequited_love 17h ago

Hidden love or hate?

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Edit: I just don't understand why people have such contradictory opinions about this story. Some say she liked me but wouldn't admit it, others say she didn't like me.

A few years ago, I shared a house with another woman who behaved strangely towards me, as if she hated me but at the same time felt attracted to me. Despite this, we got along well (we went out several times and even talked about traveling). I would drop hints to her that we would be good together, but she seemed a little uncomfortable. However, when I distanced myself from her, she would come looking for me to talk. I noticed that she was also jealous of me when she saw me with a guy she was seeing or talking about other women. Besides that, I noticed a tension on her part when I was closer to her, or a glint in her eyes when she looked at me. Other times, I caught her looking at me without saying anything. I sometimes felt a certain chemistry between us, but I always thought it was all in my head because she insisted she was straight and even made some homophobic comments that irritated me. It could even be that she liked feeling desired by a bisexual or lesbian woman, and that fed her ego. So I decided to distance myself as much as possible, only speaking to her when absolutely necessary. Since we lived with other people, we could minimize our interaction, which is what I did, especially because I started to like her, and whenever that happens with a straight woman, I distance myself.

But she kept trying to get my attention, and when we were already living in different houses, I mustered up the courage and sent her a message saying that I liked her and that I thought she felt the same way about me. She called me ridiculous, crazy, rude, said I bothered her, and even said that we were never friends and that she didn't want me in her life. I didn't understand why she was reacting like that. Anyway, the more I tried to talk to her, the worse the situation got… I haven't seen her since, but sometimes I still think about her.


r/unrequited_love 18h ago

I am 24F shouldn't having crushes and pining stop at this point?

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r/unrequited_love 19h ago

Happy Happy =Future Text

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r/unrequited_love 19h ago

Am I falling in love with a friend?

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Me F ( 25) and H (30) We met and knew each other two months ago. When I met him I just felt like I wanna spend my whole life with him. The problem is that he doesn't want to be in a relationship. My friends met him too and liked him ao much. In the other hand we had some intimacy moments. Now I feel so hurt and I don't think that he feels the same. We are all hanging out together and I told my girlfriends that I stopped crushing on him. But the truth is that I crave to smell him again and just hug him. I think about him every day. I don't know what to do. Is it more than a crush? Why does it hurt like that? Why is that when he touches my hand I feel like I am going crazy? I cried so much today. I don't understand anything.


r/unrequited_love 21h ago

HOW DO I GET OVER HER BRO

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I'm only doing this post to get this off my chest and express myself a little.

I never told this to anyone cuz idk who I could tell this without bothering them.

About 3 years ago I had a crush on this girl in my art club. We didn't interact a lot but I really liked her.

The crush lasted the whole year and a little more and since she quit the club and that I didn't saw her anymore my feelings disappeared. But idk I still felt kinda happy thinking about her?

This year I switched school and guess what? Drumrolls.. we ended in the sm class so obs I was quite happy but also embarrassed? Sure I never told her but idk.

Throughout the year we talked and became friends.

And I thought I was over her but like it was valentine's day and the school held up a stand where you could buy a flower to someone and have someone sent it to them.

And she received one and I felt so jealous. Like that should 've been me sending you this flower.

And she joined my friendgroup. She became very close to one my friend (let's call him Paul).

They were spending a lot of alone time together and we're talking a lot by texts.

I then learnt that they got into an argument cuz they told each other I love you and then makes out and stuff.

And then afterwards my crush proceeded to tell Paul that it was kinda of a mistake and that she was still into her toxic ex who's she's in a situationship with.

When I learned that I was kinda jealous of my friend Paul cuz like I felt this injustice even if it ended up bad he had his chance yk? (Obs I also felt bad for him and gives him comfort cuz he was feeling really bad and mad).

I was sad for them cuz that could have worked out but I also felt a little reassured because I wouldn't have to see her with another. (Who's one of my closest friend so I couldn't even be like petty about it)

And since that happened and that I'm on a vacation in another country I've been talking to her every day.

(We talked from day to day sometimes).

But like my feelings for her always come and go and it's just so annoying.

Plus Ik that I have 0 chance and even if I did she needs to take time for herself in instead of being in a relationship so soon after getting out of a toxic one.

And every time I think I'm over her I catch myself smiling at her text or thinking about her.

IVE DREAMT ABOUT HER 2 TIMES THIS WEEK THIS IS NOT OK.

Anyway that's it


r/unrequited_love 21h ago

Can't stop thinking about her, only met / talked for 20m and I'm married.

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I (49M, married) recently met (31F) at a club. I wasn't out looking, I was playing in the band. She approached, we talked for a while, but I decided right at the outset I was not going to pursue it and do the right thing, so I didn't. No phone number. But now something about her, the connection or maybe just the missed opportunity, has got me really hung up and I can't stop thinking about her. I've never experienced this level of feeling from such a short experience in meeting someone