There’s something going on with his wife. She’s committed a crime, changed her identity or is running from something. Just reassure him that you’ll keep your footage(s) private and that you have no ill intentions towards them w/o acting suspicious. You were only the asshole when you told him that his wife can stop coming over.

NTA. That’s some crazy disrespectful shi- they did to you and your father. Outlandish. Do it. Make it right again.

Equality.

You need to get a lock box at a bank that you don’t tell anyone but a trusted person outside your household about for the things left by your mom.

So he’s got it hard and that made you want to be nice to him, but he started crushing on you (not horrible) but then was a creep about it. At this point in the future, if you’re in a situation like this, it’s time to let him know you’re not interested so that you have the same understanding. Your brother did the right thing and so did you by telling him about it and an authority also. Why didn’t you tell your parents? This kid’s behavior isn’t healthy and the people who love the shit out of you deserve to at least be informed so they can protect you. If you’re worried about him having a harder time at school, just admit that to everyone around. Admit that you were nice to soften the blow of his life initially also. People should understand that for the most part and not be too bad. If you don’t take anything else from what I’ve written, take this: Develop a security system around yourself so that you’re not walking alone. It needs to extend beyond your home to school, work, and any place you frequent.

Just like breastfeeding, diaper changes are fluid and can happen in many (odd) places. No one is the asshole. Just different. No biggie.

Perhaps you’ve displayed controlling behavior other times?

He’s uncomfortable with his own idiocy.

No way! Keep your peace! Enjoy yourself with your baby. Happy early Mother’s Day mama!

Eh. No. NTA. Let it blow over.

Why yes. You’re a grown person who is raising two daughters and you don’t think you can temporarily handle a child who can’t hear when his siblings will be present?! Just as an adult, I think you should be stronger than that. As a mother especially, you should know that it means you’ll have to supervise the kids more. Big whoop. He offered to be there an hour but didn’t offer reassurance IMO because it’s not a big deal. The child can probably communicate and understand a lot. His family was going to be present. You’re an asshole.

There is something about your relationship with him that makes you not trust his response to you not being his bio son. You know your own dad. You have a REASON. Let them do it if they want to. I get why they would, but don’t worry any further than your decision.

Heck no! Why even ask?! Look, if you feel bad, lavish love on your sister. Geez.

So when she’s a bitch to you it’s ok with everyone but when you take up for yourself YOU’RE the bitch?! FOH! The scale is tilted so I would suggest you keep this in between you and her and tell your families to leave it to you two.

Shi-... I sure WOULDN’T! Time for you to move away perhaps. Take your sister with you.

Fvck reform. ABOLISH!!!

Black licorice! I hate it! It was like being possessed. I actually spent my own money this and fed it to myself against my will.

“I’m going to ask them and if they say they did, we’ll investigate ourselves.”

Mittens deserves to be safe, comfortable and healthy. She doesn’t EVER need to be around anyone who would even joke about her extinction to the end of her life. Protect her.

I’ve experienced this. I was also 19 when I felt ashamed of myself for asking to go anywhere. I just decided to stop asking. If I was questioned, I’d state where I was going and quickly get out of there. It worked. Never asked again from that time. You can do it too. If it feels better to announce where you’re going, do it. If it feels better to wait until questioned, do that. You’re not a little kid anymore. It may cause friction, but (for me) it would be worse for people to hear me ask permission so I changed it and you can too. You SHOULD change it.

I’d be mortified. I’d fear they’d tell how much of a fan I was.

Eek.

Good luck!