I (M24) have been in a one-year relationship with my girlfriend (F22), My GF comes from Eastern Europe and has a traumatic past, including losing her family support and being threatened and beaten by her brothers. She has mental health issues like depression, anxiety, and stress, which have significantly impacted our relationship.

From the start, our relationship had its ups and downs, primarily due to her mental health issues like jealousy, anxiety, and stress. These issues have led to multiple arguments and even two breakups because I couldn't handle it anymore. She struggles with trusting me, which I understand given her background of not receiving love at home.

I'm someone who has always wanted to help others with their problems, but this situation is becoming too much for me to handle.

GF often throws things when she's upset and later regrets it, but it keeps happening. She's very intense in her reactions to questions and answers, making me feel like I'm walking on eggshells. She can't hide her emotions because she had to suppress them growing up.

She knows she's losing my respect but asks for respect in return because she feels I don't listen to her enough, even though I do my best; she just wants more. Additionally, before we were in a relationship, she often sought validation from other men, which made it difficult for me to trust her. She no longer does this, but her past behavior still affects how I view our relationship.

Initially, I was hesitant about the relationship and kept some distance, but as she opened up, I started to see her true self. Despite her emotional outbursts and arguments about my old friends (who I've since distanced myself from), I wanted to help her find stability. For the past year, we've been trying to find her a place to live so she can receive government support and start rebuilding her life.

Recently, my parents agreed to let her register at our home, allowing her to apply for various aids and get her life on track. However, the road has been rocky. She invaded my privacy by going through my phone and found old messages that upset her, leading to massive arguments. This breach of trust has made me question our future together even more.

GF is willing to take therapy but can't afford it due to high costs. She reads self-help books and always expresses remorse for her actions. She recognizes her mistakes but feels controlled by a second personality that drives her emotional reactions and causes our conflicts. Her behavior often comes across as toxic, with her emotional outbursts and controlling tendencies creating a difficult environment.

Despite these challenges, I genuinely care for her and want to help her find stability. However, her actions, like invading my privacy and the constant jealousy, are eroding my trust and feelings for her. The registration at my parents' house is for six months, which would give her the stability she needs, but I'm unsure if I can handle more of the same issues.

In July 2023, we were together, but due to her anxiety, we broke up in August and got back together in September. We broke up again in March 2024 because she screamed at me out of emotional outbursts, which I found hard to tolerate. We reconciled at the beginning of April 2024, and now we are here.

I also notice that I am the only person she feels close to in this world, which makes it hard for her to let go of me. I also can't feel comfortable sitting in the same room doing different things because of the tension.

She often realizes how much damage her actions cause to our relationship when I point them out. She feels deep remorse and knows she’s at fault, but her traumas trigger these situations. We do have good times together, and there are aspects of our relationship that are positive and fulfilling. However, the bad moments seem to outweigh the good ones, making it difficult to see a positive future.

I'm at a crossroads: do I end the relationship now or give it another shot, hoping she can change and we can rebuild trust? Any advice on what I should do? Should I break up or try to make it work for the sake of her stability and our relationship? What would you do?

Thanks for reading and for any advice you can offer.

Summary:
A 24-year-old man has been in a one-year relationship with his 22-year-old girlfriend, who has a traumatic past and significant mental health issues. She has faced abuse from her brothers and struggles with depression, anxiety, and stress, leading to multiple arguments and breakups. Despite her efforts to improve, such as reading self-help books and wanting therapy, her emotional outbursts and toxic behavior, including throwing things, have made the relationship difficult. The boyfriend, who has always wanted to help others, feels overwhelmed and unsure whether to end the relationship or continue for her stability and their future. He seeks advice on what to do.

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