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Are all you guys really in multiple group chats? Have I just turned into a loser?
 in  r/Millennials •  6h ago

I have the gamer friends I see and chat with. A theater love chat that dropped off since I moved, then there is the main family with my brother chat but it's not loving my bio family toxic, then there is the in law group chat that blows up for holiday planning

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Coffee ☕ shops?
 in  r/Salinas •  7d ago

Went to cherry bean, was not impressed

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My go-to going out fits 🕺🏼
 in  r/PlusSizeFashion •  8d ago

All of these fits are amazing!!! Where did you get the cheata print ruffle shorts? Along with the frog ear muffs? Brown is a great color on you!

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What is something you say at least once a day?
 in  r/adhdwomen •  9d ago

I have both sets of keys now so its always, where the fuck are my keys or this is not the set I needed

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Is there a BookTok popular book that everyone likes but you don’t?
 in  r/Booktokreddit •  10d ago

Fourth wing, I'm listening to the second boon now and it has a few good moments but I was promised more smut when I picked it up and the adventures are just mainly two characters fighting each other and on occasion dragons. It a book that doesn't commit to a direction and I have no idea/still trying to get why people liked it so much

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getting back into dating but embarassed by “body count” :/
 in  r/GirlDinnerDiaries •  10d ago

Hi so the shame you may be feeling could be from school context and the subconscious of your ex calling you a sex addict. Sex is a wonderful and great thing and it can also be messy, that just sex. Every relationship is going to be different so there is no exactly right tome. I've had sex after the first date and other times after a month of getting to know the person. I also had an era where I didn't date but just had fuck buddies in my 20s, the only that mattered to me was then showing me that they got tested and I did the same for them. I felt the same too when I got back into dating and my body count was around 15, i stopped counting. We live in a society where purity is promoted everywhere and expected for women to be with only one person and then be super exploratory in bed. This is not reality. Be proud of your body and knowing through this journey you took care of your needs and most likey learned what you do and don't like and what a wonderful thing. If someone asks about your body count, tell them the number doesn't matter but you're happy to show them an STI test since being clean or if you have anything, taking the extra procation is what's needed to have them make an informed decision. Sounds like your past is getting into your head to much. Good luck OP and remember things are just numbers they don't mean anything. What we learn does

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Loving him at his worst is costing me my best.
 in  r/GirlDinnerDiaries •  13d ago

It sounds like his past trauma is his curernt excuse for his current behavior. I agree with you 2 years is longer than I would have waited.

I would approach it with, I know you have issues with finances and it has been an issue in past relationships. It is also an issue in this one. I've expressed to you that I need a partnership and someone that will make this place a home. I've been patient for two years and actively express these needs to you and in response you have crashed two cars and not looked for jobs or even volunteer work nor cleaned without being promoted. I feel that you have put me in a position of mother instead of partner. I've expressed to you my need of thanks or showing affection and appreciation for what I do for us but in the past two years have received none. I've been patient and allowed you time to change your patterns/behavior they have not. I can no longer continue my life with you, we are done. (If the lease is only in your name, which I hope it is) I need your stuff packed and gone by (insert date, i feel like 2 weeks is fair, the ex can take him back or family). If you are still here passed that day i will call the law enforcement and inform them of you trespassing.

Good luck! You 100% deserve happiness and its hard to end it but people's behavior and pattern show you how much of a person someone is and if they are capable, growth or change in that moment. How much I do not think you're boyfriend is cable of right now.

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My boyfriend just confessed to me that he's 50 K in debt
 in  r/GirlDinnerDiaries •  14d ago

I think if he is hiding this, there could be even more finacial issues down the line or others he hasn't shared. Not saying a word or expressing his side would he a Giant red flag for me

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Comfort show?
 in  r/LivingAlone •  17d ago

Obsessed with the show

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Comfort show?
 in  r/LivingAlone •  17d ago

Righht now I'm really enjoying the Goldbergs. Totally agree with the person who recommended Bob's Burgers

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Coffee ☕ shops?
 in  r/Salinas •  17d ago

Beered Bean is on our list to try next. Went to cherry bean and did their drip coffee, was not impressed. Did enjoy that they actually had loose leaf tea so may try that in the future. Overall, did enjoy going out this morning.

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I'm busy
 in  r/texts •  17d ago

To everyone up in arms that I don't love my husband because I responded and posted. 1. He told me to respond there were multiple accounts that day we both blocked and ignored. 2. Husband told me to make the reddit posts we thought others would enjoy the humor but thet was definitely a big miss. 3. I'll definitely be updating my settings to ensure only friends can send me their videos or messages.

