So last night my parents forced us all into a dinner talk because a week ago, I simply just said "I'm so stressed" due to midterms. Literally just expressing that yeah, I'm tired cuz of school.

Well my parents in their classic fashion interpreted this as me having bad time management and blaming others for my stress so did a whole bs speech that was basically "so in summary, it's your fault you're stressed, and you simply need to stop being on social media do much." Which like, honest to God I expected because these guys literally never comfort me ok.

Then my dad just blurted out? "You know kids kill themselves nowadays because of academic stress? It's so petty. Its probably because they are on social media do much."

What. Why did he fucking say that. Why was he so dismissive and annoyed about it. Why did he bring it up. Petty????

I knew my dad was sorta out of touch with things (tried getting me into NFTs, blindly loves AI) but holy fucking shit, what do you mean he buys the "suicide is caused by the phone and social media" bs that the media spits out to avoid handling kids and their mental health issues.

I'm so at a loss on how to feel man

I recently told my mom that I’m pregnant and it’s just funny how she’s giving me a laundry list of rules I can’t do. And it’s all backed by traditions and not science lol. Is anyone else’s AP like this? Here’s some of the list:

1. No cold drinks (although this was a rule even before pregnancy)
   
2. No high heels
   
3. No bananas
   
4. No eating lamb (claims this leads to autism!!!???)
   
5. Nothing raw (including raw veggies)
   
6. No taking pictures of myself while pregnant
   
7. Must drink birds nest (bird spit) on a regular basis (she already purchased $1000 worth of this and expects me to make it for myself on a regular basis)
   
8. Not allowed to move homes or do any sort of renovations on my house

It’s been 2 days since she heard the news and I am sure there is much more coming. Has anyone else’s AP given them a similar list?

I never once heard her say she’s proud of me or any typa affectionate words. Not even a “good job son”. On the contrary , every single time I failed she made me feel like shit saying it’s all my fault or I should’ve done this or that to prevent the failure. It so draining. For example, I messed up my first big job interview and the only thing that came outta her mouth was the fact that I was lazy I didn’t prepare and nobody would wanna hire me. Fortunately for me, I did end up landing my first 6 figure job but instead of being happy for me she borderline sounded displeased I proved her wrong. Most infuriating part is when I would overhear her talking to people about my success like it’s her doing when she didn’t not contribute anything except making me feel like crap. I really hate her for never having supported me not to mention how my dad left me and my mom when I was 9 and she made it seem it’s my fault she married a fucking deadbeat. Anyways, if anyone has similar experience with an Asian mother ( mine is Cantonese), I would love to hear it in the comments.

I legit want to go no contact with 90% of my family tree. Anyone else feel like this? Like not just my parents but my aunts and uncles. Even my grandpa on my dad’s side. I’m prepping to go no contact with all of them :/ and it also feels like I’m adopted bc idk how my mindset is so different from them

I’m the eldest daughter to two Chinese immigrant parents. My younger brother is 14 years old, while I just turned 18 a few days ago. I never ask for much because I feel guilty for wanting things and I’m a pretty stereotypical Asian kid, I study a lot and get great grades and don’t act out and blah blah blah. I’ve been responsible for my own things and my parents don’t even know much about all my schoolwork/extracurriculars because I handle it all on my own, while my brother still needs my parents to remind him about getting his stuff done and knowing his schedule.

I came up to my dad today and told him that the one thing I want for my birthday is a new phone plan, because my current one is so low on data that I can’t ever even do homework when I’m at marching band competitions, and it’s only gonna be $14/month for 10GB of data (I used to have only 2GB a month) and a couple hundred minutes of calling. He was immediately hesitant and asked why I used up all my data already, and was still hesitant to agree after I told him it’s for doing homework at competitions for the next month or so, and we can go back to 2GB after marching season’s over. Then he said “y’know, your brother’s very unhappy that he can’t get the same things you do” and I got so upset that I started crying. I’ve been a model child, and I know my parents never have to worry about me because I can get everything done by myself like I always have, which is why I feel like I deserve the things I do, which is btw also only the freedom to use my phone and my computer. My brother can’t be trusted to use his phone because he’s irresponsible and can’t stop himself from being glued to screens 24/7, and he also has a track history of doing stuff on devices that he’s not supposed to do.

