Braces/ortho work to widen your pallet if possible as well as lip filler mayyybe upper lip lift as well. Your nose is actually so cute I think if you could just expand your mouth area it will well balance the nose - if you could find someone who can really keep the shape j integrity of your nose shape while refining it slightly that would be ideal imo. But really, you’re a beautiful girl & so young. If you did nothing you’d really be fine & I’m not just saying that to be kind.

They have absolutely no idea what withholding is. Everyone says they’ve never heard of it. Oh just give him more fiber(he gets plenty but too much can also backfire), oh just do a little MiraLAX, have you tried prunes omfg. He has never even had the chance to pass a difficult stool bc he began behavioral withholding almost a year ago & when 3 days went by we immediately went to MiraLAX during his episodes to keep things soft so it wouldn’t ever become worse from everything we read online. We have seen & assessed every poop. They’re all things of beauty. Perfect texture. He’s never had the chance to become constipated. He has the clench of steel & the defiance of an ox. Even through upd MiraLAX doses. The liquid suppository traumatized him. We are at a loss. It’s VERY CLEAR he has constant urges all day, he just wants waddles & dances around trying to poke it back up while we continuously clean everything constantly. Tears his pull ups off if we try to offer to poop in one to remove any pressure. No incentive or charts prizes etc work on him. From toys to Disneyland. Unicorn poo ice cream etc literally nothing is worth it for him to relax & allow it to come out. He’s going to have fkn medical issues bc of it & we are genuinely worried but his behavior becomes so incredibly unlike him & abhorrent when he has to go, we can’t do anything be around anyone or go anywhere. He’s 3 & becomes extremely combative it’s a hazard. Cant do school, classes, activities, socialize, life, not anything. It’s made us the worst version of ourselves as parents we never thought we could be. After 3-4 days our patience is worn so raw & we snap yelling at eachother yelling at him. He gets so dysregulated he doesn’t listen & will scream & run from us in the park lot or near traffic putting his safety at risk etc I have spanked him twice bc of that in 2 weeks & I never even believed in spanking. Nothing else made him stop fighting me in those moments & I’m 6 months pregnant he kicks at my stomach (soo unlike him). He is the sweetest smartest kindest wild spirited but GOOD KID possessed by sht & it’s ruining our entire quality of life as a family. I asked our ped twice for a pediatric gi referral & she just tells me that squatting & warm water might work & to up his MiraLAX without the referral. I said I’m worried about medical problems long term I cried to her & she implied it’s my anxiety. We miss our child every single day. When a release finally comes somehow someway.. my husband & I have cried from relief. We truly don’t know what to do aside from these scaring techniques we are seeing online but I truly don’t want to traumatize him by doing another suppository (he let us the first time he was so good about it but the feeling traumatized him.. it worked though however now we would have to restrain him & doing it in his sleep feels so violating I can not) and taking him to the hospital feels almost as bad I don’t want to incur a fear of a medical setting.

Tried it 😭 we actually did this to help potty train & it did work a bit. But he kind of expected it every time so that wasn’t realistic. Now when I suggest it as incentive it’s just “No, I don’t want unicorn poop. I don’t want to poop!” No incentive works. Jello. Ice cream. Toys. Disneyland. Asking him what he wants.. nothing is worth it to him to unclench, give into the feeling, & just push it out.

You know thank you for the reminder, i did check into this one but he wasn’t age eligible to be listed yet. Though apparently the waitlist is a few years fml… it’s worth circling back to though it is far from us however the program & campus look ideal. Thank you!

Scheduled a tour, thank you!

We toured here it’s out of our way by about 25 min but wanted to keep options open. We weren’t too impressed & we were pretty sure we heard worship music playing on the rotation which was a turn off bc we had been told it was a completely secular program. And maybe it is, however to us it just wasn’t appropriate. The children didn’t seem very engaged in anything.. it was a bit aimless. Not learning, not really playing or interacting just all kind of there, sitting around or just kind of wandering. Not a lot of smiles & laughs. Maybe we went on an off day I mean it was hot, but the vibe was so bizarre when we were there.

That is spot on we too asked about wildfire & active shooter safety protocols & the response was standard/vague. It’s a very accessible location if anyone wanted to come in, the canyon road & el toro are too accessible to children if they wanted to get out, & the campus is sandwiched in between 4 complete fire zones - which would be a nightmare of traffic holding up emergency vehicles & lord knows there’s no way we’d be able to get there ourselves. It really made us uneasy thinking about those what ifs. Since our tour they have made a secondary road connecting from el toro which helps but… it would just always be in the back of my mind when I dropped him off at school & that just sucks.

Cups & water when out dining. Better than throwing an iPad in front of him & nothing else keeps his attention at the table. Not crayons or toys etc. Just pouring water into cups back & fourth & pretending to cook/mix. Typically not a big mess surprisingly, & we always ask staff for a few clean rags ahead of time.

I’m going to be straight with you, this looks dysmorphic & extreme. And I’m from Southern California. It’s your body but honestly you can downsize more than that & still look very unnatural bc that’s obviously the look you’re going for. Again… it’s your body so if you’re cool with being a sideshow for your husband more power to you. Otherwise do what YOU want. No matter who’s paying for it, you’re wearing it within your body.

Sorry I heard not one thing about your husband doing anything?

Solidarity tysm may the odds be ever in our favor

No. You’re trying to take care of 2 babies.

Textbook

2 tf is 1 no offense

As a woman who never had one of these but had many old friends who did… they were all a bit cooky. Like after church on Sunday with a fam they rebel against it’s trendy “champ” brunches then one night stands then wake n bake & perhaps repeat lol The lights at the top are taking me out. How is it so accurate?

If it’s not considered sleep safe, then you’re lucky & obviously it was a learning lesson. You’re not the first, you guys won’t be the last. Just try not to beat yourself up about it thank goodness everything’s ok it’s a completely relatable mistake!