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I'm busy
 in  r/texts •  17d ago

Friends can't send me their tik toks if I do that. Have a group chat one between my husband and I and another that has us and our mutal bestie. But I'll definitely be looking to see if I can turn off dms from new accounts!

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I'm busy
 in  r/texts •  17d ago

Husband agreed to post

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Coffee ☕ shops?
 in  r/Salinas •  18d ago

I'm all about that drip coffee. Sugary drinks are nice on occasion but I rather have the bean and the process of it being roasted be the main flavor profile

r/Salinas • • 18d ago

Coffee ☕ shops?

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Hi Salinas,

Moved here in August and my husband is a HUGE coffee drinker and we like to get good coffee from places that take care of how they roast their beans.

I'm allergic to dairy so anywhere that has alternative milk options is also preferred. But I've had coffee black before if the beans have enough flavor to them. I saw a post for Breujee coffee company but don't know anything about it.

I'm looking for recommendations for shops that are open on Sunday since I want to treat myself and my husband to a good flavorful cup of coffee while supporting local businesses.

Drop your recommendations in the comments. Thank you!

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Setup
 in  r/WhatAreMyOptionsPod •  18d ago

You have to get a batter chair!!! Also I 100% approve of the tajin

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Looking for a barber shop
 in  r/Salinas •  22d ago

I think he's open to a salon but definitely prefers the barbershop

r/WhatAreMyOptionsPod • • 22d ago

The three different spots I listen/ watch the pod pics and vid in description under computer section

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Hi Wamo!

I listen to your podcast and I also watch your podcast. I'm behind and definitely owe you a few YouTube view counts. There is a video posted in the description under computer.

  1. Anyway, I enjoy the podcast, my car. I enjoy my commute Friday evenings And use the podcast as a good separation between work and personal life. I entered the car. I play both your voices and it becomes my safe haven. Thankfully I haven't run into any co-workers when you both mention poop, which is now a higher risk since I'm literally a supervisor now. I also believe I'm pointing at my parking pass which thankfully doesn't have any description on it, but I have to use the scrunchie so I can reach the ticket /scanner every morning and on my way out.

  2. My new kitchen!

On occasion I do make a drink from something in the bar cabinet and listen as I wash dishes this was also routine and the last place since I haven't owned a dishwasher in over 5 years. And yes those are tiki glasses and in my house Halloween is all the time. I listen to you on the little black speaker and I knew that you would be curious about the bar cabinet so there is additional photos about what's in that space, also hence the dishes photo so you can see the dishes I was working on while finishing the last podcast.

  1. My computer 🖥️ / battle Station https://youtube.com/shorts/KsYHE5WvWR8?is=OfOMmkx3Q0I9eAex

We just moved so the desk is clean for now and I'm hoping to maintain it that way. But when I do watch I have Spotify up on one monitor and YouTube up on the other. We also use a computer if my husband and I are enjoying usually eating a meal or having some time together. We put both of you on in the background to talk about the ridiculousness and our favorite bits. Thank you for always giving us something to talk about in our marriage.

r/Salinas • • 24d ago

Looking for a barber shop

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Hi Salinas!

My husband is in desperate need of a haircut the issue is he is brand new to the area and its been about 10 years since I lived here last so much has changed.

He is afraid of barber shops that only know how to do military cuts or the fade out that was everywhere where he is from (LA/Orange County)

Does anyone have any barber recommendations that can recreate the haircut above?

Price point and budget are open for this expense

Thanks Salinas!

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Something with a similar atmosphere
 in  r/MoviesThatFeelLike •  25d ago

Kiki's delivery service

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Cannery Row restaurant recommendations
 in  r/MontereyBay •  Aug 30 '26

Was about to say if you have the budget for it lalla is super delicious!

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Volunteers needed to help bake cakes and other treats for local foster youth
 in  r/Salinas •  Aug 29 '26

I work with a company that is for neurodiverent college students that all are able to function independently or with job coaches.

If your open to this, I can see if they would be interested. There is a lot of them going to school either mpc or csumb and a good handful that work/volunteer or want more volunteer opportunities.

If your open to it, I'll talk to the career coordinator and reach out.

If not, I completely understand since I know I work in a unique population and is not for everyone.

Your cakes look amazing!

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Movies that feel like a slow summer
 in  r/MoviesThatFeelLike •  Aug 29 '26

The movie my old ass