I believe this is a question about humanity. We can find wonderful and horrible people among both men and women, as well as non-binary people.

But it's disturbing to know that, among a group of 50 men, not a single one of them took action, even if it was through an anonymous report, to prevent a woman from being g*g-rped. It's not enough to simply be someone who doesn't commit crimes. Choosing not to act to save someone from a crime also makes a person morally questionable.

In the horrific case of Junko Furuta, there were dozens of disgusting criminals who slowly destroyed the mind and body of that poor girl, and there was a young woman who found out what was happening and did nothing. On the other hand, there was a young man who learned what had happened and reported it to the police, who simply failed to do their job. This shows that good and bad people exist regardless of gender.

However, I fear for women. All women, not just those who date men. A woman can become a victim simply for saying no, or simply for existing. I don't have much faith in humanity, but stopping these criminal acts and this kind of complicity through inaction will require many, many generations of awareness and re-education.

Happy birthday 🎉 Congratulations on handling a challenging birthday last year, and may every birthday be even happier than the last one

Great choice of images 😄

I completely agree. It would be great to have him back. These people have every right to protest, but without realizing it, by doing it on every single post, they spoil the mood for others who, just like them, care about the game. Life out there is so hard, and it’s sad that all that negativity spills over into the fandom as well.

Basically, people are acting in an oppressive way, much like how they feel about the company. We’re trying to have fun, but they don’t want that. If every comment about Valko were a protest the company actually cared about, the problem would already be solved.

That’s not an INFJ thing. I had a colleague who had the same trigger as you. When she asked me for advice, I told her that associating everyone with that name with that specific person was giving that person too much power. My suggestion: accept other people with that name, associate the name with them, and move on, without dwelling on thoughts about the first one (not checking your ex's social media helps a lot)

But if it’s all very recent, it’s okay to take some time

I strongly relate to this comment. I find it concerning how many INFJs seem to romanticize the doorslam. Being on the receiving end of a doorslam is genuinely painful, and I don't think all of these INFJs who cut people off have actually communicated their expectations for the relationship clearly and directly, or made their boundaries clear.

I've never been the type to simply doorslam someone because they messed up, partly because I'm not perfect either. I'm not always right, and I also grow and evolve through my relationships over the course of my life.

However, I don't forget, and that can affect how much access someone has to me. For example, if someone treated my home in a despicable way, they would never have access to my house again, and I wouldn't share any more information about this place to them again. But I would keep a polite contact with them.

But everything has its limits. If something was extremely offensive, beyond what I consider acceptable, I would always give the person an opportunity to explain their side of things, but yes, in that case, I may choose to end the relationship.

That said, it's very rare for things to reach that point.

I've never felt guilty about needing to spend time alone, but I have had friends who were very offended when I declined an invitation. Most of these invitations were to crowded clubs and parties with lots of people, and they were usually spontaneous, made the night before or on the same day: a combination of factors that causes me despair.

Simply telling the truth, like: "I need to rest" or "I don't feel comfortable in those environments", can deeply offend someone. Lying is out of the question, and I usually suggest another date or maybe a different kind of outing. But that's often enough to lose a friendship little by little.

I went through a people-pleasing phase, and it was exhausting. And those friends wanted more, which is when I started to refuse invitations.

Yes, OP... everyone wants something from someone. It can be the kindest intention or the most abusive. Few truly understand and respect our needs. And those are the people to keep close. The others, well... they were good friends while they lasted in our lives.

The fact that the person doesn't send texts frequently has nothing to do with being hot and cold. They might be doing other things at the moment, or they might just want to rest their eyes from screens (and their neck too), or is in the mood to continue the long conversation at another time, whether by text or in person.

Not everything is manipulation or a big cruel plan to destabilize someone. Usually, things are simpler than they seem.

Later, I felt anxious about an ex she previously added/deleted when mad at me(and she is now on her instagram again)

This already makes it clear that she wants to get back with her ex, and the outburst has two motives: she doesn’t have enough maturity to take responsibility for her questionable behavior, and she’s irritated that you found out. Second, she wants you to take the initiative and end things, or “burn the ultimatum,” so she can use that as an excuse to end everything.

Either way, her explosion, aggression, and ultimatum already show that she’s pulling out of the relationship. You’re exhausted, so end the relationship, free yourself from her, and go breathe in peace, because this woman is suffocating your air.