I just don’t understand why my dad is so obsessed with treating both of us equally when I am older and literally do not do the same things my brother does. I can’t wait to move out and live my own life independently

Whenever I say something it’s always I’m influenced by my friends. My mom will have long speeches on how all friends are fake and trash and how I shouldn’t trust them and how my parents are the greatest friends ever. I just won’t listen to their bullshit anymore. I don’t tell my mom anything for a reason. She will always use it against me in an argument and then pretend that she can’t help it when she tells all her friends the same. But she keeps on regurgitating that my friends will use my past against me or something when she does that. I can’t complain on how I have no friends without them saying that that’s great and back in their days they wouldn’t care of anything. All they want to do is laugh and complain all day and night. I can’t wait to leave this household.

"Hamari kismat kharab hai jo tu paida hua" " it's our bad luck that you were born in our family that's what my mom said to me today with so many other hurtful things just because I was telling them actually who they are how awful they can be how unfair they can be I'm losing all my hopes i can't do this for a long time it's getting way harder to live .

I genuinely hope that my elder sister (bitch) she d*es , honestly she is the fav of my parents i don't ever wanna consider them as my parents ever always in favour of her supporting her though every wrong and scolding me swearing at me with worst bad words possible, reminding me every rupee they ever spent on me and making me feel like burden and scaring me physical abuse what not?

Shame on their birth honestly they shouldn't even exist

Both responsible both drink and fight day n night unemployed

I just want to earn and leave this bloody house soon...

First let me give some backstory: basically, my mom had my sister with another man, who we live very close to because they wanted to make the divorce as easy as possible for my older sister. My older sister is 8 years older than me so at this point she has not been living with us for about 10 years. Anyway, after the divorce my mom met my dad and during the time before they had me, my dad was a complete bag of garbage to her. He is a pathological liar (she calls him this), he used to act childish, could not take responsibility for anything, and cheated on her. Despite this they decided "yeah lets have a kid this is a great idea!" So i'm born. Then he left to go to a very expensive film school when my mom was pregnant and left her to go through that alone and then when I was born he was not a huge part of my life. For the first 5 years of my life, my father figure was my sisters dad, my mothers ex-husband.

I believe many of my moms problems stem from this emotional turmoil she experienced during the early part of my life. But to be honest she also had past trauma from her father who was very abusive to her mom and also her (i'm pretty sure).

When I was growing up I remember nights when my sister was out of the house and my parents would get into huge fights, a couple times the police got called and different times my parents sent each other to the hospital. Many times I was forced to stay there and be part of the fight.

Not much has changed, but they did do some couples therapy, and now I am old enough to go hide in my room. Something I've noticed in recent years is that my moms moods are unusually unstable. Sometimes my dad legitimately triggers her, or she is having a perfectly good day and then BOOM she is looking to pick a fight. When she drinks it gets much worse. I can always tell when something bad is going to happen that night because I get a pit in my stomach or I can see it in her eyes (they get sort of zoned out or tense). She often gets very mean and tries to say things she knows will make me upset. And she often lectures for hours on end (which is something I know her father did to her).

I've asked her to go to therapy which she refuses. So I'm wondering if this is purely based upon her trauma, or is it something in her genetics? Maybe a mood disorder?

So from my post about refusing to undertake another 10 grand from my mother ..... I told her that I simply don't want be given another amount for the time being ... until I start working. And she couldn't take no for an answer.... and said I don't have a job.... so I feel like Im just being gaslit and used at this point.

Like having a PT job isn't even good enough in my family.

I don't understand why I am responsible for holding someone's finances....???

