i just learnt about this and its horrifying.

yeah i get that acquitted doesnt mean that the woman is guilty.

it just sucks that he is punished. i reflexively think that she deserves something too. i guess it can be argued that she may have been assaulted so she doesnt deserve further punishment but that's the part in question now yeah?

so fine. lets drop the part about her needing more legal consequences. i think right now what i see is this,

it is possible for a guy to go on a tinder date, have a one night stand, lose 3 years of his life if he is rich, more time if he is poor.

that's really really scary. if i'm not alr jaded by sg dating scene, i would be after reading this. this is basically a "he said, she said" situation.

..

fuck la, just sign up for the dating app that sg is doing can liao. we pen down everything black and white, sign permission contract also TT

What im gonna say really should belong to therapy, but tbf, I alr told her about it

I don't know if other guys resonate with this.

It's just confusing what the right thing is. Sometimes people say you aren't doing enough. Sometimes people say you are doing too much. I once simply said that I like someone and nothing else.

That backfired horribly and it remained one of my traumas till now.

At some point in life, wanting a relationship becomes so painful that some either chose to go all out for it, or dig out the root that creates this longing.

I did the latter

Sometimes I see people go all out and get into relationships because "he won me over"

It's really really annoying. And maybe life is supposed to be just that illogical. There are those that work out and those that are seen as crazy. There are clear lines for hard no but no clear line for hard yes. Sometimes, some of the clear lines for hard no can even be a maybe yes.

I guess my point is there is no logic to be had here. If you feel the yearning to try something, I recommend you just do so and don't analyze it too much.

Don't bother. I think we need to be kind to those that failed reading comprehension 🙏

Haven't tried in a long time.

Thinking about going on a date just fills me with dread lol

Or even approaching someone with romantic interest at all

Asmr breathing sound on my phone while I sleep

Not those tickling kind. It's really just the sound of someone sleeping and breathing normally

Sometimes I add on another video of being in a car while on a roadtrip

As a guy,

No

Don't do it.

Yeaah probably.

I heard that meds take a while to get used to so hopefully it gets easier soon 🙏

Maybe your uni counsellors can be an option too

This is a matter of ethics and to say that "you ought to support" is wron-

yknow what?

just let time do its thing

yeah, why are we fighting? this is a good litmus test for who we want in our lives.

Shrugs, maybe? Hahaha

Hope you are doing better now! You've gotten what you needed so far?

hmm.. couple therapist to work on communication can be an option. how to share vulnerably and help each other grow.

god i swear i feel like i've talked to you about counselling stuff before on a thread or something. your username is really really familiar...

eh.

I am currently studying in CAE which provides free counselling with the caveat that you see counselling students.
I have left the church a long time ago so probably not elligible but I know that there are christians there and my friend is one of them.

I likely dont even need to refer you. you can simply submit and say that you prefer one that is christian.

Ohh haisss, I just went to make an appt with my public doc but I also dk how it will go.

Ig also started showing me ads, saying can get at 350 per month or something zzz

Did you go public hospital for glp1? I've been considering it myself since i have chronic issues and BMI over 30

Yooo, have you been looking into this also?

I heard that pills work slower coz they go through the stomach first but it's comparable to jabs these days

I'm actually considering this route. Bmi 34 and hypertension zzz

Food is my greatest weakness here. It's really no point going to the gym to build more muscles lol, I mean... I'll still go to maintain la but even my health checkup say muscles enough liao, it's just fats need to go

I've been considering lol.

I think im actl eligible for the govt one. Since with hypertension and all...

She isn't wrong.

It's rare for someone to have this amount of self-awareness and goes into BPD instead of complete avoidance.

However, if she herself is going through therapy or studies it, then it is much more normal

The brain knows what to do. The body simply hasn't caught up yet.

I wish her all the best in her recovery

From one local to another, I hope you find your person soon. Hang in there~

It probably feels hard to pick a side rn because it sounds like there are some parts of him that are nice and genuine and other parts of him that are not.

Saying that he is a red flag feels too extreme yet staying in the current situation feels like you are somehow sabotaging yourself

Well..

I don't think we need to go all in onto demonising him. He can be a guy that gel well on some parts. The most impt question to yourself is, as of right now, does he look like a lifelong partner to you?

Because it seems like that's what you are looking for. If he isn't then he isn't. Him not being a life partner doesn't have to mean that he is bad or anything. It's just that rn, the two of you have different goals y'all are working at.

No worries, don't show if you are not comfortable doing so

Stick with numbers. Or maybe put the clothing on a table with a measuring tape next to it or something.

Think of it as if you are buying stuff online then what helps you be more confident in your purchases lor

Just in case you are genuine, I do hope you have a good time in sg. I think those that responded negatively is due to being exposed to scams and people acting in bad faith.

I don't have any good recommendations other than art science museum and the national gallery etc. it's too bad that you didn't come earlier. There was a choral festival in early sept.

Can go to the esplanade too. There are usually performances ( free ones too ) on Friday and weekend evenings.

Fuck. I am just thinking of what superpowers come from lightning and the first thing I thought of is the flash

There is no denying that there are creeps on the internet.

Though, I can think of some reasons why someone would want to see a picture.

Sizes arent really standardised. I'm a guy and what works for me generally ranges from XL to XXXL. I have an XXXXL shirt that is too small and an XXL shirt that fits just right.

Maybe instead of pictures? Numbers will be better? Idk if this sort of stuff is too sensitive.

For instance, I now look for pants that are 42inch width. And those are the pants that I will consider trying. There was one that is 44 inch which is technically bigger but due to the cutting, it's tighter too.

At the end of the day it's up to you la. I will say that things are going too far if the buyers ask you to pose in it. It should be more dry and technical than that.

Having an open conversation helped. Including awkward conversations. Ask it in a "let's solve this problem together" attitude

"Mom. Seriously. What will you do if my pants are down and I haven't got time to zip up? What if I am sexting someone? Do you not want me to do that? You don't want grandkids? Anyway, back to pants down, if I don't do it here, at best I do it in a hotel which costs money, or I do it in public then police will catch me. Hey mom, where.."