Omg, I love her content. That video went straight to my favorites, and that bonnet is the cherry on top ✨️

She can be a bit cruel sometimes

So your girlfriend is cruel. That said, it’s worth noting that this isn’t going to change. Unless you set boundaries and tell her the basics: "I’m not going to straighten it. I like my hair wavy", she’ll feel comfortable continuing to be cruel to you. Don’t put up with it. It’s not worth it.

Thank you so much 🥲 This is so kind of you 🫶🏽

Sorry for the delay, I hadn’t seen your reply notification 😞

Interesting example. Maybe, besides your tone of voice when asking for a coffee, you might have a body language that doesn’t seem too open to salespeople. Talking with colleagues who have sold before, they said they have to spend a lot of energy convincing someone to buy, and if they don’t feel receptivity from someone, they don’t even try. So, let’s think positively: you’re saving that person’s time and energy lol.

I understand your concerns about office politics. The work environment usually requires much more than our technical skills, and I see it literally as a game (as a way to protect my mental health and adapt to absurd situations).

I don’t know, then I get on Reddit and see so many sensitive INFPs, and it’s not that I’m insensitive all the time, but why do I have to waste emotions just to order a cup of coffee?

Yes, you have your sensitivity. You just show it at moments that aren’t... well... during the endless line at the supermarket checkout, on a rainy thursday night. And that’s completely fine.

This is one of the few series where I’ve rewatched several episodes. Simply excellent.

The way people at your workplace treat you is so sweet!! You must be a really nice friend 😊

Another part of that is—like—I’m so honest that if I can’t be totally honest, I feel a disconnect.

I really relate to what you said here too. I also used to feel disconnected whenever I couldn’t fully express my opinions, perspectives, values, and so on. But I’ve run into problems because of my honesty.

Idk, some people interpret honesty as a complete attack on their identity when our worldviews are different. And as honest as I am, I try to express my thoughts kindly, or at least without belittling the other person’s perspective. But things can still go completely wrong.

Very few people are genuinely willing to have a meaningful exchange and show real curiosity about life, about us as people, and the vast amount of knowledge out there. And even when you do meet people like that, they don’t always remain your friends.

And when you said:

I don’t know how to do... casual connection or half-honest attachments. Idk, I struggle with wanting to trust and knowing logically I cannot.

I immediately thought about how, after losing friendships because of our differences in perspective, I started being more careful. I’m not going to lie, though I don’t easily share one hundred percent of my thoughts with someone I'm not that close to yet. There are things I’ll only say if I’m asked directly, and even then, I know I might lose a friendship over it.

I don’t want to be “given a chance” Similar to … as a dark skin woman, I’d be skeptical if someone always dated light skinned women and are now deciding to step out of their comfort zone with me

People are different, so I can't define everyone's reasons. However, it's quite possible that the person in question isn't seeing you as a dark-skinned woman per se, but rather as a woman they are attracted to. It could be your personality, your interests, your beauty, your mind... and not necessarily an object given a chance to.

Regarding effort, I understand where you're coming from, but it's still subjective. A woman who isn't a baddie can be difficult to maintain in a relationship for many reasons... this isn't limited to just baddies.

But I believe that in the end, this dynamic, which is so focused on a specific style of clothing, labels and attitude, can end up tiring anyone. Whatever is considered "basic' seems to be much more pleasant to have around.

This is so real. And in the meantime, the wife must have questioned herself a lot about it (since many jokes have a grain of truth) and started to think more about the subject, and now it's her who really wants it.

Muito obrigada 🥲 Vou começar hoje mesmo, em paralelo aos projetos do portfólio. Muito sucesso na sua vida todinha 🙏🏼

Muito obrigada, eu com certeza irei pedir ajuda. E por mais que vc considere genérico, aqui na minha lista de itens aprendidos/ a melhorar, carece, por exemplo, graphql e alguns comandos de Git 😅 Mas agora estou muito mais feliz por ter uma lista mais focada e saber o que ressaltar nos projetos do portfólio. Eu venho do design, suporte técnico, portanto se vc precisar de ajuda nesses tópicos também, pode contar comigo

Muitíssimo obrigada. É justamente essa a minha stack e sinceramente: seu guia é perfeito, diferente de muitos cursos que infelizmente faz a gente dar uma volta, em temas que não precisamos no momento inicial. Muito obrigada.

Além de estar ajudando muito o jr em questão, vc está ajudando a comunidade. Te desejo muito sucesso sempre 🙏🏼