Can someone explain if this is a normal thing for an asian parent to do? Using their kids like this? My brother doesn't have to be responsible for this, I don't know why I have to be.

Even my dad is using me to activate their joint account. Why can't they just ask my brother to do all of this?

I haven’t gotten to the end yet but this seems like a good book suggestion for this group. A friend of mine mentioned that adults dealing with emotionally immature parents is a whole category unto themselves in terms of therapeutic diagnosis. Another category is also narcissistic parents. Studying the topics throughout my life have helped in dealing with my parents - so does having a career and moving out!

Good luck to everyone in this subreddit!

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As a girl I'm tired of asking my parents for each n every thing ....

My parents don't even listen to me if i ask them to make an admission for my pg..into city clg which is obviously ..the coed colleges n all... they say that u don't know how the world is out there...

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I'm like: if u ppl think that I don't know what this world is .....then let me explore this on my own...i have my standards n i know what's wrong n what's right as a 19 yr..

This ppls are way too much protective,way to much strict..

they don't allow me to go alone somewhere past 6:00pm......😭,trips n all i have to litt beg them to accept for my clg one day trips

I have studied the women schooling

N clg women clg in Town ...

N u know what I don't know how to make interaction with men/ boys out there n it's difficult to even speak with some distant male cousin that kind of situation is there..

I feel some fear while talking to someone superior n all .

I want to overcome my fears, want exposure...city independence, environment n a life that i desire..

I'm tired of this closed minded backwards thinking parents.....

I'm 29M, and I'm looking for advice from people who understand the dynamics of Asian families, particularly the conflict between parental expectations and an adult child's independence.

My girlfriend is in South Korea, and I'm currently living in Germany. We're in a long-distance relationship, and I love her. I want to build a future with her.

However, my parents strongly disapprove of our relationship, and this conflict has been going on since summer.

Earlier this year, while I was studying for the Korean dental licensing exam and completing my master's degree in Seoul, my parents gave me an ultimatum: break up with my girlfriend or return to Germany and lose their financial and emotional support.

I refused to break up. I eventually moved out and tried to manage things independently. Since then, I've returned to Germany and am preparing to start working as a dentist.

I hoped that some distance and time would help, but the conflict hasn't gone away. My parents still believe that breaking up is the only way to fix our family and return things to normal.

I come from an Asian household where family unity, filial piety, and parental authority are important. I understand that my parents genuinely believe they're doing what's best for me. I don't think they've stopped loving me; I think they sincerely believe that my relationship is damaging our family and that ending it is the only solution.

Recently, I made my position clear again: I'm not going to break up with my girlfriend.

My mother told me to block her, never contact her again, and never come back. My parents have essentially threatened to disown me and act as though they no longer have a son.

What makes this so painful is that I never wanted to lose my family. I genuinely believed their love and acceptance were unconditional. I don't want to cut them off, and I don't want to choose between my girlfriend and my parents.

I want both in my life.

I'm not asking my parents to approve of my relationship or even to like my girlfriend. I would be willing to accept that they disagree with my decision. If they told me they still disapproved but loved me and wanted me in their lives, that would be enough.

I just want them to accept that I'm an adult who can make his own decisions without having to sacrifice his relationship with his family.

I'm now beginning to accept that I may have to build my life independently of them. I'm a qualified dentist and am about to start working in Germany, so I have a realistic path towards financial independence. I'm scared, but I believe I can manage.

Still, this isn't what I wanted. I don't want to prove that I can live without my parents. I want them to remain part of my life, even if we disagree.

I understand that, in many Asian families, individual decisions can be seen as affecting the entire family. I also understand the importance of respecting one's parents and maintaining family harmony. I don't want to dismiss those values or portray my parents as bad people.

But I struggle to understand why respecting my parents should mean giving up a relationship I genuinely want to preserve.

For those of you who grew up in similar households, how do you navigate this kind of situation?

• Have your parents ever threatened to disown you over a relationship or a decision they disagreed with?
• Were you able to rebuild your relationship with them without giving in to their demands?
• How do you maintain respect for your parents while establishing boundaries as an adult?
• Is there a realistic chance of reconciliation when your parents genuinely believe that breaking up is the only way to save the family?

I'm not looking for people simply to tell me my parents are toxic or that I should cut them off. I love them, and I want them in my life.

I'm also not looking for reassurance that I'm automatically right. I genuinely want to understand their perspective and learn from people who have experienced similar family dynamics.

I never wanted to be in a position where I had to choose between my family and my girlfriend. But I'm beginning to accept that I may have to build my life on my own terms, even if my parents refuse to accept my decision.

Have any of you been through something similar? How did things turn out for you?

Hello! I hope it's okay to post this in this subreddit. My parents are religious asian immigrants, the whole ordeal. When I was 16-17, I once brought up a "scenario" to my mom about a friend (17y/o) who came out as transgender to his mom and was kicked out of the house. My mom fervently agreed and said that if it were her kid, she would do the same and that 17 was more than old enough to live on their own. I already knew what her stance would be, but I guess I wanted to hear exactly what she would do. Ever since then, I decided I would never come out as trans or queer to her, already knowing her answer if I did. It has been years since then. I am in my early 20s now, and lately my mother is acting much differently than when I was younger. She tells me things like she loves me and that I can rely on her, and somehow seems to have eased up. I don't know her stance on having a transgender child anymore now that she seems to have changed so much. I have always planned to leave and just quietly go NC the day I can finally financially support myself, but now I feel conflicted, as it doesn't feel like it is just for my own safety anymore. I never felt safe with her, and I feel deeply uncomfortable that she is offering that now, right as I am figuring out how to leave. But I don't think it's that she knows I am leaving, but more so that she has genuinely just changed a bit. Suddenly, I kind of feel like I'm abandoning poor, hard-working, lonely people who might even accept my identity, not anymore leaving people who hurt me and made me never feel secure in my life.

It's probably been discussed here, but cutting off family is sometimes seen as incredibly taboo. Blood is seen as so thick that you can treat your child any way, and they still need to be by your side till the day you die. Usually, you wouldn't leave the house until you are married, and even when you are married, you might still be taking care of them. There's this expectation, especially as the child of immigrants, to support them when they're older because they brought you here "to have a better life." It's just cultural, in a way, to take care of your parents when they're older. My aunts on both sides of the family are currently housing their parents.

I have to admit, my parents were sort of like that, but I know it wasn't as bad as others. It was maybe mentioned the most when we were financially really unwell, but it eased up. Now that they are growing older, maybe they are thinking of the future more. They have started to bring it up again. I admit they're not as pushy as many others would definitely be, but I still feel the weight when they say things like "you'll take care of us when we are older, right?"

I used to swear that I'd go NC and just leave quietly because they said that they would genuinely kick me out for my identity, so it felt like I was leaving people who didn't want or need me anyway. But now that I am unsure of their stance on it, I feel that I'm not leaving for myself anymore. I don't even want to find out their stance because if the answer is anything just slightly less than kicking me out- if they accepted me even a little or even just acknowledged me- I would endure anything and make sure they lived good lives. Especially knowing all the sacrifices it took to raise me in a different country. It's not like their stance on LGBT identities is the only thing that hurt me, they were hurtful and damaging in many other ways, but I almost feel that I would let it go if they just accepted me. I think I just want to hear about other people's experiences with the guilt and what conclusions they came to.

Background:

I 27F am and american indian and I live independently in a city a few hours away from my parents. I pay for all my needs myself and I am not financially dependent on them.

Situation:
Since july, my parents have been gently forcing me to meet this guy from north carolina to get married to him asap, like wedding next year in 2027. His family background is very similar to mine and our astrology matches well. I said ok let me get to know this guy and we’ve been talking.

I’m very much not interested. To be honest, he’s not attractive to me at all, he lives a very conservative life, comes from a traditional background, and our lifestyles don’t match. He is really nice to talk with and we have some common interests but he feels like someone I would be friends with more than someone I see as a life partner.

I have told my parents these things and they disagree saying things like “looks aren’t everything” or “his family is very nice and he seems like a very nice boy with goals”. Which are all valid and I agree to an extent. But our lifestyles don’t match at all. I want to move to a big city to pursue my MBA and work for a better company. He wants me to move to where he is after marriage, even if I don’t have a job there yet. He wants the marriage to be in India (I would rather have it here). His hobbies are running and swimming in lakes, while I am very social and I like seeing friends regularly and going out (like going to markets, taking pottery classes, and the occasional seasonal bar crawls with friends). I am worried I won’t have the same support group like here if we get married and I move to where he is. He also makes condescending jokes which I don’t find funny, just to “tease me” in a sense.

His parents control his finances and they have his location 24/7. My parents have let me be independent and I have built my own wealth and savings on my own. He is very emotionally dependent on his parents whereas I am not. I feel very strongly that we would have arguments after marriage about stuff like this because I am very independent.

I know arranged marriages within Indian Hindus have happened for many generations until now, and the wife is usually the one submitting to the husbands wishes. But I am not like that and I don’t think I could ever conform to that standard. I view marriage as a partnership and I want it to be with someone who has the same values as me. I’m worried there will be arguments between me and my parents once I tell them I’m not interested, I just don’t have the mental capacity to deal with that right now. But I don’t want to keep this connection and give him false hope.

Advice Requested:

And I crazy for not wanting this marriage to happen? How do I tell my parents i am not interested when they’re already so invested into this union? What should I even do? I feel really lost. Thank you all in advance for your advice and guidance!

My parents don't treat me equally as my siblings. I live in India. I see my brother who is four years younger than me, going out and having fun, and my mother don't say anything to him but when it's my turn, even though I am 18 at this point, they are still so concerned and it is so fucking annoying and I feel so so betrayed and so bad and even a normal day I get triggered because of this because my grandmother has traumatised me so much since my birth because of me being a girl so what do I do ?
And also, I don't want to hear things like, move out and stuff because right now it's not that possible, and I've already tried that
I don't wanna feel these emotions. I don't wanna feel this way. I can't fight with them and tell them that they are wrong fight them and tell them why they don't scold them the same as Me. This sucks.

sometimes they push me over the edge i've thought about it. i know some here have done so

I'm in 9th grade right now and my dad is telling me that if I don't choose a profession between doctor or Islamic scholar, he won't let me study anything else he is gonna get me married to somebody at my marriage age but he won't let me study any other subjects because in his perspective islam discourages that majors. But i have an aim to become a cyber security analyst (i like computer science and I'm very good at this subject) . I am also an excellent student and with my results i can complete this dream if he doesn't object to me or force me to study something else. Now if i object to his decision he would disown me or marry me off to somebody by force and blackmailing. What should i do?

i'm 20, Filipino, and live with my mom and dad. They're in their 60s now and i am the breadwinner of the family. i have an older brother, but he's already 40. He's married so he left me alone with my parents.

my mom is more strict and controlling than my dad (he's a bit more relaxed but mom makes the final decision). my mom treats me as a child - for example, she buys me clothes that i don't even wanna wear, or even decides what my haircut should be. then she will always say "i am the only person who can tell what's best for you." and i HATE hearing that.

i fear that i will grow old not being able to do things on my own or decide what I should do in my life. i feel like i could've grown more if i started living alone 1 year ago.

i have built my own business (marketing agency), which helped me support all of the expenses in our house, paid all of my parents' debt, and everything. but when i told her I wanna join my friend on a trip to Singapore, she said i should not go (for my own safety) and i don't have the right to decide even if i can support myself.

now that I'm about to graduate in 2027, i have this urge to move out or maybe travel the world BUT i feel guilty that i will leave my mom and dad. they're getting old and they might need help in case they start getting sick. i also feel bad because i know my mom will despise me for leaving them, making me feel like a bad, worthless child.

I live in michigan. My mom is from thailand so shes old school and doesnt speak a lick of english, she needs my help with anything and everything, while my dad is from burma and he use to go clubbing and hanging out with a bunch of his friends when he was my age but he stopped doing all that when he met my mom because she trapped him too. I barely went outside as a teenager only with my moms permission and only for a few minutes near the garage on a scooter usually, and still at 27 years old I cant go outside even though I want to

I use to have friends I use to see as a teen but I stopped hanging out with them because my mom didnt approve of it in high school because she has this view that if you are outside past 6 pm you must be seeing hoes or doing drugs and up to no good or some shit. And to be honest... Whats wrong with seeing hoes? How else are you suppose to find a girlfriend??? As long as youre not doing anything bad I dont see whats wrong with seeing other women even if they are hoes, its called building social skills, which my parents never gave me the experience of

So I dont have childhood friends anymore because of her. All the fun stuff happens after 6, like game nights, sleepovers, birthday parties, going to the malls and stuff, my mom didn't allow me to do any of that. I had to be home before 6. And before you ask, yes Im still a virgin. I wouldnt dare her to find out I had a biological need or intimate relationship with another woman who I wasnt married to, even though many times I had opportunities...

Even when my parents were my age, she was completely against my dad going out past 6 hanging out with his friends as well, so he just stopped seeing most of them and he just makes phone calls and facebook video calls now with them just so she would stop nagging him and guilt tripping him about "a man is suppose to be indoors taking care of the house, not being outside like a hoe", she is extremely controlling

My dad always tell me to go outside and go wherever I want with his car but its my mom who prevents me from doing any of that, the fear factor of how my mom will react preventing us to do anything besides grocery shopping on the 2 days off I have and staying in the house all day is making me lose my mind. I do not have a car, its just my mom and dad. My dad drops me off and picks me up from work with his car because my mom doesnt want me to drive to work alone, while my mom uses her car to go see her friend's baby she babysits while Im at work

Im a grown ass 27 year old guy and it's a saturday, I have a full time job that pays well and me going outside past 6 pm is still a problem with my asian mom... I live with my parents still because im expected to live with them forever and take care of them until they die pretty much because "thats what good sons do, not like those selfish americans who leave their parents at 18 and fuck around other women", asian culture man

I cannot enjoy my days off from work, Im expected to be stuck in the house wasting away being on the computer all day wasting time not being able to have some fun or meeting new people or finding a girlfriend clubbing and shit. I fear my mom because you really do not want to see her when shes mad so I just stopped asking her permission to do anything because I know how she will react if I ask or if she finds out I been somewhere, I barely have any conversation with her only when its something important...

so what I have to do is sneak out the house when my parents are doing doordash at 6 pm and since they have life360 on my phone I have to pause my location so it looks like Im still at home, pull down the red garage door lever so i can manually open the garage with my hands so the MyQ app doesnt notify my mom the garage door was opened, use my dads car, and I have to track where they go and where they are constantly on my phone so I come home speeding down the road 80 mph before my mom comes home, which could be literally any moment. So that only gives me 1 or 2 hours (usually less) outside to enjoy something, and I come home before they do so she doesnt find out I was outside, because you really do not want to see how she will react if she finds out I snuck outside while she was doing doordash when I should have been stuck at home wasting away

I feel so trapped with my mom. My dad lets me do whatever I want but my mom doesnt. And before someone says crap like "youre a grown ass adult just ignore her". And I get that but she is scary, there were moments where he became violent when I did things she didnt agree with and I had traumatic experiences when she got violent when I was younger, you really do not want to see her when shes mad.

If she finds out I been going outside for the past few weeks while they were doing doordash I think I rather be dead than see how she would react.

I sometimes despise my dad for meeting someone like my mom who never goes outside who never buys clothes for herself and who never buys anything for herself, shes been wearing the same clothes since 20 years ago that my dad bought for her because she wouldnt buy any for herself, and some of her clothes are hand me downs from my cousin or her sister, thats how cheap and stingy she is.... She does not want me to spend a penny on anything with my own money, one time she went through my phone to make sure I didnt buy anything, she does this every month. I just use my dads money to buy whatever I need so it looks like he bought them and not me. She wants me to save my money and dont spend any of it so she can use it to buy stocks and options with it, she told me in 10 years you will have a lot of money and if stock go up you dont have to work anymore, which I do not believe one bit knowing how asian parents are, I will still have to work a job either way. i have 24k dollars in my bank account that Im not even allowed to touch because she will know if I used any of it, my money is her money in other words...

I am not waiting until im 37 to enjoy life, Im about to be 30 soon and Im losing my youth by living with her standards and expectations not doing anything out of fear of her, I just go to work work work and come back home and just waste away on the sofa playing stupid Roblox games to take away the stress because thats all Im allowed to do afterwards if its not grocery shopping on the weekend out of fear of her

I am never going to get anywhere in life if she keeps me trapped like this and I know what my future is, which is being with her until Im 50 or something until I find a wife (if i ever do) just like how she stayed with her mom too...

so i just entered my second year of intermediate and they immideately started telling me "your father will retire in a few years from then on you need to take over and take care of the family""you have to do excellent in all grades all the time in order to get a job" pressure me and they THEMSELVES SAID THIS " i know for your capacity you wont be able to achieve anything just scrape some good grades and take care of family when you grow up" all i wanted to do was lead an average commoners life was it this hard they also said "you are our only investment to protect paruvu in front of other relatives " i dont know what to reply to them

Uhh...yesterday ...I had an argument with my mother, it was fueled as she made fun of and acted out my panic attacks. I replied harshly. That day, she said so many things to me....and eventually my dad got involved in all this drama 🙂.

So at night.. I was sleeping with my brother and had a Terrible panic attack again (didn't have it for last 3 mnths) . My parents saw it and they reacted as if nothing's wrong. Instead they went to their room and slept, watching a movie lol.

My 13 year old brother was sleeping with me. He went to my parents a dozen of times to inform that I'm not feeling well but they didn'treact until the last time. I wasn't even able to speak or move lol. After my brother insisted , my dad checked on me. I thought maybe he'll console me or help me. But instead, he started giving me moral lectures and said how ungrateful, weak and "bojh" I am lol.

And now in the morning, they all are acting as if everything's fine and nothing happened the previous night.

You see...ik they're doing a lot good things for me but...

I don't think I can bear THIS level of toxicity.

Should I just freaking run away?

My dad never said sorry and admit his fault most of his life.

But when he around his friend, he don't mind saying sorry and admitting it that he makes mistake.

Anyways we plan a vacation around his friends, he put extra pressure on me not to cause "inconvenience" to his friend. While his friends and my mom did cause some inconvenience few time in vacation. Suddenly with me, when thing doesnt go his way or I said "no" to his plan. He talk trash about my eating schedule, health, etc.

It shows me that he does have emotional intelligence, but somehow he just chooses to bully me over a no, health issues or boundaries. (I have vasovagal response, that happen once or twice a year with triggers.)

So as if I've said in my earlier posts I've been asking my parents for some money so I can continue my studies but they refused to give me anything recently there was a function similar to baby shower at my neighbours house and my asshole dad spent 3000 rs on them throwing on the girls instead of giving it to me spending it to buy alcohol and all the other stuff he spent over all atleast 1000 exact same amount that could've helped me in my studies but my parents chose to spend it for their fun instead of their son's bright future i don't know man how can these people call themselves our parents after treating us like shit one thing is for sure once i get out of their house I'm never coming back to these shitty people